Please if u dnt av somtin reasonable to contribute, just step aside. Iv bn in this relationshp for almst a year nw. We av our ups and dwns and d lady is carin, open minded bt av som past am finding dificult to do wt aside that's, I appens to b her 3rd BF and every of her ex. Bf and even I myself are from broken homes (as well as the gal) nw am gettin scared of this cos I didn't pray to experience a broken home. Does this not av spirirtual claims or what did u see to this. We quarel a lot bt we get along so easily notin bad abt the gal anyway bt am scared of all these broken broken homes issue

otunbakhakiz: Please if u dnt av somtin reasonable to contribute, just step aside. Iv bn in this relationshp for almst a year nw. We av our ups and dwns and d lady is carin, open minded bt av som past am finding dificult to do wt aside that's, I appens to b her 3rd BF and every of his ex and even I myself are from broken homes(as well as the gal) nw am gettin scared of this cos I didn't pray to experience a broken home. Does this not av spirirtual claims or what did u see to this. We quarel a lot bt we get along so easily notin bad abt the gal anyway bt am scared of all these broken broken homes issue

You mean you are worried because she is from a broken home?

andromida:

You mean you are worried because she is from a broken home?

No, he is scared because he is also from a broken home

*There is no realtionship without its up and down
*no marriage without conflict
*no two people agree for a long time without a bit of disagreement
*no friendship with some dispute because it does makes the connection strong


but, what keeps marriage and relationship going is the ability to respect each other, know ur limit, understand the other person, the maturity to reslove issues and say sorry when ure wrong.

So, ur fear is not out of place...... but, do you and her have what it takes to break the jinks and make the relationship work.....
U and her should do an appraiser of urselves and see if u can weather the storm when it does come.


Because the storm will come

ITbomb:
No, he is scared because he is also from a broken home

Oh i see.

The guys she dated before you were all from broken homes... Now you're in her life and also from a broken home. I see where your concern is. You are right to be afraid. I think both of you should seek counselling and prayers if you really want to marry her. Don't take it lightly.

She has some past you are finding difficult to accept.

You are her 3rd boyfriend.

She and her ex's are from broken homes yourself inclusive.

And now you fear you both have spiritual issues.

I don't think you have spiritual issues just a case of like people attracting each other and its all subconsciously. She feels comfortable with guys from broken homes because she feels they will understand her better and so do you.

The problem with fear of anything is that when you entertain it,turning it around in your mind you begin to believe it and you will even make sure it happens so don't let fear rule you.

I feel you should talk this out with her don't let fear hide in your heart and make you sabotage yourself. Once you bring something to light its power over you fades away. Instead of fear try faith in yourself, you are not your parents. You have a clean slate to start on and sincerely i don't think you love this woman i feel your doubts about her though minor are too loud you want to leave her and you need tangible excuses.

The truth is it is O.K to leave her but don't lie to yourself that its because of her 3 ex bf's or broken home or spiritual problem. If you tell yourself the real truth why you want to leave her,you will learn the kind of woman you truly desire.

You don't need to lie to her just tell her you are no longer feeling attracted to her or whatever the case maybe.

All the best.

andromida:

You mean you are worried because she is from a broken home?

every of her ex and even I myself are from broken home

dre11: *There is no realtionship without its up and down
*no marriage without conflict
*no two people agree for a long time without a bit of disagreement
*no friendship with some dispute because it does makes the connection strong


but, what keeps marriage and relationship going is the ability to respect each other, know ur limit, understand the other person, the maturity to reslove issues and say sorry when ure wrong.

So, ur fear is not out of place...... but, do you and her have what it takes to break the jinks and make the relationship work.....
U and her should do an appraiser of urselves and see if u can weather the storm when it does come.


Because the storm will come

u need to get this rt, we dnt av any issue wt our relationship, our 1yr so far hs bn my best relationshp ever, av even met wt her parents.bt gettinh hooked up wt 3dft guys from broken home and even she calls fo worries

Ivanspring: The guys she dated before you were all from broken homes... Now you're in her life and also from a broken home. I see where your concern is. You are right to be afraid. I think both of you should seek counselling and prayers if you really want to marry her. Don't take it lightly.

thanks a lot. Tink u av d idea of wot am goin tru