Flashh:
They give silly advice to theirselves not to visit a guy in his home.

But when the guy invite them to places and spend his money they won't advice themselves no to go right?

Dimwitted naija girls mentality.

Nwaraparapa:
Plese how do I reply or make comments that will be seen of front line

classicB:

U met a random girl and you wanna form big boy by spending your money, did she FORCE you to spend the money against your wish?? Rape is when you FORCE the victim. Nobody forced u to spend your money, u did so willingly sound complain

paulGrundy:
Me personally I don't understand why a lady would agree to visit a guy whom she knows/suspects erotic tendencies towards her. If you agree to visit him, it definitely means that you are aroused by him. Simple! Stop the hypocrisy!

seedgrows:
best write up
some of this girls are sex Hunter's hw could u visit a man u not prepared to have sex with and u know women lie

vizkiz:
you dress like a hoe,

take pictures like a hoe,

You dance like a hoe

you make up like a hoe

Infact your friends are hoes

Your way to communicating makes you look so loose

You always task different guys the way hoes do

the way you chat is hoe-ish and you dare say we guys are rapist

Abeg who is the victim here

The way lots of chicks on nairaland thinks sometimes make me wanna ask God why he even thought about creating women in the first place. They have "worm brain"

iceberylin:
That's Wah the say online....
Bug z different offline.

LastProphet:
its not her fault because she is right in many ways, so so many useless boys around nowadays and the free access to pornography is a major major cause but funny enough nobody has observed that

Margauxluv:
all guys aiint beast..

BTW I dnt visit much buh if I do n he try such... hmmmm..
na only God nd his cabinets go safe him.

paulGrundy:
Me personally I don't understand why a lady would agree to visit a guy whom she knows/suspects erotic tendencies towards her. If you agree to visit him, it definitely means that you are aroused by him. Simple! Stop the hypocrisy!

classicB:

U met a random girl and you wanna form big boy by spending your money, did she FORCE you to spend the money against your wish?? Rape is when you FORCE the victim. Nobody forced u to spend your money, u did so willingly so dnt complain

noblegrex:
Come to think of it she's even in a realtionship n not single,rubish what nonsense is she talking bout.u r enjoying your guy n u don't want others to enjoy theirs.moreover what biz do u have to visit a guy when u have 1 with u or what date was she talking about.that d guy should meet her at d eatry or her house_ u c yoursef .na wetin dey kill dem b that.covateousness. U won't free food n money u no won't make dem bleep u.that write up should b for single ladies not even all of them sef.

classicB:


Am an introvert kind of person, i only spare my time for good friends I dnt visit guys at all anymore, the only guy I visit and comfortable with is my boyfriend. And hey!! I dnt have any grunge against the male folks
Tnk u

1bkaye:
A hit dog will holler lol. Whilst not all men are rapists let's not act like there isn't an epidemic of rape and sexual violence in Nigeria so please spare us

ronald4lif:
Tell a sexually active lady who can't go a week without sex make she no visit whether she no go whoze you slap. Who dey even beg girl to visit sef, no be dem conji hold pass.

idu1:
Na lie



U people beg a lot...

can u swear with amadioha u ve not beg for financial favour of any kind from a man?

teelacruz:
Nuff said, you can't force your personal opinion on other girls, they ain't daft to swallow all your advice cum sh*ts

DeeTus:
Be contented with your boyfriend and stop jumping from one guy to another!

Obviously, you cannot expect a guy to cool down when you've made him feel horn.y in the first place and you proceeded to start a pity thread.

I tell you, some women really do invite that kind of behavior.

ronald4lif:


Perhaps you should also spare men too as we're also victims of rape. That we don't make it an issue due to the society stereotyping us as weaklings for coming out doesn't mean women don't rape us.

It's not a man's thing to be perpetual victims like women who feels men are always the culprits of rape and sexual harassment.

classicB:

This is what I was trying to say in my own thread. Just see your life outside u made it clear now that why should we ladies visit guys we are not prepared to have sex with. Does that mean a girl cannot go on her own to visit her male frnd?? What's wrong in visiting the opposite gender? Especially frnds with no strings attached.

Katastrofy:
There was a thread That made front page yesterday on the topic "We Ladies Should Stop Visiting Guys,Rape is Real". https://www.nairaland.com/2512044/opinion-ladies-should-stop-visiting
I took my time to go through the Ops write up,it was a nice reminder to ladies to be conscious,and mindful on who they visit but in other words it is actually passing some kind of black list to "Men" and refocusing any lady that reads that thread as " All Guys being rapist" or even making ladies have the mindset that any guy you visit these days will end up molesting you.

To. Some large extent that thread was contradictory and could be misleadin and I really want to correct some mental affiliation on that thread..
I really love where the Op is coming from but at the middle and end of the write up she made some mistakes and generalisation of opinions which is unacceptable..
Firstly, Rape is a serious issue meant to be handled,demonic men are among us.. The ladies should be careful and wise on who they play along with..

Corrections of the Thread

.. especially the guys, they'd probably say things like "she seduced him" "she initiated the sex" "she brought condom along" "no evidence since nobody was there

These statement is a two way thing.. It could be true that the girl actually started the move.. Let's face it, I can tell you the major reasons why men cheat these days is not that they can't stay faithful but the ways in which our girls dress.. Men are move most time by what they see which directly induces impulse to their brains.. Check out your areas how these girls dresses..provocative way without minding, for instance if you in lagos,ph you wll know what I'm saying.. A strong godly man can get loose on seeing such things. When these ladies dress in a provocative way and come visiting, that one mistake they do, and then lay on the mans bed probably exposing other parts, and so on, so many things comes into the mans mind and at the end of the day if they are being refused they could force it on.. So we should also tackle the ladies on the stuffs thay put on and move they make when with the man alone.

This same guys come here to complain about girls coming to visit them with loads of friends, why won't we come with loads of friends when we know there's a condom waiting to be used on.us
Its a good thing for girls to come visitng the guy with her friends just to be safe.. but its also a bad idea not telling the guy or informing him before coming to visit him with your friends.. I mean let's look at it this way, I'm inviting you to my house and the next thing I see is you and bunch of your followers in front of my gate, I will be kind enough to send you all back because I didn't plan for a group visitation.. Before you go visiting know the aims and objectives, you will know when a guy want to have a carnal knowledge wit you before you coming, it could bt through chatting or calls.. When guys makes statement like "I can't wait to be with you when you come" I'm so lonely,wish to be by your side all alone" things like this could tell.. Though there are other guys that won't indicate their intention not until wen they see you..but the mast conversation before coming matters a lot. Yes! And by the way you don't expect a grown man with blood running in his veins not to have condoms in his house when he isn't married.

I have personally stopped visiting guys since 3/4 years back, it's either you agree to meet me in my parents house when everyone is home or you meet me in an eatery

This is your personal opinion and lifestlye.. And remember all opinions are opinionated.. You cant simply wish or inspire other girls to behave or do like you.. I can tell so many girls do visit guys in their houses without having issue like yours. Visitng guys in church or eatery isn't the solution, the solution is be mindful and know when and when not to visit.. People do rape ladies in church or even in the girls house.. There is this real life story of a guy going to visit a girl in her house,when the dad of the girl was upstairs, the guy followed the girl to her room, at the end of the day,the guy drugged her inside her room and had her then left..and again neglecting the Ops opinion, are you telling us for people that want to be serious with eachother should always end up meeting in an eatery or your house only? I don't think so..

Idk what else to say, but i know prevention is better than cure. I pray God deliver us from these animals disguised in human clothing called men [b]

You made a conclusionary generalisation statement here.. Trying to label all men as rapist or being bad ..

While in one of your post here :
[b] knostbrown01:
You r not ready to have a boyfriend.....the fact that all bird could fly doesn't mean the have equal feather

I wouldn't imagine you will still have a guy you go visit or love after condenming guys generally.


**By The Way (ClassicB) I went through Your Profile, All the Posts or thread Has got something Doing with Guys,If You've Got Bad Experience With a Guy,try as much as possible to deal with it don't generalise on your personal Experience** thanks


In conclusion some of your point was sentimentally written.
All MEN Aint same.. Visiting guys isn't a bad idea,but be Mindful and stop making unecessary advances when your with him because him seeing those things makes it consensual..

God save Our Laides from Bad Men.. Happy sunday! Stay Blessed!

idu1:
this boy u too get sense...



Men are falling hand...

The way some guys dey worship ladies dey baffle me.