jennylove7575: thank you my friend. Here in UK many users of nl have never been to Nigeria in a long time. Nl brings us closer home. There are lots of forum in UK were member speaks their mind nobody goes about insulting people or calling people names. Becos if u do ur account will be blocked and if u continue ur IP will be traced and u will have the police visiting u for cyber bully. People have the right to say whatever pleases them on a cyber forum but not insult people or call people names. Its wrong. Very wrong. If seun continues to allow those harsh name calling on this forum, many nl folks living abroad will start closing their accounts. As loads of them are complaining already. Not good for business. Sometimes people can make sarcastic comments just for fun doesn't mean they should be called horrible names.

LaurelP: This is based on my own experience as a man, I didn't copy it from anywhere so anybody is free to air there view or counter me. Dis is a public forum so I no send

Now there are many things ladies don't know abt us guys. Dis has led to a lot of misconception and disenchantment from both sex. I read a lot of comments here and I realise dat most ladies don't know anything about d makeup of a man. I believe dat the ladies will learn a lot if they realize some basic truth about us.

1.Men don't want only sex from you: many ladies believe or think dat d only thing guys want from dem is sex. Dis is why they go into a relationship with dat resource only as wat they are bringing on board hoping dat the guy will do anything for dem as long as he's getting sex. Dis is wrong. Men may like sex but its not d only thing they like or want in a relationship. A guy needs a lady who will understand him, who can stand by him and encourage him to reach his full potential, who can spur him on and always remind him dat he can make it no matter all odds. A lady who can come into his life and put things right dat were wrong, dat can get him to be organised and focused, dat can walk with him on d street, dat can smile and laugh at his jokes, dat can play with him and have a gud time with him, dat can love his family and respect him as a man. Some things are just more important than sex to guys.

2. It takes effort to woo a lady: ladies if u don't know it, know it now! Its not easy for a guy to stop a lady and share how he feels about her. It takes a lot of guts and also humility to do dat. Men are naturally egoistic and don't like anything dat puts dem down or make dem look like they're begging especially when it comes to ladies. Understand dat dis is natural and not dat they enjoy acting dat way, its a result of both nature and nurture.
Before a guy approaches u as a lady, many things must have gone thru his mind. How best to make d move, wat to say, how to say it, hwo to smile and all dat. Dis cud take minutes or days or weeks or even months depending on d guy involved and d urgency. Some guys go thru sleepless nites thinking abt how to approach a particular lady, its not easy. And atimes, d lady will still turn dem down and once dis happens, it becomes more difficult for him to repeat d cycle again. So ladies, when a guy approaches u pls don't put him down like u usually do. Find a way to help preserve his confidence and also pay him back for his effort cos it takes effort. If u don't like him, turn him down softly!

3. Guys are more emotional dan u think: forget all d macho and strong man dat most guys put on d surface. Guys are much more soft and emotional dan they tend to present on d outer surface, even more dan ladies atimes. We cry, we fall in love, we get depressed atimes, we get frustrated. And the worst is dat we hardly show it or speak out for people to help. Becos of upbringing where guys are expected to absorb tension, we just bottle a lot of things up and keep dying inside. It takes a wise lady to unbottle these tensions and bring out the best in a guy.

4.Guys like spending money on ladies: Yes I said so! On the right ladies though. Once a guy loves you, he won't mind spending his last kobo on you. A guy can buy his girl Mr Biggs and go home to soak garri. Its not becos he's mumu or sth, its just how he values the lady in question. Guys love with their resources and their whole heart. Unfortunately, many ladies believe dat a guy who gives to a lady like dat is a fool or mumu. That's why many of us now withdrew because one of d worst things u can ever do to a guy is to tamper with his ego, to make him feel like a fool when he was loving you. Dats why a guy can love his girl and give her everything even while abandoning his own family and siblings.

5. Guys love sex: yes dis is true. Guys love sex not becos they just feel like loving it, but becos they are wired to love it. A healthy man gets erection even when he doesn't want to. Even when a man is sleeping, he gets erection without realising it. Just seeing a lady he likes can give a man erection and dat is how God made it. Its just dat some guys do a good job of controlling it dan others and u must respect those dat do so cos its not easy. So when next u want to knw why guys like sex, I suggest u ask God!

6.Guys are easy to manipulate: guys feel dat its their duty to help ladies. Most guys would fight their fellow men just to defend a lady. I once saw a guy slap his fellow guy just becos he said he would slap a lady! Guys are always d one who compromise for ladies and its natural. Even in d family, guys always feel its their duty to protect their sisters. Its easy to know wat a guy likes and doesn't like so it makes it easy to control and manipulate dem by d ladies. Once u give a guy wat he likes, he will do anything for you.


I will stop here to allow people contribute...

Kinkybraids:

so are you saying guys take a all or nothing approach? What about good frienship n companionship?

jennylove7575: thank you my friend. Here in UK many users of nl have never been to Nigeria in a long time. Nl brings us closer home. There are lots of forum in UK were member speaks their mind nobody goes about insulting people or calling people names. Becos if u do ur account will be blocked and if u continue ur IP will be traced and u will have the police visiting u for cyber bully. People have the right to say whatever pleases them on a cyber forum but not insult people or call people names. Its wrong. Very wrong. If seun continues to allow those harsh name calling on this forum, many nl folks living abroad will start closing their accounts. As loads of them are complaining already. Not good for business. Sometimes people can make sarcastic comments just for fun doesn't mean they should be called horrible names.

dgregs336: Hehehe...Dis person is high on fanta...writing conflicting statements..needs Ebola Quarantine. Lols

jennylove7575: your dear? Really? You don't need to quote me to tell me that. U could have just post it as a comment already..

jennylove7575: your dear? Really? You don't need to quote me to tell me that. U could have just post it as a comment already..

Slimmos: no doubt about it i must b a rude boy and a boy full of pride.. Smh so because i am now in uk i think dat is d end of life abi... My mother is a joke and my father is insane idiot

Slimmos: no doubt about i must b a rude boy and a boy full of pride.. Smh so because I am now in uk i think dat is d end of life abi... My mother is a joke and my father is insane

LaurelP:

Gud but tell ur fellow UK and US users to also stop doing so
Like u urself just did to me a moment ago
I just ignored u not cos I dunno wat to tell u
I did to let u knw dat am not d way u see me

2SWT: sure? OGA abeg go check ur HIV status

ihedinobi2:

I'm saying that while there may be exceptions to the rule (although I neither know of nor have ever heard of one that I have strong reason to believe), guys are not built to handle stuff like that. Men are built to love devotedly, with distraction. There is nothing a male is more territorial over than his woman. So when he is down for a woman and can't have her, it is not wise to give him any reason to think that he can. If you act friendly, he'll read meanings into it and act accordingly. If you leave him be, he'll probably hate you and sulk for a while but he'll get over it.

When someone has replaced you, he will be able to be friendly again. Not that he'll ever trust you the way he did at first but, at least, you can talk without him going crazy wondering what every syllable you speak and eyelash you bat means.

HARDDON:

oops nopes! u need not as much as touch a lady now B4 she springs out her want lists shrewdly:

eg: guy meet girl n for a couple of days,he does d calling,they talk, she never dials his line, fed up he ask why don't u ever call? she shrewdly ask for recharge by saying she's got no airtime.


about d other thought, the pendulum swings both ways, your not having feelings for him does not rule him not having feelings for u. in fact, should he not hv reasoned u, ur kare, always been there n ur encouragement are enough stimuli for him to fall for u.

what happens then?

how would he be surrounded by wood, though he is seeking for silver but d Good Lord decided to bless him with gold n U'd Hv him watch u slide by?

So drie, If u wouldn't fall, he will! lol

frankben: Please how does this help in eradicating EBOLA that's threatening the existence of mankind ?

chimauk: u dey bleach

chimauk: u dey bleach

hensben: ok, i go 6 rounds a night when i am not high on alomo oo.

sisy can you handle that? if you can pm me ur number.

Kinkybraids:

you are making so much sense that i cant really debate you...you make me feel almost feel guilty for wanting to be there as his best friend and nothing more. What if you also need him? I value his input and really enjoy his presence in my life so for me to walk away it would hurt me more... I feel very attached

Kinkybraids:

you are making so much sense that i cant really debate you...you make me feel almost feel guilty for wanting to be there as his best friend and nothing more. What if you also need him? I value his input and really enjoy his presence in my life so for me to walk away it would hurt me more... I feel very attached

jennylove7575: looking at your pix you and my grandson will be age mate. Take my advice and stop insulting your parents

ifekemmy: We don hear

jennylove7575: stop insulting your parent not a very nice thing to do. You sure okay? Attention seeker