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Contradiction: High Rate Of Divorce And Unhappy Marriages Yet Expected To Marry? by eagleeyez: 11:03pm On Apr 23, 2015
Mind u I have nothing against marriage but let's face it only few can boast of contentment in their marriages

The rate of divorce is unbelievable as well as angry,depressed people around even In work places just coz their marriages not smooth

I feel we should learn to be honest with each other and stop pretending that marriage is all that.

Some were not destined to marry ,forcing them selves led to marrying wrong partners or even been killed

Let. Nature take its toll
Re: Contradiction: High Rate Of Divorce And Unhappy Marriages Yet Expected To Marry? by naijaboiy: 11:10pm On Apr 23, 2015
So how are we supposed to know we are not destined for marriage? undecided
Re: Contradiction: High Rate Of Divorce And Unhappy Marriages Yet Expected To Marry? by ronald4lif(m): 11:18pm On Apr 23, 2015
Hmmm. When I look at the level of failed and failing marriages in our society today, it is not unrepresentative of our attitude and believe. Aside the fact that people do not understand marriage generally, one of the most disturbing contribution to this issue of failed marriage is the Nigerian woman.

I believe you should finish this post before you label me a chauvinist. My reason is simple, our ladies once they clock 25 (or even before) becomes "panicky" and desires to get married at all cost. In so doing, they not only knowingly settle for less but they also in fact foresee a breakup. Unfortunately, at the end, because of the way the Nigerian society is fashioned, they suffer the most. A man who drinks and smokes, womanises, do not think you are good enough to change that. A man who is violent is violent. A man who is insecured is insecured, etc and vice versa.

Marriage is beautiful and has this satisfactory feeling it gives to individuals who are prepared and who have also planned life after the wedding, however, let me state clearly and without the fear of being contradicted that majority of our people do not plan the marriage, they only plan the wedding.

There are a lot of grumbles inside those four walls, a lot of regrets and second thoughts, a lot of physical and emotional betrayals on going around us. But for those who are yet to walk that path, patience, planning, understanding, respect is key. Of course, all these are what I call love.

Lastly, if you are not ready, take your time. Spare that handsome guy, the beautiful girl, that innocent guy or lady etc some trouble. Marriage is not for everyone. But then again, a question begging for answer is how do one know if marriage is their thing?. Guess it's a gamble and we just have to give it a shot and hope for the best.

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Re: Contradiction: High Rate Of Divorce And Unhappy Marriages Yet Expected To Marry? by yomi007k(m): 11:22pm On Apr 23, 2015
Its simple, too many hypocrites get married.
Re: Contradiction: High Rate Of Divorce And Unhappy Marriages Yet Expected To Marry? by Deejavuu(f): 11:53pm On Apr 23, 2015
ronald4lif:
Hmmm. When I look at the level of failed and failing marriages in our society today, it is not unrepresentative of our attitude and believe. Aside the fact that people do not understand marriage generally, one of the most disturbing contribution to this issue of failed marriage is the Nigerian woman.

I believe you should finish this post before you label me a chauvinist. My reason is simple, our ladies once they clock 25 (or even before) becomes "panicky" and desires to get married at all cost. In so doing, they not only knowingly settle for less but they also in fact foresee a breakup. Unfortunately, at the end, because of the way the Nigerian society is fashioned, they suffer the most. A man who drinks and smokes, womanises, do not think you are good enough to change that. A man who is violent is violent. A man who is insecured is insecured, etc and vice versa.

Marriage is beautiful and has this satisfactory feeling it gives to individuals who are prepared and who have also planned life after the wedding, however, let me state clearly and without the fear of being contradicted that majority of our people do not plan the marriage, they only plan the wedding.

There are a lot of grumbles inside those four walls, a lot of regrets and second thoughts, a lot of physical and emotional betrayals on going around us. But for those who are yet to walk that path, patience, planning, understanding, respect is key. Of course, all these are what I call love.

Lastly, if you are not ready, take your time. Spare that handsome guy, the beautiful girl, that innocent guy or lady etc some trouble. Marriage is not for everyone. But then again, a question begging for answer is how do one know if marriage is their thing?. Guess it's a gamble and we just have to give it a shot and hope for the best.

Spot on!! You have said it all
Re: Contradiction: High Rate Of Divorce And Unhappy Marriages Yet Expected To Marry? by sinaj(f): 11:57pm On Apr 23, 2015
jux wana make moni cool
Re: Contradiction: High Rate Of Divorce And Unhappy Marriages Yet Expected To Marry? by ronald4lif(m): 12:06am On Apr 24, 2015
Deejavuu:


Spot on!! You have said it all

Gracias. smiley
Re: Contradiction: High Rate Of Divorce And Unhappy Marriages Yet Expected To Marry? by PureWays(m): 12:11am On Apr 24, 2015
Think about it this way:

What do we want in marriage?

If you don't set your wants in a relationship ridiculously high, I believe if you are smart, you should be able to spot your choice and go for it (be it male or female).

Forget all these media and society bullsh*t if you want to have a good relationship...
Don't set your wants so high (be careful what you wish for), settling realistic wants is smart and it doesn't mean you are settling for less or whatever...

Marriage will only be enjoyed in a world where both parties don't compare their spouse with others...

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