As narrated by my grandfather:

Before the the arrival of missionaries, the Igbo land has strong moral laws which carries with it severe penalties..
A lady found to have engaged in premarital sex and gotten pregnant stand the risk of being ostracized or outright banishment until the gods are appeased..

The bride priced was then paid as a sign of appreciation to the father for having imparted strong morals on his daughter..
After the wedding the man is to return the blood stained handkerchief to prove that indeed the lady is a virgin...
He may also double the price as a sign of gratitude...but if no white handkerchief is returned the father is to returned all the entitlements he collected including the bride price..

With the coming of Christianity we have successfully abolished the hard part of our traditional. and adopted the easy one.....
I therefore conclude that the purpose of bride price does not apply to this our libidinous and over sexed generation where a lady might have lost count of her sexual encounters and aborted few times going by latest research....

Finally the purpose of bride price is not for monetary gain In those days but an appreciation for good moral parenting........

custom and tradition must be respected. we Igbos make no apology for demanding bride price.

Believe it or not everything in this world seems to be sexually portrayed like wtf really! can't anything be done morally without exposing boobs asses and shit

Shit is becoming disturbing
From the Internet to the TV,
flyers
The media is all messed up
Seems we ve lost it
Gospel singers exposing cleavages wtf
Are u wining souls for Christ or u just some cheap_lonely_looking_for_attention_whore

Y'all should get ur act together and stop being a sex object cus that's what we see you as when u keep exposing and exposing

How can one be in the church and all I can see is sex images from left to right

Cus of what u people are wearing
It seems you all have turned everywhere to places where u can just portray sex sex sex and sex

Please you people should be decent at least with the way u dress

And I just made one common sense like Ben Murray Bruce

#NoToIndecncyCusKonjiNaBastard

Not only igbo,dat is how every tribe practiced bride price,but if dis is done in dis our generation,most ladies wunt get married,
So Op are u suggesting we abolish d bride price tyn coz of d pollution in our generation or pride price should be paid on virgins only

Femiartalade:
Believe it or not everything in this world seems to be sexually portrayed like wtf really! can't anything be done morally without exposing boobs asses and shit

Shit is becoming disturbing
From the Internet to the TV,
flyers
The media is all messed up
Seems we ve lost it
Gospel singers exposing cleavages wtf
Are u wining souls for Christ or u just some cheap_lonely_looking_for_attention_whore

Y'all should get ur act together and stop being a sex object cus that's what we see you as when u keep exposing and exposing

How can one be in the church and all I can see is sex images from left to right

Cus of what u people are wearing
It seems you all have turned everywhere to places where u can just portray sex sex sex and sex

Please you people should be decent at least with the way u dress

And I just made one common sense like Ben Murray Bruce

#NoToIndecncyCusKonjiNaBastard

did u read d ops post

Heromaniaa:
custom and tradition must be respected. we Igbos make no apology for demanding bride price.

Oh boy did you read that write up at all? Gosh!

misspicy:
Not only igbo,dat is how every tribe practiced bride price,but if dis is done in dis our generation,most ladies wunt get married,
So Op are u suggesting we abolish d bride price tyn coz of d pollution in our generation or pride price should be paid on virgins only

Nice question and i am happy that fer the first time im seeing a story from the aged that corroborates with the exact biblical injunction that bride price are only for virgins.

naijasaint:
As narrated by my grandfather:

Before the the arrival of missionaries, the Igbo land has strong moral laws which carries with it severe penalties..
A lady found to have engaged in premarital sex and gotten pregnant stand the risk of being ostracized or outright banishment until the gods are appeased..

The bride priced was then paid as a sign of appreciation to the father for having imparted strong morals on his daughter..
After the wedding the man is to return the blood stained handkerchief to prove that indeed the lady is a virgin...
He may also double the price as a sign of gratitude...but if no white handkerchief is returned the father is to returned all the entitlements he collected including the bride price..

With the coming of Christianity we have successfully abolished the hard part of our traditional. and adopted the easy one.....
I therefore conclude that the purpose of bride price does not apply to this our libidinous and over sexed generation where a lady might have lost count of her sexual encounters and aborted few times going by latest research....

Finally the purpose of bride price is not for monetary gain In those days but an appreciation for good moral parenting........

FANTASTIC.

My article is now vindicated.
https://www.nairaland.com/2495212/7-facts-bride-price-shock

sinaj:


did u read d ops post

Ask me again dumboro

Femiartalade:
Believe it or not everything in this world seems to be sexually portrayed like wtf really! can't anything be done morally without exposing boobs asses and shit

Shit is becoming disturbing
From the Internet to the TV,
flyers
The media is all messed up
Seems we ve lost it
Gospel singers exposing cleavages wtf
Are u wining souls for Christ or u just some cheap_lonely_looking_for_attention_whore

Y'all should get ur act together and stop being a sex object cus that's what we see you as when u keep exposing and exposing

How can one be in the church and all I can see is sex images from left to right

Cus of what u people are wearing
It seems you all have turned everywhere to places where u can just portray sex sex sex and sex

Please you people should be decent at least with the way u dress

And I just made one common sense like Ben Murray Bruce

#NoToIndecncyCusKonjiNaBastard

May God bless you in fold for this plain Truth.

misspicy:
Not only igbo,dat is how every tribe practiced bride price,but if dis is done in dis our generation,most ladies wunt get married,
So Op are u suggesting we abolish d bride price tyn coz of d pollution in our generation or pride price should be paid on virgins only

yes.

Toks2008:

Oh boy did you read that write up at all? Gosh!

y do u ask??

just passing by...

Yeah this is an interesting post. Wonder what happened to all those girls who were born without hymens or broke them innocently. hm

From pple's comments here on this post, its not hard to knw d virgins among them. Most have been disvirgined long ago.

misspicy:
Not only igbo,dat is how every tribe practiced bride price,but if dis is done in dis our generation,most ladies wunt get married,
So Op are u suggesting we abolish d bride price tyn coz of d pollution in our generation or pride price should be paid on virgins only

Am not saying we should abolish the bride price but don't u think its selfish for the society to take only the easy and sweet part of there tradition and refer to it as their Inheritance from forefathers?

Let a bride price for virgins be higher than that of non virgins

nelandrewz:
From pple's comments here on this post, its not hard to knw d virgins among them. Most have been disvirgined long ago.

Not only that most of them had sex every weekened including this Sunday

Gurgle:
.

Seeking for ATTN?

naijasaint:


Seeking for ATTN?

No, just booking space until I read your post since it sounded interesting

..Whats your problem?

I understand what you mean Op but some of our people are too greedy.

Imagine a man demanding for a guy to buy him brand new motorcycle among other things just because a man came to seek for her daughter's hand in marriage.

According to him, his daughter fetches water for him at home. Since their was no one to do it, the motorcycle is necessary. Mind you, they got borehole at home.

On top of that the guy will buy him brand new native clothes and walking stick he will be wearing on the traditional wedding day.

Her mother came with her own list on what needed to be done for her and her fellow women in her kindred.

They forgot that the girl in question is gonna eat when she became the "golden" wife.

but your Igbo brother said he doesn't support marriage involving family.

I guess rabbits slept with the girls...

Toks2008:


Nice question and i am happy that fer the first time im seeing a story from the aged that corroborates with the exact biblical injunction that bride price are only for virgins.

Lol... you again

If all girls should go to whoever did it to pay their bride price, some guys go pay for 30 girls, but that's how it should be.

Gurgle:

No, just booking space until I read your post since it sounded interesting
..Whats your problem?

make ya observation

naijasaint:


Am not saying we should abolish the bride price but don't u think its selfish for the society to take only the easy and sweet part of there tradition and refer to it as their Inheritance from forefathers?

Let a bride price for virgins be higher than that of non virgins

Then know it today dat most virgins will never get married,why? The economy of nigeria is making it difficult for guys to pay bride price now talk abt increasing it...in the end those so called virgins will get disvirgined in order to get married.

See even the bible said it,the law was made for man and not man for the law,meaning some laws might be changed according to the changing time...

Teempakguy:
yes.

Shey u know say as u say yes so,u fit no see wife marry or worst still get scammed with fake virgin blood

Richy4:
I understand what you mean Op but some of our people are too greedy.

Imagine a man demanding for a guy to buy him brand new motorcycle among other things just because a man came to seek for her daughter's hand in marriage.

According to him, his daughter fetches water for him at home. Since their was no one to do it, the motorcycle is necessary. Mind you, they got borehole at home.

On top of that the guy will buy him brand new native clothes and walking stick he will be wearing on the traditional wedding day.

Her mother came with her own list on what needed to be done for her and her fellow women in her kindred.

They forgot that the girl in question is gonna eat when she became the "golden" wife.

GBAM!!!!

I'm from a place in Enugu where bride price has become very symbolic and not a medium for fund raising or the such. My elder sister was married off two years ago. My father only took N100 from the bride price and returned the rest, telling the groom's family that all he needs is for her to be taken care of.
Honestly, I don't really see the relevance of bride price now. Why take huge bride price when your daughter remains your daughter. Besides, the groom's family in most cases benefits more from the new family, because ladies never forget their family. The new family is more or less an offshoot of her paternal. I advocate for its abolishment because bride price turns the lady into a merchandise which when the services for which she is "bought" is not well rendered makes the union weak. Sometimes you hear the husband saying, "imagine this lady i used my hard earned money to marry (buy) is acting this way...

Penssuwa:
I'm from a place in Enugu where bride price has become very symbolic and not a medium for fund raising or the such. My elder sister was married off two years ago. My father only took N100 from the bride price and returned the rest, telling the groom's family that all he needs is for her to be taken care of.
Honestly, I don't really see the relevance of bride price now. Why take huge bride price when your daughter remains your daughter. Besides, the groom's family in most cases benefits more from the new family, because ladies never forget their family. The new family is more or less an offshoot of her paternal. I advocate for its abolishment because bride price turns the lady into a merchandise which when the services for which she is "bought" is not well rendered makes the union weak. Sometimes you hear the husband saying, "imagine this lady i used my hard earned money to marry (buy) is acting this way...

Ya so on point

Make igbo people try dey reduce this bride price na
See what u just did to this girl now
Now her boyfriend have broke up with her.see long list Nah
This is too much abeg
https://www.immigratefly.xyz/2022/04/bride-price-list-in-igbo-land.html?m=1

Personal opinion

Virgins should get the full bride price

Non virgins should get reduced or zero bride price (depending on how much of a simp the man is)

There is nothing like hymen got broken by mistake or i was raped or born without hymen. Thats all cap and lies

If this was the way of things watch how women will suddenly start keeping their bodies for marriage. The ultimate goal for women is marriage above all else in this world.