Kimmo:


I agree with all you said, and I certainly didn't mean it the way a lot of people seem to be taking it. I would have modified the post to make it clearer, but people seemed to be enjoying the insults they spend minutes typing, so I let them have their fun.

No, nothing is wrong with being a cleaner. I'm just saying, that in this day and age when women are really proactive about their lives, cleaning is left mostly to young girls who are trying to gain admission or are students already trying to support their parents. OR older women who already have families to cater for. There are different circumstances though, which I'm very aware of, that make smart women stoop to conquer.
But, a 26 year old who's a cleaner? Let's remember that banks hire cleaning outfits, not the cleaners themselves so whatever the bank pays is already slashed in half before it gets to the cleaner that does all the work. How much does she get at the end of the month? Is it worth running errands for her mates who are tellers or customer service officers?

I have a neighbor who's always after me to fix my nails or make beads and although it isn't my style, I do it from time to time to encourage her. She's gathered enough money to include sale of weaves into her trade. She could very easily get a cleaning job too.

There are rude female doctors, pharmacists, tailors (esp the good ones with high patronage) Nepa officials, office assistants etc.
Saying It ws unfair, I was feeling sorry for the banker. Everyone has some good in their hearts and want the opportunity to live someone and be loved back. It's only normal to have your specs in mind.
Thanks for bring polite about countering my opinion.

Viciyus:

thats cool!! just try and listen to yellow again you might love it. and also japanes love.

mediachirps:
Nice. Are you married yet?

Odilafta:
Tell her to stop carrying her shoulder higher than her head.

She should stop envying those cleaners(,they all have same to.to,just a difference in sizes ) rather she should learn humility from them.

Is she also a spiritualist Abi how sure is she that the money those male customers come to withdraw is theirs


Like they say,"the ugly girls are getting married every saturday while the beautiful ones are busy,buying the aso-ebi"
I'm sure she didn't tell you of the humble,hardworking bricklayer she has been turning down,simply because she's a banker...

No apologies
I just like saying it the way it is.


Nonsense and ingredient

AmNotDrunk:

Japanese love is it from this year's album? haven't heard that yet.
or u mean lovers in Japan from ghost stories?

Skii:
Dear all,

for a moment, let us put the attitudes of just a few female bankers aside.

what about the guys? shouldn't they take some responsibility for not raising their game enough?

rather than squirm at the sight (or actions) of some lady, i think guys should learn the art of taming, subtle taming of these seemingly untamed women. women are emotional, very, as i have come to understand and it may be that at the time whoever engaged them, they may have been under pressure hence their untoward "reaction".

I must confess, i am also in the process of learning how to deal with various types of women. the funny thing as i have found is that, once you are able to ride their initial forming or fronting attitude, they come running after you like bees chase honey!

you don't get out of life what you want, you get out of life who you are- Les Brown!

so the guy going after the cleaner in preference to the banker, that's fine, that's his choice, that's who he is.

if only the banker ladies will exercise some patience, their own guy will come and when he does, they should hope that he is man enough to teach them the manners they lack.

let's not even talk about money, again a man on top of his game will tame a lady he chooses whether or not she earns more than he does.

picture this scenario, an example someone gave in one of the replies

a lady banker snaps at the counter when you request to use her pen. rather than quiet down and retreat with tail in between legs, a gentle, friendly, subtle comment or compliment can do the trick "wow, you must be under pressure, take it easy", "even with that attitude, you are still gorgeous, what will you be like when you are smiling?"

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Guy, tell me howya doit!

humilitypays:
What majority of serious guys seek for in a lady they want to settle down with are: humility, availability and simplicity, not status or career, and unfortunately, many female bankers and some working class ladies lack those qualities cos ladies get easily carried away by little career achievement

Men who are ready to marry and have a stable source of income don't care what a lady does for a living...all they want is the things I mentioned above, ladies take note

Cholls:
My brother I have one with the bank i bank in she always eye me to the point I find it uncomfortable to go to the bank branch

dovelike:

For ya mind na

iKoksi:


guy which kind beer u dey drink make i put am for fridge for u?

SenatorJames:
what a sensible post The true state of mind of many men, when looking for future partner to settle with.



Most time we are not interested in how much you earn, just be doing something to contribute or not to be idle, most men are able to take care of the family independently.

Kimmo:


*sigh* Look, men and women have certain standards. The kind of man who would willingly choose a cleaner, thinks of himself as being happy with her choice of work/person. There are certain jobs people choose because of a lack of choice. The average university graduate in Nigeria would go for teaching rather than cleaning, for instance.
There's no way to equate a cleaner with a banker, unless the person cleans Jonathan's room in Aso rock or runs a professional cleaning outfit.

tranxo:
....lol. Ego-boosting mindsets are allowed na..

theking5:
I can tell u bcs I have worked in a bank, many of those ladies bankers seem to look down on some guys who are not loaded in cash, and not available, so the guys goes for those available to them. Is a pity what many so called working class ladies go through dis days, but tell them to mellow down, I remember one in my church I told I want to marry her but she snubbed me, up till now she is still single, while am married with a kid, and my family are doing great.

tyor:
Morals....the guy at Stage one with you, will equally have career progression, and you can grow together. Despise not the days of little beginnings. They people you see at chevron today (most of who were bankers at the beginning and wearing oversized coats) now look so posh and are super eligible.

majekdom2:
its about personality , obviously she has got attitude for her to talk like cleaners , security guards are no jobs and people who do them are no good to mingle with . oh , she is waiting to get married to her customer , she go dey dere tey no wonder I was at the bank this morning and this lady had to apply pancake before she attended to the next person. well if she is so desparate to get married she can take the cleaner job and see if she would . its about personlity and attitude not that they are so expensive. for her talking expensive self shows her level of reasoning . smart dudes can always tell who is gonna give them problem by just a little chat which they may have had with her . finally , beauty is in the eyes of the beholder.

Kimmo:


I agree with all you said, and I certainly didn't mean it the way a lot of people seem to be taking it. I would have modified the post to make it clearer, but people seemed to be enjoying the insults they spend minutes typing, so I let them have their fun.

No, nothing is wrong with being a cleaner. I'm just saying, that in this day and age when women are really proactive about their lives, cleaning is left mostly to young girls who are trying to gain admission or are students already trying to support their parents. OR older women who already have families to cater for. There are different circumstances though, which I'm very aware of, that make smart women stoop to conquer.
But, a 26 year old who's a cleaner? Let's remember that banks hire cleaning outfits, not the cleaners themselves so whatever the bank pays is already slashed in half before it gets to the cleaner that does all the work. How much does she get at the end of the month? Is it worth running errands for her mates who are tellers or customer service officers?

I have a neighbor who's always after me to fix my nails or make beads and although it isn't my style, I do it from time to time to encourage her. She's gathered enough money to include sale of weaves into her trade. She could very easily get a cleaning job too.

There are rude female doctors, pharmacists, tailors (esp the good ones with high patronage) Nepa officials, office assistants etc.
Saying It ws unfair, I was feeling sorry for the banker. Everyone has some good in their hearts and want the opportunity to live someone and be loved back. It's only normal to have your specs in mind.
Thanks for bring polite about countering my opinion.

GoodGirl2:

Men are quick to point out that they want a woman who will "grow together" with him from the time he has nothing.
What they don't tell you is that when he becomes successful, you the woman who stood by him when he had nothing will be kicked out to the gutter for the woman who wants the man that has made it.

"Little beginnings" my left toe! Who doesn't know how men twist situations to their favour?

FLYGERIAN91:
my day was good..... Hope I didnt spoil yours with my ranty comment tho.....

kaima1984:
mine ws fabulous,u are still a learner to spoil my day

FLYGERIAN91:
hahahaahaha..... Thank God I'm at the very bottom of such a list..... So, what career are you into or do U just seem to have the flare of a career woman??

kaima1984:
flare?hmm,am a geologist working here in phc

ndidibabe:
Is she a teller? There is a difference between a Banker and a Bank worker.

Tell her to stop carrying her shoulder higher than her head.

She should stop envying those cleaners(,they all have same to.to,just a difference in sizes ) rather she should learn humility from them.

Is she also a spiritualist Abi how sure is she that the money those male customers come to withdraw is theirs


Like they say,"the ugly girls are getting married every saturday while the beautiful ones are busy,buying the aso-ebi"
I'm sure she didn't tell you of the humble,hardworking bricklayer she has been turning down,simply because she's a banker...

No apologies
I just like saying it the way it is.


Nonsense and ingredient

openmine:

thats the dynamics of life...just as our faces are different,so are our thoughts and actions....just becos a guy refused to marry a lady who lead him to success after standing by him,doesnt mean ALL MEN have such traits...please try to be a bit objective in ur analysis and stop generalizing..