Op, firstly you need to change your location to get the right acquintances.
I also need to change my circle of friends because they dont appreciate these qualities in me but I know my worth and will not lower my standards or compromise my morals to give the impression of a badoo every girl wants. lol

op may god forgive u, because u are saying what you no nothing about probably because of your experience.

I am proud to tell u I am above your thought.

humilitypays:
I understand how u feel @shugga, now let me tell u the problem u have and the reason y u may never find such a man to be with:

1. Such guys don't usually have the courage or confidence to chase after women; most of them don't even know how to approach a girl and woo her, so while u are waiting for him, he will only be afar admiring u and will never come to ask u out.


2. Such breed of guys don't usually appear flamboyant and lively to you ladies; ladies mostly love flamboyant and lively guys who will shake them up.

Note:
in as much as men generally are born with a natural tendency to be polygamous, I can still tell u that many guys wish to keep one girlfriend or lover but the problem is that most men don't always find their dream woman due to scarcity of that dream woman.

You maybe wondering who that dream woman is? Let me give u a small picture of who that dream woman of many guys is:

She is pretty/attractive, honest, faithful, not a liability, cool-headed, not greedy, contented and intelligent.

Now, due the scarcity of that dream girl many guys desire to love and keep, many guys end up having the girl that isn't their taste just to while away lonely moments while still searching for their dream woman.

By so doing, these guys end up having long list of girls they have dated or dating...and then it becomes a habit they can't break away from even when they get married.

Most men that find their dream girl early enough hardly womanise or do all those things u mentioned.

But how many men are lucky in Nigeria to find their dream woman when we have very few number of this dream woman?


As for the drinking to stupor part, I am still wondering how u meet such useless men because I abhor any guy that drinks a lot. I still find it difficult to understand why people even drink alcohol; something that doesn't nourish your body, doesn't taste sweet to your tongue, then what for?

Anyway, that's for those that drink to explain.

My advice to u on finding that your dream man:

1. Don't always wait for him to come ask u out because from experience, I know that such breed of guys find it difficult to woo ladies...most of them don't even see having a girlfriend as a necessity until they are ready to marry.
Majority of such guys were born shy and raised under strict parenting such that they grow up finding it difficult to woo women.


So if u come across such guys, don't tag them “boring”...try and initiate communication with him to make it easy for him to ask u out because most of them lack the courage to ask a girl out.


2. Don't expect him to be a music freak, a club lover, etc and at the same time a reserved reverend father; that's impossible.

Something can't be cold and hot at the same time, so its left for u to choose between cold and hot.

Define what u want and make sure none of the qualities u want contradicts each other.

I can boldly tell u again that I know many guys who are working and above 25yrs without a single girlfriend.

And these guys aren't ugly per se...neither are they born again Christians, but normal guys who have found pleasure in working hard to be financially able for their future kids and only socialise on rare occasion.

Don't expect to find them in night clubs or at beer parlours.

Look around u carefully, u will see them lurking around unnoticed by ladies like u.


These breed of guys you desire don't drink...they don't chase woman no matter how much they admire the lady...they rather die with that feeling than walk up to the girl and say Hi, and that's y it maybe difficult for u and other ladies waiting for such men to find them- they won't come chasing after u, very rare of them.

You may ask: how will they marry Most of them marry by introduction from either their parents, relatives or friends.

Unfortunately, 90% or more of ladies don't fancy these kind of guys...ladies want to eat their cake and still have it; ladies want Davido, they want Wizkid, they want Michael Jackson, yet they want Wizkid to be like Pope John Paul, how possible If Wizkid becomes Paul Johnpaul, then he is no longer Wizkid but Pope Johnpaul


Define what u want and make sure the qualities u want in a man does not contradict each other and u are good to go.

Another tip:
Such guys can also be found online if u are wise and open enough, reason being that social media give them the courage and confidence to express their feelings to ladies unlike in real life. They are not usually popular wherever they are. Search wisely and pray to God too.

But before u do that, search your heart very well and make sure u are worth it...make sure u are what 90% of guys will call their dream girl or else, u are wasting your time, and may end up heartbroken.

Wish u and every other lady searching for love/happiness the best

Wow!!!

sister,, U just described my fiance..*drags him in2 the rum & locks door firmly*...No one is stealing him frm me..

You just described me.

shugga:
I mean that sexually active man that will stay true and faithful to one woman.

Intelligent, cool headed, presentable, responsible and command respect, neat and focused. Most importantly have the fear of God in him not just going religious.

Drinks moderately, doesn't batter women but strive to talked through every issue. Have deep genuine love for his family (especially his immediate family).

humilitypays:
I understand how u feel @shugga, now let me tell u the problem u have and the reason y u may never find such a man to be with:

1. Such guys don't usually have the courage or confidence to chase after women; most of them don't even know how to approach a girl and woo her, so while u are waiting for him, he will only be afar admiring u and will never come to ask u out.


2. Such breed of guys don't usually appear flamboyant and lively to you ladies; ladies mostly love flamboyant and lively guys who will shake them up.

Note:
in as much as men generally are born with a natural tendency to be polygamous, I can still tell u that many guys wish to keep one girlfriend or lover but the problem is that most men don't always find their dream woman due to scarcity of that dream woman.

You maybe wondering who that dream woman is? Let me give u a small picture of who that dream woman of many guys is:

She is pretty/attractive, honest, faithful, not a liability, cool-headed, not greedy, contented and intelligent.

Now, due the scarcity of that dream girl many guys desire to love and keep, many guys end up having the girl that isn't their taste just to while away lonely moments while still searching for their dream woman.

By so doing, these guys end up having long list of girls they have dated or dating...and then it becomes a habit they can't break away from even when they get married.

Most men that find their dream girl early enough hardly womanise or do all those things u mentioned.

But how many men are lucky in Nigeria to find their dream woman when we have very few number of this dream woman?


As for the drinking to stupor part, I am still wondering how u meet such useless men because I abhor any guy that drinks a lot. I still find it difficult to understand why people even drink alcohol; something that doesn't nourish your body, doesn't taste sweet to your tongue, then what for?

Anyway, that's for those that drink to explain.

My advice to u on finding that your dream man:

1. Don't always wait for him to come ask u out because from experience, I know that such breed of guys find it difficult to woo ladies...most of them don't even see having a girlfriend as a necessity until they are ready to marry.
Majority of such guys were born shy and raised under strict parenting such that they grow up finding it difficult to woo women.


So if u come across such guys, don't tag them “boring”...try and initiate communication with him to make it easy for him to ask u out because most of them lack the courage to ask a girl out.


2. Don't expect him to be a music freak, a club lover, etc and at the same time a reserved reverend father; that's impossible.

Something can't be cold and hot at the same time, so its left for u to choose between cold and hot.

Define what u want and make sure none of the qualities u want contradicts each other.

I can boldly tell u again that I know many guys who are working and above 25yrs without a single girlfriend.

And these guys aren't ugly per se...neither are they born again Christians, but normal guys who have found pleasure in working hard to be financially able for their future kids and only socialise on rare occasion.

Don't expect to find them in night clubs or at beer parlours.

Look around u carefully, u will see them lurking around unnoticed by ladies like u.


These breed of guys you desire don't drink...they don't chase woman no matter how much they admire the lady...they rather die with that feeling than walk up to the girl and say Hi, and that's y it maybe difficult for u and other ladies waiting for such men to find them- they won't come chasing after u, very rare of them.

You may ask: how will they marry Most of them marry by introduction from either their parents, relatives or friends.

Unfortunately, 90% or more of ladies don't fancy these kind of guys...ladies want to eat their cake and still have it; ladies want Davido, they want Wizkid, they want Michael Jackson, yet they want Wizkid to be like Pope John Paul, how possible If Wizkid becomes Paul Johnpaul, then he is no longer Wizkid but Pope Johnpaul


Define what u want and make sure the qualities u want in a man does not contradict each other and u are good to go.

Another tip:
Such guys can also be found online if u are wise and open enough, reason being that social media give them the courage and confidence to express their feelings to ladies unlike in real life. They are not usually popular wherever they are. Search wisely and pray to God too.

But before u do that, search your heart very well and make sure u are worth it...make sure u are what 90% of guys will call their dream girl or else, u are wasting your time, and may end up heartbroken.

Wish u and every other lady searching for love/happiness the best

U're sensible.

They've gone extinct since the time of dinosaur