otiigba1:
Agreed. children needs both parent, i must add some single mothers are either in denial or living in some fairy tale land that they can do it without a male role model/father figure for their kids. Its never the same without a man. My opinion anyway, you are welcomed to disagree

Will they kill themselves. No doubt God created both father n mother for balance but where u find men reneging on their duties nko? A full grown man will abandon his wife n kids and take off, some even deny the child esply those conceived outside marriage. So in these situations what should the woman do? Go around looking for father figure? If the woman has a man coming around she's termed a harlot. I don't think there's any woman that prefers single parenthood to both parenthood. Abeg view life in a wider prism

The more reason parents need to be more of parents than strictly providers, relying on cheap labour to do the parenting for them.

Our society has been destroyed because
Father is busy
Mother is busy

So, house helps and televisions train the children.

I dont care whose ox is gored.

I insisted I cant go out to hustle and my wife will also go out
Then we end up "losing" the children who we are supposed to be hustling for.

Men, it is your God given responsibility to provide for your family.
You dont have any excuse.

You don't have a job?

That is not acceptable.

Think and create a job for yourself.

It is as simple as that.

raayah:


What's your opinion about single fathers?
Its very sexist placing blame to women when we have men walking away from their families and leaving their children behind. A man will decide to impregnate a woman and leave her to cater for herself and kids . Yet, the society won't let women who have decided to pick up the slack left by these irresponsible men REST. Behind every single mother there is an IRRESPONSIBLE AND ABSENTEE FATHER. Why can't men decide to raise their kids , since they want a child with a male role model so badly.

I apologize for my rant but the sexist talk on nairaland gets to me a lot. A lot of men who have no idea about women and the oppression they face in Nigeria just come to nairaland and talk off hand.

my sister d sexist talks also gets to me. My sister had to lv her abusive and violent husband. He wont only abuse her but d kids also. He wuld slap, kick and fling d little ones at the slightest provocation. He wuld refuse to pay schl fees or medical bills just to upset and punish my sis cos she wasnt workin and he knew ds alwayz made her frantic, i guess it was part of his emotional control over her cos she had to alwayz cry and beg for d money. She finally got d courage to leave. Now she has a good job and the kids are better taken care of, they are happier than we remembered them, I remember they used to just sit around sad, moping and dint talk much then. As sad as it sounds, in my opinion, dose kids are having a better life without their father. I know dis is an isolated case but there are so many similar situations where one of d parent had to like u said, 'pick up d slack left by the other'. At the end of the day, even though i personally agree that both parents in a childs life is the best, the fact remains that its very possible for a single parent, most especially a single mother to successfully bring up emotionally balanced and well behaved kids.

I DONT BLAME THE GIRLS. I BLAME THE PERVERT THAT HAD TIME TO SILENTLY VIDEO THE CLIP WITHOUT A NOISE

Dyt:
I just saw the vid
That house help is evil



I am a career woman
I drop my son off in the morning
And makes sure we see, talk, play gist laugh every evening


Some people are just devilish
I will surely almost murder someone

You career woman !
For nairaland Abi nah for wia...20thousand post.....if I be your husband I go divorce you ...

You be jobless woman

edwife:
Very terrible and disgusting,jeez!

I hope after the person behind the camera finished filming her,they dealt with her accordingly.

I hate nannies,never had one.

If I catch a nanny like that, I just pray she is maneagable small. I will keep on black mailing her with the video. I will Bleep the hell out of her. I will make her scream lucifer! That will teach her diick is sweeter. If she no agree to my terms, then I will show the world what she has bin doing with the kid.

edwife:
Very terrible and disgusting,jeez!

I hope after the person behind the camera finished filming her,they dealt with her accordingly.

I hate nannies,never had one.

If I catch a nanny like that, I just pray she is maneagable small. I will keep on black mailing her with the video. I will Bleep the hell out of her. I will make her scream lucifer! That will teach her diick is sweeter. If she no agree to my terms, then I will show the world what she has bin doing with the kid.

She's a true mother ..check out that other young lady with 8 sisters

To be candid. I have nieces and nephew and when any idiot treat them like crab I can kill you for such acts.....

Once caught my neighbor nanny slapping the kid she was ought to Cather for ....I made sure I slapped hell out of her.....she quits the job and till date that boy loves me more than some of his uncles....
I was once a kid and have felt physical and verbal abuses a lot. Its painful and hurtful.....

klbakare:


If I catch a nanny like that, I just pray she is maneagable small. I will keep on black mailing her with the video. I will Bleep the hell out of her. I will make her scream lucifer! That will teach her diick is sweeter. If she no agree to my terms, then I will show the world what she has bin doing with the kid.

If I catch a nanny like that, I just pray she is maneagable small. I will keep on black mailing her with the video. I will Bleep the hell out of her. I will make her scream lucifer! That will teach her diick is sweeter. If she no agree to my terms, then I will show the world what she has bin doing with the kid.

You comment shows you re just like her abuser of kids.. So if she stress to your terms you will cover such evil acts Abi


I wish I know you in person wem am through with yoi even the Lucifer you mention will be angry snd happy at same time ......


Geroit

Lobolintin:




You career woman !
For nairaland Abi nah for wia...20thousand post.....if I be your husband I go divorce you ...

You be jobless woman

Why you mad

@jackeeh.... I need de video, how do i get/download it

California30:


Shut up.
You need to masturbate to it ??

I guess u re too shortsighted....... need to show d video to a career crazy cousin of mine who is determined to spend less and less time with her kids and husband....so grow up dude

pitchperfect:

I guess u re too shortsighted....... need to show d video to a career crazy cousin of mine who is determined to spend less and less time with her kids and husband....so grow up dude

Tell her to go watch some porn online if her husband can't satisfy her.

Arcamax:


Not isolated my sister. In my line of work I've seen it all. Just install covert cameras in your home and login from your mobile phone at intervals and you'd be shocked by what goes on in your home in your abscence, especially when nobody knows you have any form of surveillance systems at all. The occurrence of these abuse cases are rampant, many are just not reported or detected. From Nanny, to Abo.ki gateman, to relatives, to fellow kids/playmates and in few cases, incestuous siblings.

It is also best for mothers to bathe their kids themselves before sending them off to bed. It allows you some bonding time and good observation priviledges to detect early if something is wrong. Some just ask the househelp to do it most of the time and are oblivious of what transpires before and after.

My experience is very different.

I saw the video on face book,I couldn't stop crying for the little girl,just couldn't console myself,imagining what she must done to the poor litle girl,inserting different things into her or even invinting her peadofile friends to participate in the abuse of this poor litle kid.Security forces can catch the bitch if they want to,before she destroys the life of the child.l have been campaining for the arrest of the culpit and I hope they get her.
Adeyinka Akinwande

Dyt:


Why you mad

You still dey Insult me out Abi....
I can see you dey smoke SK career woman indeed

This is the kind of society we live in now...nobody wants to be responsible noone wants to be blamed.i remember growing up there was a deep sense of responsibility to being a parent...and parents esp mothers took it very seriously becos u see weda u lyk it or not d truth is if ur child fails or succeeds U ARE RESPONSIBLE and u wld account b4 God. This was d badge our parents wore and for this reason dey sacrificed their tym basically deir whole lives.
Now parents want to be comfortable, u want to keep ur life the way it was b4 dos kids, u want to keep that busy job dat gives u absolutely no tym for dat child d uncomfortable truth is wen u hv a child ur life can't remain d way it was if u want dat child 2 turn out rite U must make sacrifices, put all ur effort in2 grooming dat child...becos u see U r responsible for that life.
Ofcos u can't follow a child around but it's nt an excuse d oda day a frient told me she got a maid frm an okada man in her area!!!imagine u get a maid u dnt even watch d person u jst entrust d child to dat person...esp wen u knw d tyms we live in nw is evil filled with evil pple everywhere... there is no excuse pls! If ur child fails u r responsible one way or d oda u failed dat child it's jst d uncomfortable truth!

Hey, that was harsh and severely unfair to my gender.

Present day Naija makes it extremely hard for only one spouse or parent to handle all the expenses and bills that come with raising a family so women have to go out to work.

You just reminded of an argument I once had with my brother in law. When I was at University some cultists were expelled from my school one of them was a family friend (Tony)

My brother in law kept blaming Tony's parents insisting that Tony ended up the way he did because his parents didn't train/raise him well. Meanwhile he never lived with this family for one day to know this and had no basis for his assertions.

I asked my BIL if Tony's parents were supposed to leave their place of work, put their lives on hold and camp with us in school (on campus) just to monitor & supervise Tony.

My point - Parents do their best for their children but they can't be every where all the time or be with their children all the time. Only the Blessed Trinity can do that.

We live in an evil world sometimes misfortunes befall us and children suffer in the process and they suffer not necessarily because parents are negligent but because there are folks with twisted & evil minds.

I know parents do their best because I have nephews & nieces and I am like a LIONESS when it comes to them because they are blood, so imagine what lengths I would go to if I carry a foetus in my womb for nine months and successfully birth it.

Lioness will not even be a fit & proper description for me regarding the scenario above (if I have a child) Please cut parents some slack especially we women.

If we don't work to support you, you call us lazy and entitled. We work to support you and we are called arrogant, idiotic, career women. Haba

lilmax:
And when she starts practicing it, then they will come up with "lesbianism is normal and natural "

Nanny? I don't blame her I blame the idiotic mother aka career woman, smh

Idiotic career woman indeed!!!

Dyt:


No one can give a full protection
I was only referring to the career path
Its known that career women don't have time for home or anything
Just to say I have all the time for my family
I create time for talks
Gists
Tell me what happened
If you free with your kids, they will tell you everything
All they need is love
He never fails to tell me even if anyone looks at his totoyo
If they hit his bum, he will say
He's a talkative
I groomed him to tell me anything and everything
I can't say with all these he can't still be
But God so forbid

I like this. Most parents instil fear into the kids thinking they would come out strong, disciplined and respectful. I see this as the beginning of a chaotic society. Parents need to know that fear isn't respect, and that the only way to train up a mentally sound child is through love, in a relaxed atmosphere and environment. I don't know if poverty has a hand in that though.

Hey, that was harsh and severely unfair to my gender.

Present day Naija makes it extremely hard for only one spouse or parent to handle all the expenses and bills that come with raising a family so women have to go out to work.

You just reminded of an argument I once had with my brother in law. When I was at University some cultists were expelled from my school one of them was a family friend (Tony)

My brother in law kept blaming Tony's parents insisting that Tony ended up the way he did because his parents didn't train/raise him well. Meanwhile he never lived with this family for one day to know this and had no basis for his assertions.

I asked my BIL if Tony's parents were supposed to leave their place of work, put their lives on hold and camp with us in school (on campus) just to monitor & supervise Tony.

My point - Parents do their best for their children but they can't be every where all the time or be with their children all the time. Only the Blessed Trinity can do that.

We live in an evil world sometimes misfortunes befall us and children suffer in the process and they suffer not necessarily because parents are negligent but because there are folks with twisted & evil minds.

I know parents do their best because I have nephews & nieces and I am like a LIONESS when it comes to them because they are blood, so imagine what lengths I would go to if I carry a foetus in my womb for nine months and successfully birth it.

Lioness will not even be a fit & proper description for me regarding the scenario above (if I have a child) Please cut parents some slack especially we women.

If we don't work to support you, you call us lazy and entitled. We work to support you and we are called arrogant, idiotic, career women. Haba

Give me hug I actually liked the comment u mentioned but I love your view.

So the pervert rather record this and post it on the Internet instead of actually beating the shyt out of the maid and taking her to the station? Ok na. That whole place is full of perverted individuals and paedophiles.



Where is the child's FATHER

who do we blame the parents the society the nanny we do not know the condition of the father or the mother of that small girl so how can this situation be judged the problem is what is the solution to avoid this type of occurrence in future in Nigerian society hard no solution for now may be in future with the help of good Nigerian leaders

I just saw the video.

The person who recorded this can't do anything about it cos he captured this from a very long distance. All thanks to a cool smartfone.

Now to the lady caught in the act, it wasn't there compound, it was just one corner somewhere. She might necessarily not be her nanny, she might even be her teacher or a friend to the parent or a neighbour that was sent to go pick her up from school.

She is actually on her school uniform.

She will definitely do this again and the same venue...

Konji na bastard sha

edwife:


We leave together,we comeback together.No nanny needed. Afterschool club,meaning they stay in school till 6 pm.They are well monitored and cctv around the clock. I think nigerian schools should start creating those.

Your kids stay in school till 6pm?? That is wickedness.
6am - 6pm - 12 hours away from the house, same uniform, same socks, same shoes, same pants. Na wa o.

Jackeeh:
Below are screenshots from a video I just came across . I don't know how current it is and I'm unable to upload the video here on nairaland but in summary, an older girl is "caught" on camera performing lesbian acts on a much younger girl (hugging, smooching and even having the younger girl suckle her) . Reports have it that the older girl is the younger girl's "nanny".

where did u download the vid?

I hope the video got attached. It is really a terrible thing to see.

lilmax:
And when she starts practicing it, then they will come up with "lesbianism is normal and natural "


Nanny? I don't blame her I blame the idiotic mother aka career woman, smh

Soooo because ur idiotic mother was jobless, u expect every woman to b same?

#Ahdonbelivit although I didn't see anything and I don't want to see ... I still donbelivit ,but that girl there look more like teenager than a woman,although the pictures are not clear ...Ahdonbelivit

Joel3:
op. can you upload th video on send6.com so we can download.

Its a Crime to share Child Pornography, be careful!!! the screen shots are more than enough to let you know what was going on, u dont need to see more!

edwife:


We leave together,we comeback together.No nanny needed. Afterschool club,meaning they stay in school till 6 pm.They are well monitored and cctv around the clock. I think nigerian schools should start creating those.

From you post i just discovered that you are still single it doesn't work like that expect you are a full house wife.