striktlymi:
If you were my sister I would advise you not to marry any of them. They both do not respect you enough. If they do this before marriage what do you think would happen after marriage?

The following are likely:

For your ex:

1) He will continue to beat you. Probably the wife died from complications arising from the beating she received from him while she was pregnant.
2) He will continue to cheat on you.
3) The petting you crave would go out the window cause you are now part of his property.

For your present guy:

1) He may not allow you work and may get angry when you ask him for money casue he may think he has already given you more than enough when you guys were dating.

2) You may most likely be confided to the house. No going out with friends and any male visitor is a potential suspect which may lead to some unhealthy situations at home.

3) You would have no right to say you are tired when he feels like having sex. He owns you and would want you to fulfill his every sexual fantasy whether you like to or not.

4) You may most likely be turned to his maid. You do everything that is required of you as at when due without complaint of tiredness.

If all those awaits my sister in any man, I would advise her to look the other way. Better to remain single than go through those hassles. So I advise you as a brother not to marry any of them.

eyinjuege:


Kulikuli and popcorn dey here o. Shift make we dey watch dey go.

andromida:
None of your suitors love you IMHO. The former was a consistent cheat and the new guy is controlling,does not cherish your feelings. Why would you want to marry any of them. Gal you deserve better.

scribble:
Jesu

My dear the problem is in your village.

Quote me.

UGLYS:
Nigerians don't know how to keep quiet when they don't have anything to offer in any issue. OP sought advice and not careless responses, I mean if you can't be reasonable or objective in your comment, just keep quiet.

Dossy, do not elope, rather marry the one you have dreamt about and also approved by men of God. You have listened to these men in the past and their counsel favoured you, if so then listen and follow it this time.

May God be with you as you decide.

sheymoni:
Choose the one with the longest dick
You'll thank me later

atakamus:
Abeg park well. Women una own no de pass marry marry marry.He wants to marry me. i want to marry him. Haba. Marry two of them abeg. The country is boiling and someone is talking about marry. PDP people want to cause problem here and one oyibo Portoriko is telling us to judge marriage issue. Abeg marry the one wee black small cus u yellow so that una no go born over yellow.

andromida:


Yes she is not sure what love is did you see that is the only good thing she has to say about her fiance? she even recognizes that he does not care about her yet a wedding date has been fixed.

I want to blame her but i also know that poverty and bad training has shaped many women into thinking a man with money even if he treats them shabbily is a great catch.

dossypretty:
Well what actually made me to consider marrying the one here is because my I seeked for spiritual help from two men of God that said the one here is my husband and that he is better than the one abroad, and I also has a convincing revelation about the one here too unlike the one abroad

berem:
Marrying someone who beats you is the stupidest thing to ever think of. Please marry the one in Nigeria abeg!

quinelizabeth:
My dear sister its quite saddening to tell u dt love isn't important in marriage. Love cannot pay ur bills n love costs so much! But I still think you are in love wd Dix ur ex's fortune(abroad n d likes) be sure u no wat u r doing n I don't even think any of Dem is a husband material. U can do away wd d both f Dem if u don't no wat to do. But for a guy to b preparing to marry u my dear get serious n focus on ur marriage. If u elope wd him today na story for d gods o!

dossypretty:
It took me so much courage before I could come out here to share my problem.

It all started in 2012 when I met my ex in Lagos and we kicked it off in a relationship but little did I know that he was still keeping a girl he claimed to have left, along the line we started having issues about the same girl to the point of him beating me.

This guy in question was once married but lost his wife after childbirth and so with this my parents refused me marrying him because he was talking about marriage. So after like 10 months he was still treating me bad I decided to quit the relationship but he begged that he will never do it again. Months later he travelled abroad and I also got a job in another city and left.

We still kept in touch but I met another man in the new city and decided to give him a chance. Though this new guy has no child but his problem is that he gets angry too much and wants to control everything about me but he is very generous . He doesn't even care if I'm sick or not, unlike my former guy who is more caring and always want to pet me.

Now I'm at a cross road because the one here has gone to see my parents and has set a date for the wedding and preparations are on top gear while the one abroad has come back to marry me like he promised. I'm really not happy with the one here because of his attitude and i'm contemplating on running away with the one from abroad because he understands me better.

Please is love enough in marriage?? Help me as your sister

yoged:
you took the word out of my mouth. How will a sane guy lay his hand on his gf? I'll rather take my leave at that particular moment. Please i'll advice you to pray to God about it. The one in Nigeria sounds better. Sit him down and talk to him about the things you don't like in his attitude. But make sure it's when both of you are happy. My babe always got me with that. Wishing you the best @ op

timota:
I only contribute because u said u need advice. You and two men of God have confirm that the one here is your and your long throat is pushing you abroad. Go with the abroad guy and you will regret the rest of your life. You are the type that says something different from what your oga at the top is saying mind you the abroad guy is a serial cheat and a play boy

dossypretty:
It took me so much courage before I could come out here to share my problem.

It all started in 2012 when I met my ex in Lagos and we kicked it off in a relationship but little did I know that he was still keeping a girl he claimed to have left, along the line we started having issues about the same girl to the point of him beating me.

This guy in question was once married but lost his wife after childbirth and so with this my parents refused me marrying him because he was talking about marriage. So after like 10 months he was still treating me bad I decided to quit the relationship but he begged that he will never do it again. Months later he travelled abroad and I also got a job in another city and left.

We still kept in touch but I met another man in the new city and decided to give him a chance. Though this new guy has no child but his problem is that he gets angry too much and wants to control everything about me but he is very generous . He doesn't even care if I'm sick or not, unlike my former guy who is more caring and always want to pet me.

Now I'm at a cross road because the one here has gone to see my parents and has set a date for the wedding and preparations are on top gear while the one abroad has come back to marry me like he promised. I'm really not happy with the one here because of his attitude and i'm contemplating on running away with the one from abroad because he understands me better.

Please is love enough in marriage?? Help me as your sister

JideTheBlogger:
OP dossypretty want to run with ex to abroad. Hahahahaa.....

Ladies and money + abroad ish ehn....

dossypretty:
The problem is just his none caring attitude nd anger issue but besides that he is a nice person

dossypretty:
It took me so much courage before I could come out here to share my problem.

It all started in 2012 when I met my ex in Lagos and we kicked it off in a relationship but little did I know that he was still keeping a girl he claimed to have left, along the line we started having issues about the same girl to the point of him beating me.

This guy in question was once married but lost his wife after childbirth and so with this my parents refused me marrying him because he was talking about marriage. So after like 10 months he was still treating me bad I decided to quit the relationship but he begged that he will never do it again. Months later he travelled abroad and I also got a job in another city and left.

We still kept in touch but I met another man in the new city and decided to give him a chance. Though this new guy has no child but his problem is that he gets angry too much and wants to control everything about me but he is very generous . He doesn't even care if I'm sick or not, unlike my former guy who is more caring and always want to pet me.

Now I'm at a cross road because the one here has gone to see my parents and has set a date for the wedding and preparations are on top gear while the one abroad has come back to marry me like he promised. I'm really not happy with the one here because of his attitude and i'm contemplating on running away with the one from abroad because he understands me better.

Please is love enough in marriage?? Help me as your sister

We still kept in touch but I met another man in the new city and decided to give him a chance. Though this new guy has no child but his problem is that he gets angry too much and wants to control everything about me but he is very generous . He doesn't even care if I'm sick or not, unlike my former guy who is more caring and always want to pet me.