Goldenboy007:


Ahan youngman, your stories keep getting a newer twist, which industrial employee gets paid 6 figures? You must be the director of research in a ground breaking space lab. Bros we are all in this yankee together o, we know what's up ! You can only hoodwink people wey nefa reach airport before o! And you have been sending 3k every month? You see why you shouldn't come to a public forum to tell fibs?

Sunofgod:


You resurrect with a new FB username and profile,

Kazrem:

OK sir. How do we your "e-aburo" get into with you when the need arises Sir.

astrodome:


You apparently are clueless. A 6 figure pay (100K and above) per annum is not a big deal. As an academic researcher until lately, I was already at the top rung of the 5 figure pay before my move to the industry. Why do you think I would leave the typically more secure academic job (just after tenure,) to the usually less secure industry job? Answer, irresistibly higher pay.

Goldenboy007:


Stop lying to people youngman, you are a student somewhere ..probably a graduate assistant ...this is the first time I would see a PhD holder in chemical science with 6 figure salary who should probably be a specialist consultant in reknowned multinational Company in Utah, doing times on Facebook and having a nice time cursing people on Nairaland. He pays 25% of his annual 6 figures as mortgage, he has 2 cars, wife and kids ...then sends almost 3k to Nigeria every month, which excludes 700 dollars he just doled out. The American dream !!!

astrodome:


There is nothing irresponsible about having 4 kids, given my income.

Jarus:

I respond to whatsapp messages, even if belated.

astrodome:
I just dropped the phone a few minutes ago after speaking with one of these old friends, got very angry after telling me he lives in Adamawa (Boko Haram) and needs money to relocate to his state of origin. This coming after I sent $700, respectively to a sister and a sister-inlaw this am

Dem wan kill me?

astrodome:
Help!! Friends, family, former school mates and others are killing me with financial demands. Everyday I receive facebook (fb) messages, phone calls, email messages and messages from other communication avenues from family members, friends close and distant, school mates I have not seen in 20 years but with whom I reconnected on fb, and even random fb friends (meaning I do not know them personally but somehow we managed to be friends on fb). They all have the same story: please send me money, anything.

Each month I send nearly 3k to Nigeria and they keep asking for more.

Do they think I pluck money from trees in America?
Do they think every Nigerian in America is doing drugs or credit card fraud to make money?
Are they thinking that since Akin or Emeka made it in America (in many cases by selling drugs and doing credit card fraud), I should also make it and therefore be able to satisfy their unending demands?

How do I explain to them that I have bills (auto, mortgage, water-sewer, electricity, gas, phone, credit card) to pay. And then I have to run my family (of 4) and fuel 2 cars, and on top of that, I have to save also for the rainy day - for when kids get to college.

I am able to resist the random fb friends because I do not have any personal connection with them, but how do I scare the ones I know off without sounding rude and unhelping? I know that when you stop giving, you become an enemy.
Help! Before a fellow nairalander runs amock on the streets of America because of pressure from Nigeria

Just for disclosure: I am well-heeled in the US mid-upper middle class, earning a 6-figure pay, holds a PhD, and involved in R4D activities. But I live in a US city (name withheld) where mortgage payment alone takes 25% of my monthly income. So you can imagine that after paying all bills, I do not have tons of money left over to give out on frequent basis.

Please advise on how to handle this, Naija style . Thanks

kobe79:


"People" make six digits not the wannabe poster, seems you so far away from what modern day Reality is in the USA with a huge debt profile, ailing economy and massive competition for available high paying positions.
As per your analysis acquaint yourself with Forbes, Wall Street Journals, InfoTech brochures and USjobs. IT, Wall Street dudes( Financial Sector; Banking, Investment, Morgages & Loans, Stock Exchange etc) lol at you those jobs stop paying like they used to over seven years ago.
If you take courses in IT thinking some blue chip software end-user coys will employ you, you are on a long thing as what these coys are on the look out for far exceeds what is bin tot at those vocational or educational centers.

Its not all that gloomy for the health care sector a for you to be way above or reach that mark you must be in the cadre of consultancy medicare; surgeons, psychiatrist, internist etc.

The USA is not Abu-Dhabi, Kuwait, Saudi or Naija where even a fresh grad physicist at MPN earns over $10-15k/month(these are well known oil nations) the united states is diversifying, so that sector is not as lucrative.

OP doesnt need to show me his pay stub, his charisma and manner of "communication" shows he is just a wailing, disgruntled, Nigerian who wants to create an imaginary impression of a "big man" when he doesnt have shishi.

astrodome:


Okay thanks for the advise.
Regarding your request, please send your bank account. Also, I will need just 20 dollars to facilitate the process of transferring the money to you

BTW, when is pay day again? Shey you no dey work for Osun State, abi?

ECOTERRORS:
SCAM ALERT

Post this trash in the right section (crime) so that EFCC can monitor your handle

astrodome:
I just dropped the phone a few minutes ago after speaking with one of these old friends, got very angry after telling me he lives in Adamawa (Boko Haram) and needs money to relocate to his state of origin. This coming after I sent $700, respectively to a sister and a sister-inlaw this am

Dem wan kill me?

zeezahbee:
Like seriously, I was thinking he was gonna say he's in healthcare or IT. A factory worker or prolly a research assistant
With phd his story get K-leg

@kobe79

[quote][quote author=EbolaParasite post=35677161]


Anyway, back to d mata. If you hold a PHD and you don't earn 6 figures in this yankee, please pack your bags and go home. [/quote

Goldenboy007:


Stop lying to people youngman, you are a student somewhere ..probably a graduate assistant ...this is the first time I would see a PhD holder in chemical science with 6 figure salary who should probably be a specialist consultant in reknowned multinational Company in Utah, doing times on Facebook and having a nice time cursing people on Nairaland. He pays 25% of his annual 6 figures as mortgage, he has 2 cars, wife and kids ...then sends almost 3k to Nigeria every month, which excludes 700 dollars he just doled out. The American dream !!!

astrodome:


Please advise on how to handle this, Naija style . Thanks

histemple:
You are making absolute sense I must sincerely confess but I believe the word "many Nigerians" was more appropriate as "WE Nigerians" connotes either ALL or a problem that is peculiar to only Nigerians. As for the topic, your contribution was excellent.

Thanks for the correction

Dollyak:

Homeowners in 24 of the 30 largest metros covered by Zillow were paying more for homes in the fourth quarter of 2012 relative to their region’s median income than they were from 1985 through 1999. Metros with the largest difference between their pre-bubble and fourth quarter 2012 price-to-income ratios included San Jose (52.1 percent more), Los Angeles (48.8 percent more), Portland, OR, (45.4 percent more), San Diego (44.6 percent more) and Denver (40.8 percent more).

http://www.forbes.com/sites/zillow/2013/04/16/high-home-price-to-income-ratios-hiding-behind-low-mortgage-rates/

deife:


Dollyak, you strike me as someone with beauty and brains.

Dollyak:

Why, thank you .

mystiqueem:
@op. Never ask random strangers advice on how to treat your loved ones.

If you can help. Do it. Stop whining.

If you can help them learn how to fish. Great!
(Start a small business)

If you help one member of your family then both of you can help a third and so on. Reduces the burden.

You know what is best in your heart.

astrodome:
Help!! Friends, family, former school mates and others are killing me with financial demands. Everyday I receive facebook (fb) messages, phone calls, email messages and messages from other communication avenues from family members, friends close and distant, school mates I have not seen in 20 years but with whom I reconnected on fb, and even random fb friends (meaning I do not know them personally but somehow we managed to be friends on fb). They all have the same story: please send me money, anything.

Each month I send nearly 3k to Nigeria and they keep asking for more.

Do they think I pluck money from trees in America?
Do they think every Nigerian in America is doing drugs or credit card fraud to make money?
Are they thinking that since Akin or Emeka made it in America (in many cases by selling drugs and doing credit card fraud), I should also make it and therefore be able to satisfy their unending demands?

How do I explain to them that I have bills (auto, mortgage, water-sewer, electricity, gas, phone, credit card) to pay. And then I have to run my family (of 4) and fuel 2 cars, and on top of that, I have to save also for the rainy day - for when kids get to college.

I am able to resist the random fb friends because I do not have any personal connection with them, but how do I scare the ones I know off without sounding rude and unhelping? I know that when you stop giving, you become an enemy.
Help! Before a fellow nairalander runs amock on the streets of America because of pressure from Nigeria

Just for disclosure: I am well-heeled in the US mid-upper middle class, earning a 6-figure pay, holds a PhD, and involved in R4D activities. But I live in a US city (name withheld) where mortgage payment alone takes 25% of my monthly income. So you can imagine that after paying all bills, I do not have tons of money left over to give out on frequent basis.

Please advise on how to handle this, Naija style . Thanks

StOla:


The problem is posting their demands till the next month.

I have made expenses of over N500K to benefit others just this month because I got some allowances. For this reason I was unable to service a debt of N200K that I owe.

Thinking I was done with magnanimity for the month, another dude had to source me out from no where telling me all his life issues. Obviously I wasn't liquid enough, guess what? I had to promise a token from my next pay check I'm yet to earn.

When will my next pay check come with all the money belonging to me? A lot is already shared to the needy before you even earn it.
I just deprive myself of all the good stuff I should have, so as to care for others.

Sometimes I want to cry. It is really depressing at times.

I barely like comments or pictures on social media anymore. It only puts me back in the consciousness of those I would rather they forget about me.

Mystiqme:


With this sentence I realize you have a huge problem. Frankly speaking you need to do something drastic. You need to put your money in a place where you can only get the exact amount you need for a month. You also need to tell people, you have debts too!

Mystiqme:

OP, this your story na wa o. You earn 6 figures, which is believable, and you send $3000 home every month, which is almost a 3rd of your salary, then you pay mortgage, etc. You are too generous o.

zeezahbee:
I knew it was just one of those nairaland story. He dash out 36k a year, he pay 25% of mortgage. Got 4 kids. This is a fiction story