ima30:


Please she was employed this year. I have been in my relationship for five years. I m not a baby. Her attitude changed because she was scolded by my guy for doing something wrong. The house is being run by my guy and his brother. They both have their responsibilties. They employed her to help with their dad and do other errands around the home. She should be respectful to every visitor. But she isn't. She doesn't call any vistor by their name not even their youngest sister. I m talking about disrespect here. I m not delusional. I have a shop, I have had one sales girl for almost two years. So I know how to treat people and employees. Pls. Y'all 've taken this wrongly. There has been maids before her, disrespect has never been a problem. If I tolerate it now, is it when we marry there would be sudden change. I know what I m saying pls. Thanks for the good advice.

ima30:
Hello. I have been with my guy for five years now. We are getting married next year. The thing is we are going to live in his family house, with his extended family. I didn't like the idea but I found a way to accept it seeing as its quite comfy and it means we won't have to worry about rent. Its basically a two bedroom apartment. The only thing I share with the rest of the family is back yard and staircase. He said we would do three years while he is building his own house.

His elder brother who is married lives in that same building. It's the maid THEY hired this year to take care of their sick dad, that worries me. The mom is late. She is very disrespectful to me. So many things happen and when he speaks to her about it, she won't bulge. All because it was the elder brother that interviewed her so she doesn't listen to almost anyone else. I spoke to my guy that I would not live with a maid that has not greeted me for almost a year or has no regard for my home or wouldn't obey him. He said he can't tell her to go because she is close to his brother's wife and she takes care of his dad.

This may sound petty but it's serious. All this family house wahala, if I tell him to rent a house he would say I'm not appreciating all his efforts to make sure we marry next year. I did laundry the other day came back and met the clothes soaked on the clothing line with all the rain that fell, meanwhile she brought in every other persons cloth inside. It might not be a big deal, but I don't want to resent any body I live with in my future home.

I need that maid gone, how do I get rid of her? The worst part is that since they all live together, he needs his brother's approval before he does almost anything, if I complain it would seem as if I wanna cause friction between both brothers. But there has been cases where changes were made by his brother and my guy wasn't even consulted. The maid before her was paid by my guy for two years straight, she didn't insult anybody. She left cuz his brother told him to sack her. That their father needed better attention and she wasn't a good cook. Na so my guy sack the girl. No question. They brought this one now and my guy paid for some month's and stopped because she was rude to him and me. His bro has been paying since. But my guy still pays nepa bills and those other things to run the house. Yet when he talks to this maid she won't listen.

How do I get her go? I don't like her one bit. She just basically work for the brother and his wife. I can't even send he to buy me matches. She calls me by name, would not greet. My guy told her to stop all these things, she still didn't listen. Please.

Kimoni:


I laugh in Swahili

True true, you be new bride. Shior

You are about to start your married life in a family house with a brother-in-law and his wife as well as your sick father-in-law and the only thing that bothers you is the maid because she doesn't greet you

Hehehehehe sorry o, madam the madam

Do you have a job? Pls get busy with work such that you won't even have the time to notice who is greeting you or who is not. If you were living alone, who would have taken your clothes off the line?

My dear, get your priorities right. The maid is not yours, face your husband and stop behaving like madam in a house that's not yours.

***modified - I went back to read your post, I honestly think you have bigger issues. You are not even married to him yet and you authoritatively want the maid gone cuz she calls you by name I just hope you don't scatter that family before you finally get married to him sorry for my harsh words oo but you have personal issues you need to resolve asap

ima30:
Hello. I have been with my guy for five years now. We are getting married next year. The thing is we are going to live in his family house, with his extended family. I didn't like the idea but I found a way to accept it seeing as its quite comfy and it means we won't have to worry about rent. Its basically a two bedroom apartment. The only thing I share with the rest of the family is back yard and staircase. He said we would do three years while he is building his own house.

His elder brother who is married lives in that same building. It's the maid THEY hired this year to take care of their sick dad, that worries me. The mom is late. She is very disrespectful to me. So many things happen and when he speaks to her about it, she won't bulge. All because it was the elder brother that interviewed her so she doesn't listen to almost anyone else. I spoke to my guy that I would not live with a maid that has not greeted me for almost a year or has no regard for my home or wouldn't obey him. He said he can't tell her to go because she is close to his brother's wife and she takes care of his dad.

This may sound petty but it's serious. All this family house wahala, if I tell him to rent a house he would say I'm not appreciating all his efforts to make sure we marry next year. I did laundry the other day came back and met the clothes soaked on the clothing line with all the rain that fell, meanwhile she brought in every other persons cloth inside. It might not be a big deal, but I don't want to resent any body I live with in my future home.

I need that maid gone, how do I get rid of her? The worst part is that since they all live together, he needs his brother's approval before he does almost anything, if I complain it would seem as if I wanna cause friction between both brothers. But there has been cases where changes were made by his brother and my guy wasn't even consulted. The maid before her was paid by my guy for two years straight, she didn't insult anybody. She left cuz his brother told him to sack her. That their father needed better attention and she wasn't a good cook. Na so my guy sack the girl. No question. They brought this one now and my guy paid for some month's and stopped because she was rude to him and me. His bro has been paying since. But my guy still pays nepa bills and those other things to run the house. Yet when he talks to this maid she won't listen.

How do I get her go? I don't like her one bit. She just basically work for the brother and his wife. I can't even send he to buy me matches. She calls me by name, would not greet. My guy told her to stop all these things, she still didn't listen. Please.

ima30:
Hello. I have been with my guy for five years now. We are getting married next year. The thing is we are going to live in his family house, with his extended family. I didn't like the idea but I found a way to accept it seeing as its quite comfy and it means we won't have to worry about rent. Its basically a two bedroom apartment. The only thing I share with the rest of the family is back yard and staircase. He said we would do three years while he is building his own house.

His elder brother who is married lives in that same building. It's the maid THEY hired this year to take care of their sick dad, that worries me. The mom is late. She is very disrespectful to me. So many things happen and when he speaks to her about it, she won't bulge. All because it was the elder brother that interviewed her so she doesn't listen to almost anyone else. I spoke to my guy that I would not live with a maid that has not greeted me for almost a year or has no regard for my home or wouldn't obey him. He said he can't tell her to go because she is close to his brother's wife and she takes care of his dad.

This may sound petty but it's serious. All this family house wahala, if I tell him to rent a house he would say I'm not appreciating all his efforts to make sure we marry next year. I did laundry the other day came back and met the clothes soaked on the clothing line with all the rain that fell, meanwhile she brought in every other persons cloth inside. It might not be a big deal, but I don't want to resent any body I live with in my future home.

I need that maid gone, how do I get rid of her? The worst part is that since they all live together, he needs his brother's approval before he does almost anything, if I complain it would seem as if I wanna cause friction between both brothers. But there has been cases where changes were made by his brother and my guy wasn't even consulted. The maid before her was paid by my guy for two years straight, she didn't insult anybody. She left cuz his brother told him to sack her. That their father needed better attention and she wasn't a good cook. Na so my guy sack the girl. No question. They brought this one now and my guy paid for some month's and stopped because she was rude to him and me. His bro has been paying since. But my guy still pays nepa bills and those other things to run the house. Yet when he talks to this maid she won't listen.

How do I get her go? I don't like her one bit. She just basically work for the brother and his wife. I can't even send he to buy me matches. She calls me by name, would not greet. My guy told her to stop all these things, she still didn't listen. Please.

chaxking:
you lack sense, but hey I'm not surprised

Nihilist:


As in, very dumb broad...

Looking to command a maid she did not hire. Demanding respect from a person she does not pay. Stupidity comes in different flavours but the OP is at least 3 in one.

Nihilist:


As in, very dumb broad...

Looking to command a maid she did not hire. Demanding respect from a person she does not pay. Stupidity comes in different flavours but the OP is at least 3 in one.

ima30:


If u read to understand then u would know I am not the stupid one. I am moving into that house in months, and a maid employed by my fiancee would disrespect me. I did not say i command anybody, I have never sent her to do anything for me, never. But if she can't even be polite enough to greet because she was scolded once then she is disrespectful. Simple. It's her office, she should treat visitors with respect. She greats every other person, are they commanding respect? After all they are visitors too. Do they pay her? I have been in my relationship for years. If i can't take it in marriage I won't take it now. Understand ne Mr flavour.

ima30:


To God who made me. I have never told her to do anything for me. I have not asked to buy a single thing for me. So when I say I don't send her on errands I mean it. What I m talking about her is what she was employed to do for the house hold. She is supposed to be decent and respectful to everybody, she isn't. She doesn't call any visitor by name. She doesn't call even the youngest sister by name. I m not delusional please. We are all adults here. Its her office but some one else's home, she doesn't know the difference.

ShakurM:
The greatest test of a maid is taking care of the elderly / aged ones and children, she is doing the former well obviously since there's no complaint.

I smell insecurity, the maid no fit steal ya man, relax ooo.
And the maid might have her own story to tell also, maybe she greets you but you don't respond, who knows..

Just focus on being a good woman to your man, an helper to his dad and a sister to the maid. Good luck.

Enoquin:
Yes, the maid has a bad attitude but in my opinion, there is nothing you can do about it.

I washed my clothes yesterday and they didn't dry properly but I couldn't leave them out this morning, so I hung them round the house. If my brother had been at home, he would have known to pack them when rain fell this evening. Sometimes, the landlord's niece packs all the clothes when it rains and sometimes she doesn't. I didn't want to take the risk. Same situation at my former place, my neighbour packed sometimes and I did same for him.

So, my question is: If you were living in a house, where no one would pack for you, what would you do as regards washing? Apply your answer to the family house.

I am going to assume, the maid is an adult; when this incident happened; did you approach her? Remember, she isn't your maid. Something like 'Laide, se a nja ni, you didn't help me pack my clothes, ko da oh' Finish!
She might not reply, but she'd be a bit ashamed and might help you next time or not. You could even call home, (get her number if she has one) when it's about to rain and plead that she helps you pack your clothes. Remember, some women give new women neighbours, the cold shoulder till they start warming up later.

My younger sister always did even though, I would pack all the clothes; she still called to plead.

As for greetings, sister forget it! Not everyone would greet you. I already reply enough greetings that sometimes, I'd like to be left alone to my thoughts.
If I ever stayed in a family house with a maid like that; I'd probably 'how far' her till she got tired.
If you are yoruba, then salutations no dey finish for una mouth na. 'Laide, ku se' whilst passing her on the stairs. 'Laide, how far?' 'Laide, how is daddy?' 'Laide, o ma fine leni' Laide...laide...laide' Fill in the blank spaces.

Take it easy, life o di kwa too short

Kimoni:


I laugh in Swahili

True true, you be new bride. Shior

You are about to start your married life in a family house with a brother-in-law and his wife as well as your sick father-in-law and the only thing that bothers you is the maid because she doesn't greet you

Hehehehehe sorry o, madam the madam

Do you have a job? Pls get busy with work such that you won't even have the time to notice who is greeting you or who is not. If you were living alone, who would have taken your clothes off the line?

My dear, get your priorities right. The maid is not yours, face your husband and stop behaving like madam in a house that's not yours.

***modified - I went back to read your post, I honestly think you have bigger issues. You are not even married to him yet and you authoritatively want the maid gone cuz she calls you by name I just hope you don't scatter that family before you finally get married to him sorry for my harsh words oo but you have personal issues you need to resolve asap