freecocoa:
Don't you have shame? Why should he be the one giving you money for upkeep? Can't you also pay for his upkeep? What happened to your hands and brains, or doesn't yours deserve some racking?

Zeeblamj01:

The question is, what do u advise the couple to do?

ireneidiva:

The african tradition that is still keeping africa backward when other continents are way ahead. The man will go to work and crack his brain? Don't women work and 'crack' their brains? Don't women provide for their families? What is wrong with you people?

ireneidiva:

The lady should start cooking. How can she just leave him to be cooking. She says she'll feel intimidated because he cooks better than her. She is not serious. They should do it together so that she can improve.

freecocoa:
Don't you have shame? Why should he be the one giving you money for upkeep? Can't you also pay for his upkeep? What happened to your hands and brains, or doesn't yours deserve some racking?

emsheddy:
Madam, how does African 'marriage' traditions contribute to keeping Africa backward? Infact Africa is better off than other continents in terms of marriages that have lasted for ages! Is this how our mothers behaved and enjoyed their marriages till date? The question should be what is wrong with you and not 'you people'! No wonder we are having break-ups here and there because a lot of our young folks have allowed western culture to corrupt our wonderful marriage traditions! Am not surprised sha! instead of sticking to our traditional marriage system, we allowed 'white wedding' to be more valued and prestigious! I don vex self! lolz.....make I cool down here! pmc01, DeeTus, Aystarz, FolarinLondon, una dey see talk abi? na God go help us ohhhhhhh

DeeTus:
Hahahaha.
Good that your senses have been restored!

emsheddy:
My brother, I had to fight every urge in me to answer those girls! You can imagine what our Nigerian sisters can spill! They should ask themselves if this is how our mothers behaved and are still enjoying their homes till today even after having men with beards and full blown female children! Personally, back then, when my gf is visiting, I ask her what I should prepare for her before she arrives since she is coming from a far distance. but as from the next morning, na she get kitchen till she go back oh! Am a good cook! A very good one for that matter! But them never born that babe wey wan tell me to dey cook for her like this our guy wife! I can do it once in a while like popsy made starch(abeg Isokos and Urhobos dey chop starch from cassava oh) that everyone marvelled at few days back just for fun and prove to everyone of us that he is still a good cook till tomorrow! But as the guy dey villa, make him return back today and food no dey wait for am, una go read the story tomorrow! Bros, I greet you again! If no be some correct babes wey don yarn better, I for blast those babes since!

emsheddy:
Madam, how does African 'marriage' traditions contribute to keeping Africa backward? Infact Africa is better off than other continents in terms of marriages that have lasted for ages! Is this how our mothers behaved and enjoyed their marriages till date? The question should be what is wrong with you and not 'you people'! No wonder we are having break-ups here and there because a lot of our young folks have allowed western culture to corrupt our wonderful marriage traditions! Am not surprised sha! instead of sticking to our traditional marriage system, we allowed 'white wedding' to be more valued and prestigious! I don vex self! lolz.....make I cool down here! pmc01, DeeTus, Aystarz, FolarinLondon, una dey see talk abi? na God go help us ohhhhhhh

ireneidiva:
I hope you are okay.

Jennifer89:



it seems u woke up on the wrong side of ur bed this morning and u want me to begin to exchange words with u. look else were oky. dnt quote me. thanks.

DeeTus:
You love your husband but can't cook for him. Shame on you!!

You're also lazy!!

freecocoa:
Just see talk. I really wonder the kind of women these ones roll with.

So a woman you probably met in a city different from where her parents live, is the one you'll just tell "we are going to visit your parents" without knowing if her parents are even home, if she wants to even see them or if she's in the mood to even go out and she'll just enter the vehicle without asking questions? She must be a robot sha.

refreshrate:


You havent met a man who is fed up with you yet...and i pray you never do, i swear to God i pray you never do.

Thats all ill say to this

ireneidiva:

You 'dated'. You did not marry her o, after all her 'cooking like your mother'.

freecocoa:
You are a joker.

I will not be caught dead with a man like you so need.

refreshrate:


You know the people who do actually prayed to God for such abi?

Jennifer89:



yes i agree with you. too much of Hollywood movies and soap operas is confusing so many Niga gals. i don't know what happen to our African values. it's the new generation men that consider assisting their wife in chores our own father wont do it may be just a few will assist. A man will go to work, crack his brain on how to provide for his family, gives the woman money for upkeep and she will balance and still expect him to do compulsory cooking hmm

freecocoa:
Lol, do I sound like someone who believe in myths? Shift jare.

freecocoa:
Yes I am lazy and I love it.

I guess him that won't cook for me doesn't love me, why should I love someone who doesn't love me?

Jennifer89:



may be u don't get. inasmuch we try to imitate the western tradition we still have ours. I'm not saying a man shouldn't assist his wife in cooking or doing chores in d house but it shouldn't be mandatory. you cant force a man to cook if he doesn't want to. nothing is wrong with me coz we are entitled to our own opinion.

DeeTus:
Hey, don't turn it around here. Pretty face doesn't guarantee a happy home. You should learn how to cook for your husband and be motivated.

freecocoa:
And having a d1ck does? I am one of the best cooks you'll meet but no man can force me to cook for him, if he's a good cook, he should cook as well, both parties should cook whenever they can, it is not a duty to be delegated to a particular gender.

Nothing will give me more joy than to see my baby well fed but he has to understand it's something I do out of the abundance of my heart, not something I should be reminded of and moreso because "I am the man of the house" I won't be with such a man to even start with.

thelish:

I was about asking this same question.

martyns303:
One of my friend just got married four months ago and already there is fuss in his marriage. I have known both of the couple right from when their relationship was a hide and seek thing to when both families became involved, needless to say I know them very well and they are a perfect match. Let me start by introducing the guy, he used to be my roommate back in school, friends usually tease him calling him "100 yards husband material" for his attributes, this guy can keep the room sparkling clean all day and cooks better than some of our moms, not exaggerating.


He wedded his girlfriend just a month after her final exams, she is 24 (my friend is 27). 2 days ago he came to my place complaining that his wife seldom cooks and that he can count the number of times she had cooked. I told him maybe she is intimidated by his cooking, but he says he doesn't mind and just want her to do her wifey duties. I called his wife and asked her what's going on, and she said he had always cooked while they were dating and don't know why he his fussing now.


From what I can deduce, my guy is trying to be authoritative, he kept using the phrase "I am the man", he have the time as his job is flexible, so cooking shouldn't be a problem, at the same time the wife is failing to do her duties. I don't know how to advice them without taking sides. 


The wife is a registered NLer, so am sure she will see this and get the necessary advice.


Lalasticlala please help this young couple.

Ishilove do your thing. 

freecocoa:
And having a d1ck does? I am one of the best cooks you'll meet but no man can force me to cook for him, if he's a good cook, he should cook as well, both parties should cook whenever they can, it is not a duty to be delegated to a particular gender.

Nothing will give me more joy than to see my baby well fed but he has to understand it's something I do out of the abundance of my heart, not something I should be reminded of and moreso because "I am the man of the house" I won't be with such a man to even start with.

Omotayor123:
English professor Oya correct me...