badonkadonk:


It's on the house man!

Lolz.. Yea. Buh u know the funny thing.. Women never learn...

U advise a woman today.. She say hmmm!

Tomorrow, she asks her friends... She say alryt..

Next tomorrow, she gets into trouble from following her friends advise and blames you the bobo for it...

U correct her and sort the wahala out...

Two days after, she does the same thing all over again!!!...

And I believe op! is no exception to this pattern... Yes I said it (quote me anywhere)..

In fact, I expect her bak ere in the nearest future... Asking for our advise on this same issue... (truth be told)

JudgementHammer:
He must be mel-phleg and perhaps u too. Well I'm not married but one thing I've noticed is that many people don't knw abt themselves and I've notiiced that introverts knw abt themselves more than the extros, perhaps bcus they have more developed brain cells.

My advice is if u can't see a psychologist, then read more abt personality temperament of d opposite sex and advice him to read abt it later too especially after u've read and understood him so well. I won't say u shd see a pastor cuz no matter how u pray it doesn't change his person except ure d extreme xtain, then d holy sprt can refine ur personality-not change it

U also need to consider d weakness of extros wch u say u like, they may not be able to give u dat very close n intimate attention u desire cus of their loud nature and they're every ladies' men. As for ur guy, u shd knw he must have had some brutality in his growing stage for him to have such a nature so do what will boost his battered psychy/ego, don't compare urself with other ladies. Funny enough, respect from a woman for him may be best defined by kneeling b4 him but he might nt be able to tell u cus u would think afterall many women don't do that in this modern age.

1boyl1kevhis:
Oh, It's nothing.
it's just terrible to know millions of people out there don't share the acute sense of humour we have.

firstking01:
Op, dnt mind those fellows above me...u cant change nothing ...God structured you that way...tryna change anytin means u wanna fight nature...so, my take on d issue...u guys shud just undastand dat ur introverts, and try to live with that conciousness...dnt try to change, or imitate extroverts, cos u will fail.

Mafking:


I knew it was meant to be a joke buh what do you call a joke that is not funny and stop making being an introvert sound like a brain disease.... introverts are great ppu,stop using it as an excuse 4 ur ....... u know t

Classicman47:


I was only trying to let u understand that the dialogue u posted, has absolutely NOTHING to do with introverts(since I know that's ur perception of them).

The fact that they are introverted does NOT make them SUICIDAL as well.

Ur dialogue characterizes folks who are depressed.

amInigerian:

[size=13pt]Take out the "kneeling b4 him" please. I have been introverted for a long time and in my most introverted state, I detested subservient girls/women.

Your presumption is that he has low self-esteem because he is introverted and that he will inwardly need an open show of subservience from his woman to feel good inside (although he will not say it).

That is first grade crap and perhaps the reason I could not get down with Nigerian girls. Just imagine.

That is not really respect because it is borne out of an accepted conclusion that your man has low self-esteem.
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Oliviaarims:
Two introverts dating...

Woman: Life has become meaningless. Nothing seems to be working. No money, no friends, no family. What's the point in living?

Man: Yea, life is meaningless. Let's die.

Woman: Nice idea, I think we should just die.

IykeWest:

JudgementHammer:
He must be mel-phleg and perhaps u too. Well I'm not married but one thing I've noticed is that many people don't knw abt themselves and I've notiiced that introverts knw abt themselves more than the extros, perhaps bcus they have more developed brain cells.

My advice is if u can't see a psychologist, then read more abt personality temperament of d opposite sex and advice him to read abt it later too especially after u've read and understood him so well. I won't say u shd see a pastor cuz no matter how u pray it doesn't change his person except ure d extreme xtain, then d holy sprt can refine ur personality-not change it

U also need to consider d weakness of extros wch u say u like, they may not be able to give u dat very close n intimate attention u desire cus of their loud nature and they're every ladies' men. As for ur guy, u shd knw he must have had some brutality in his growing stage for him to have such a nature so do what will boost his battered psychy/ego, don't compare urself with other ladies. Funny enough, respect from a woman for him may be best defined by kneeling b4 him but he might nt be able to tell u cus u would think afterall many women don't do that in this modern age.

jackpot:
meanie. Lol

aly123:
Hello Nlanders,i need your advice as am in a confused state of mind. I have a guy who loves me so much that I wonder if I could ever get such love from anybody else again and I also love him as well but the issue I have with this guy is that I am an introvert and he is also one. Prior to meeting him,i had always wanted a guy that is outspoken, bold nd courageous but on the contrary, my guy is a very shy person (more than I am), not bold, cant face a crowd which I also can't do which makes me wonder what happens if either of us is to do something of such in future amongst other things. Please I would like to know if introvert/introvert relationships work. Please matured minds or married ones here who has been in this situation should let me know how they dealt with it.

Bigsteveg:
U

coveredchic:
One thing y'all don't get about introverts is this- they size you up, study you before letting their guard down, so people think they're boring. Nothing is further from the truth!
@op, I'll feel so blessed if I were to to be dating an introvert like myself,for rest assured, he'll never stray. All relationships require work whether introverted or extroverted. You can make it work if you really want too, nothing is impossible.

Cutehector:
Mchew... This is the reason why i insists ladies are very confused

Mushyhills:



Firstly am introverted...I'm shy, boring atimes...Buh girl you have a man that will put u first... If he's a good matched introvert

Check his temperament... Try to understand him more...

I'm Virgo... I'm proudly introvert and if I marry an introvert... She would be the happiest...

Don't forget to pray though... God is with you...

NB: EVEN AN EXTROVERT CAN MAKE YOUR LIFE BORING...

sirLeon:


Your issue is really a non-issue, you have no problem at all young lady,
and
from this comment, i can see you're not even an introvert, ure just a shy person... introversion and shyness are two different things, and everybody human being as a bit of both sides (introversion & extroversion), just that people tend to tilt more to a side.

Talking about not wanting dull kids is absolutely ridiculous, the more introverted an human is, the more intelligent such people tend to me, its only natural because of their nature, they make better judgment and decisions based on the fact they are more into their heads.. The greatest scientists and inventors were mostly introverts.
And introverts can definitely talk and be confident whenever the needs arise

You have a diamond at hand, you are only allowing public opinion and society to cloud your judgement and the way you see your relationship.

Pls keep him and improve each other
It would be worth it.

You can read this book (Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a world that can't stop talking by Susan cain)

Remain blessed.


Best spoken

aly123:
we are much more than these when we are together, I luv 'us' but d problem is the way we are to other people. I mean being shy

sonofananimal:


Them dey come form say them dey intelligent with their yeye writeup and advice!


Weti person no go see for this world self!

aly123:
Hello Nlanders,i need your advice as am in a confused state of mind. I have a guy who loves me so much that I wonder if I could ever get such love from anybody else again and I also love him as well but the issue I have with this guy is that I am an introvert and he is also one. Prior to meeting him,i had always wanted a guy that is outspoken, bold nd courageous but on the contrary, my guy is a very shy person (more than I am), not bold, cant face a crowd which I also can't do which makes me wonder what happens if either of us is to do something of such in future amongst other things. Please I would like to know if introvert/introvert relationships work. Please matured minds or married ones here who has been in this situation should let me know how they dealt with it.

seaga:


I disagree about a few things if not alot, there is nothing wrong with them, they don't need to see a shrink. It's not even a problem ,to mention psycho analysis . Everyone can't have same behavioral traits. The issue about kneeling down is absurd, to solve a problem that doesn't even exist.Brutality at childhood on the contrary, can even make one, very outspoken and aggressive.Indoubt? Agberos can be used as case study.I like the fact you used the word 'Nature' it has nothing to do with human interference, childhood has nothing to do with nature.
The only issue is,a confused lady,simple!
Finally:

sirLeon:


Congrats bro, happy for you, you've gotten out of the shell of introversion as if introversion is a disease or an abnormal condition.
Maybe you let the world get into you by conforming to the so called ideal human. i.e. Extroverted.

I really hope you not forcing yourself to live another 's life while ignoring yours. Just feel REAL and do you.

Anyway, its really not my business, whatever rocks your boat.

Be YOU.

Oliviaarims:


They were taking it too personal.. I guess they are introverts, too.

HARDDON:


Seek out terrains n knowledge body u ain't in tune with b4 drawing conclusions from ur limited natural logic natural.


Read about neurogenesis n neuroplasticity

THINK n GROW.....

Haven't u heard? The world is controlled by thinkers?
Why is d top executive who only dish out orders, sit at his desk albday signing papers paid more than d real hard muscle labourers?

Why is it that Nigeria, with all her natural resources n lack of deadly natural disaster is a third world country?


Think brother, think