coogar:


much ado about nothing...
he's just making the head of the other woman swell. maybe he just borrowed some money from her.

I Joke a lot oh but there are somethings I don't joke with esp when I know it will hurt the person I love.
the money he burrowed better worth a fortune.

Marriage institution is becoming a joke. What do they teach teach people in their marriage class. And na Nigerians go marriage class pass

cococandy:
the literary translation is :my wife is not as good as you . I regret marrying her. you're the one I should have married

Na this kind statement dey make mistress get boldness to enter your house and expect you to prepare dinner for her and your husband while they are in the room making a step child for your children.

OP I'm heartbroken on your behalf

You never know what many men would say in order to hit The honey pot.

Chillisauce:

I Joke a lot oh but there are somethings I don't joke with esp when I know it will hurt the person I love.
the money he burrowed better worth a fortune.

so if it's worth a fortune, you would overlook the text message? chilli chilli

Marriage institution is becoming a joke. What do they teach teach people in their marriage class. And na Nigerians go marriage class pass

men don't always mean what they say to the opposite sėx. all those psyches are a means to an end.

coogar:


so whose fault is it that they never saw the cheating side of their spouses? in this day & age of internet - is this a tenable excuse?

seems like you deliberately misunderstood that my post. I said it is possible the man didn't even cheat on her when they were courting. It is very possible. If that was the case,what was there for her to discover if there was nothing to discover? You're just looking at it from one angle.

it could be that & it could be that plus other reasons. the truth is when most men complain twice about something they don't like in a partner and there's no considerable effort from the partner to change, he might stray & stop complaining.

in his church mind, more complaints would lead to more arguments & more squabs. men are risk takers - he would cheat by the side & not bother again about the attitude he doesn't like in his wife. it's a common theme in men.

he still went ahead to cheat with another and another and another? All these women still couldn't make up for whatever it is his wife is lacking? It doesn't take a soothsayer to know that the problem is from him and not from the wife.

Ok let me just indulge you and agree that it is the wife's fault. What happened to communication And seeking a possible compromise? When did cheating become a remedy for perceived problems in the Union?

Chillisauce:


You never know what many men would say in order to hit The honey pot.

lol

cococandy:

seems like you deliberately misunderstood that my post. I said it is possible the man didn't even cheat on her when they were courting. It is very possible. If that was the case,what was there for her to discover if there was nothing to discover? You're just looking at it from one angle.

cheats are not born post-marital - they are born pre-marital. he musta been cheating in the past & he just carried on with the bad attitude.

he still went ahead to cheat with another and another and another? All these women still couldn't make up for whatever it is his wife is lacking? It doesn't take a soothsayer to know that the problem is from him and not from the wife.

it's taking him time to realise there's no perfect woman....he would hit 100 before he gets the idea that marriage is all about accepting (manageable)imperfections of the spouse -

Ok let me just indulge you and agree that it is the wife's fault. What happened to communication And seeking a possible compromise? When did cheating become a remedy for perceived problems in the Union?

how do you know he's not tried communicating that yielded no results? i hope you are aware some wives don't like to be corrected or criticised especially on sensitive issues. there are different people out there - you can only find few sane marriages these days.

Ok

coogar:


cheats are not born post-marital - they are born pre-marital. he musta been cheating in the past & he just carried on with the bad attitude.




it's taking him time to realise there's no perfect woman....he would hit 100 before he gets the idea that marriage is all about accepting (manageable)imperfections of the spouse -



how do you know he's not tried communicating that yielded no results? i hope you are aware some wives don't like to be corrected or criticised especially on sensitive issues. there are different people out there - you can only find few sane marriages these days.

BABE3:


in this case, OP has no one to blame but herself. The man in question confessed to being a cheat, he asked for her hand in marriage and she gladly said yes. So, majority of the blame lies on the woman.

The man may not have proposed sef, she's probably the one that "tied" him down with belle, knowing he's a cheat.

@babe i married him as a virgin if u must know n got pregnant 5 month after wedding. N he was not a cheat then.

Comedy central
Marriage has suffered!

But on a serious note, some serial cheat stopped after tying the knot honestly.

On d other hand some started after marriage while some didn't change after marriage.
But in all we still hv d faithful ones among us and they r many.
Kudos to them.

Coogar,who told u cheats r not born post marital?
Where did u get this one from?
Hei Coooogar!
Fear God o .

lifenocks:



@babe i married him as a virgin if u must know n got pregnant 5 month after wedding. N he was not a cheat then.

Your husband is the villain and you're the saint; I accept.

On a serious and realistic note;
Humans are always going to be humans; forget the crap about 2 becoming 1 in a marriage; we are all selfish. You are the only one that can love yourself the way you want to be loved. You have to protect yourself at all times (even from the ones that love you most or the ones you love); coz when they hurt you, it hurts the most. So, moving forward, stop expecting total loyalty from people.

Now at this junction, you have two options;

1) accept that you have a cheating husband, and look the other way (don't look too far though coz you wouldn't want STDs). Manage and live through the marriage, like most people do in their marriages.

2) get a divorce.

Except there's something fundamentally wrong from your end, discard the "fasting ,praying, changing and hoping" advices you're getting. Anything other than options 1 & 2 will drive you crazy, literally. Remember you have a kid/s.


I advised you based on the fact that he's the villain and you're the angel.

lifenocks:



@babe I married him as a virgin if u must know n got pregnant 5 month after wedding. N he was not a cheat then.

LOBATAN!
A man just goes from being a virgin to 3+x sexual partners?
I give up on marriage, I swear!
You just can never win
Bia, op, how you sabi say him be virgin?

alutacontinua:



LOBATAN!
A man just goes from being a virgin to 3+x sexual partners?
I give up on marriage, I swear!
You just can never win
Bia, op, how you sabi say him be virgin?

Olodo. She's the virgin.

moca:
Coogar,who told u cheats r not born post marital?
Where did u get this one from?
Hei Coooogar!
Fear God o .

cheats are not born post-marital - just because you didn't notice doesn't mean he wasn't doing it in his bachelorhood.

Is it NL that calls cheating, flirting? I see this all the time or is it a slang. Flirting and cheating are two different things entirely. OP please next time be more precise. Thank you.

coogar:


cheats are not born post-marital - just because you didn't notice doesn't mean he wasn't doing it in his bachelorhood.

You sure? Remember that story about the man that got married to his beautiful high school sweetheart. They found out they were sèxually incompatible after marriage. She wanted sèx once a year; he had a normal libido.

He tried being a good man for 10 years or so. He later gave up on the wife and became a serial cheat.

How about that?

BABE3:

You sure? Remember that story about the man that got married to his beautiful high school sweetheart. They found out they were sèxually incompatible after marriage. She wanted sèx once a year; he had a normal libido.

He tried being a good man for 10 years or so. He later gave up on the wife and became a serial cheat.

How about that?

who told this story?
i can't remember this story - maybe you have to find the article so i can comment on it.

mutter:
IF your husband is fliring it means he is looking for something he is not getting home. You can`t change your husband but you can change you. Go into yourself and check what you are doing wrong or omitting to do.
Start working on your marriage.
Getting a husband is not hard but the biggest challange is keeping a happy home. Yo need to keep the live alive and kindle the fire every day.
STOP snooping around. His Tel. is not your biz.

God bless you real good for this comment. Wish I can have your number.

I have seen men cheat after marriage. Some men (virgins inclusive) were not bold enough or didnt cheat cos of their background and didnt have a strong belief against cheating. The moment they start moving with cheating friends circumstance or something brought their way after marriage, they start unconsciously/consciously toiling with the idea. Some are even offered chicks by these friends and they wont say no so as not to be seen as 'juman', before you know it they are worse than their friends... But op i think your man was a premarital cheat, decide how you will deal with him cos he will continue as long as want to accomodate it.

BABE3:


Olodo. She's the virgin.

you just made me laugh

BABE3:


Olodo. She's the virgin.

oops!
My brain must be on sabbatical leave
Thanks for the clarification, I for fear

mutter:
IF your husband is fliring it means he is looking for something he is not getting home. You can`t change your husband but you can change you. Go into yourself and check what you are doing wrong or omitting to do.
Start working on your marriage.
Getting a husband is not hard but the biggest challange is keeping a happy home. Yo need to keep the live alive and kindle the fire every day.
STOP snooping around. His Tel. is not your biz.

You have to realise what you have just written is disgusting. I wonder if you are a man posting as a female

cococandy:
nne out of curiosity I want to know if you will also tell the husband of a cheating wife to take the blame for her sleeping around and work on giving His wife whatever it is that is making her go outside.
Or tell Him his wife's phone is none of his business?

Ermmmm nope, I've seen a post an a woman who was suspected of cheating and mutter was all over it calling for the woman to be hung and quartered, I don't understand her

fem29: I don't understand her

join the club

cococandy:
join the club

Na wa. She really rubs me up the wrong way, she is a menist , nothing a man does can be faulted, it's always the woman's fault, haba

fem29:


Na wa. She really rubs me up the wrong way, she is a menist , nothing a man does can be faulted, it's always the woman's fault, haba

warped

From some of the comments here, it seems like 'change' shouldn't be a word since they believe it doesn't exist.

I never knew a man can't start cheating after marriage, yet there once was a virgin man who started cheating after marriage.


Okay o.

Abeg go and enjoy yourself before u kill yourself over ordinary husband

You knew he was a cheat yet you married him anyway. Stop disturbing us with rubbish post.

Wendy80:

The Nigerian Man isn't polygamous biko. I disagree. Don't generalise. That's how women excuse their husband's cheating Nature.

Woman 95% of Nigerian men are polygamous,just because you havent caught your man makes him monogamous.

Let the truth be told most men are polygamous,and they dont have a reason to have extra-marital affairs.
Woman,for you to have rest of mind,do as women of old,they accepted the reality. Ask your mum,if your dad,never had extra marital affairs,how did she handle it?
If you wanted to be a modern woman,you walk out of the marriage.who told you the next man wont have extra marital affairs. You may decide to be vengeful and engage in extra marital affair,if caught,it will be your disgrace and your family.

samisparkle24:

Woman 95% of Nigerian men are polygamous,just because you havent caught your man makes him monogamous.

My Man is monogamous. I speak for myself. If U are, at least 5% aren't going by UR calculation.