Sunbellar:

Alas babysophie, don't you think masturbation is synonymous to homosexuality/lesbianism, just that you are person doing it on yourself. Moreover, I thought that it's boys that normally indulge in such illicit act!

Rili ? Ds masturbation issue rili got pipul talking. Many pipul masturbate,jst dt dey dnt come out to say it,bt does masturbation pass as homosexuality/lesbianism?

Macgreat:


This is serious.

It is! There is something very omnious about the way she said it. She said and I quote" His family will recieve his corpse prematurely" And then she added for emphasis"That is something I am certain about" This Op is pure evil and I maintain that the best option for the husband in question is to divorce her immediately before she kills him out of her murderous rage! Even the kids are not safe around her.

kinibigdeal:
Go to God not Nairaland

That is just the best thing to do. I resently came to a conclusion that for any marriage to work effectivefully, it must be 'trifocus' i.e God, you and your spouse.

babysophie:
Rili ? Ds masturbation issue rili got pipul talking. Many pipul masturbate,jst dt dey dnt come out to say it,bt does masturbation pass as homosexuality/lesbianism?

End time lady

dinachi:
End time lady

Primitive person.

dinachi:

It is! There is something very omnious about the way she said it. She said and I quote" His family will recieve his corpse prematurely" And then she added for emphasis"That is something I am certain about" This Op is pure evil and I maintain that the best option for the husband in question is to divorce her immediately before she kills him out of her murderous rage! Even the kids are not safe around her.

what?! this is detailed, shows how much she has thought about it. totally different from "I will kill him" or " I'll deal with him".

So, women love sex this much. *shocking!

babysophie:
Primitive person.

Beast of no nation. Handwork specialist!

babysophie:
Rili ? Ds masturbation issue rili got pipul talking. Many pipul masturbate,jst dt dey dnt come out to say it,bt does masturbation pass as homosexuality/lesbianism?

Hey babysophie, it's same thing nah, just that you are doing it yourself! I suggest you desist from it. It's better heterosexual rather homosexual/lesbianism/monosexual. I know you are matured enough to understand what I mean!

babysophie:
Primitive person.

Can you ignore distractions?

Sunbellar:
Can you ignore distractions?

Fnk u,joor.

dinachi:
I sympathise with your naivety! If you have ever been in love, it will be totally impossible for you to ever imagine hurting the object of your love let alone voicing it in a public forum. Take it from me, the Op is an evil woman who will not waste time in taking the husbands life if she as much as suspects he is cheating. I think the man is aware of her murderous insanity and that is why he stays as far away from her as possible to avoid being murdered in the night while he is asleep.

I wouldn't deign to engage in contumelies. It is way daft to assume and worse conclude that the OP is evil because of her statement. You failed to acknowledge that people differ and thus approach things differently. And that most men have killed women that jilted to marry another man.

Again, many people because of values see cheating as the apogee of betrayal by their partner , especially when they can't imagine themselves doing the cheating,hence can do anything to dish out a condign comeuppance. This woman is a paragon people in this category.

Hi55:
Hello nairalanders, I just wish I'll get a shoulder or two to cry on tonight. Things are becoming unbearable for me and I don't know how far I can walk on these shoes. Here's my story...


I am 28 and married to a 35yr old youngman whom I love so dearly. We are blessed with 2 kids and most material things one can pray for. My marriage is 5yrs with just minor issues that do come up once in a VERY LONG while.

The problem is that my hubby does not show me affection and hardly approaches me for sex. I am a very neat, beautiful, Godfearing, educated and classy lady. Most times I am the one who initiates intimacy in our marriage. My heart breaks each time I read or hear of women who deny their husbands sex because its an opposite in my case. For more than two months now we've not been intimate. To make matters worse, he prefers to sleep in the sitting room or children's room than in our matrimonial room.

He always pretends to be tired but not too tired to be chatting on whatsapp with friends. I have his password, that is not an issue. I am not suspecting anything even though I'm not totally ruling out the possibility of adultery. He comes back very late in the night unlike before. Infact even when he comes early these days, he will rather stay with friends within the street or house than come inside. Believe me nairalanders, we don't have issues. Infact he keeps saying that God blessed him with a wonderful woman. It's not like I make the house uncomfortable for him. The only communication we have these days is greetings, asking how the day went or few general topics.

I am not a woman who can't do without sex but I just need to be shown affection even if sex is not there. Committing adultery on my own part is IMPOSSIBLE, i will rather opt for divorce. I am so confused, lonely and heartbroken. I love my husband beyond the word LOVE. I just wish he can see the tears in my eyes as I lay lonely on our bed each night. I am very fragile by nature and gets hurt easily. Believe me...this is killing me.

Please, people drop a word or two for a hurting soul.

God! Why do you always give good wives to men who do not know the value of a good woman. Hear my cry O! Lord. Nothing but a virtous woman, I pray.

LastProphet:


there is a lot to learn from what i said if you have enough experience to contemplate it. every human feeling has highs and lows and there is no feeling that remains CONTINUOUSLY HIGH ALL THE TIME! Please that is the message hollywood tries to sell and am telling you and any married person of over 10years here will tell you that. Some mornings you will wake up and wish you never even married - go and ask anyone that has a reputation for hard truths. Why the OP is thinking she has an issue is because of expectations which are not real. In terms of sex I have bee tired of my partner long long ago please, but i will not exchange her for the hottest kim kardashian BECAUSE OF OTHER VALUES SHE HAS THAT KIM CAN NEVER MEASURE UP TO IN MY OWN LITTLE WORLD! So I expect a matured partner to understand it that the area of sex is on a normal decline and IT IS NORMAL!!!!!!

But please there are exceptions to this sha, there are men and women with very high libido that must sleep with their partner everyday from what i heard, infact if the partner isnt around they will still sleep with something sha, but please if any television show is tellinh you that that is normal and is what all couples do then you are welcome to disneyland

I agree with what you said about periods of lows and highs because it's real in marital life.However,it is not normal to stay away from intimacy for more than two months according to the Op while living in the same house and not showing affection (which does not necessarily mean intercourse).
I'm married too and even though sometimes you don't 'feel' this thing,you make a concious effort to keep the flame glowing except you don't really care about the woman you married.
Remember,they have just been married for 5yrs.

cold:

What good would that do? Would god start making him more hoŕny or what? Una do dey tire for this pray..pray thing. @op,you haven't too many options open to you. You can either take matters into your hands if you know what i mean,talk to him earnestly. Not like this would change much knowing how these things work. Try out new sexy and seductive lingerie. Don't be too churchy please with all the 'it's either missionary or nothing' thingy. Be ready to explore and try new things, in the bedroom of course. Well goodluck in your conjugal pursuit.

My brother I taya ooooo. Our problem in this part of the world is religion. Every thing is prayer. You are hungry your pastor will tell you go and pray. Instead of taking action we just lazy around in the name of prayer.

cold:

What good would that do? Would god start making him more hoŕny or what? Una do dey tire for this pray..pray thing. @op,you haven't too many options open to you. You can either take matters into your hands if you know what i mean,talk to him earnestly. Not like this would change much knowing how these things work. Try out new sexy and seductive lingerie. Don't be too churchy please with all the 'it's either missionary or nothing' thingy. Be ready to explore and try new things, in the bedroom of course. Well goodluck in your conjugal pursuit.

My brother I taya ooooo. Our problem in this part of the world is religion. Every thing is prayer. You are hungry your pastor will tell you go and pray. Instead of taking action we just lazy around in the name of prayer.

And to hear that such things happen to very decent girls make my heart melt.

SpeedyConnect:

I wouldn't deign to engage in contumelies. It is way daft to assume and worse conclude that the OP is evil because of her statement. You failed to acknowledge that people differ and thus approach things differently. And that most men have killed women that jilted to marry another man.

Again, many people because of values see cheating as the apogee of betrayal by their partner , especially when they can't imagine themselves doing the cheating,hence can do anything to dish out a condign comeuppance. This woman is a paragon people in this category.

Very clearly, you seem to have limitations in understanding. People like you thinks everything is harmless until a knife is protruding from your back! It is for the very same reasons that men and women have killed because of cheating that I aptly labelled the woman evil. And if you have ever truly loved, you cant ever think of killing your love. it is more daft not to read between the lines. Most wicked people do not go about announcing it but if you are careful enough to listen to what they say, you will get clues. Obviously you are completely clueless about this matter!

bidemilove89:

Well u may never understand one basic fact that, nothing happens ordinarily. Everything happening in the physical is being control from the spirit realm. It takes the enlightened mind to understand this.

Yeah the devil is holding down his eŕection in the spirit realm. It takes an enlightened mind to understand this indeed.

thorpido:
I agree with what you said about periods of lows and highs because it's real in marital life.However,it is not normal to stay away from intimacy for more than two months according to the Op while living in the same house and not showing affection (which does not necessarily mean intercourse).
I'm married too and even though sometimes you don't 'feel' this thing,you make a concious effort to keep the flame glowing except you don't really care about the woman you married.
Remember,they have just been married for 5yrs.

you have a valid point, I think more details are needed from the op to fully understand the husband

I BELIEVE YOU HOT HIM AND INSTEAD OF BEATING YOU, HE HAS TO PUNISH YOU THE OTHER WAY ROUND, I DONT KNOW WHAT YOU DO TO HIM THAT HOT HIM SO MUCH THAT WARRANT HIS ATTITUDE, ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS TO TABLE THE MISUNDERSTAND U HAVE AND BEG HIM. IF YOU DO THIS UR MARRIAGE WILL COME BACK TO THE SAME WAY IT WAS BEFORE .........................................

I can't read all the comments on this thread tonight. I am totally overwhelmed by the number of people who have stopped by whether positively or negatively. Thanks to you all.
The issue at hand seems sorted but its taking a different turn all to my advantage. Lol
I pulled an unbelievable stunt on him and if he recovers from this....he will NEVER mess with an innocent and virtous woman like me. I'm not trying to praise myself but the truth remains that I know who I am. Our kids are currently out of the house, staying with my sis inlaw. Will give details tomorrow.
Thanks to you all and I'm saying a big sorry to those who read deep meaning into the part that painted me as a violent person. Believe me, if you know me in real life you would have laughed for 3hrs over that statement. I'm married to a man who I love beyond the word LOVE. I will NEVER hurt him. May God never allow me nuture such thoughts even though I'm under a spell.

Hi55:
I can't read all the comments on this thread tonight. I am totally overwhelmed by the number of people who have stopped by whether positively or negatively. Thanks to you all.
The issue at hand seems sorted but its taking a different turn all to my advantage. Lol
I pulled an unbelievable stunt on him and if he recovers from this....he will NEVER mess with an innocent and virtous woman like me. I'm not trying to praise myself but the truth remains that I know who I am. Our kids are currently out of the house, staying with my sis inlaw. Will give details tomorrow.
Thanks to you all and I'm saying a big sorry to those who read deep meaning into the part that painted me as a violent person. Believe me, if you know me in real life you would have laughed for 3hrs over that statement. I'm married to a man who I love beyond the word LOVE. I will NEVER hurt him. May God never allow me nuture such thoughts even though I'm under a spell.

Hehehehe hope this ends well...

[quote author=delors post=39154354][/quote] nop man. Jst realizd my mistakes now. Bt hope u undrstnd wat i meant to write?

tivta:
Most women don't know what they want, thanks to estrogen.

bro d tin tire me o

Generally many men like sex and want it often
There are very few exceptions of men like your husband who do not like sex or want much less of it
You have married him and you must take it as a Cross. Crosses in marriage come in varying dimensions

I advise that you encourage him to have sex through showing love and affection, not murmuring and grumbling which may make him withdraw further from it.

May be he has had excessive exposure to sex in his younger years before he got married. For example,if a young man starts having sex by age 18 and has regular sex for about 15 years, he has burned and wasted much of his energies before marriage.Such may not have much interest in sex in marriage, or may have, but may be limited to one act in a week or two while the wife may want sex much more.

Generally, many wives want much less sex though U are passionate about it and want it often. Sexual friction is common in many marriages where a spouse wants more but the other wants less. Discuss with him and do not allow sexual disequilibrium to be the cause of breakdown in the marriage.

Wow. the fk do u have to be so rude for? What did u gain by saying that to her? Does it make u feel happy or better about urself? Smdh ,effin assho le

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