@op even as much as you got a point in some of what you said I don't think it all stands entirely true,atleast not for everyone ,I have seen n heard of many LDR dat went south and also a lot that worked so you see its realy more based on the level of trust and understanding and most especialy the love asin true love (not the I love you talk your own kinda love)bt tru love that exist between d two.and honestly speaking there are more possibilities of couples cheating on themselves in a short distance relatnship than in a long one and that's facts I know its more painful to be betrayed by someone you feel is "close" and you thought you knew and could trust because you see each other everysecond than someone far away from you physically...my opinion sha

It's possible that distance relationship can lead to cheat on both side, but the truth is if there's true love, maturity determination, the partners will stand out...and i mean 'true love'

Cutehector:
lol whr do u think I am?

Lagos?

blessedly:

Lagos?

sure. Besides if u hav my whatsapp number, u can text me thr..

Cutehector:
sure. Besides if u hav my whatsapp number, u can text me thr..

in my older phone which is blank now.. can I have it again please?

blessedly:

in my older phone which is blank now.. can I have it again please?

send me a pm pls, I"d reply wit ma digits

Rapmoney:
Have you ever dipped your fingers in a pot of Melon Soup (Egusi) without heating or getting it refrigerated? The next day, be sure that your soup will become sour!!! This is possibly what could become of your relationship and emotional feelings when 'distance' is involved, especially, when this 'distance' is not handled with enough maturity!

I personally think it is basically foolish trying to maintain distant relationships when the two persons involve do no wish to get married or are not ready to settle down as husband and wife within the shortest possible time! If your girlfriend lives in Uyo and you live in Akure, the burden and regular emotional pains that distant relationships bring could be better tamed if both of you would be tying the knot as soon as possible. On the other hand, in a situation where both of you are still confused on the future of the relationship or there are no serious plans for marriage on ground, you could both be deceiving yourselves while living in constant emotional torture!!!

'Love', no matter how fake it is, grows when the persons that are involved are physically present with each other to ignite the ingredients of romance in the relationship. When romance leaves through the door in a relationship, affection, care and attention are definitely going to leave through the windows! 'Love' would become a mirage and relationship would be recklessly abandoned and forgotten!

As partners, doing things together such as going to the cinema, shopping, strolling and holding hands in the park, watching movies together at home, cracking jokes and seeing the smiles on the faces of each other go a long way in boosting romance . On the contrary, these things are not present in distant affairs! Relationship needs physical body contact, if truth be told. That's the easiest way to reduce unnecessary tension, jealousy, accusations and counter-accusations, constant cheating and lying and all other funny things that go along with distant affairs!!!

In this world that we live in, where materialism and sex are fast becoming the foundations of most relationships, you should sincerely think about it...whether the one you romantically call 'your love' is fervently sincere with you too . I mean, phone calls and chats are just so boring and useless without physical contact!!!

I am not a misogynist and has never been but experiences and observations have clearly shown that ladies cheat more in distant relationships because they are more prone to romantic pressures from other men; some may be carried away by materialism and the pressure to have sex!!! This explains why you may be in Warri, happy that you have a loving girlfriend that lives in Lagos, not knowing that one sharp banker with slick tongue and posh car is banging her in and out! In no time, her care and attention for you would decrease; she would call and text lesser and discussions on phone would become so boring! You should know it is almost coming to an end! . If you don't have any plans of getting married soonest, don't waste your time on distant affairs! I would even suggest you use the money you spend on regular, boring and long phone calls on online betting because you cold be wasting your resources on a girl someone else is 'eating'

Distant relationship is full of pains, lies, emotional trauma, unnecessary troubles, jealousy and fear all occassioned by lack of physical presence!

21 gun salute for the op...so on point especially the online betting part...lol...think of it u can win big too.#Isgrafiti

prettythicksme:
Distance relationship rock i am used to it&i will never cheat on my boo even tho i do giv him go ahead to fuvk !!!It's a matter of understanding&trust!

Like seriously? U give him go ahead..damn u should be my galfriend.#Isgrafiti

prettythicksme:
bla bla bla bla point out where i told u i dont watch porn i do very well but i dont masturbate!!

Everybody that watches porn masturbates and u know this#Isgrafiti

djgrafiti:
Like seriously? U give him go ahead..damn u should be my galfriend.#Isgrafiti

lol

I do not know how to respond to this. I have been in a LDR for 13 months. In all honesty, it has not been smooth. I agree physical contact enhances the relationship but also it builds other very important aspects as well. I am with someone I trust completely, and I am sure he feels the same. The trust has been built to a very high standard. Also, I have learnt to be more self-controlled which is a great thing in the society we are today. I can say whole heartedly I have not cheated. This has also helped us both build our lives individually without being solely dependent on each other. I sincerely believe any relationship at all just depends on the two people involved and how far they can go for what they believe. I think if your relationship cannot stand a little bit of distance and depends solely on physical contact, then its a red flag. I might be wrong but I feel both people involved and the commitments they make is all that matters.

suzzy16:
Dog,ur father

Bitch n ur mother..anoda bitch lmfao

i rather go to sleep than to comment on this.. only using Akure and Uyo as case study when men are uptown leaving their girl friends down home.

Practising long distance relationships is most times a big risk. I think i av practised one b4 and God b my witnesa i neva cheated even though d temptation was there but d experience was terrible. poor me i was warned but i refused to quit despite seeing d clear hand writting. my advice though is it takes d grace of God for such to work. Im strongly of d opinion that u shud neva b in a relationship wth someone who doesnt av common goals,aims nd ambitions. i.e. marriage

there are 30% assurance LDR wprks out. most times it results to breakup.

Judie7654:
I do not know how to respond to this. I have been in a LDR for 13 months. In all honesty, it has not been smooth. I agree physical contact enhances the relationship but also it builds other very important aspects as well. I am with someone I trust completely, and I am sure he feels the same. The trust has been built to a very high standard. Also, I have learnt to be more self-controlled which is a great thing in the society we are today. I can say whole heartedly I have not cheated. This has also helped us both build our lives individually without being solely dependent on each other. I sincerely believe any relationship at all just depends on the two people involved and how far they can go for what they believe. I think if your relationship cannot stand a little bit of distance and depends solely on physical contact, then its a red flag. I might be wrong but I feel both people involved and the commitments they make is all that matters.

Wise comment from a wise girl. I want you to keep that belief in your relationship strong. It will surely work out once that TRUST is firm. It's a funny reality that what one strongly believes works for the person. The moment you start losing trust on a partner is the exact moment the relationship starts failing. These stories we hear of those cheating and all the rubbish are there to destroy the belief and trust in our r/ships which is the main thing. The people who tell these stories are those who have already lost trust in their r/ships or possibly cheated on sm1 previously and are reaping their fruit. Hold on strongly to the trust dear.

Rapmoney:
Don't expect me to provide an answer to such worthless question.

U don't av sense. U sed in a LDR d guy will be asking "wat av u eaten?" so its in a SDR u don't ask abi? Or u live togeda under same roof with ur gf or u feel cos u live on same street with ur gf doesn't mean she won't travel and cheat on ur ass with a guy in anoda state? Uve got deep issues bro...mature up! Wat happens wen u marry and u need to take a two weeks or months biz trip? U divorce or wat?

Rapmoney:
Have you ever dipped your fingers in a pot of Melon Soup (Egusi) without heating or getting it refrigerated? The next day, be sure that your soup will become sour!!! This is possibly what could become of your relationship and emotional feelings when 'distance' is involved, especially, when this 'distance' is not handled with enough maturity!

I personally think it is basically foolish trying to maintain distant relationships when the two persons involve do no wish to get married or are not ready to settle down as husband and wife within the shortest possible time! If your girlfriend lives in Uyo and you live in Akure, the burden and regular emotional pains that distant relationships bring could be better tamed if both of you would be tying the knot as soon as possible. On the other hand, in a situation where both of you are still confused on the future of the relationship or there are no serious plans for marriage on ground, you could both be deceiving yourselves while living in constant emotional torture!!!

'Love', no matter how fake it is, grows when the persons that are involved are physically present with each other to ignite the ingredients of romance in the relationship. When romance leaves through the door in a relationship, affection, care and attention are definitely going to leave through the windows! 'Love' would become a mirage and relationship would be recklessly abandoned and forgotten!

As partners, doing things together such as going to the cinema, shopping, strolling and holding hands in the park, watching movies together at home, cracking jokes and seeing the smiles on the faces of each other go a long way in boosting romance . On the contrary, these things are not present in distant affairs! Relationship needs physical body contact, if truth be told. That's the easiest way to reduce unnecessary tension, jealousy, accusations and counter-accusations, constant cheating and lying and all other funny things that go along with distant affairs!!!

In this world that we live in, where materialism and sex are fast becoming the foundations of most relationships, you should sincerely think about it...whether the one you romantically call 'your love' is fervently sincere with you too . I mean, phone calls and chats are just so boring and useless without physical contact!!!

I am not a misogynist and has never been but experiences and observations have clearly shown that ladies cheat more in distant relationships because they are more prone to romantic pressures from other men; some may be carried away by materialism and the pressure to have sex!!! This explains why you may be in Warri, happy that you have a loving girlfriend that lives in Lagos, not knowing that one sharp banker with slick tongue and posh car is banging her in and out! In no time, her care and attention for you would decrease; she would call and text lesser and discussions on phone would become so boring! You should know it is almost coming to an end! . If you don't have any plans of getting married soonest, don't waste your time on distant affairs! I would even suggest you use the money you spend on regular, boring and long phone calls on online betting because you cold be wasting your resources on a girl someone else is 'eating'

Distant relationship is full of pains, lies, emotional trauma, unnecessary troubles, jealousy and fear all occassioned by lack of physical presence!

#FACT#. at one point in our lives we will definitely find ourself in a "long" distance relatnship even if its just 3days of absence, due 2 business, school, family issues, etc. U cant be with ur bae all d time. So OP u will still be a victim of d situation weda u lyk it or not.some gals r so cheap dey can meet a guy 2day n give him "kpomo" 2moro, and dat same guy might just be in town for just a few days while his main chic is waiting 4 him in anoda state. so u see my guy, who wan cheat go cheat. Period!

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Nina4u:
Its not nesseserly true ...although i been there done that it ran out in the sand ..however i met someone new..but .there has to b trust ...and ofcause make plans to see eachother as soon as possible ...and making plans ..it can work ..but u gotto trust eachother ..and comunicate ...for me is a big issue because he got fans ... Preformans ...can i handle that? I voiced my fears and he has put me to e.

are u guys married now?