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Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by Nobody: 11:36am On Aug 24, 2014 |
snazzylove: @ujujoan. My dear I completely understand your point. Same applies to me too as in d work aspect. For instance on a saturday that you have to do a lot of house chores, its understandable. My hussy has equally met me in same attire too due to plenty work, but its not an everyday thing. I will even be the one to joke with it, by telling him "ur babe has not showered since morning oo" we'll laff over it and if there are other things left to do he may offer to assist. Nne you are on point ooh. |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by snazzylove: 11:44am On Aug 24, 2014 |
babygirlfl: Am not making excuse for anybody my dear. Am equally a woman. And the best I can do is to tell fellow sisters the truth no mattert how bitter it is. Pregnancy last for forty weeks, and you cannot tell me that for that forty weeks you don't have a single day that you are good. I do have challenges with pregnancy too that equally lands me in the hospital bed, but its not an everyday, every week or everymonth thin. Whatever works for you sha,do it. 1 Like |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by Nobody: 11:45am On Aug 24, 2014 |
Ujujoan:sorry dear, i dont even know how to roll eyes. Hope you are better? Icherishu: Bravo! Wear red bra and pant kinda advice. When a foundation is wrong, it takes hard work on both parties to make it work. If you like wear green rope panty, man wey go cheat go cheat. dem go even cheat with the deeper life bubba kinda pant wearers. |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by Nobody: 11:48am On Aug 24, 2014 |
snazzylove: pls just stop. because you had a smooth pregnancy doesnt mean others do. some actually sleep in the hospital for a very long period, some get miscarriages with very little thing. people are diff and react differently with pregnancy. go preach your red bra and pant somewhere else. 9 Likes |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by babygirlfl: 12:00pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
snazzylove: My dear you are not preaching the bitter truth. Women hear that everyday and everywhere. They hear it from the men, fellow women, nairaland,the church, society and everywhere.So my dear, you are just saying what we have heard many times and made no difference. The bitter truth in my opinion is preaching to people to have CONTROL. Yes yours might not be everyday, every week and every month but some women are not that lucky with their pregnancy. It is important we understand that. 7 Likes |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by snazzylove: 12:11pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
Chillisauce: SMH for some pple sha You can deny him $ex for d rest of ur marriage. Who cares 1 Like |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by Ilovenigeria(f): 2:42pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
snazzylove:Snazzylove I got your message but the truth is that any man that wants to cheat will cheat even if you give him sex morning, afternoon and night. Faithfulness is a thing of the mind and a personal decision. If your mother will be honest with you ehh she will tell you that olden days once a woman gets pregnant that's when the husband will allow the woman to rest. No sex at all until she puts to bed , and the man will remain faithful during those period. It works for them then because the love they have for their wives is greater than just 5mins if pleasure. It's even in this modern days that men are taking advantage of their wives simply because the doctors approve that sex is good during pregnancy. Any man that uses his wife's pregnancy as an excuse to cheat on her has been cheating on her even before the pregnancy. 11 Likes |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by Nobody: 2:42pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
Chillisauce:My dear chillisauce. I didn't give her such advise o. I am genuinely worried about her and her situation. I know what it means to be worried and pregnant at the same time. I pray she finds peace and God should turn her hubby steps for good. Amen. |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by Nobody: 2:54pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
Op, how did everything turn out please? ? Btw, too much noise dey this thread, I will start writing names of noisemakers |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by Nobody: 3:17pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
Personaly I beleive that there is no excuse for anyone to cheat. If you are fed up with the marriage and you are not prepared to work at it, then you call it a day. No need bringing home nasty diseases to your innocent husband or wife. The truth is that many people who cheat, dont really have good excuses, although they look for anything to latch on to. How many people disown their own children when they do wrong, but as soon as a wife puts on weight, or due to one reason or the other she keeps her weave for 4 weeks, or does not wear heels in the house doing ko ko ka like they do in Nollywood movies, then its automatically a visa to cheat We are in the microwave age where everything must be done in 2 minutes and people dont want to take the time to fix/repair whatever is wrong with their relationship/spouse but rather go out there into the arms of another. . . as if the other one is perfect too 12 Likes |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by iyaakanran: 3:35pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
This is the bitter truth Ilovenigeria: 2 Likes |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by graciousolo(m): 3:58pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
What if your 'hubby' follow they advice you for here? *Just being naughty* sorry sha no counsel from this end guess you've had enough. |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by iyaakanran: 3:59pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
People would not advice men also to look good or reduce their belly fat for women,we are always at the receiving end.........chai,na only women waka come this world ooo 3 Likes |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by beeevan: 4:05pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
smokescreen4: true the death of a cheating husband should be enough relief my friend is soo pretty and sexy I know she will start dating soon she was always taking care of herself for her hubby her weight skin and all but it wasn't enough for the man, men cheating left right and centre like they own their lives, I will never shed a tear for a cheating husband, I go hang out with my friends and drink to celebration of life which will be starting for me.I HATE CHEATING I can't stress it enough Totally agree!!!!it should be no other way, the death of a cheating husband should be a relief . 2 Likes |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by graciousolo(m): 4:09pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
cancerlib: For some days now,hubby and i have bn draggn d issue of a lady that he calls 'just friend'. Instinct told me they r more dn dt so i couldnt rest.Honey you've always known He's like this .the question is why did you marry him afterall? Got this from one of your post and this can only be you talking about yourself in disguise. .........."What Does The Future Hold?....should The Wedding Be Cancelled? by cancerlib: 6:29pm On Nov 06, 2013 Hi fellow nairalander, Pls I need sincere and unbiased advice on this. My sis got engaged some months ago to a very lovable guy. Disaster struck when few months after d introduction ceremony he changed the password to his fones. They were really opened to each other b4, but suddenly he chngd his passwords. When my sis asked he brushed her off saying its guys thingy, that he and his pals talk raw on chat and wouldn't want her to see such, that he's only protecting her so she won't be hurt. She accepted and they moved on fine. Just some weeks ago she just tried a password and the phone unlocked! There she saw he has been philandering with so many girls and the brutal part the girls doesn't know he's engaged. She told him and they fought over it, one of his sis intervened and they settled. The guy said it was nothing serious just fun. After they've settled, d girls never stopped calling, she pointed this out to him. Instead of rectifying this, he changed the names so she won't suspect a thing. This is the only major bad habit this guy have, he's a nice and caring guy, someone ull never suspect could cheat and whatever he buys he buy in her name (her first name and his surname) to the last pin in his house, this shows he means well and want a future with her. Now he's always clearing chats and call log. Their wedding is in 4mnths time, my sis is torn. Pls any advice will be appreciated". Oluwa bless your marriage sha. |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by Nobody: 4:14pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
beeevan: An old school mate of mine lost her husband. He was a serial cheat and she had always been complaining about it. He was actually in the car with a gf, when he had an accident that claimed his life in Nigeria. When I heard the news of his death, I went to see her to sympathise with her, but when I got there and she had the sound system on and was listening to fuji She was even the one telling me to cheer up and what did I want to eat and she was jisting about other things. It was like I was at a get together. I felt uncomforable and I soon left. I thought that maybe she was in shock, but in hindsight she was probably fed up of it all and his death just bought closure for her. its really sad though, that a relationship can turn go from good when it started to so bad that a spouse can loose his/her life and the other party just carrys on like its a simple thing |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by freecocoa(f): 4:17pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
Ha! If I find such on my man's phone, the last thing I'll be worried about is him talking sh*t about snooping, duh! Which mouth him wan take ask my why I check him phone? |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by beeevan: 4:20pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
babygirlfl: God bless you for this post, snazzy just know your man doesn't cheat because he doesn't want to, not because you are the sexiest woman he has seen around. 5 Likes |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by snazzylove: 4:21pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
Ilovenigeria: Same thing I mentioned in my post earlier tha a born-unrepentant cheat willl still cheat cos nothing the wife does will appeal to him, but some pple decided to see the pregnancy and sex aspect of my comment only. Babe even u, once in a while u'll pity hubby nah and be like 'oya let's manage and do small' ' it isn't by force. It should be a two way thing, done for love by both. So if there is need to abstain, both parties will still do it joyfully. Not as if somebody is dragging something with the other person or trying to intimidate d oda. 2 Likes |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by beeevan: 4:28pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
chaircover: Can you imagine ? Most men have no idea how much they hurt their spouse by cheating, the hatred that comes with infidelity is twice as strong as the love that has been. I doubt if any woman will feel much pain if her husband died in a road accident while visiting his mistress. Their is no bad thing that a cheating spouse does not deserve. Due to the stigma on divorce in Naija, most will rather be widowed than divorced, so they pray fervently for their premature death. 8 Likes |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by cococandy(f): 10:27pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
Some will even kill the man if they can. Which makes me wonder 'don't philandering men see the danger they are in?' Some see it as the woman knows her place and knows she stands to lose if she leaves the marriage. That's what gives them courage to carry on. beeevan: |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by beeevan: 10:56pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
cococandy: Some will even kill the man if they can. They believe that women are used to being cheated on, at least some pack condoms into their husband's luggages to encourage him to keep it sheathed while prancing about. |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by cococandy(f): 11:03pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
Openly philandering men are dancing surugede. But they don't know it is the dance of the gods. beeevan: |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by beeevan: 11:05pm On Aug 24, 2014 |
cococandy: Openly philandering men are dancing surugede. Am sure any woman with a philandering husband must at some point wished he was dead so she can be free to get a life without being judged. 2 Likes |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by cancerlib: 11:48am On Aug 25, 2014 |
Hmmm, my story took a different turn..... When we first got married, we made a decision to wait a bit before procreating (he wanted to be more balanced) asked him how long is a bit, and he said few months. But when months rolled into a year and over a year, his family got on my case especially his mom. When I told them its their son that isn't ready they refuse to accept, after all am d woman, if I want a baby I know how to go about it. I tried reasoning with him we should try for a baby now but he was adamant, he doesn't want stress for me andhe needs to put some things in place before we talk about babies. Fast-forward to some months later and I got pregnant. He went really mad, how could I betray him so? Blah blah. He told me point blank he wants an abortion to which I refused, his family heard about it and told him his callous , ,shouldnt he be happy about it. This went on for days but he eventually accept and apologise for his actions ans and we movedd on. When I saw his chat with the lady, this situation crossed my mind , could it be related? That's y I was dazed and confused at first. When we talked , he went all macho with me and actually confirmed it that hes punishing me cos I tried to prove smart by getting pregnant, and that upon his tears and pleads to abort I was adamant. All d fight in me fled, I just told him hes not even the father of that child ans I told him we have nothing further to discuss. I went to bed, this morning he asked for food and I told him am never cooking for him again. He said I like unnecessary wahala, he didn't sleep with anyone, I wasn't even interested and just left |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by greatgod2012(f): 12:25pm On Aug 25, 2014 |
cancerlib: Hmmm, my story took a different turn..... so, your husband said he was punishing you for getting pregnant for him by flirting around and planning to infect you with STDs...........na wa o. Madam, now you know the kind of man you're married to. It's a pity, the child many are spending fortunes to get is what someone gets without stress and still have to punish his wife for it........"eni to ni ori, ko ni fila, eni to ni fila, ko ri'bi de si". In my own opinion, this man is mean, very mean for him to have done this,to subject you to this type of harshiness during this delicate period of yours, did he even realise the harm he might cause you and the unborn baby with his unfaithfulness? Honestly, i don't know what to advise you, but that "i wasn't sleeping with anyone" statement of his is just a hoax......he is.....oh no, let me not say it. Ok, what is your next line of action now? It is well. |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by isokey: 12:25pm On Aug 25, 2014 |
Sorry, buh like seriously....Is this a movie 1 Like |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by greatgod2012(f): 12:29pm On Aug 25, 2014 |
And please, don't ask me what i would have done if i'm in your shoe, because i'm a person with zero tolarance for nonsense. Wishing you goodluck. |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by cancerlib: 1:11pm On Aug 25, 2014 |
greatgod2012: And please, don't ask me what i would have done if i'm in your shoe, because i'm a person with zero tolarance for nonsense.I just don't want all the stress to cause me miscarriage, have suffered enough already. Have decided I won't report him to anybody, I'll give him the silent treatment, if he'll come back to his senses, I want it to be him without d interference of anyone |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by isokey: 1:25pm On Aug 25, 2014 |
May God help and see u through. Marriage no be beans @ aalll |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by Nobody: 1:40pm On Aug 25, 2014 |
I would av recommended a page for u on this same Nairaland; about a guy that infected his wife with herpes out of unfaithfulness, but regretting his action now, but the OP might not be happy about that, as he's only seeking advice..... But its better u take action cos indirectly u av interest in his personal life. |
Re: Caught In D Act......how Do I Play It Out? by uboma(m): 2:17pm On Aug 25, 2014 |
cancerlib: I will advise that you report the matter to his mum, especially that part that he's punishing you for refusing to abort his child. Your man is something else, cant even get the appropriate word/phrase to describe him. |
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