C2H5OH:

Lol abi wetin you say I talk? You think he getting it?

I missed the part where I am supposed to be your wife.

Rofl . . . . . Omo i think there might be a girl somewhere o
u call say u dey come home n 5hrs later  . . . nobody wey resemble u

stillwater:

I do that a lot too and what do I get continuous emotional torment . Yes, you have to compromise in marriage but not to the extent of being beaten black and blue emotionally. That's why I've decided not to keep my mouth shut.

You lot can call it nagging.

God bless u n me

Re: Why Naija Guys In The Diaspora Go Home To Marry
« #25 on: May 02, 2007, 06:18 PM »  

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i read what everyone said and most of you made sense, i agree with somebody. most girls in naija pretend, ya there are good ones but most of them are ashies, when you marry them and take them out of the country then you would see their true colors.

But you can't just say women who are abroad, don't make better wives, or that you can't find a good woman here, women are the same everywhere you go, i think its just because men want women that would be their slaves and not stand up to them, ultimately its all about control, they wouldn't want to be with a woman who would challenge their opinons when they feel it is wrong, girls abroad are more knowledgeable annd wouldn't want to be in a controlling relationship, because from experience, Naija men always want to excercise control over everything,(im 23 years old and my dad is still tryingto control my every move, even when im not in naija) as for me, if it ain't gonna be a 50:50 marriage, then why bother. Bible says 2 become one, not one controlling the other.

at the end im going to marry a naija man, who understands that a woman should matter too in a marriage, and her place is not always going to be in the kitchen, i didn't spend 6 years in college n getting a master's degree to become a full house wife eh. im lucky because my guy understands and respects that, i am a great cook, i clean and know how to take care of my man and family, and i am still a virgin, so don't tell me there are no good women abroad.




Those were ur words b4 u got married,guess most of the time wat we see in our men b4 we marry them are all illusions.A guy u thot respected n understood u has now turn to wat ?


I think u  should start prayin cos it is too early to complain.Dont think of hangin out with ur friends becos  the outcome might be very bad.Make God ur companion if ur hubby wont be.

Ewoooooooo . . . . . . See NL private investigator

Nler never disappoints

tope2000:

Gbam

@poster
I change my mind sef . . .go out n enjoy urself

i intend to from now on, if he wants space i will give him all the space he wants. cuz talking don't seem to work

Tope,   you know naija dude don't play with their food eh   haha. be ready to cook for Sauron o. no be the paint paint finger you will use to keep him at home. don't mind his pretence that he does not like food.

David, alright o. from ya mouth into God's ear, amen.

Ima1, well, listen to the expert here. since you don do food part,

*Hauwa*:

Tope, you know naija dude don't play with their food eh haha. be ready to cook for Sauron o. no be the paint paint finger you will use to keep him at home. don't mind his pretence that he does not like food.

Lmao
Well luckily for me sauron doesnt like naija foods

amosexy:

Re: Why Naija Guys In The Diaspora Go Home To Marry
« #25 on: May 02, 2007, 06:18 PM »  

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i read what everyone said and most of you made sense, i agree with somebody. most girls in naija pretend, ya there are good ones but most of them are ashies, when you marry them and take them out of the country then you would see their true colors.

But you can't just say women who are abroad, don't make better wives, or that you can't find a good woman here, women are the same everywhere you go, i think its just because men want women that would be their slaves and not stand up to them, ultimately its all about control, they wouldn't want to be with a woman who would challenge their opinons when they feel it is wrong, girls abroad are more knowledgeable annd wouldn't want to be in a controlling relationship, because from experience, Naija men always want to excercise control over everything,(im 23 years old and my dad is still tryingto control my every move, even when im not in naija) as for me, if it ain't gonna be a 50:50 marriage, then why bother. Bible says 2 become one, not one controlling the other.

at the end im going to marry a naija man, who understands that a woman should matter too in a marriage, and her place is not always going to be in the kitchen, i didn't spend 6 years in college n getting a master's degree to become a full house wife eh. im lucky because my guy understands and respects that, i am a great cook, i clean and know how to take care of my man and family, and i am still a virgin, so don't tell me there are no good women abroad.




Those were ur words b4 u got married,guess most of the time wat we see in our men b4 we marry them are all illusions.A guy u thot respected n understood u has now turn to wat ?


I think u  should start prayin cos it is too early to complain.Dont think of hangin out with ur friends becos  the outcome might be very bad.Make God ur companion if ur hubby wont be.

i have tried prayers and is still trying, but i am not gonna and tired be (of being) a submissive wife who, a man thinks he can take for-granted

Why do i have this feeling that your marriage was rushed as i think this feeling of resignation,rejection and dejection is too EARLY into the marriage.

3 years ONLy and all these  

Maybe you both need to see a counselor together.It is not as if it helps more than whatever you both agree on as per your marriage BUT then,may be he's gat a STORY as well.

kay_pumpin:

Why do i have this feeling that your marriage was rushed as i think this feeling of resignation,rejection and dejection is too EARLY into the marriage.

3 years ONLy and all these  

Maybe you both need to see a counselor together.It is not as if it helps more than whatever you both agree on as per your marriage BUT then,may be he's gat a STORY as well.

ya i agree he has his own side of the story, and no two person will have the same story, but one thing he will not deny is that i have been a good and supportive wife. one flaw is that i get pissed off easily over little things, but i am human.

counselor? naija guy? ummm

follow the tell tail signs o.

come to NL and have fun my sister

ima1:

ya i agree he has his own side of the story, and no two person will have the same story, but one thing he will not deny is that i have been a good and supportive wife. one flaw is that i get pissed off easily over little things, but i am human.

You blow a fuse easily and YET you do not nag? Seem almost impossible and i am sure one of your way of venting will be to either throw tantrums or become impregnable emotionally.

This seemingly little undoing of yours could be the SOLE reason he is going AWOL.

kay_pumpin:

You blow a fuse easily and YET you do not nag? Seem almost impossible and i am sure one of your way of venting will be to either throw tantrums or become impregnable emotionally.

This seemingly little undoing of yours could be the SOLE reason he is going AWOL.

weird but ya i an not a nag, i don't go throwing temper tantrums. me having a short fuse is being controlled which is why i ignore things cuz trust me i would not still be married to him. and one thing his dad told me is to be patient with him, which i have been, and my mum said never nag on a man, its one thing i would never want to do, which is why i choose to ignore and a way of keeping me from blowing up.

All these easily pissed off women - they are perpetually in moods. You'll be pissed off and acting up and the poor man will not even know what is wrong or what is going on.

You need to watch that weakness - it can make a man want to AVOID you because he doesn't know what he will do that will annoy you next.

Why is there talk of counselling so soon? Things don't go 'bad' so soon unless someone has been hiding stuff or someone has been in denial hoping that things would change. I am sure he used to wander off for hours without telling you before but you 'assumed' it would change after marriage but it hasn't.

Wish you the best and goodnight - my woman will smack me if I don't pay her IMMEDIATE attention.  

ima1:

ya i agree he has his own side of the story, and no two person will have the same story, but one thing he will not deny is that i have been a good and supportive wife. one flaw is that i get pissed off easily over little things, but i am human.

Honestly my heart really sore,readin all wat u r goin thru emotionally makes me feel marriage is no go area for me.I wished i could just spank ur husband bt still the only thing u can do now is seat him down and talk to him,ask him wer u go wrong,pour ur mind out, maybe u did something wrong and even if u dont,just talk to him. Men just like bringin out the beast in us. I must confess i'm really sad    .