lol im just seein d title

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Sayoh:
This post is not to launch a smear campaign on the agency, but just to contribute my quota in warning other mothers out there.

So I was introduced to the agency by a family member, with the hope that the agency would have properly trained nannies and proper vetting would be done on the nannies. I chose to go with an agency that claims to train and properly vet their nannies even to the extent of ensuring the nannies provide guarantors, since all those small girls from upcountry have plenty wahala; and a motherly nanny who has had children is always a best fit anyday.

We kuku registered with the agency (N15,000) and were told it would take 2weeks to get prospects that i would interview.

The first red flag should have been the number of times i had to call the "madam" of the agency before she finally picked. I filled the form at the agency and indicated that i wanted a nanny that has kids, would be a live out nanny and is between 30 and 40yrs old. The next flag was also the delay in getting prospects (after i had paid the registration fee o), it took more than 4 weeks and several frustrating calls before I was told to come to their office at Okota to meet with the prospects.

Okay nau, I got there and had to wait another hour before the madam showed up, claiming there was traffic and that they don't normally open on saturday...blah blah. Long story short, no nanny was present, i only looked through their profiles and was asked to pick one. They said their staff would bring the nanny to my house before she officially resumes work- didn't happen. She eventually gave the nanny my number and asked her to call me, after another week had almost elapsed and several more calls.

Resumption day, the nanny didn't show, and when i called the agency and was given the nanny's number, to direct her to my house (hmmmmn)! I called and the nanny and she says "my husband say make i no work this month", and i'm like ahn ahn! How come the agency sent you to me? And she explains that she need the month off to attend to her sickness...ehn! Sickness ke....turns out she was receiving hormonal treatment in order to conceive. Not a problem but I thought the agncy would have found out about this during the screening right?

Geun geun! i called the agency and told them what happened and they apologised and said they had no clue she was going to back out like that.

Replacement nanny was meant to resume the next week, Monday morning-she no show. Same cycle of calling the nanny and she claimed she needed to rest so she would resume the next day. I took the nanny for medical screening that same day she resumed and tests confirmed she was pregnant!
Ok, not a problem-afterall she was married with 5 kids and willing to work, but the agency should have told me right? Same day she starts complaining about the agency and how they take almost half of the money paid by the employers, leaving the nanny with peanuts. She also mentioned that the agency did not conduct any tests on her and just sent her to me....hmmm red flag 3 abi is it 4?

After one month, she suddenly has to go and visit her sick mother on a monday morning and doesn't know when she would be back and said i should call the agency. I did call and was told i would get another replacement. This time the replacement took almost 4 weeks to arrive and this was after several calls and as madam hardly picks her phone, you can only imagine my frustration.

Final straw, they sent a much older woman who claimed to be 48, I had interviewed her and she seemed ok and then i ran my medical check after she resumed as she din't come with her test results as the agency had promised. Lo and behold, the 15k collecting agency sent me someone who had HIV to be my baby's nanny. Worst part is the madam didn't show any remorse for sending a nanny to a client without running tests. The madam claimed "the woman was elderly, so she couldn't have known she had HIV and that it could happen to anyone"

As I type this caveat, the agency has not gotten back to me on an amicable settlement on the matter. I think from all the story, the agency is one to be avoided as the professional skills for dealing with such a sensitive service seem to be non existent. I have fashied my 15k registration, but i thought to let people know one of the agencies out there that i wouldn't recommend, from my experience. They will just collect your money and never provide the service paid for with the care and dilligence expected.

1) You are enemy of progress and part of what's wrong with Nigeria.

2) You have no right to your employees medical records as long as its not related to a directly contagious disease.

3) You have no right to disclose the medical status of others on an online forum without their consent.

I really don't blame you though, I blame the medical facility that released the records to you and they should be sued.

You need some education.

ShirelleBaby:


Okay

Pls can u xplain the image on ur profile?
I am curious kus I can't figure out where the corn is--i see a mouth but no head.

u'r very nawti, wot were u lookin 4? It says alot about some ladies u knw

hayoakins:


Did you read the title?

My fault then, if the title wasn't edited. Front page title stuck in my mind.

Medunah:

Jesus!! Are u sane?? So u expect her to allow an HIV patient take care of her kids?? And what makes u think she doesnt have the money to pay a lawyer? Pple like you are wat make this country stagnant. So she is expected to keep mute nd allow others fall victim?? Clueless indeed

Can you imagine the mindset? Sooo warped and unrealistic. Some people claim to be wise but when it comes to knowing what a simple contract demands, they fumble and wallow in ignorance.

Btw...Merry Christmas. Been a while

tranxo:
Can you imagine the mindset? Sooo warped and unrealistic. Some people claim to be wise but when it comes to knowing what a simple contract demands, they fumble and wallow in ignorance.

Btw...Merry Christmas. Been a while

Like i dnt jzt understand some peepz nd he still went ahead to call her clueless

Yeah, merry christmas to you too

Medunah:

Like i dnt jzt understand some peepz nd he still went ahead to call her clueless

Yeah, merry christmas to you too

I can see the hair ministry is going places

tranxo:
I can see the hair ministry is going places

lol, Abi nah, the ministry must move forward

Medunah:

lol, Abi nah, the ministry must move forward

lol..carry on. enjoy

austine4real:

i knw som1 da dd it.
Am nt marid yet&if ur boss is an undastndin 1 u'l b allow

Baby under the table in a corporate environment
Mayb a one man biz sha

CityNG:


1) You are enemy of progress and part of what's wrong with Nigeria.

2) You have no right to your employees medical records as long as its not related to a directly contagious disease.

3) You have no right to disclose the medical status of others on an online forum without their consent.

I really don't blame you though, I blame the medical facility that released the records to you and they should be sued.

You need some education.

I think u d one that really needs education here!
In the whole story its only the medical records that interest u?
Have u think abt the consquence of employing HIV positive iliterate maid?
Did the op mentioned the name of the maid or was her pic posted online?
How wud u hv handle the situation if u were in the op's shoe?
She was only trying to save others bin cheated of dia money without proper service renderd

bolliejay:



1) I think u d one that really needs education here!

2) In the whole story its only the medical records that interest u?

3) Have u think abt the consquence of employing HIV positive iliterate maid?

4) Did the op mentioned the name of the maid or was her pic posted online?

5) How wud u hv handle the situation if u were in the op's shoe?

6) She was only trying to save others bin cheated of dia money without proper service renderd

1) Your opinion, and I of course disagree with you.

2) Yes. I work in the healthcare field and the continuous illiteracy regarding contagious diseases shown by average Nigerians befuddles me. I have no interest in an Nanny agency.

3) Again, I work in the healthcare field. I don't have to think about it as Ia m already educated about it. Your post clearly shows that you are not on the other hand.

4) She doesn't have to mention the name or the pic of the innocent party for her to be injured. Nigeria is not developed yet. When it does then the Lawyers will have a field day. It is clear that you are not as educated as necessary.

5) I wouldn't be as crass as exposing the innocent persons HIV status on an online forum for one thing. Is the OP employing the Nanny to sleep with her children or donate blood to them?

6) You can do that without exposing someones confidential medical status. Two wrongs don't make a right.

bolliejay:

Baby under the table in a corporate environment
Mayb a one man biz sha

There's a Dog at my job every other week when it's Doggie daycare is closed.

You'll be surprised at what you can get away with if you re a high value employee.

This is in a fortune 100 company by the way so not a Mom and Pop outfit.

The following readings are not for close minded dweebs but for progressive Nigerians who may be curious.

http://www.monitor.co.ug/Magazines/Full-Woman/Should-you-hire-or-retain--a-maid-who-tests-HIV-positive-/-/689842/2010892/-/mo7d6t/-/index.html

"I have employed two maids with HIV
Winfred Luutu, a counsellor with Mildmay Uganda, married with three children, the eldest now at the university."

http://www.marvellousmaids.co.za/articles/8-hiv-aids

"Remember too, that we are unaware of the status of most of the people with whom we interact. Chefs and waiters in restaurants, hairdressers, teachers, sport coaches, team players and opponents, our health care professionals, the list is endless …."

[email]http://www.hivlawandpolicy.org/issues/employment[/email]

"Employment discrimination against people living with HIV may take the form of bias in hiring, refusal to grant workplace modifications to accommodate medical conditions, or unjustified termination. Moreover, practice and licensing restrictions imposed on HIV-positive individuals, such as health care professionals, fuels stigma that keeps many people with HIV closeted about their status. Titles I and II of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) and the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 exist to protect people with disabilities, including people living with HIV, from this kind of discrimination in the workplace, but the law is only as strong as its judicial interpretation. \"

If I go missing, it's because the wastage BanBot has banned me for posting a link. Again.

jpphilips:


Turning down a nanny because of HIV is clueless, are you by any chance related to Goodluck?
You can as well bag a jail term for discriminating against PLWHA.

You are actually going to court to report yourself, by the way, how much will pay the lawyer representing you? 10k?
Women brain sef

Wtf are you sayin

bolliejay:

Baby under the table in a corporate environment
Mayb a one man biz sha

let her xplain 2 her boss.
-she can tell d cleaners 2 help her out, if she's a gud person.

jpphilips:


Turning down a nanny because of HIV is clueless, are you by any chance related to Goodluck?
You can as well bag a jail term for discriminating against PLWHA.

You are actually going to court to report yourself, by the way, how much will pay the lawyer representing you? 10k?
Women brain sef

Oga, wetin you dey yan? It is wrong for them not to have disclosed her status to her employer and to worsen the situation the agency is not aware of the nanny status. This is part of what she paid for!

@OP.
Your child will not contract HIV because that woman have it. The only way she could've infected your child is doing it deliberately. You did the right thing though by threading the side of caution.

@ OP,

Many thanks for sharing the unprofessional experience/service with us. Quite some stress that woild make planning one's schedule unworkable. Hopefully many others will learn therefrom.

This partly reflects the current malaise in our society- many people don't want to do a honest day's job to earn their living. We prefer to be 'dashed' money by our 'lucky' relations & friends who are usually STEALING either as politicians, public or private sector worker and those in the diaspora sending Western union
All of us can do something at our level to redress this anomaly.

The other issue is the ABSENCE of government [state & LGA] regulatory bodies on these 'mushroom' [never mind their fancy packaging] service providers. We need to start giving due attention and asking tough questions of our ELECTED public servants at these two tiers.

I don kuku tel my gf, if u knw say u no fit do witout nanny wen u marry me, beta no marry me oooo.... Jus shift go front....

bolliejay:

Baby under the table in a corporate environment
Mayb a one man biz sha

Can you imagine?
We are just too LAWLESS then after we will be screaming leader this, leader that when they simply reflect our aggregate values & culture!

Put a baby under a table. ? In an office? What happens when she has a meeting and the baby won't stop crying? What happens when she has to go outside the office for a meeting? She carries the baby? One was even asking her to talk to her boss. . Seriously? Was that part of the plan when she was been employed? So she will give her baby to the cleaner who will abandon her work and tend to a baby right? Smh. Some nigerians won't cease to amaze me. And for the those claiming to be smart and accusing her of discriminating against PLWHA, The woman is angry because she was conned,I bet even the nanny had no idea that she was living with HIV,So imagine leaving such woman with her kids? The agency would have informed her about it considering the delay and after the experience with the first and second nanny. , then it will be her choice whether or not to employ her. And the agency showed no remorse about this whole thing. She has no right to be angry or no right to sue the agency?

straneur:


Oga, wetin you dey yan? It is wrong for them not to have disclosed her status to her employer and to worsen the situation the agency is not aware of the nanny status. This is part of what she paid for!

what do you know? Her lawyer will advise her accordingly.

hayoakins:



Your comment shows how clueless and the distance between your brains and typing fingers.

Learn to attack the topic and not the personality

kids

uzolexis:


Turning down the nanny cause of HIV is not wrong cause she was not told the lady had HIV initially. She should have been told, if she did that after she was aware then it's wrong but u don't just spring such things on pple like a surprise.

Are you a legal luminary or you are speaking from a personal opinion?

Medunah:

Jesus!! Are u sane?? So u expect her to allow an HIV patient take care of her kids?? And what makes u think she doesnt have the money to pay a lawyer? Pple like you are wat make this country stagnant. So she is expected to keep mute nd allow others fall victim?? Clueless indeed

Reading is one thing understanding is another, sorry! !

jpphilips:


Are you a legal luminary or you are speaking from a personal opinion?

Personal opinion and I think it's backed by the law too.... just saying

onegig:
This is surreal.

I keep hearing this nanny issues daily.

There seems to be no end in sight to the problem.

First most are not qualified to work and are just there to pass the time because of the difficulties they are facing.

Also most families looking for nannies aren't ready to pay good money. They look down on these house helps thus scaring away any potential and genuine worker who may want to take that route. Its more like a master -slave relationship and I can't imagine anyone who would take up such a career path except something or circumstances pushed them into it.

Best bet is to maybe embrace technology(we now have dishwasher, washing machines and whatever to lessen the work burden and most are not that expensive nowadays ) and maybe use creches instead while away at work. Some creches still close by 7pm and they take even 8 month old kids.


Apart from that, I guess our ladies need to go ask our mothers how they juggled work and the family. I can't recall us having a nanny while growing up and mum still worked. Not saying raising kids is easy or ladies of nowadays are lazy, but our mothers must have had secrets given the fact that most used to even have more births(5,6 or even 8 ) then than the average mothers of nowadays do have and still were able to keep their sanity without househelps.

very valid points u have raised

jpphilips:


kids

kid, you meant?

hayoakins:


kid, you meant?

naa, there are a lot of them here.

uzolexis:


Personal opinion and I think it's backed by the law too.... just saying

you just said it is a personal opinion and you "think" it is backed by law, are you too lazy to check what the law says??
Most Nigerians even the educated are so ignorant that I just stutter when I read comments here.
with women flocking here, I sure know what to expect.

An agecy that collected 15k registration fee, the OP wants to take to court? because she is so ignorant of legal fees!

She is asking for a refund because the help has HIV, lol, she must not have heard of Abike Dabiri before, ignorance, ignorance, ignorance.

you still wonder why out of the over 280 heads of govt only 22 are women.