Hi55:
Hello nairalanders, I just wish I'll get a shoulder or two to cry on tonight. Things are becoming unbearable for me and I don't know how far I can walk on these shoes. Here's my story...


I am 28 and married to a 35yr old youngman whom I love so dearly. We are blessed with 2 kids and most material things one can pray for. My marriage is 5yrs with just minor issues that do come up once in a VERY LONG while.

The problem is that my hubby does not show me affection and hardly approaches me for sex. I am a very neat, beautiful, Godfearing, educated and classy lady. Most times I am the one who initiates intimacy in our marriage. My heart breaks each time I read or hear of women who deny their husbands sex because its an opposite in my case. For more than two months now we've not been intimate. To make matters worse, he prefers to sleep in the sitting room or children's room than in our matrimonial room.

He always pretends to be tired but not too tired to be chatting on whatsapp with friends. I have his password, that is not an issue. I am not suspecting anything even though I'm not totally ruling out the possibility of adultery. He comes back very late in the night unlike before. Infact even when he comes early these days, he will rather stay with friends within the street or house than come inside. Believe me nairalanders, we don't have issues. Infact he keeps saying that God blessed him with a wonderful woman. It's not like I make the house uncomfortable for him. The only communication we have these days is greetings, asking how the day went or few general topics.

I am not a woman who can't do without sex but I just need to be shown affection even if sex is not there. Committing adultery on my own part is IMPOSSIBLE, i will rather opt for divorce. I am so confused, lonely and heartbroken. I love my husband beyond the word LOVE. I just wish he can see the tears in my eyes as I lay lonely on our bed each night. I am very fragile by nature and gets hurt easily. Believe me...this is killing me.

Please, people drop a word or two for a hurting soul.

daretodiffer:


We all know who is demented on this forum

Whatever happened to you

ebakhaiyhe:
Like the popular opinion so far, I join others to request that you disscussion with him and let him know your feeling. However, look out for That particular time when he is very excited, preferably about your person, then move in slowly and wisely and bring him to your world.

I trust that God willing, this would work. If it fails, you both need to see a counsellor. I trust God to lead you to one. Cheer up, God will help you build your home

dinachi:

Just shut your rotten hole! We all know who is supporting murderers on this forum.

daretodiffer:

Was it mummy?

kinibigdeal:
Go to God not Nairaland

dinachi:

Was it your daddy?

Hi55:
Hello nairalanders, I just wish I'll get a shoulder or two to cry on tonight. Things are becoming unbearable for me and I don't know how far I can walk on these shoes. Here's my story...


I am 28 and married to a 35yr old youngman whom I love so dearly. We are blessed with 2 kids and most material things one can pray for. My marriage is 5yrs with just minor issues that do come up once in a VERY LONG while.

The problem is that my hubby does not show me affection and hardly approaches me for sex. I am a very neat, beautiful, Godfearing, educated and classy lady. Most times I am the one who initiates intimacy in our marriage. My heart breaks each time I read or hear of women who deny their husbands sex because its an opposite in my case. For more than two months now we've not been intimate. To make matters worse, he prefers to sleep in the sitting room or children's room than in our matrimonial room.

He always pretends to be tired but not too tired to be chatting on whatsapp with friends. I have his password, that is not an issue. I am not suspecting anything even though I'm not totally ruling out the possibility of adultery. He comes back very late in the night unlike before. Infact even when he comes early these days, he will rather stay with friends within the street or house than come inside. Believe me nairalanders, we don't have issues. Infact he keeps saying that God blessed him with a wonderful woman. It's not like I make the house uncomfortable for him. The only communication we have these days is greetings, asking how the day went or few general topics.

I am not a woman who can't do without sex but I just need to be shown affection even if sex is not there. Committing adultery on my own part is IMPOSSIBLE, i will rather opt for divorce. I am so confused, lonely and heartbroken. I love my husband beyond the word LOVE. I just wish he can see the tears in my eyes as I lay lonely on our bed each night. I am very fragile by nature and gets hurt easily. Believe me...this is killing me.

Please, people drop a word or two for a hurting soul.

Artistree:

Na you know wetin you dey think...I know how they started cos we were all colleagues in the same office and the guy was my direct line supervisor, who tells me everything. I have NEVER interfered in their marital issues rather I try to ask him what exactly the lady does that upsets him and makes him stay away from her, he says she's perfect but he just can't love her as he should.
She is financially independent of him and I can tell you, she is extremely obedient to him. He doesn't respect her at all and would deliberately stay out late when he closes from work. I told him that if he knew he would treat the lady this poorly, he shouldn't have married her cos he gets his kicks outside and rhe poor woman can't do anything silly...I feel for her cos she doesn't deserve the cold treatment.

Artistree:

Na you know wetin you dey think...I know how they started cos we were all colleagues in the same office and the guy was my direct line supervisor, who tells me everything. I have NEVER interfered in their marital issues rather I try to ask him what exactly the lady does that upsets him and makes him stay away from her, he says she's perfect but he just can't love her as he should.
She is financially independent of him and I can tell you, she is extremely obedient to him. He doesn't respect her at all and would deliberately stay out late when he closes from work. I told him that if he knew he would treat the lady this poorly, he shouldn't have married her cos he gets his kicks outside and rhe poor woman can't do anything silly...I feel for her cos she doesn't deserve the cold treatment.

Hi55:
Hello nairalanders, I just wish I'll get a shoulder or two to cry on tonight. Things are becoming unbearable for me and I don't know how far I can walk on these shoes. Here's my story...


I am 28 and married to a 35yr old youngman whom I love so dearly. We are blessed with 2 kids and most material things one can pray for. My marriage is 5yrs with just minor issues that do come up once in a VERY LONG while.

The problem is that my hubby does not show me affection and hardly approaches me for sex. I am a very neat, beautiful, Godfearing, educated and classy lady. Most times I am the one who initiates intimacy in our marriage. My heart breaks each time I read or hear of women who deny their husbands sex because its an opposite in my case. For more than two months now we've not been intimate. To make matters worse, he prefers to sleep in the sitting room or children's room than in our matrimonial room.

He always pretends to be tired but not too tired to be chatting on whatsapp with friends. I have his password, that is not an issue. I am not suspecting anything even though I'm not totally ruling out the possibility of adultery. He comes back very late in the night unlike before. Infact even when he comes early these days, he will rather stay with friends within the street or house than come inside. Believe me nairalanders, we don't have issues. Infact he keeps saying that God blessed him with a wonderful woman. It's not like I make the house uncomfortable for him. The only communication we have these days is greetings, asking how the day went or few general topics.

I am not a woman who can't do without sex but I just need to be shown affection even if sex is not there. Committing adultery on my own part is IMPOSSIBLE, i will rather opt for divorce. I am so confused, lonely and heartbroken. I love my husband beyond the word LOVE. I just wish he can see the tears in my eyes as I lay lonely on our bed each night. I am very fragile by nature and gets hurt easily. Believe me...this is killing me.

Please, people drop a word or two for a hurting soul.

kinibigdeal:
Go to God not Nairaland

Arisha:
I feel you and totally understand where ur coming from as iam in ur shoes right now but we're newly married and don't have kids yet its just been two months but feels like we've been married for 10 years and already lost interest in eachother where it should be opposite,first he started coming home from work late and when he gets back from work he's off to the gym then after to his friends \collegues apartment and stays there late and by the time he's home he's too tired and goes to bed . I feel like he wasn't ready for marriage and lives like he's still single and the worst when its weekend he goes to a road trip with his friends and I am at home all alone for hours .I still didn't talk to him although I want to but because we just got married I want to see how long until he realizes I sometimes show him that iam upset but he turns to be the nicest most adorable person there on earth that's breathing and I can't bring it up but he doesn't understand that the loneliness is killing me

daretodiffer:

I will remember you in my prayers

Artistree:
This story is a replica of a couple I know...Well, their marriage is 4 years old, she is 28 and the guy is 36, they have two kids and are materially ok too. She is neat, independent, pretty, educated and all, but the husband wouldn't touch her for any reason.
I wonder if it's the same couple but the guy I know in real life doesn't have friends on his street that he hangs out with and yes, he never touches his wife until he wants them to have a baby. He says he tries to love his wife but simply can't, even though she is the best thing to have happened to him. They don't quarrel and she is very obedient but they live as siblings and the wife tells him dat quite often.
At some point I was thinking it's because she made the move on him and all that, but seriously the lady doesn't deserve the kind of treatment her husband gives her.
I know both of them personally before they got married but the guy is more of my friend than the lady...wat a coincidence of story!

all4naija:

Where are you at? You should start seeking for help before it is too late. Some men can be crazy and pretend to be 'adorable'.

Arisha:



We live in small town and we're new here I tried talking to my sisters or u could say seeking help cuz we're really close to eachother and my eldest said to give him a taste of his own medication like make girl friends around the area and leave the house go out for shopping while he's at home nd be busy the whole time until he feels it . to be honest m just abt to do that but m gonna give it a time if he doesn't realize what he's putting me thru m gonna answer it with his own actions

dinachi:

Very thoughtful of you but you know you need prayers much more than i do!

Arisha:
I've tried everything but even when he sees m upset by his action he doesn't ask like why just right into pampering me or coming home with flowers and gifts so I don't have a chance of sitting him down and talk

Ertekazee:
Thanks for bringing back fond memories of one of my favourite artistes Jide Obi. But you're a very funny man, to criticise this woman for being a "BLOKOS" lover. June Obi

123papas:
I stopped being intimate with you when I discovered what you did with ur exboyfriend

Ab025:
@poster...

... Cos u ladies can be funny atimes, we just heard ur version of events now but you didn't tell us what u did to make him start treating u like this all of a sudden??