Lady commits suicide after being jilted by lover
Written by Evelyn Usman
Saturday, November 1, 2008

Like every young lady from humble homes who go through thick and thin to ensure a better living condition for her parents, 21-year-old Promise, from Akwa-Ibom State, left her home town four years ago for Lagos, in search of greener pasture. Life at first in Lagos, was not as easy as she had envisaged back in the village.




This was because efforts by Promise who was barely 17 years then to make ends meet met a brisk wall. She was said to have worked as sales girl in over nine restaurants, all in her bid to save some money to further her education.

But harassment from male folks ended her chances, as the promising young lady was reported to have vowed not to succumb to the temptation of using her woman- hood which she considered her most prized possession, in exchange for what she wanted.

In some of the restaurants, assault from these male customers in the full glare of her employers, who sometimes looked the other way in order to retain them, made the timid village girl to sometimes, politely register her dissatisfaction and at other times openly insulted them when such harassment became too close for comfort.

On several occasions, her action was vehemently kicked against by her employers, leading to her being sacked and thereby, returning her to the waiting hands of hunger. The mere thought of returning back to the village after several failed attempts, sent trepidation and uncertainty down the spine of the frustrated teenager, as going back home was as good as remaining where she was.

Just when she began giving up on hope, fate smiled on her as a friend introduced her to an American who was desperately looking for a loyal housemaid. Aside her monthly salary, she was given a-room apartment in her employer’s building in Ikoyi and this afforded her the opportunity to send money to her folks back in the village. But like some good things which never last forever, her employer who was on a business contract in Nigeria, left a year ago for the United States of America, throwing Promise back to the cold.

But it was not too long before she got a similar job in Association Avenue, Dolphin Estate, Ikoyi, where the unexpected happened, following the discovery of the lifeless body of Promise dangling on top of a pole in front of her boys quarters apartment, last week Monday.

The atmosphere in the sleepy Dolphin Estate on that fateful day was charged following a scream from an unknown person on sighting the remains of the housemaid on top of a pole, with a rope tied to her neck. Time was 7pm. As the owner of the building simply identified as Mr. Apolos and other curious sympathizers got to the scene, a piece of paper on which was scribbled “Please forgive me. This is the number of my boyfriend, call him to come and see what he has done to me”, was reportedly found on the ground.

Preliminary investigations revealed that Promise eventually succumbed to the love advancement of one Steven Ifeanyi after the latter’s promise to marry her and at the same time ensured she furthered her studies, which was the deceased dream. Crime guard gathered that the relationship blossomed by the day but like a pack of cards, it came crashing after Steven’s decision to end it all, resulting in Promise committing suicide, following her inability to bear the emotional pains .

Steven was contacted on the telephone number scribbled on the suicide note by the Police.

It was learnt that in his statement, he claimed he had to call off his relationship with Promise as a result of a strange illness she was suffering from. He claimed he won’t be able to cope with the financial burden of the ailment which he said made Promise complain of internal excruciating pains and most times she fainted in the process.

“I decided to inform her of my intention to quit during one of my visits, even though I earlier promised her I was going to marry her. But I could not go ahead with the marriage plan when I realized the illness was re-occurring. I did not kill her, neither did I cause her to commit suicide. On that day I told her she was a beautiful and nice person and as such would find a good man to marry.

Meanwhile, her corpse has been deposited in the public mortuary while operatives at the Homicide section of the Criminal Investigations Department (SCID), Panti, Yaba, are still investigating the matter.


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na wa o,

elodie:

“I decided to inform her of my intention to quit during one of my visits, even though I earlier promised her I was going to marry her. But I could not go ahead with the marriage plan when I realized the illness was re-occurring. I did not kill her, neither did I cause her to commit suicide. On that day I told her she was a beautiful and nice person and as such would find a good man to marry.

How insensitive of him.

that's really sad, it was all too much for her in the end, I guess

So sad.

oops!
taking her own life. . . . .VERY WRONG!

dl_jbd:

oops!
taking her own life. . . . .VERY WRONG!

I wonder o, dunno y most peeps goin tru emotional trauma contemplate suicide as d next step, aint worth it, its not d end of life. The Irony of d whole damn thing is that the guy or the gurl who jilts dem does not give an heck,

Really Sad!

while im realli sorry for the girl,the guy did nothing wrong if that was the reason he cut the relationship off, taking care of a sick person or a re occuring sickenss takes a lot more than just love but dedication,long suffering especially financially in a place like naija with zero social welfare, its just sad how the girl started and ended up,

If a gf left a dude cos he was sick, i wonder what people would say

I was an emotional wreck over one guy once but trust me, even at that time, it never ocurred to me to commit suicide.

The earlier we ladies begin to realize that men don't worth the trauma we go over them, the better for us.

So sad!!!

virgie:

I was an emotional wreck over one guy once but trust me, even at that time, it never ocurred to me to commit suicide.

The earlier we ladies begin to realize that men don't worth the trauma we go over them, the better for us.

is a pity!

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Poor girl.
The effect of frustration and hopelessness

While we hardly speak bad of the
dead in Nigeria, But I think
Her rxtn was over the board
For how years have they dated?
Its really unfortunate 
Lesson for all immature Lovers
please, don't take ur life for any guy/lady
Man/woman wld always fail,
Only God CANNOT disappoint 

Have you read the Kite Runner as well, tpia

@ Topic

It's unfortunate. . . . . . .she probably had huge self esteem issues. . . . . .

Kite Runner, good book.

Na wa oooo, How old is the guy that Jilt the girl?

@poster

That girl needs to be flogged by the angels at heavensgate for being a dumbass

Are you sure she was psychologically okay?

I don't think the girl had any medical condition as explained by the boyfriend. More likely, it was a ruse woven to absolve himself of blame. Having said that he didnt deserve the negative attention and embarrassment from a deeply troubled girl.

sad story, sad story, sad life

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I love both. KR definitely made me cry though.

May her soul RIP.

Very pathetic story. But she still didn`t ve to take her own life. So many relationships have been broken. And there aint suicide cases to match d number

so unfortunante she had to end her life! she had her whole life aheadof her. no need crying over spilt milk!

Tshew.

She died because she wanted to die. How is it the man's fault? The relationship wasn't working out for him and he wanted out. Simple as that.

She should go and rest in peace jare or whatever.

Who is the Fool now?