treesh:
My result.
Introvert(67%) iNtuitive(25%) Thinking(12%) Perceiving(44%) You have distinct preference of Introversion over Extraversion (67%) You have moderate preference of Intuition over Sensing (25%) You have slight preference of Thinking over Feeling (12%) You have moderate preference of Perceiving over Judging (44%)

cool, so you are in between....

RICKYMARIO:
cool, so you are in between....

Yeah.

Happy New Month

RICKYMARIO:
cool, so you are in between....

Nope....she is not in between its on a scale of 100 to 100. If it were 1% or 0% thats in between or any single digit.

blublahd:

Nope....she is not in between its on a scale of 100 to 100.
If it were 1% or 0% thats in between or any single digit.

thnks i understand

Happy Weekend to you all.

I was thinking the pages would have added 10 more after my last post. Typical introverts. Good to be back. I was absent cos ve been traveling for +3 days.

Happy new month all.

leadzeal:
I was thinking the pages would have added 10 more after my last post. Typical introverts. Good to be back. I was absent cos ve been traveling for +3 days.

Happy new month all.

Welcome and thank God for journey mercy. The lounge is just too queit for my liking.

Olarewajub:
Welcome and thank God for journey mercy. The lounge is just too queit for my liking.

I noticed it as well.. But interesting writeup, suggestions and other things will aid more participation. I read through the last pages and nothing NOVEL per se.

Anyway, imagine travelling for close to +40 hours since it was interstate and I refuse to engage in any conversation with any occupant in the bus. The music and view was just enough.

leadzeal:
I noticed that when some people come into this Lounge, some of us ask whether they are introverts too while some don't bother to ask(i'm guilty of this).

Please we should be aware that most people don't know, talkless of understanding their personality.

So I scanned through the web for a very short personality test. It takes less than a minute to see your result. Please, we should take it irrespective of whether you know your personality already. Active members should lead the way to encourage others to follow.

Pasting your result here would be totally awesome.

Personality Test

http://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/like-introvert-extrovert-ambivert.html

Below is my result.

You always like to spend time alone as you prefer to focus on your inner world. People may think your living style is boring but actually you enjoy yourself so much. You may not be shy, but you think having a few best friends is better than having a bunch of Facebook friends.

Tried taking the test,it didn't go well with my browser

Olarewajub:
Welcome and thank God for journey mercy. The lounge is just too queit for my liking.

What do you expect from a lounge filled with introverts

Hello House,

I'm a semi-introvert...

keppyy:
Hello House,

I'm a semi-introvert...

lol we are the same.

I'm on the bench warming up since. Oya make i voice up *enter the thread shyly"
I'M A INTROVERT too, I am not so proud about being that before but now I send no body again. Thou it was though for me being introvert in my early age but thank GOD now everything has fallen into place now. And to help my introverty ministry I choose to become a tech guy. me always on internet, reading articles, coding and stuffs.

No matter how I try blend my personality I can't do away with my introvert tin. Well am nw semi-introvert which i so much love to be. I am quite funny and make some conversation but not the extent of jumping with conversation with stranger Mehn! It's so hard for me to do. Not really convenient for me. Nevertheless I have friends that i talk wella with buh not much. Well to complement my long story. Take yourself as you are (since you can't fight nature) and make people believe that you are best.
Shalom!

Quite a ramble...lols

lovelyadeola:

lol we are the same.

I'm on the bench warming up since. Oya make i voice up *enter the thread shyly"
I'M A INTROVERT too, I am not so proud about being that before but now I send no body again. Thou it was though for me being introvert in my early age but thank GOD now everything has fallen into place now. And to help my introverty ministry I choose to become a tech guy. me always on internet, reading articles, coding and stuffs.

No matter how I try blend my personality I can't do away with my introvert tin. Well am nw semi-introvert which i so much love to be. I am quite funny and make some conversation but not the extent of jumping with conversation with stranger Mehn! It's so hard for me to do. Not really convenient for me. Nevertheless I have friends that i talk wella with buh not much. Well to complement my long story. Take yourself as you are (since you can't fight nature) and make people believe that you are best.
Shalom!

[b] We can do this well or we can do this badly, and the outcome strongly affects the way that people think about us. This is why public speaking causes so much anxiety and concern. The good news is that, with thorough preparation and practice, you can overcome your nervousness and perform exceptionally well. This article explains how! The Importance of Public Speaking Even if you don't need to make regular presentations in front of a group, there are plenty of situations where good public speaking skills can help you advance your career and create opportunities. For example, you might have to talk about your organization at a conference, make a speech after accepting an award, or teach a class to new recruits. Speaking to an audience also includes online presentations or talks; for instance, when training a virtual team, or when speaking to a group of customers in an online meeting. Good public speaking skills are important in other areas of your life, as well. You might be asked to make a speech at a friend's wedding, give a eulogy for a loved one, or inspire a group of volunteers at a charity event. In short, being a good public speaker can enhance your reputation, boost your self-confidence , and open up countless opportunities. However, while good skills can open doors, poor ones can close them. For example, your boss might decide against promoting you after sitting through a badly-delivered presentation. You might lose a valuable new contract by failing to connect with a prospect during a sales pitch. Or you could make a poor impression with your new team, because you trip over your words and don't look people in the eye. Make sure that you learn how to speak well! Strategies for Becoming a Better Speaker The good news is that speaking in public is a learnable skill. As such, you can use the following strategies to become a better speaker and presenter. Plan Appropriately First, make sure that you plan your communication appropriately. Use tools like the Rhetorical Triangle , Monroe's Motivated Sequence , and the 7Cs of Communication to think about how you'll structure what you're going to say. When you do this, think about how important a book's first paragraph is; if it doesn't grab you, you're likely going to put it down. The same principle goes for your speech: from the beginning, you need to intrigue your audience. For example, you could start with an interesting statistic, headline, or fact that pertains to what you're talking about and resonates with your audience. You can also use story telling as a powerful opener; our Expert Interviews with Annette Simmons and Paul Smith offer some useful tips on doing this. Planning also helps you to think on your feet . This is especially important for unpredictable question and answer sessions or last-minute communications. Tip: Remember that not all occasions when you need to speak in public will be scheduled. You can make good impromptu speeches by having ideas and mini-speeches pre-prepared. It also helps to have a good, thorough understanding of what's going on in your organization and industry. Practice There's a good reason that we say, "Practice makes perfect!" You simply cannot be a confident, compelling speaker without practice. To get practice, seek opportunities to speak in front of others. For example, Toastmasters is a club geared specifically towards aspiring speakers, and you can get plenty of practice at Toastmasters sessions. You could also put yourself in situations that require public speaking, such as by cross- training a group from another department, or by volunteering to speak at team meetings. If you're going to be delivering a presentation or prepared speech, create it as early as possible. The earlier you put it together, the more time you'll have to practice. Practice it plenty of times alone, using the resources you'll rely on at the event, and, as you practice, tweak your words until they flow smoothly and easily. Then, if appropriate, do a dummy run in front of a small audience: this will help you calm your jitters and make you feel more comfortable with the material. Your audience can also give you useful feedback , both on your material and on your performance. Engage With Your Audience When you speak, try to engage your audience. This makes you feel less isolated as a speaker and keeps everyone involved with your message. If appropriate, ask leading questions targeted to individuals or groups, and encourage people to participate and ask questions. Keep in mind that some words reduce your power as a speaker. For instance, think about how these sentences sound: "I just want to add that I think we can meet these goals" or "I just think this plan is a good one." The words "just" and "I think" limit your authority and conviction. Don't use them. A similar word is "actually," as in, "Actually, I'd like to add that we were under budget last quarter." When you use "actually," it conveys a sense of submissiveness or even surprise. Instead, say what things are. "We were under budget last quarter" is clear and direct. Also, pay attention to how you're speaking. If you're nervous, you might talk quickly. This increases the chances that you'll trip over your words, or say something you don't mean. Force yourself to slow down by breathing deeply. Don't be afraid to gather your thoughts; pauses are an important part of conversation, and they make you sound confident, natural, and authentic. Finally, avoid reading word-for-word from your notes. Instead, make a list of important points on cue cards, or, as you get better at public speaking, try to memorize what you're going to say – you can still refer back to your cue cards when you need them. Pay Attention to Body Language If you're unaware of it, your body language will give your audience constant, subtle clues about your inner state. If you're nervous, or if you don't believe in what you're saying, the audience can soon know. Pay attention to your body language: stand up straight, take deep breaths, look people in the eye, and smile. Don't lean on one leg or use gestures that feel unnatural. Many people prefer to speak behind a podium when giving presentations. While podiums can be useful for holding notes, they put a barrier between you and the audience. They can also become a "crutch," giving you a hiding place from the dozens or hundreds of eyes that are on you. Instead of standing behind a podium, walk around and use gestures to engage the audience. This movement and energy will also come through in your voice, making it more active and passionate. Think Positively Positive thinking can make a huge difference to the success of your communication, because it helps you feel more confident. Fear makes it all too easy to slip into a cycle of negative self-talk, especially right before you speak, while self-sabotaging thoughts such as "I'll never be good at this!" or "I'm going to fall flat on my face!" lower your confidence and increase the chances that you won't achieve what you're truly capable of. Use affirmations and visualization to raise your confidence. This is especially important right before your speech or presentation. Visualize giving a successful presentation, and imagine how you'll feel once it's over and when you've made a positive difference for others. Use positive affirmations such as "I'm grateful I have the opportunity to help my audience" or "I'm going to do well!" Cope With Nerves How often have you listened to or watched a speaker who really messed up? Chances are, the answer is "not very often." When we have to speak in front of others, we can envision terrible things happening. We imagine forgetting every point we want to make, passing out from our nervousness, or doing so horribly that we'll lose our job. But those things almost never come to pass! We build them up in our minds and end up more nervous than we need to be. Many people cite speaking to an audience as their biggest fear, and a fear of failure is often at the root of this. Public speaking can lead your "fight or flight" response to kick in: adrenaline courses through your bloodstream, your heart rate increases, you sweat, and your breath becomes fast and shallow. Although these symptoms can be annoying or even debilitating, the Inverted-U Model shows that a certain amount of pressure enhances performance. By changing your mindset, you can use nervous energy to your advantage. First, make an effort to stop thinking about yourself, your nervousness, and your fear. Instead, focus on your audience: what you're saying is "about them." Remember that you're trying to help or educate them in some way, and your message is more important than your fear. Concentrate on the audience's wants and needs, instead of your own. If time allows, use deep breathing exercises to slow your heart rate and give your body the oxygen it needs to perform. This is especially important right before you speak. Take deep breaths from your belly, hold each one for several seconds, and let it out slowly. Crowds are more intimidating than individuals, so think of your speech as a conversation that you're having with one person. Although your audience may be 100 people, focus on one friendly face at a time, and talk to that person as if he or she is the only one in the room. Watch Recordings of Your Speeches Whenever possible, record your presentations and speeches. You can improve your speaking skills dramatically by watching yourself later, and then working on improving in areas that didn't go well. As you watch, notice any verbal stalls, such as "um" or "like." Look at your body language: are you swaying, leaning on the podium, or leaning heavily on one leg? Are you looking at the audience? Did you smile? Did you speak clearly at all times? Pay attention to your gestures. Do they appear natural or forced? Make sure that people can see them, especially if you're standing behind a podium. Last, look at how you handled interruptions, such as a sneeze or a question that you weren't prepared for. Does your face show surprise, hesitation, or annoyance? If so, practice managing interruptions like these smoothly, so that you're even better next time. [/b] www.mindtools.com/CommSkll/PublicSpeaking.htm

Majority of introverts are extroverts in the e-world.

joywendy:


What do you expect from a lounge filled with introverts

Olarewajub:
Majority of introverts are extroverts in the e-world.

Lol,True talk!

Anyways am new here, so what are we to talk or discuss about?

Btw not sure if am really introverted or not.

joywendy:

Lol,True talk!
Anyways am new here, so what are we to talk or discuss about?
Btw not sure if am really introverted or not.

You're divergent.

BoboYekini:
You're divergent.

I guess so

So wassup? Introvert has well? Or divergent

joywendy:
I guess so
So wassup? Introvert has well? Or divergent

What do you think?

BoboYekini:
What do you think?

Same

As a personality developer, everyone is unique in his/her own way. Being an introvert is not a problem, but misunderstanding the temperament is the problem.
I used to have a lot of problem myself trying to be somebody else, thinking I could become an extrovert. But became more fulfilled when I understand my introvertic nature.
Being a Harp of Phleg is great. That's the reason why you are good at calculation, writing, drawing, and enjoy isolation, as a result of that, introverts are never bored. But miserable when this temperament is not understood.
Let's chat on Whatsapp it overts.- 0803 054 6462.

keppyy:
Quite a ramble...lols

Yea lol. sumthing like that.

If you haven't read or reading Quiet by Susan Cain, you're on a long thing. A must read.
Please we still more books recommendation.

Olarewajub:
If you haven't read or reading Quiet by Susan Cain, you're on a long thing. A must read.
Please we still more books recommendation.

Wht of those who aren't deep into novel like that?

joywendy:


Wht of those who aren't deep into novel like that?

All got to say is that this novel is an exception. I'm currently in page 100 out of one thousand something.

In the United States, medication is widely considered the first line of defense
against every kind of ailment. As a result, we’re getting addicted to
prescriptions, and not really feeling much better at all.
While medication is truly necessary and can be helpful to some, my
experience as a school counselor has made me witness to the growing
social tendency to seek out a prescription as a first resort to an emotional
challenge. If a child gets nervous around groups of people, they think they
need anxiety medication. If they're sad because their parents are divorcing or
they’re going through some other traumatic life event, they think they need
antidepressants.
This pervasive mindset disempowers us from working through our own
challenges. It suggests that the solution is outside of ourselves, and that
having these emotions means that we’re flawed and we need to be fixed.
As an alternative, I’ve outlined a formula you can tailor to your own needs
and use as a guide to help you work through intense emotional experiences.
It may be more difficult in the beginning, but it’s the only way to truly deal
with an emotional issue. Often, otherwise, you're just masking symptoms,
creating a dependence on drugs, and effectively crippling yourself
emotionally.
We are resilient, resourceful beings, and owe it to ourselves to make the
effort to surmount challenges independently, before turning to
pharmaceutical alternatives.
1. Recognize that all your feelings are OK.
You may have the impulse to pathologize and attempt to eradicate negative
feelings as soon as you notice them. Reframe this. Intense or uncomfortable
emotions are a byproduct of something unaddressed beneath the surface, the
way back pain may be a sign that your spine is misaligned. Recognize that
complex emotions are a part of your experience, and also part of the human
experience. You are not flawed. You are simply feeling. Leave it at that for
now.
2. Be kind to yourself.
Don’t see the feeling as an enemy, or a disturbance to your life. Don’t judge
yourself for experiencing it. This is the breeding ground for more negative
emotions. Radical self-love and acceptance create an open channel of
inquiry into your psyche. By accepting what is, we can begin to question the
root of our feelings and behavior objectively. Try to sympathize with yourself
like you would a loved one in pain.
3. Ask yourself what belief is producing this emotion.
At the heart of someone’s social anxiety could be an unconscious fear of
rejection — the belief that they are unlovable or only accepted under certain
conditions, which they feel incapable of adhering to. Whatever the belief,
challenge it. Identify all the ways that it is disproportionate to reality. Identify
all the things that argue against that feeling.
Will people really care enough to think you're weird if you don’t behave
exactly how they think you should? Will everything in your life really fall
apart if you don’t have time to get the groceries tonight? Reflect on all the
reasons that prove these fears are unfounded, instead of surrendering to the
belief that they are.
4. Find your catharsis.
Maybe it’s further self-reflection and a creative pursuit like writing or drawing.
Maybe it’s conversation with a loved one. Maybe it’s meditation or yoga.
Don’t overthink it; find what feels best, and do it.
5. Take notes.
Document the process however it makes sense to you, so you can return to
the formula as needed. We are creatures of habit and similar situations will
continue to arise. Knowing you have a proven plan to attack the problem can
be comforting, and help you from going deeper into fear-based patterns in
the future.
Once an emotion has been compassionately witnessed, we can release it. As
we develop this skill, we can consciously choose whether or not to engage in
thoughts or behaviors that perpetuate certain feelings. We see this process in
mindfulness, person-centered therapy, and many other spiritual and
therapeutic practices. The first step to moving on is validating yourself, your
feelings, and your ability to deal with them effectively. Why not give yourself
the chance to try?


www.mindbodygreen.com/0-20462/before-you-bust-out-the-anxiety-meds-try-this.html

How To Find True Love If You're An Introvert (And Hate Dating)



When I plunged into the dating scene after getting out of a long-term
relationship, my immediate inclination was to "play" extrovert by setting up
numerous dates in a week, to give everyone a chance, to give those I was on
the fence about a second chance, and to stay out well past my bedtime,
even if I felt like I was losing steam.
It took only a few weeks of this before I realized that dating was taking its
toll and that I was becoming bad at it — failing to respond to texts and
messages in a timely manner, rushing through dates with people I felt little
connection with and, eventually finding myself leaving all of my dates with a
nagging desire for the solace of my quiet apartment.
That was when I realized that I was doing it all wrong, that I was tapping
out and turning inward because I was jogging at an extrovert’s pace, even
though I'm an introvert. So I reassessed my dating approach to better align
with my energy levels and need for depth over breadth.
Here are some tips for avoiding the dating drain and staying true to your
introverted self.


1. Don't be surprised if you're misunderstood, because you will be.
Introverts have deep inner worlds. Everyone does. But introverts specifically
can be thought of as having minds like an onion: to gain access to those
inner layers requires significant peeling, done with sensitivity and patience.
Because of this, you may be initially unfairly labeled as shy (a common
misconception), nerdy, or aloof. Keep in mind that whoever is worth your
time and getting to know will take relish in peeling back those layers to tap
into your rich inner landscape. And don’t feel the need to play extrovert just
to fit in.


2. While boozing at a crowded bar may not be your thing, remember that a
one-on-one date is where introverts really shine.
In this format introverts can assert their curiosity by asking questions and
participating in thoughtful conversation. The fact that introverts are highly
observant and retain a lot of what they take in generally is where people
come to learn how warm and compassionate these quiet souls are.


3. Only make dates with people you really believe have potential (not just
people who look good on paper).
Remember that extroverts get energy from being around people, and while
introverts arguably make better conversationalists, they are depleted by
constant social interaction.
If you’re questioning whether it’s worth meeting someone in person (a blind
date or online date, for instance), then schedule a phone call.
You will know within a minute if they are. Avoid burnout at the outset by
being both choosy and true to yourself. Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The
Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking , said that
“Relationships make everyone happier, introverts included, but think quality
over quantity.”


4. Save time by getting real.
A great ability of introverts is getting deep. Use this to your advantage and
ask questions that are geared to determining whether your date is the right
fit for you. I went on a few dates with someone I was intensely attracted to
and with whom I had great chemistry, but upon his admission after the fifth
date that he wasn’t a good communicator I realized it probably wasn’t the
best fit for me.
Had I been honest with myself and with him that communication was so
fundamental to me, we could’ve saved ourselves some time. Lesson learned:
don’t be afraid to ask tough questions from the get-go.


5. Don’t overlook extroverts as potential partners.
Sure, most introverts prefer depth over breadth when it comes to
relationships. Yet I'll speak here from personal experience: most of the
people I’ve developed great connections with have been on the extroverted
side of the spectrum. So long as they understand your need for recharging
and downtime and you respect their need for significant social interaction,
the introvert-extrovert pairing can be a very complementary combination.
There's no reason being an introvert should make for a less vibrant dating
life. So embrace all those things that make you you, including your
introverted qualities , and show them to the rest of the world! Remember:
authenticity is attractive.


www.mindbodygreen.com/0-20613/how-to-find-true-love-if-youre-an-introvert-and-hate-dating.html

Hey Guys! I need your assistance with something. Is there any one here that prefers fruit juice to whole fruit? If yes, why the preference

Olarewajub:
Hey Guys! I need your assistance with something. Is there any one here that prefers fruit juice to whole fruit? If yes, why the preference

Fruit juice.... too lazy to chew

JeffreyJamez:


Fruit juice.... too lazy to chew

It has been a while. Thanks for that reply.