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Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by thelish(f): 11:51am On Sep 13, 2015

DeeTus:
Her mom was a racist and so, we couldn't end up being together!

It wasn't really my fault.

OK,

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by bukatyne(f): 12:02pm On Sep 13, 2015

martyns303:
One of my friend just got married four months ago and already there is fuss in his marriage. I have known both of the couple right from when their relationship was a hide and seek thing to when both families became involved, needless to say I know them very well and they are a perfect match. Let me start by introducing the guy, he used to be my roommate back in school, friends usually tease him calling him "100 yards husband material" for his attributes, this guy can keep the room sparkling clean all day and cooks better than some of our moms, not exaggerating.

He wedded his girlfriend just a month after her final exams, she is 24 (my friend is 27). 2 days ago he came to my place complaining that his wife seldom cooks and that he can count the number of times she had cooked. I told him maybe she is intimidated by his cooking, but he says he doesn't mind and just want her to do her wifey duties. I called his wife and asked her what's going on, and she said he had always cooked while they were dating and don't know why he his fussing now.

From what I can deduce, my guy is trying to be authoritative, he kept using the phrase "I am the man", he have the time as his job is flexible, so cooking shouldn't be a problem, at the same time the wife is failing to do her duties. I don't know how to advice them without taking sides.

The wife is a registered NLer, so am sure she will see this and get the necessary advice.

Lalasticlala please help this young couple.

Ishilove do your thing.

The husband should have explained to the wife that he expects her to do the cooking after marriage and the cooking before was just part of wooing/courting.

Since the husband's job is more flexible, she can cook in bulk bi-monthly and stock a lot of canned vegetables/blanched vegetables/blended pepper/moin moin and other edibles while the husband prepares daily if she will not be available.

This should not be a cause for disagreements

And if the wife cannot cook, let her learn from her husband.

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by EfemenaXY: 12:08pm On Sep 13, 2015

reminiscing:

What are you saying?As a woman,cooking is your responsibility. The day you signed that marriage register,you indirectly made a vow to be his mother.One who will love,care and take care of him.Am very sure u know a mother will never starve her son.

This is so skewered.

Pls could you tell us what the man's responsibility is then? Does he automatically become her father too, as soon as he signs the dotted lines?

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Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 12:11pm On Sep 13, 2015

EfemenaXY:

This is so skewered.

Pls could you tell us what the man's responsibility is then? Does he automatically become her father too, as soon as he signs the dotted lines?

The duty of d man is to provide for the family and from time to time,help out in d kitchen wen he is chanced.

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by EfemenaXY: 12:13pm On Sep 13, 2015

reminiscing:

The duty of d man is to provide for the family and from time to time,help out in d kitchen wen he is chanced.

Provide what, exactly?

And what sort of "from time-to-time" help are you talking about?

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Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 12:21pm On Sep 13, 2015

EfemenaXY:

Provide what, exactly?
And what sort of "from time-to-time" help are you talking about?

Its lame arguing with you.

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Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by sneak3(m): 12:23pm On Sep 13, 2015

That the guy cook before now doesn't require the wife o relegate him to the constant cook at home. Stuff like dis need understanding btw d parties involved.

The wife shld show the cooking will even wen its not convenient by so doing the hubby wil not see it a big deal helping web Eva he's dispose to.

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by EfemenaXY: 12:29pm On Sep 13, 2015

reminiscing:

Its lame arguing with you.

Why do you see this as an argument? Aren't you adult enough to see through your line of thinking? Or do you just regurgitate information without fully understanding it?

My questions are simple enough. You were quick to state what a woman's role MUST be as soon as she gets married, but you suddenly go coy when I ask you to be more specific on what YOU think the man's role MUST be in equal measure?

C'mon, you can do better than that.

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Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by pmc01(m): 12:30pm On Sep 13, 2015

freecocoa:
To set the record straight, i'm not married, having said that, so you can't respect me for my sake, you'll have to do it because of a man? Aren't you something?

I know where and when to improve as I'm an adult capable of making smart decisions, should there be a place I need help? I ask for it and should I make am error, then anyone can correct me with respect, it's very wrong to speak to me like you would a child and that's something I will never, I repeat, never tolerate from anyone, so my dear I won't be treated with little or no regard because I am a woman.

I wasn't really joking with my first comment btw, I just find that there's often humour in my words, even when I'm dead serious, I can't help it.

I apologize.

I was only teasing about sheathing swords cos of your husband.

For the records, I respect women and you included, I'm sorry I came out disrespectful. However, it doesn't have to do with the gender.

Best regards.

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by EfemenaXY: 12:32pm On Sep 13, 2015

sneak3:
That the guy cook before now doesn't require the wife o relegate him to the constant cook at home. Stuff like dis need understanding btw d parties involved.

The wife shld show the cooking will even wen its not convenient by so doing the hubby wil not see it a big deal helping web Eva he's dispose to.

So why then did he bother learning how to cook in the first place? If he believed that cooking is 100% the woman's prerogative??

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Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by pmc01(m): 12:37pm On Sep 13, 2015

freecocoa:
To set the record straight, i'm not married, having said that, so you can't respect me for my sake, you'll have to do it because of a man? Aren't you something?

I know where and when to improve as I'm an adult capable of making smart decisions, should there be a place I need help? I ask for it and should I make am error, then anyone can correct me with respect, it's very wrong to speak to me like you would a child and that's something I will never, I repeat, never tolerate from anyone, so my dear I won't be treated with little or no regard because I am a woman.

I wasn't really joking with my first comment btw, I just find that there's often humour in my words, even when I'm dead serious, I can't help it.

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by pmc01(m): 12:41pm On Sep 13, 2015

emsheddy:
Madam, how does African 'marriage' traditions contribute to keeping Africa backward? Infact Africa is better off than other continents in terms of marriages that have lasted for ages! Is this how our mothers behaved and enjoyed their marriages till date? The question should be what is wrong with you and not 'you people'! No wonder we are having break-ups here and there because a lot of our young folks have allowed western culture to corrupt our wonderful marriage traditions! Am not surprised sha! instead of sticking to our traditional marriage system, we allowed 'white wedding' to be more valued and prestigious! I don vex self! lolz.....make I cool down here! pmc01, DeeTus, Aystarz, FolarinLondon, una dey see talk abi? na God go help us ohhhhhhh

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by coolheed: 12:42pm On Sep 13, 2015

ireneidiva:

Crap. If a wife can work and use that money to provide for her family, what stops the husband from doing the cooking whenever he is available?

It is important that we are factual and not make a general rule from an exception. I don't pray that my responsibility to cater for the family is performed by my wife. The Bible and Quran call the husband the head of the family and this is also supported by the African culture.

Have you wondered why women carry babies in their wombs and not men? Why women give breast milk to their babies and not men?

Western culture are alien to our society as they question everything including God and this potentially lead to destruction. The western advocates of equality in marriage are the ones propagating same-sex marriage, sexual organ transplant, open marriage, gender swap and other practices that are "devilish".

The point is that man and woman have different roles and responsibilities.

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 12:43pm On Sep 13, 2015

Am disappointed in All these Lazy and spoiled brats ladies shouting HOUSEHELP.

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by freecocoa(f): 12:47pm On Sep 13, 2015

reminiscing:

What are you saying?As a woman,cooking is your responsibility. The day you signed that marriage register,you indirectly made a vow to be his mother.One who will love,care and take care of him.Am very sure u know a mother will never starve her son.

You must be high, cooking is not a responsibility of mine, I may prefer to do it because I actually like to cook my own meals or because I'm the better cook, I didn't sign to be his mother please, I signed to be his wife and he didn't marry me for food, why marry if you can cook or get meals somewhere else then?

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Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by freecocoa(f): 12:54pm On Sep 13, 2015

pmc01:

I apologize.

I was only teasing about sheathing swords cos of your husband.

For the records, I respect women and you included, I'm sorry I came out disrespectful. However, it doesn't have to do with the gender.

Best regards.

It's alright.

Best regards too.

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Jetjacky(m): 1:04pm On Sep 13, 2015

agarawu23:
we will do that later

lol you done make me verse! how come u no allow me no tay tay... aya do quick throw the party!

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Jetjacky(m): 1:08pm On Sep 13, 2015

dukeolumde:

Lobatan(Translation: The guy own don ~~kwafuka~~ finish)

thanks I have always wanted to know the meaning of that....

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Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Jetjacky(m): 1:11pm On Sep 13, 2015

Freemanan:
Jetjacky the guy is in OYO... But I Don't really put emphasis on a good cook. I can marry a woman that can't cook. I can... I have other specs.... But food meal isn't one of them.. tho having a good cook as a wife is a +....

lemme guess you're a good cook yourself... if not una go by down restaurants.... BeCaUsE My BroThER food is important wink

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 1:14pm On Sep 13, 2015

emsheddy:
Madam, how does African 'marriage' traditions contribute to keeping Africa backward? Infact Africa is better off than other continents in terms of marriages that have lasted for ages! Is this how our mothers behaved and enjoyed their marriages till date? The question should be what is wrong with you and not 'you people'! No wonder we are having break-ups here and there because a lot of our young folks have allowed western culture to corrupt our wonderful marriage traditions! Am not surprised sha! instead of sticking to our traditional marriage system, we allowed 'white wedding' to be more valued and prestigious! I don vex self! lolz.....make I cool down here! pmc01, DeeTus, Aystarz, FolarinLondon, una dey see talk abi? na God go help us ohhhhhhh

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 1:15pm On Sep 13, 2015

kandiikane:

this is what they have been doing to women for millenniums na, let them feel how women feel. Instead of even dragging her feet, she should put them up on the sofa in front of the TV with a glass of wine, eating the food he cooked.

Millenia.
But I see your point.

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 1:15pm On Sep 13, 2015

Jetjacky:
lemme guess you're a good cook yourself... if not una go by down restaurants.... BeCaUsE My BroThER food is important

I Am a terrible cook...

Food is surely important.... But I Am serious, Don't really give a damn about eating anything..

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 1:19pm On Sep 13, 2015

reminiscing:

The duty of d man is to provide for the family and from time to time,help out in d kitchen wen he is chanced.

Also during football match.

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 1:19pm On Sep 13, 2015

reminiscing:

The duty of d man is to provide for the family and from time to time,help out in d kitchen wen he is chanced.

Also during football match?

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Pamelayoung: 1:21pm On Sep 13, 2015

RedCard1:
Only those Stingy Igbo men does the cooking in their marriages.

They do it for silly reasons of economising things unnecessarily.

I pity women that are married to typical Igbo men.

You are very wrong my dear, cooking 4 a woman is d last thg a typical igbo man will do.

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Pamelayoung: 1:23pm On Sep 13, 2015

pcguru1:

Huh what logic is that

I quite agree with him, men love women that gives them tough time they don't like it wen it comes easy.

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 1:26pm On Sep 13, 2015

@post, I like home cooked meals but I also like my woman to always turn up in well done manicures.Always.
So I insist on doing the cooking.

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Jetjacky(m): 1:32pm On Sep 13, 2015

Freemanan:

I Am a terrible cook...

Food is surely important.... But I Am serious, Don't really give a damn about eating anything..

lol... Na you know

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by EfemenaXY: 1:38pm On Sep 13, 2015

BoboYekini:
@post, I like home cooked meals but I also like my woman to always turn up in well done manicures.Always.
So I insist on doing the cooking.

***faints!*** cheesy

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by emsheddy(m): 1:41pm On Sep 13, 2015

thelish:

Bros, how many of these our urhobo/isoko mothers actually enjoyed their marriage? If nor be say their second name na endurance and patience. lol.
They were more like slaves to their husband. U go kneel down till ur husband chop finish.
abeg babes nor ready for that kind suffering again oo. Even the mothers are not praying their kind of life for their daughters.

My dear, where that one for happen nau? abeg wife no dey kneel down till her husband chop finish for Isoko and Urhobo jor...I know they kneel (at times) to offer water for washing hand. My isoko mothers dey flex their marriage and some of them even frown at how marriages break up anyhow today because of 'I too know' of today's young ones. By the way, shey you go tell your boyfriend-turned-husband to continue to cook for you because him been dey cook when una still be bf and gf?

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by freecocoa(f): 1:45pm On Sep 13, 2015

EfemenaXY:

***faints!***

African gentleman style, he still had to insist.

These people no go kill person. grin

Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by emsheddy(m): 1:46pm On Sep 13, 2015

ireneidiva:

You guys and this yeye 'our mothers' talk. Do you know how many of 'our mothers' will happily run out of their marriages given the chance? The ones that stayed back when their husbands use them as punching bags or constantly cheat on them. Try that now with modern girls and you will be forced to go and marry your mothers.

Madam abeg, if the mothers in your own area will happily run out of marriage, the ones in my area won't! They had to endure a lot to get to this stage, I agree. but they will never tell their husbands to cook for them. Never!

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