osisi you

**osisi:

In some homes,family can bring her their foods whenever they want to
but remember that most of these patients are on some special or modified diets.
Patients in nursing homes can also have one on one private care aides provided for by the families that can afford it.

I'm not thinking about the cost here o.
I'm thinking about the care and comfortability.

**osisi:

One "fair skinned " Nigerian nurse went to Nigeria for vacation and ran out of her bleaching cream and returned to America darker than Kweku Amfosah
Even her own kids and friends thought she had contracted a terminal illness
A few months later she was "healed"

For me its not about the details of the implementation. For either of my parents (and in-laws), I would always do what I feel is in their best interest, and give them priority over myself. It doesn't mean that they have to be at home with me, but as long as that is the best thing for them, I will do it. My parents placed my well being ahead of theirs, and I will do same for them.

As for issues with mother-in-laws staying with one, my paternal grandmother has been living with my parents (and still does) prior to my birth. At no point has anyone thought of having it otherwise. Its not always like the horror stories one hears.

quote from osisi
[Many people do it because they can't afford nursing homes.
They are expensive.
I know people who have taken care of sick parents till they died,many of them had to quit their jobs and get on welfare and they aged a great deal with all the stress.
Some end up diovorced from their spouses because the illness takes over the entire household.
No body wants to "send their parents away"
but sometimes a nursing home is the best option for sanity sake]

yes, u r right.  but then every case is different. so it might not work for everyone

A simple NO

why?

Im sure it wasnt easy or convenient for my parents having me and taking care of me through thick and thin, illness and what not, A child is for life, how much more a parent?

God spare my life and health, my own parent will not live in a nursing home.

God forbid bad things.

Which kind nonsense be that wey your own parents don become burden to you?

Well i am white and funny enough I was only thinking of that last night, see my father died young and my mother is now 67 and going blind in one eye. I would never dream of putting her into one. Some over them over here are great but I just couldnt to that. If I have to leave my husband temparorily and my job i would do that.

Some can. Some wont. Big Deal

aaah noo ooh, they will be in Nigeria or whereever else they choose to be with a maids and cameras all over making sure those maids aren't doing what they're not supposed to be doing,


But nursing home, may the gods forbid.

Abomination!

My father was with us at home till he passed on in January.
He had been battling cancer for two years.

We should not PUSH our parents away when they need us most.

Moreover it is strange to this parts.

**osisi:

I still remember the thread where you talked so lovingly about your parents and narrated the ordeal when you went home to bury your mom.
It was so touching.
Bless you.

Nursing homes are not bad at all.
Just because they found a  giant rat in the sweet and sour soup  pot at Asian cuisine doesn't mean restaurants are bad

Amen!

Thanks for your touching comment. Some nursing home aint bad in my opinion, because you have people taking care of your parents while you are at work. Or better still, you can put them in assisted living. Then on weekends, you can either visit them, or have them move in your place. Still, if I had a lot of money and my parents were still around, I would just hire a home aide care to monitor them while I am at work.

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I love my parents too much to put them in a boarding house. And no, they can't stay with me either. I'd rather get them their own place. Far enough from my house so they won't be dropping unexpectedly in from time to time.

Heck NO.I hate Nursing Homes.My church members and I went there to visit a senior church member before and the place smells HORRIBLE.**My mother will live with me when she gets 2 old to live alone**

Moonstone:

I love my parents too much to put them in a boarding house. And no, they can't stay with me either. I'd rather get them their own place. Far enough from my house so they won't be dropping unexpectedly in from time to time.

~~and what if they are 2 old to live on their own

hell nooooooo, shikena.

I will never ,ever, ever, ever put my parents in a nursing home irrespective of ailments.
Me? my parents in a nursing home?! Hei!!
NEVER!!!

I might.If she can no longer take care of herself.



Sometimes they need more care than a family member

can give at home,even with a visiting nurse or whatever.

Its a tough decision but sometimes, the quality of life

is actually better when they are cared for by professionals

and you can visit stree-free . . if a loved one is in the throes

of Alzheimer's or Dementia,caring for them at home can be next to

impossible.


Yeah,I know its difficult and heartbreaking,but sometimes its for the best.

Hell no
I cant take my mum to such a place.

Look i am african and i am iknow extended family is our way of life.

Its the whites with their nuclear family partern that looks for such homes for their parents
My mum will no go near such homes.

She stays with me period.

It's unimaginably and very very very un-african

In a sec if they get too old. But most likely I'll hire maids and chaiwalas for em.

Never!!!

i wonder where so many of us would have been if our folks had put us in foster homes while they pursued their careers

of course it will be difficult, but just as our parents made sacrifices for us, things have come full circle, and it is time for us to make sacrifice for them.

of course, this is easier in theory than in principle. . .

No, i wont do dat.

@poster

Nooooooooooooo that is a western phenomenon and a very un-african thing to do.

Anyone who does this is just cursing themselves.

Its a disgraceful and wicked thing to do.

Unless your parent is at deaths door and needs to be left in an nursing hosptial.

There is no excuse.

god forbid!

LadyT:

Anyone who does this is just cursing themselves.

Its a disgraceful and wicked thing to do. 

Unless your parent is at deaths door and needs to be left in an nursing hosptial.

There is no excuse.

There is nothing disgraceful about it, so dont choose to judge others who put their parents in nursing homes. At least, your mind is at peace while at work that your parents are taken care of, unlike keeping them at home unattended which could be dangerous to them. Supposing your loved one had a stroke, and you were a working mother, how would you take care of him?