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Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by Nobody: 8:00pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
huntila:Thank you..... |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by Nobody: 8:02pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
He loves me but doesn't show it because he believes I will abuse it. victorazy: |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by cyril: 8:08pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
Do the needful,follow your heart&mark u,'marriage is an institution' once in it u don't come out.Again pls,don't marry out of pity or convenience. Cos'u may end up ruining yourself for life. |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by Nobody: 8:12pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
bigass: you harsh oooo |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by Nobody: 8:12pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
[size=18pt]Its always about you! Have u checked urself miss perfect!! All the guys have issues but u don't. The guy who gets pissed is pissed at something, so u check where ur going wrong....... Go back to the other one ur definitely gonna be a punching bag...... Stay away from marriage and check urself first[/size] 2 Likes |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by Nobody: 8:13pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
dossypretty: have you fvcked any of them? |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by Nobody: 8:17pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
Babygal4eva:I am tempted to agree with you of all the pieces of advice that have been given.I was wondering how someone ca be generous but not caring.I thought these are 2 different sides of same coin.Anyway what does she mean by being controlling?Some men are only controlling when they sense that you dont give them the regard that they truely deserve as your partner in a romantic relationship.Now all you need to hang a dog is to give it a bad nmae.Ops heart is already set on the guy abroad and thats why I think she isnt into the one here.Its a no brainer if asked to choose between a wife beater and someone who is generous but controlling.Follow ur heart still...u are the principal actress here.Wish u well |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by Edusouls(m): 8:19pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
you see the drastic effects of too much dating of men,jumping from one relationship to another due to bad calculation,lack of patience, flirting habits..the result is so much complications and chronic confusion, as we see in this case..this girl is just like a proxy mine, any of the two men that takes her into their home go hear am, she will explode..she should just hold on the marriage processes for at least a year,meet a phsycologist and try to come back to her sense of judgement,before entering and blowing into pieces a man's life....kai sorry men, most times we dont know what we are going into in the name of i have seen the right woman for me.... 1 Like |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by Paulv(m): 8:20pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
i keep telling people that issues regarding marriage is one of the hardest if not the hardest decision any human can make in life.hmm my sister i wish all the best in ur pursuit to have a life-pattner. |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by iamwrong(m): 8:20pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
dossypretty: Whatever your instincts tells you they are always right at the end. From what you said above I personally will go with the one here despite his flaws. The one abroad I can't really say much of him, but from my knowledge of people living abroad especially in the USA and UK life is not what one think it is, mostly depending on the environment where you find your self along with job stress your marriage tends to be on the line or strained, reasons for all the high cases of physical assaults, divorces and even murdering of the spouses. Hence from what you said about your ex cheating on you and even turned you to a punching bag such that the reasons given, is damn flimsy for my liking (even if it's just once, he would still do it again when opportuned), I won't root for him but rather I will stay put with the one here afterall ur heart and instincts is with the one here. from your comments you are not really ready and prepared for marriage. You need to take your time out sort out yourself on what you really want. Besides all this he doesn't care etc to me sounds childish (IMO). it's better you tell your husband what you love and expect from him, let their be open communication between you two. Quote me: you can't love two men at the same time.(In biblical parlance: you can't serve 2 masters or you can't serve God and mammon at the same time) either you leave one and go for the other or you leave the other and go for the one. Wish you the best of Luck. (No Jonathan) |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by 100Cents: 8:26pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
andromida: They are both rich. " Has a child, divorced, wife died, he cheats, beats me, he is generous ".. all nah class.. So all the single young able bodied men on nairaland has finished ? |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by Logba: 8:29pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
The bad side of this thing to me is the fact that you sought guidance from some men of God and they chose a particular man for you. If you live you life like that, you will end up in the rock. I can bet you the men of God gave you answers based on their life experience. They did not see anything. If you want to be convinced , pick two imaginary(unreal) names send to the men of God to help you pick the better between the names and you will see that they will still select and none will discover they were fake names. Be wise My advice is that you use your sense and critically look at the real issue in your decisions . Your judgment should be based on what risk you are about to take and note also that it is a lifetime contract . If you get it right now, good luck if you miss it, you will likely live your entire life trying to sort it. Wish you the very best. |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by 100Cents: 8:30pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
hazyfm1: Which of the pains ? |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by 100Cents: 8:31pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
excellence44: ABROAD ! tinz |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by sollex(m): 8:33pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
@dossypretty, I will advice u stay with the current guy. I believe his actions towards you are the results of how u have presented your self to him( character). This I believe is his own best way to act towards you. My advice is that, u need to examine your self and see where you are also failing towards him and make amends before the d- day and you will see how his attitudes towards you will also change. And likewise, it seems you both are not really close and you don't discuss issues together. Try to make this amends and see the changes. |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by Nobody: 8:34pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
Thank u, but I only sent names to d men of God nd they prayed about it plus I had my own personal conviction from God through my dreams Logba: |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by 100Cents: 8:34pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
berem: Thank you.. |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by Nobody: 8:35pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
dossypretty: This is our bane, "man of god says".... You obviously have a soft spot for this other guy or you haven't really determined exactly what you want, until you've cleared that up, don't go into any marriage, lest you achieve the opposite of what marriage is supposed to be. I've seen it happen before, hold up on the marriage, take time clear your head and be absolutely sure, marriage is a lifetime contract. |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by 2scorehigh(m): 8:37pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
no wahala, just marry (n)one of them. 1 Like |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by 100Cents: 8:38pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
Fhemmmy: She is a Nigerian girl... |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by Adaeze003(f): 8:38pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
Girl... I don't like your options but then again, what do I know? I'll tell you what, there's always that one girl a man is afraid to lose and it seems you aint that girl with any of the two. The first guy beat you and let's be clear about something, he will do it again. The second guy gets so angry and I can bet you have to beg him to calm down. Well, that rings a strange bell to me *abuser alert*. Now, I know the guys here will tell you "go for the second after all there's no perfect man" but you have to remember it's your life, no1 will be there when things get rough and when you report here to complain again? The dudes will still ask you to manage him. If you're in your 30z and all you want rii now is to get married regardless of the consequences, marry the local guy but! If you actually want to be happy in marriage... I think you should move the wedding to later in the year, just to see how he'll handle it. Your reason should be you aint ready.(period) if he gets all angry and does something crazy, you berra run 4 your life. If he gets concerned and wants to find out why, then you can have a talk with him and make up your mind after all. You need time to reflect deeply, don't let him rush you into it. Don't take my word for it but marriage is not a light issue, seek advice from family(not friends o) and if you're a Christian, you should know who is right for you probably by feeling at peace with your decision. No1 is perfect but abuse(emotional or physical) is just too much baggage. I wish you the best dear. My 2kobo |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by MORNDEW(m): 8:40pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
Seriosly is all what i read the advice u can give to the young lady? No wonder there are many failed nd failing marriages. One even said she deserve better as if she herself hv any man to call her own. Some This romance section gals are poo. 2 Likes |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by 100Cents: 8:40pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
dossypretty: Has he slept with you ? |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by Nobody: 8:41pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
babyosisi:That depends on where he lives. If it's like korea here all he need is preapre her iv. |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by 100Cents: 8:43pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
andromida: So if she abandons both of them, you will marry her ? Don't you know that husband is scarce like Dollar ? |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by 100Cents: 8:45pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
rossychik: Chai, ladies, fear God. |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by UGLYS: 8:46pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
dossypretty: You are welcome dear, some people just don't understand the situation. |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by JOKLEVIZ(m): 8:47pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
andromida:nd u tak dx advice den am xowie. 2-0 |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by Adaeze003(f): 8:49pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
dossypretty: Uhm... dreams are sometimes what we want to see, other times it's actually our spirit conveying a message. or so I heard. How do you know you can trust your dreams? Has God spoken via dreams to you before? Last question, are you happy with this man? |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by 100Cents: 8:49pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
dossypretty: Tell him to pamper you. That you don't like seeing him angry... |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by dangervu(m): 8:50pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
dossypretty: what exactly do ladies want !! you just suffering from infatuation!! your abroad bf is going to dump you again...lets see |
Re: Its Four Weeks To My Wedding But I Feel Like Running Away With My Ex. Pls Help by tinyanosa(f): 8:57pm On Feb 16, 2015 |
dossypretty:None of the above. |
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