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Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by pmc01(m): 7:23am On Sep 13, 2015 |
If I were to drop my opinion on this matter ehn, I see no way I won't insult the cocoa flavour twins (freecocoa and cococandy), as well as one babygirl bla bla. Sincerely, some ladies should still be refered to as girls, no matter how old they are. Immature and arrogant breed. #Married but living single. 6 Likes |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 7:25am On Sep 13, 2015 |
I once had a date with a lady in one of these cool restaurants in town. We got there and made our way to a nice corner within the restaurant. However, it was time for her to make an order; but instead she asked me if i could grab her a cup of cappuccino with please though. I pretended as if i didn't hear her. She called out my name this time around and made her demand for cappuccino known to my face cos she saw that i wasn't cool with the demand going by my body countenance. At this juncture, i told her that the onus of getting her perfect flavour falls on her instead of asking me to struggle with that simply cos you wanted me to be a gentleman. I could have started the relationship on that note of being an errand boy but i choose not to. Why? I knew it won't last. She was shocked cos nobody has ever turned her down. I told her right there at our first date that i was being real and guess what, she still fell in love with me. As if i knew that this issue is affecting Marriages when i was advising some ladies last weekend about how they easily get carried away by a guy's cooking on a first and second date. It's totally unnecessary and silly for a guy to start a relationship with cooking skill and all that crap. If you have an excellent cooking skill, keep it to yourself as a man and waoh your wife to nice and wonderful dinner once in a while. She ll love it to bit cos it's not everyday thing. The moment you start your relationship with 21st century lady with cooking skill, you are already telling her that you are the lady in the relationship unless she is one of those good and well brought ladies. If she happens to be one of those well brought ladies, she won't even allow you to cook in the first place cos she didn't grow up seeing her daddy making dinner. In some homes, mothers have turned their hhusband to cooks; so the children grow up seeing their dad in the kitchen all day. What do you expect from a lady raised in such homes? A lady, raised in a good homes where core values of marriage is defined, embraced and appreciated wouldn't be able to stand her man doing d cooking on a regular basis. You can only surprise such lady with your cooking skill when she is not in the house. The same thing applicable to a guy raised in this home, they would strictly stick to their responsibility of loving and looking after their family with 100% commitment. 10 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 7:34am On Sep 13, 2015 |
cococandy:You're a little bit biased! It's perhaps a shame!! Cooking is very important in marriage and a woman who cannot cook for the husband is totally crazy. I'm really, really of the opinion that the man is not in total control of the marriage, otherwise he wouldn't have complained about this. A good wife always takes note of what made his husband happy and what might potentially upset him. What the man should do at this time is to ignore this woman and eat out for a while. That will make the wife guessing, on her toes, and trying to win him back! 2 Likes |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by ireneidiva(f): 7:36am On Sep 13, 2015 |
JayJustus:Thank you o. Don't mind all these 'I'm the man' people. Half men 1 Like |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by ireneidiva(f): 7:38am On Sep 13, 2015 |
FolarinLondon:Crap. If a wife can work and use that money to provide for her family, what stops the husband from doing the cooking whenever he is available? 1 Like |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 7:45am On Sep 13, 2015 |
***yawns*** did they court? I guess he bought the crap about not courting before marriage |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 7:45am On Sep 13, 2015 |
***yawns*** did they court? I guess he bought the crap about not courting before marriage. Neeeeext |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Tallesty1(m): 7:46am On Sep 13, 2015 |
GboyegaD:I am warning you oo. Before you go carry your own story come nairaland. That's if there's 2G in hell 1 Like |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by mecussey(m): 7:47am On Sep 13, 2015 |
jamex93: They are almost the same age, honestly that girl just discovered she married a boy and now she know marriage is real and quite different from bf and gf. Possible, all her side toaster don cut connection and attention limited to only her hubby. She never knew what she was into until now. |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 7:50am On Sep 13, 2015 |
freecocoa:Are You married? |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 7:54am On Sep 13, 2015 |
ideology: 1 Like |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Tallesty1(m): 8:05am On Sep 13, 2015 |
cococandy:So the fact that she refused to do it means she doesn't know I see 1 Like |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by freecocoa(f): 8:06am On Sep 13, 2015 |
babygirlfl:You are right my sister, makes for really good comedy. 1 Like |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 8:10am On Sep 13, 2015 |
ireneidiva:Half men, huh? You're not from Asia. Asian culture is totally different from African culture. Embrace what the dude has written up there and lose your husband's attention to another woman. It's only a question of time. Not sure if you really understand the difference between a man and a woman. Go learn some cooking skills, won't say sorry to you if you come here someday and complain about your man. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 8:11am On Sep 13, 2015 |
martyns303:The only answer I have to this is: don't start what u cannot finish! The problem here is that the guy was cooking before and she got used to it. Didn't he know he was the man when he was cooking before? Lol. Is the woman super busy with work? If no, then she doesn't love him well enough. Every woman who loves a man is always happy to see him eat what she cooked. Even if she is a horrible cook. I don't see a reason why this people are already having problems at this early stage. How long did they court? How long did they live together before marriage? Cause if they did, they would have sorted out the issue before they got married. He over pampered her and they both pretended to be perfect, and now after marriage they have both been unmasked... He should stop cooking for a while. and they should talk about sharing the duties in the house. Maybe then they can sort it out... This is a ridiculous story by the way! |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by sarutobie(m): 8:17am On Sep 13, 2015 |
FolarinLondon:the realest comment on this thread so far.. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 8:18am On Sep 13, 2015 |
Olalan:You came to this conclusion out of utter ignorance. Are you aware that even Jesus Christ the only begotten son of Jehovah and the greatest man who ever lived also cooked for his apostles? Read John chapter 21 verses 9-14. Who is the bloody man who cannot cook for his wife and family? |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 8:19am On Sep 13, 2015 |
ireneidiva: A single mum or potential single mum you are i guess. It's quite easy to spot one from distance. You better embrace your responsibility and stop being silly with it. There are million good looking and well brought up ladies out there begging for good husbands. It's quite unfortunate that some mumus called husbands are now slaves in their own homes simply cos they ffoolishly fall in love with lazy lady like you. Simply cos you are contributing 15% to the expenses of the household, your husbands(Cos your husbands ll be many with this your reasoning) must pay back by cooking for your lazy and silly ass. If you eventually become a single mum, guess what!!! Your new boyfriend would have your body, your food, no stake in your children lives, probably be taking money of you to look good and still stay away from your kitchen. 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by OPUSDEI1(m): 8:19am On Sep 13, 2015 |
LESSON-When it comes to women,Never start what you cannot finish. My MUM gave me this advice when i was preparing to get married. All my friends from Uni&NYSC days compliment my culinary skills to date, but based on the advice above I only showcase it once in a long while and it is always highly appreciated. One Big mistake guys always make is trying too hard to impress a lady.I believe your wife to be should get the least of that until you sign the dotted lines then you have till death do you part to gradually unwrap your goodie pack. Marriage is like wine that gets better with time,but youths of today prefer "fruit-juice marriage" where all the sweetness is enjoyed pre-marital and after that what do you expect. The young man in question should find reasons to diplomatically but gradually stop cooking for now without nagging his wife,with time she will adjust. 4 Likes |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 8:21am On Sep 13, 2015 |
Zeeblamj01:Nice. You made a lot of good points. I guess you already knew why the man complained about the wife. Not like the crazy girl up there who seemed so confused about the whole thing and as a result, taking Asian culture or Western culture as if it's hers. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by EfemenaXY: 8:21am On Sep 13, 2015 |
babygirlfl: ***Screams wiff lafter!!!*** 1 Like |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by okoomoge2(m): 8:26am On Sep 13, 2015 |
This boils down to : 1. The lady lacks basic training of what is expected of a wife and mother 2. I will ascribe the bad manners to her mother 3. The lady is not physiologically ready for marriage 4. The lady does not understand the African culture 5. I am tempted to say she may not be Godly. What's happening between this young couple is the norm nowadays. Most lady don't know where equality gender stops, in your house your husband is the king and next to God. In the sight of God, your husband is more superior to your parent. You were actually created because of him ( this is deep not for the shallow minds). For the guy, you need to seek God's wisdom and patience. If your woman gives you no peace and happiness, your destiny start to derail. The only place on earth where a man is entilted to peace is in his home !!! You notice some men blossom after marriage, financially and all around, the secret the wife is the master key ! You notice some men start nosediving after marriage, the wife is unknowingly the culprit. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by ireneidiva(f): 8:27am On Sep 13, 2015 |
FolarinLondon:Childish write up. 2 Likes |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by chigoizie7(m): 8:27am On Sep 13, 2015 |
JayJustus: That same stoooooooooooopid african mentality saw u through as a child till u re all grown. Your mum did no look stupid when cooking for the whole family all through,she was not stupid for knowing that it was what she was meant to do. Keep looking upto those yeye oyibo celebrities that kept jumping from one marriage to the other because they have refused to follow the norms and values of the marriage society. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by freecocoa(f): 8:28am On Sep 13, 2015 |
pmc01:Insult us na, what are you waiting for? Luckily for you, I have a doctorate degree in that department as well. Buffoon. 1 Like |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by ireneidiva(f): 8:31am On Sep 13, 2015 |
DeeTus:Its this your mindset that will keep taking Africa backward. Lose your husband to another woman? Na today. All the women that cook for their husbands have not 'lost their husbands attention to another woman'? There is no hard rule in marriage my dear, whoever is available should do the available, its their home after all. |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 8:31am On Sep 13, 2015 |
OPUSDEI1:Many kisses to u my friend.... Perfect response.... NEVER START WHAT U CANNOT FINISH!!! Exactly what I wrote... They are both narrow minded and believe that they will CHANGE after marriage and adjust and everything will be fine... LESSON- never marry a person on the basis of trying to change him/her after marriage. Never do things u aren't willing to do forever just to impress a person... Marry a person who has thesame or similar views on marriage as u do... Why do these guys think that their relationship should be different after marriage? It's still a relationship. Only difference now is that u both signed a piece of paper and have to work hard to keep the relationship going like u did in the past. Why change then Why didn't they talk about it before marriage? I don't believe that u can love a person who is as arrogant as this man's wife! Jeez! She has no respect for him. And from what u have read here he respects her. It's a 50/50 affair and she isn't willing to give her all ... How can u tell the friend of ur husband " he did it before so why is he complaining now?" Where is this girls mother Cause her mom would cry if she knew this!!! The man should have known this about her from the beginning . He just thought he could change her or that after marriage she will resume. Lol... Please tell them that communication is key! They should talk long about this. And he should show her how it feels to be treated the way she treats him. Stop cooking and stop leaving snacks in the fridge. One question: does he go to he market/ super market alone to buy the food too? Lol |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Omotayor123(f): 8:37am On Sep 13, 2015 |
cyberdurable:English professor Oya correct me... |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 8:37am On Sep 13, 2015 |
DeeTus:Western culture? Not true. I mean they share the duties but mostly the woman cooks. Except on special occasions where the man gives the family a treat... My husband is German and we cook together. He cooks on Thursdays and I cook every other day. Even when he comes home earlier than I do! My sister in laws husband doesn't even know where the kitchen is. He has never cooked a meal except put the pizza In the oven when he's very hungry and she isn't back from work! She cooks every day ! Are they not foreigners?? Abeg, the simple truth is that women of these days are proud, irresponsible and do not want to do anything for anyone but themselves! Tell the guy to get her pregnant fast. She will cook when the cravings start. Hehe. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Nobody: 8:40am On Sep 13, 2015 |
ireneidiva: A mumu man is always swindled with being matured rhetoric while his life is being turned upside down. A smart man is always childish to lazy and irresponsible ladies like you. A smart man is always respected and adored by well brought lady. Pls, go to Church oooooooh cos i am preparing to leave home for Church any moment from now. Remain blessed. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by Guests: 8:45am On Sep 13, 2015 |
martyns303: The guy should fill the house with foodstuffs and start eating out everyday. When she goes complaining to others that he's starving her, then she'll explain what the foodstuffs are for. People dey sha. 2 Likes |
Re: His Newly Wedded Wife Won't Cook For Him by tobhex1(m): 8:45am On Sep 13, 2015 |
There's everything wrong with him cooking.If u go to ur brother's or uncle's house one day n u saw him cooking for his wife n d wife is either in d sitting room or her room doing nothing and neither she's sick..,what will u ask ur bro or uncle 1 Like 1 Share |
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