BreezyRita:
Yes......... What you call playing "hard to get", I call "taking my time" or "looking before I leap"........
There are times though I throw caution to the wind.

Both are different ma dear.

Caution is taking time to study a person before committing to him/her. Every sensible and honest toaster knows when the target is only being cautious and gives him/her the space. If that is what the op called playing hard to get, then he got it wrong.


Playing hard to get is when a lady deliberately sends mixed signals that are intended to manipulate and keep the man interested.

mployer:


Glad you said you didn't love her in the first place. Every sensible girl should know when a guy is not that into her and stear clear. Likewise guys. It is not playing hard to get, it is being true to oneself.

Playing hard to get is a mind game. It is called reverse psychology. Guys do it too. You will always hear guys on nairaland say stuff like 'if you want to get a lady, pretend like you don't care'. It works in most cases but it is a game. It will get you a girl but won't keep a relationship for you.

There is no relationship worse than that of two people playing mind games on each other. I hate games, don't know about others

This is an extract from my earlier post that replies this your statement.

Most importantly ... I think it is important to note that playing hard to get is very different from her not been interested or stringing you along for a long time.

2weeks to One month or an equivalent of evenly spaced 4dates is an okay time for her to give you solid repl.

Moreover If from the onset, she says a clear no to your advances understand that she is not interested, If she is in love with someone else please run away. If she is a gold-digger and thrives on using you to meet her needs flee.

As for guys playing hard to get. I think is more like the as a guy you should not be or act very desperate. Just be your self, have your own life and do not put her on a pedestal. Woo but keep your dignity intact.