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How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by ggirl4real: 9:09pm On Dec 20, 2015
There's this my neighbour's son that's stubborn.

What bothers me more is the way he talks to his mum. He's about 16years old and in SS3 but I tell you, when he's angry, he'll shout his mum down no matter what she says to him.

He once said to the mum "if you dare touch me with that cane, I'll collect it and beat you", the mum had to seek for help from a neighbour.

Before now, the father could tame him but it seems that he has outgrown his father's control too...

He just made pronoucements like "God punish you" (Abasi umia ufen) to his younger sister who is barely 5years old. When his father scolded him, he shouted back at his father in a very violent manner and they're still exchanging words right now. I'm personally afraid from my compound...

I had to tell my sister that if this boy is not tamed, in the next two years, he'll beat everyone in that house...

Please, what could have caused this attitude? and what can be done to put this nasty behaviour on check before it gets out of hand? I'm personally afraid for his parents.

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Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by Nobody: 9:12pm On Dec 20, 2015
That's crazy.

Give him an ultimatum. If he can't respect the people who provide him with food and shelter. He should make his own way.

That's rude AF.

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Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by ggirl4real: 9:25pm On Dec 20, 2015
YourMain:
That's crazy.

Give him an ultimatum. If he can't respect the people who provide him with food and shelter. He should make his own way.

That's rude AF.

The funny thing is that the parents provide everything he needs even when it's not convenient for them.

They'll not love to leave him on his own.

Another thing I observe is that the parents didn't use cane on him while he was small, could that contribute to this attitude?
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by OCTAVO: 9:29pm On Dec 20, 2015
Mehn! This one is serious. But violent approach from parents doesn't solve this kind of issue often times. It's just an adolescent stage, the stage will soon pass.

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Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by Nobody: 9:30pm On Dec 20, 2015
ggirl4real:


The funny thing is that the parents provide everything he needs even when it's not convenient for them.

They'll not love to leave him on his own.

Another thing I observe is that the parents didn't use cane on him while he was small, could that contribute to this attitude?

I'm not a promoter of beating your kids.

That is ridiculous. If he wants to act like he's all big and tough then they should treat him like so. It'll slap him back to reality without them doing anything. They should deny him if everything they provide him. Food water shelter school. I don't even care. You never disrespect your parents.

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Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by ggirl4real: 9:33pm On Dec 20, 2015
OCTAVO:
Mehn! This one is serious. But violent approach from parents doesn't solve this kind of issue often times. It's just an adolescent stage, the stage will soon pass.

Even when your own child is threatening you?

Don't you think his parents should arrange boys to teach him a lesson?

Anyway, his parents love him so much that they wouldn't consider that.
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by ggirl4real: 9:35pm On Dec 20, 2015
YourMain:


I'm not a promoter of beating your kids.

That is ridiculous. If he wants to act like he's all big and tough then they should treat him like so. It'll slap him back to reality without them doing anything. They should deny him if everything they provide him. Food water shelter school. I don't even care. You never disrespect your parents.

Slap ke! He'll slap you back ooo

I don't know why I feel that he's joined some bad boys in school because at home, their parents lock them inside when they are leaving for work.
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by SAMBARRY: 9:39pm On Dec 20, 2015
YourMain:
That's crazy.

Give him an ultimatum. If he can't respect the people who provide him with food and shelter. He should make his own way.

That's rude AF.
how convenient. Like he'll leave that easily. Someone that doesn't have respect For his parents and siblings

Abeg he should be sent to a juvenile camp where he won't get the luxuries and attention of his parents. No one will tell him before he behaves himself and call himself back to order

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Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by Nobody: 9:42pm On Dec 20, 2015
ggirl4real:


Slap ke! He'll slap you back ooo

I don't know why I feel that he's joined some bad boys in school because at home, their parents lock them inside when they are leaving for work.

That's actually so disgusting.

They should literally deprive him of everything till he learns some respect. And learns to appreciate.
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by Zeedarh(f): 9:42pm On Dec 20, 2015
Are his parents nigerians Naija parents no dey carry last in setting children's brain to default nah undecided

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Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by Nobody: 9:42pm On Dec 20, 2015
SAMBARRY:
how convenient. Like he'll leave that easily. Someone that doesn't have respect For his parents and siblings

Abeg he should be sent to a juvenile camp where he won't get the luxuries and attention of his parents. No one will tell him before he behaves himself and call himself back to order

No! Them camps are horrible. I've heard of them and they ruin kids.
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by OCTAVO: 9:43pm On Dec 20, 2015
ggirl4real:


Even when your own child is threatening you?

Don't you think his parents should arrange boys to teach him a lesson?

Anyway, his parents love him so much that they wouldn't consider that.

Believe me it doesn't work most times. Children like that become more stubborn if violent approach is used on them.
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by SAMBARRY: 9:47pm On Dec 20, 2015
YourMain:


No! Them camps are horrible. I've heard of them and they ruin kids.
that's the point. He should experience the hard part of life so he'll realize that it's a privilege to have parents who still care for you and love you despite your rudeness.at least iF he spends 2years there,he'll wise up

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Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by Nobody: 10:01pm On Dec 20, 2015
SAMBARRY:
that's the point. He should experience the hard part of life so he'll realize that it's a privilege to have parents who still care for you and love you despite your rudeness.at least iF he spends 2years there,he'll wise up

Mhm no I don't think you should push your child to the point of no return. He will return damaged. That's how serial killers are made...

I agree with your stance. That's why I think you should deprive him of everything.

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Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by ggirl4real: 10:04pm On Dec 20, 2015
SAMBARRY:
how convenient. Like he'll leave that easily. Someone that doesn't have respect For his parents and siblings

Abeg he should be sent to a juvenile camp where he won't get the luxuries and attention of his parents. No one will tell him before he behaves himself and call himself back to order

I think I like the idea of that juvenile camp...
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by ggirl4real: 10:06pm On Dec 20, 2015
Zeedarh:
Are his parents nigerians Naija parents no dey carry last in setting children's brain to default nah undecided

They are Nigerians ooo

Maybe his dad was also stubborn while he was his age...could that be a factor?
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by ggirl4real: 10:08pm On Dec 20, 2015
OCTAVO:


Believe me it doesn't work most times. Children like that become more stubborn if violent approach is used on them.

That's serious... I see this boy growing so wild in the nearest future... I'm told his dad too is very aggressive when angry. Maybe it runs in the blood.

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Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by SAMBARRY: 10:12pm On Dec 20, 2015
YourMain:


Mhm no I don't think you should push your child to the point of no return. He will return damaged. That's how serial killers are made...

I agree with your stance. That's why I think you should deprive him of everything.
he is obviously already going haywire and there's still time of repair. IF you say juvenile camps are too extreme what other options are available. Abi is it until he attempts to strangulate his mother to death before they know that there's fire on the mountain

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Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by Zeedarh(f): 10:14pm On Dec 20, 2015
ggirl4real:


They are Nigerians ooo

Maybe his dad was also stubborn while he was his age...could that be a factor?
Maybe sha
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by austine4real(m): 8:00am On Dec 21, 2015
Wake him up in 9t& talk sense in2 him calmly. Stop givin him attention
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by ggirl4real: 8:35am On Dec 21, 2015
austine4real:
Wake him up in 9t& talk sense in2 him calmly. Stop givin him attention

Yes! That attention part...It works for me sometimes when I'm dealing with my younger siblings...
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by vicostyle20: 8:59am On Dec 21, 2015
Na wa ooooo
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by Demmocrats(m): 8:59am On Dec 21, 2015
Time will tell, just know that a time will come when he will be on his own and the forces of nature will tell on him.


That's a small case.

Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by iteleaye(m): 8:59am On Dec 21, 2015
The solution is as simple as fuq, let him find another house to live... No ill mannered child can stay u der the same roof with me... Mo daju baje baje when it comes to things like this

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Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by zulu14: 8:59am On Dec 21, 2015
arrest him
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by Missfavourblog(f): 9:00am On Dec 21, 2015
kk
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by Lordnewton1(m): 9:00am On Dec 21, 2015
use wire grin
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by Sijo01(f): 9:00am On Dec 21, 2015
Juvenile delinquent.
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The smalli don join bad gang.
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by Nobody: 9:01am On Dec 21, 2015
What were the parents looking at before now
He didn't just start this yesterday
How did they bring him up?
Imagine the effrontery . . the kid threatening to beat up his mother.

It may be too late to get this boy back on the right line. at 16 he is almost an adult and if he offends, he will be treated like an adult.

The problem with kids like this is that the whole community suffers. soon he will be out there being a nuisance to everyone.

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Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by slimgold123(f): 9:01am On Dec 21, 2015
Re: How Can A Parent Tame A Delinquent Child? by lomprico(m): 9:01am On Dec 21, 2015
ggirl4real:
There's this my neighbour's son that's stubborn.

What bothers me more is the way he talks to his mum. He's about 16years old and in SS3 but I tell you, when he's angry, he'll shout his mum down no matter what she says to him.

He once said to the mum "if you dare touch me with that cane, I'll collect it and beat you", the mum had to seek for help from a neighbour.

Before now, the father could tame him but it seems that he has outgrown his father's control too...

He just made pronoucements like "God punish you" (Abasi umia ufen) to his younger sister who is barely 5years old. When his father scolded him, he shouted back at his father in a very violent manner and they're still exchanging words right now. I'm personally afraid from my compound...

I had to tell my sister that if this boy is not tamed, in the next two years, he'll beat everyone in that house...

Please, what could have caused this attitude? and what can be done to put this nasty behaviour on check before it gets out of hand? I'm personally afraid for his parents.
The parents are to be blamed period! Am a 100% sure that they spared the rod when he was much younger and when he started exhibiting those traits now they have spoilt the child.

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