Spare the rod and spoil the child...... Apply your own knowledge to the advice from the creator...

Try

One week with my father...and he ll b back to default setting....just 2 nights in d guard room...body go tell am wats up

If you fail to prune the iroko tree when it is but just a seedling, you will need to offer ritual sacrifice to do so when it gained maturity.

Your neighbours are 16 years late. Solution?, they should get Abasi involve in the matter

Take him to a juvenile camp.Thats the best thing

It's depends on parental care........he should come and try that with my dad, he will have himself to blame..... Endtime Child

YourMain:


I'm not a promoter of beating your kids.

That is ridiculous. If he wants to act like he's all big and tough then they should treat him like so. It'll slap him back to reality without them doing anything. They should deny him if everything they provide him. Food water shelter school. I don't even care. You never disrespect your parents.

Na so una go take spoil una pikin finish then run come here to find advice. Its stated clearly in d bible, spare d rod, spoil the child. Beating ur kids when they misbehave is part of good upbringing and I dint mean the brutal/abusive type.

There is nothing anyone can do about such a child, I guess they got him through fettish means. Except only God have his way. Dat child will be a problem to them forever

The boy never collect real beating of life......

He can't try that shit attitude where I come from!

lomprico:

Na so una go take spoil una pikin finish then run come here to find advice. Its stated clearly in d bible, spare d rod, spoil the child. Beating ur kids when they misbehave is part of good upbringing and I dint mean the brutal/abusive type.

Beating your kids is lazy parenting. Your child will have learnt nothing. And one day you'll reach a stage where you can't beat them. Then they are free to do all the things you used to beat them for.

ggirl4real:


Yes! That attention part...It works for me sometimes when I'm dealing with my younger siblings...

i knw u'r very stubborn

-he should be educated
-he should be trained properly
-he should be lead properly
-he should be motivated rightly
-he should be loved, valued and appreciated
-he should be rewarded when necessary.
-he should be properly counselled
He should be Prayed for..

A CHILD IS LIKE A PLANT THAT HAS TO BE NURTURED, MANURED AND PRUNED BEFORE IT GROWS INTO A BIG TREE.

A PROMISING TALENTED CHILD MUST UNDERGO A RIGOROUS PROCESS TO BECOME A FULFILLED PRODUCTS.

OCTAVO:
Mehn! This one is serious. But violent approach from parents doesn't solve this kind of issue often times. It's just an adolescent stage, the stage will soon pass.

adolescence my foot.. So when you were an adolescent you screemed at ur parent, you threatened to whip your mother and so on.... Trust my dad/senior brother ,they'll show you that before you they were, and there's nothing in this world you know that's new to them.. Children of nowadays.. Sounds like his dad is a slowpoke. Show that mofo violence.

OCTAVO:
Mehn! This one is serious. But violent approach from parents doesn't solve this kind of issue often times. It's just an adolescent stage, the stage will soon pass.

Unfortunately, I can assure you that this tantrums Will continue if nothing is done about it

If the child is still under 17 ...The best way to tame the child is to flog the delinquency out of him but

If the child is adult ...stop giving him money or food. If he persist..disown and dis inherit him

It's a simple thing

It has worked and won't stop working

While this is sad for any parent to experience, I honestly feel the blame rests mainly on them. But it isn't too late to address...and I assure you that taking a child like that to any "camp or home" will only cause more harm than good. I'm sure most of the time, the boy is not always like that and I think his parents should explore those moments when he isn't being nasty to talk to him about his behaviour, they should see it as a duty to counsel him at such moments on the likely consequences of his rage. They should show him love also at every turn...

YourMain:


Beating your kids is lazy parenting. Your child will have learnt nothing. And one day you'll reach a stage where you can't beat them. Then they are free to do all the things you used to beat them for.

If you have your child pls don't beat him but my mum beat me and I am useful today and I have a daughter I beat her if she misbehaves

She hasn't taken 4th position in her life before and she is in primary 6

So I beat and flog


I can't spare the rod

YourMain:


I'm not a promoter of beating your kids.

That is ridiculous. If he wants to act like he's all big and tough then they should treat him like so. It'll slap him back to reality without them doing anything. They should deny him if everything they provide him. Food water shelter school. I don't even care. You never disrespect your parents.

I don't think that's an entirely good idea. One thing you shouldn't forget is the fact that he could sought for other means to survive. This could include stealing, cultism, etc.

Depriving him of social amenities could push him into more evil acts that will backfire someday as an act of revenge.
Methinks, a more subtle approach should be employed.

That is one of the dangers of training a child in public schools, the parent should change his school as soon as possible if not he wouldn't be contained.

Ellidude:
I don't think that's an entirely good idea. One thing you shouldn't forget is the fact that he could sought for other means to survive. This could include stealing, cultism, etc.

Then become the helicopter parent.

My sister tell is parent to organize a visitation to prisons and hospitals and orphanages with him. After that tell him the surprise shocker tell him you have rented an appartment for him so he came do anyhow he pleases. Thank me later

Proverbs 13:24

He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

I believe enrolling him in an army school where discipline is applied will help reduce it.
I have a friend that was like that, only one term in the school changed his life for good.

The boy need deliverance. Take him to TB Joshua.

christopher123:


If you have your child pls don't beat him but my mum beat me and I am useful today and I have a daughter I beat her if she misbehaves

She hasn't taken 4th position in her life before and she is in primary 6

So I beat and flog


I can't spare the rod

Really ?

Well I can't tell you the way to raise your kids. So if your daughter came home with 4th position you'd beat her ?

YourMain:


Then become the helicopter parent.

Funny.

ggirl4real:


The funny thing is that the parents provide everything he needs even when it's not convenient for them.

They'll not love to leave him on his own.

Another thing I observe is that the parents didn't use cane on him while he was small, could that contribute to this attitude?

eyen ado, ah join ndito Skolombo,
That's the attitude of majority of kids who join a gang or cult group,
Take him to a very bad cultist to drill him or an Army officer,
And he will be warned that if he disrespects his parents again,
He is a dead man,
That boy will become very humble and respectful thereafter.

ggirl4real:
There's this my neighbour's son that's stubborn.

What bothers me more is the way he talks to his mum. He's about 16years old and in SS3 but I tell you, when he's angry, he'll shout his mum down no matter what she says to him.

He once said to the mum "if you dare touch me with that cane, I'll collect it and beat you", the mum had to seek for help from a neighbour.

Before now, the father could tame him but it seems that he has outgrown his father's control too...

He just made pronoucements like "God punish you" (Abasi umia ufen) to his younger sister who is barely 5years old. When his father scolded him, he shouted back at his father in a very violent manner and they're still exchanging words right now. I'm personally afraid from my compound...

I had to tell my sister that if this boy is not tamed, in the next two years, he'll beat everyone in that house...

Please, what could have caused this attitude? and what can be done to put this nasty behaviour on check before it gets out of hand? I'm personally afraid for his parents.

send that 16 year old to my house i will teach him to behave. I speak from experience.. Give him one month in my house his mother will give testimony in her church

The bible says train up a child in the way he should grow and when he is old he will not depart from it. The first thing parents should be doing from the conception of the child till the day of delivery and even till they become parents too, is to be praying for their children.

I can say must parents are the cause of their children's misbehavior because they sometimes allow things they should not have allowed at the early stage of that child's life. it is written that if the foundation has been destroyed what can the righteous do. A discipline father or mother will always be respected no matter how tall the child has become. There are diverse way to tame a child. The only thing is for u to know wat method works best with ur child. My sister's son used to be very stubborn that at a time we all became scared of him as little as he was. Beating him was a waste of time because he was even ready to die and at the end u have to given up cus u dnt want to commit murder but to God be the glory the mother somehow which I still don't understand has been able to tame him and sometime I just cant help but to ask my sister how he manage to do it, and her reply has always been “it is God”.
It is very necessary to train ur child spiritually(prayers) and physically.

Wait...I no go Kill am?

ggirl4real:
There's this my neighbour's son that's stubborn.

What bothers me more is the way he talks to his mum. He's about 16years old and in SS3 but I tell you, when he's angry, he'll shout his mum down no matter what she says to him.

He once said to the mum "if you dare touch me with that cane, I'll collect it and beat you", the mum had to seek for help from a neighbour.

Before now, the father could tame him but it seems that he has outgrown his father's control too...

He just made pronoucements like "God punish you" (Abasi umia ufen) to his younger sister who is barely 5years old. When his father scolded him, he shouted back at his father in a very violent manner and they're still exchanging words right now. I'm personally afraid from my compound...

I had to tell my sister that if this boy is not tamed, in the next two years, he'll beat everyone in that house...

Please, what could have caused this attitude? and what can be done to put this nasty behaviour on check before it gets out of hand? I'm personally afraid for his parents.

U might not want to hear this , bt d truth is they need divine intervention, they need to serious pray for the boy before things go out of cos this aint ordinary. Though youthful exuberance is known at that age but nt this level, this is abnormal n beating or thratening him will only aggraviate things.

The parents should be real prayerful n get him to be saved, also if the parents are not saved they should do that ASAP before the devil destroy d family for the signs are written all over.