MizzD:

My sister, it is very shameful. "Win his heart", "pack condoms", "don't offend him" "why did you snoop".

Ball is in Op's court.

chaircover: @op is the town that your hubby is travelling to the same town as this woman?

Is this trip to do with work? Is he going with his collegues?i

Anyway this is a face to face issue, so I suggest you ask him to come home first before he goes and you discuss it. If its too late for him to travel today, then he can go tomorrow.

Sophyrocks:
You dnt PLEAD wit someone not to burn your house. You tell the person the consequences of burning that house and stick to your guns so he/she doesnt burn the house. Kpomkwem!

ideology:
I understand but lets remove pride, let him know the consequence,

If possible get him to come back home,
Find a way to get him to come back home before he travels, just find an excuse, pls save not marriage, pls…

Sophyrocks:

Exactly. how many people will tell a man whose wife is cheating to pack female condoms for her and tell her that he loves her or should not snoop her phone or should not offend her? How many? Freaking disgusting Hypocrisy!!!

Sophyrocks:

I agree. she has to cunningly find a way to bring him home so that they can discuss. but no pleading or begging. No man would beg his wife when she cheats. shikena!!

Sophyrocks:

I agree. she has to cunningly find a way to bring him home so that they can discuss. but no pleading or begging. No man would beg his wife when she cheats. shikena!!

MizzD:

My sister, it is very shameful. "Win his heart", "pack condoms", "don't offend him" "why did you snoop".

Ball is in Op's court.

Icherishu:
Haba Chillisauce. I expected more from you than this. She is married to him now and lets move forward for a solution and not blame culture. So will she have done when she suspected everything? Fold her arms and look elsewhere till the man brings the said "friend" home or sleep with her as he is planning to do? Common be pathetic a bit, she is heavy and need our support in this place not to make it worst. Moreover you talk as if you know the Op. Even women that married poor men gets to be cheated on when the man finally gets to be financially independent. So please dear be nice.

cancerlib: Hi fellow nairalander,
Pls I need sincere and unbiased advice on this.
My sis got engaged some months ago to a very lovable guy. Disaster struck when few months after d introduction ceremony he changed the password to his fones. They were really opened to each other b4, but suddenly he chngd his passwords. When my sis asked he brushed her off saying its guys thingy, that he and his pals talk raw on chat and wouldn't want her to see such, that he's only protecting her so she won't be hurt. She accepted and they moved on fine.
Just some weeks ago she just tried a password and the phone unlocked! There she saw he has been philandering with so many girls and the brutal part the girls doesn't know he's engaged. She told him and they fought over it, one of his sis intervened and they settled. The guy said it was nothing serious just fun.
After they've settled, d girls never stopped calling, she pointed this out to him. Instead of rectifying this, he changed the names so she won't suspect a thing.
This is the only major bad habit this guy have, he's a nice and caring guy, someone ull never suspect could cheat and whatever he buys he buy in her name (her first name and his surname) to the last pin in his house, this shows he means well and want a future with her.
Now he's always clearing chats and call log.
Their wedding is in 4mnths time, my sis is torn.
Pls any advice will be appreciated.

thorpido: This guy is going to cheat if he marries your sister.it's left to your sister if she's ready to live with that.

byvan: Permit my bluntness,if your sister doesn't cancel this wedding,she might end up lamenting on family section.It ll get worse after marriage.


Abeg what thorpido said.

Kanwulia: Your sister is confused.
It is either she accepts him the way she is. . .or she moves on!
He is not going to change.
Cheats need love, sex, and marriage too!

MEN ARE THE CHEATS BEFORE MARRIAGE!
Women become the greater cheats AFTER MARRIAGE!


Ask your father and mother! YOUR SISTER HAS NO BUSINESS DATING A NIGERIAN MAN. . . NOT TO TALK OF MARRYING ONE.
SHE NEEDS TO JOIN A NUNNERY. . . AND PHOCK JESUS CHRIST ONLY. . .EVERY DAY AND NIGHT if she wants TRUE MONOGAMY!
She sef go soon turn 'ASSSHAWO', with all this STRRRESSSS SHE IS GIVING HER AZZZZZ. . . locked phone and all. . . . . After the so-called MARRIAGE-SHAM! Mu he he he he he he

I would rather have a PLAYBOY in bed than A NAUSEATING, BORN-AGAIN-HYPOCRITE-CHRISTIAN-PSYCHODELIC-MONOGAMIST.
If I were to choose between being a 4th wife to a Muslim or an ONLY WIFE to a CHRISTIAN. . . .I WILL CHOOSE THE FORMER!
At least. . . I always know where I stand!


[size=20pt]EVERY WOMAN OR MAN HAS A CHOICE TO MAKE! OP. . .DO NOT CRY FOR ARGENTINA PLEASE. . . .She has a choice to make![/size]

[size=20pt]A WOMAN WHO DECIDES TO GET MARRIED. . . TO A NIGERIA MAN ESPECIALLY HAS SIGNED A DEATH WARRANT. . .
She either dies of AIDS or a MASSIVE HEART ATTACK!
Either way. . . death is a SURE BANKER!

LADIES. . .PLEASE, CHOOSE 1 OR BOTH!!!
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NIGERIAN WOMEN SABI STRESS DEMSELVES SHA. . . . BECAUSE OF BLOKOS! TUFIAKWAAAAAAAAAAAAAH!!!!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zu9QM1LQR2g


*4:15. . . .off to work jare. . .and the holiday shopping continues. . . .just when i thought i was done*

. . . .logging my sweetazzze off. . . .

ifegy: By the way, when you say they fought over this issue, were there any blows thrown? Because that's another issue right there. And the fighting is not going to be less after they get married; rather, it'll be worse, because he clearly has no plans of leaving those girls behind. No need to tell you the ugly outcomes of domestic violence. Listen, marriage is for leaving and cleaving to the ONE, not the many. If he's not ready to do that, maybe he's just not ready, and maybe he's not the one.

bukatyne:

Since you will appreciate any advice...

Your sister WOULD HAVE LEFT if the man was not caring aka buying things in her name (besides, are they officially married that he is using her first name and his surname?)

If your sister decides to marry him tomorrow, please do not start crying about that the husband is wicked or cheating; Don't disturb God with your prayers either.

MRbrownJAY:

sadly, many would simply tolerate this to "stay" married. marriage is the ultimate goal to many miserable women out there who have nothing going on for themselves. their parents have been telling them from the day they were born that marriage is the ultimate, so thats what they believe.....and whether they marry a donkey or an ape, it is irrelevant to some of these women.

Chillisauce:

This was her topic, I'm sure she was the one involved .


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So my dear, this is the best I can do. Go ahead and give her the answer she wants

Chillisauce: And they got married.

Ujujoan:

She caught him cheating and he still has mouth to say 'harsh words' Eiyaaah . . . poor girl (your sister).

I'm sure (like 80% of Nigerian girls), she'll still go ahead and marry him.

The good thing here is that she already knows what she's getting herself into. She'll get cheated on, on and off for a veeeery long time before he eventually gets tired. Int he meantime, she needs to pray for God's protection and guidance against STDs, love children e.t.c

Also, she needs to zero her mind and let him be. Monitoring him will only give her HBP and reduce her life span. She needs to turn a blind eye to his philandering ways and enjoy the other aspects of him she loves.

Above all, she needs to protect her interest and those of her future kids. No joint accounts, no joint investments, no joint projects . . . she needs to have a safety net, something to fall back on 'in case'

Or she could do herself a big favor and take a walk now . . . .

bukatyne:

Just even saw this.

Biko give her the site of the red bra & pants.

ideology:
If pleading can stop him, let her plead o o o,

softsparkyy:
Maybe she should feign sick or go to the hospital and occupy full bed there.

Chillisauce: And they got married.

edwife: Op i suspect the sister in question was you talking about your husband( then boyfriend).

Well,what can i say!Either way,you need to call him back because i am only thinking about the little one in your womb.

It is very sad what we ladies have to go through,even if she did not marry him,another girl will and the cycle continues.

You obviously knew who he was before marrying him,my only advice to you is are you willing to continue snooping on his phone?Praying he might change one day or accepting your faith.


Chillisauce i beg,e don do. ,she is preggy.

chaircover: Some Naija women . . . leaving ete and treating lapa lapa (leaving leprosy but treating ring worm)
He is nice, he buys things, he is caring bla bla bla . . . .meanwhile the most important things such as integrity and respect is CAPITAL ZERO!!!!

Few years down the line, the guy gives the youth corper in his office belle and then she will start disturbing everyone and she won’t let family members, friends and pastors rest. Look at what he did oooooo! . . . . .after everything I have done for him bla bla bla.

Madam, I don’t know what other proof you need. He is def not ready for being committed to one woman yet. The luckiest women are the single ladies because they still have a chance of choice. Once you put the ring on, then it’s not that easy to get rid of it.

Is it on his wedding day that he will suddenly stop taking their calls and commit to you alone? Something he has done for so long? The women married to decent men are women like you and they don’t have 2 heads. Why can’t you aim for the best and not half measures? I pray that God gives you the wisdom and the strength to choose wisely.

cancerlib:
Oh, i see where ur confusion sets in. But u need nt jump into conclusion, dt post wasnt for me!
U really dnt knw it all

Sophyrocks:

Pleading doesnot work for mmen due to their hardened nature. Men are not like women. Women resspond easily to pleadings than men. If Pleadings really worked for men, women begging men to marry them would have been the happiestwomen on earth and the number of married men cheating would have reduced by now.

When you plead, you are telling the other person that what you are pleading for is more important to you but less important to him/her. They are in the marriage together. The Op did not marry herself did she? The man asked her to marry him. Therefore, they are both to work it out together. If her husband truly wants the marriage, he has stop destroying it with his PEN1S. He needs to get a motivation to change if he really values his marriage. This is why you dnt ever see any man pleading with his cheating wife. Who does that? RIDICULOUS!! NO PLEADING!!!

Chillisauce:

I don't know it all, but you had all the advice you needed on your "sisters" problem.

Like I said, take a long bath, relax yourself. Your journey just starting. No need getting worked up.

cancerlib:
Av bn married even before i put up dt post and lik i said in ds post earlier, ds is a first time for me, my hubby never cheated before and after marriage, ds is his first time. Theres no reason y ill care wether anybdy blvs me on nl or not, ds is cyberworld, i dnt knw u and u dnt knw me.
Stop hijackn my thread by playn knw it all

ideology:

I get you totally, but No one can conclude what is really going on, my point is if it can stop the man from going , its ok

Sophyrocks:

Pleading will never work. kpomkwem.

Op, dnt ever plead!! You hear me? Your husband is the one to plead!! He is the one who is wrong!! Never negotiate with a terrorist!!

Chillisauce:

This was her topic, I'm sure she was the one involved .


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So my dear, this is the best I can do. Go ahead and give her the answer she wants

cancerlib:
Lol

Chillisauce:

Carry your thread for your head ojare. I don talk my own.
Dis is cyber world, sieve through the comments and pick the ones you want. Na you Sabi.