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Marrying Female Graduate by flyjustice(m): 7:17am On Dec 30, 2015 |
Marrying a female graduate?
Asking oneself such questions may be rhetorical, or so it
seems. But it is much more than that. Today, it is one of
the most soul searching questions in the heart of most
young men. Women who have been through the university
while single, especially in Hausa land, are faced with such
difficulties when it comes to marriage.
Yet, the issue is a matter of compatibility, time/
devotion, care, money, control, love, and faith between
spouses. There are so many perspectives about marrying a
graduate. Some believe that what causes ‘husband
scarcity’ for graduate ladies is their attitude towards
selecting the right man. Who then is the right man for a
graduate lady?
Every woman needs a successful man as a life partner. An
educated woman needs a man who can understand her
desire, feelings (likes and dislikes), ideological belief as
well as her personality. She also needs him to respect her,
and vice versa. That is the right man with whom she can
live together and build a happy home.
To make that choice is a long process. It needs careful
observation so as not to fail in choosing the life partner.
Women are discriminated against by a group of the
society if they go to the university. Nevertheless, if a
girl is a graduate, she is considered successful, isn’t she?
Then, what is the problem?
Some men prefer to marry non-graduate for reasons
that vary among men’s taste, including faith, culture and
life style. Some men want to be in charge of their homes
which they feel would be difficult with a graduate as a
wife.
Whatever they tell the wife she is expected to accept
unconditionally. They desire a submissive wife who obeys
orders. A graduate lady may object to such control in her
home.
Some may say they prefer to marry a younger non-
graduate lady because they are cheaper to maintain
economically. Some argue that to have peace in your
home, you don’t have to marry a graduate who will not
even devote time to your children or your property.
Men should know that there are some benefits in
marrying a graduate. Nowadays, people, especially the
middle class, live a life that is shaped by modern changes
in society. For example, technology and machines in our
homes and ultra modern shopping malls in our cities
affect our lives. We now live in electronic homes with lots
of gadgets to help with chores and make life easier.
The story of an illiterate wife who tries to spray
insecticide in her kitchen while using a gas cooker is
indeed pitiable and painfully ridiculous. The result is
setting the whole house ablaze. This happened because she
could not understand or care to read the caution on the
tin that reads: “it’s highly inflammable”. Now, a
graduate’s level of thinking and understanding would, in
most cases, be higher than that of the non-graduate
because of her high educational achievement.
Hence, she can give her spouse good advices even about
his work. This is because she is in a better position to do
so.
Apart from what Islam teaches, which a graduate can
find easier to grasp during married life, female
graduates have the social skills needed to improve the
family life in a way that is modern, safer and most
enjoyable. They read them in books. If a girl combines the
two — “Ideal Muslim Wife” (a book with Islamic
perspective) and “The Ideal Wife” (which has western
modern perspective), she will be able to separate the
grain from the chaff: putting them in the right basket,
she would probably make her husband feel like the
luckiest man on earth.
There are several good reasons why university educated
ladies should be married.
Usman Assalafee, a postgraduate student in the
Department of Mass Communication, Bayero University
Kano, summed it up. He said that female graduates
should behave well while the male (graduates) should
trust them.
Women should disregard the present economic status of a
man and marry him so long as he has the potentials to
secure a promising future. Men should marry university
girls because they are better equipped, both religiously
and socially. She may even be calmer than the non-
graduates. It all depends on her personality.
Habiba Sani Abdullahi is in 400-Level, Department of
Mass Communication, Bayero University Kano. |
Re: Marrying Female Graduate by coolcharm(m): 7:19am On Dec 30, 2015 |
Well said |
Re: Marrying Female Graduate by ivyT(f): 9:19am On Dec 30, 2015 |
There are no disadvantages marrying a graduate..#DollarDonRise |
Re: Marrying Female Graduate by muaa(f): 10:27am On Dec 30, 2015 |
Some men believe that a female graduate is wild. If u know wahra I mean. |
Re: Marrying Female Graduate by Nobody: 10:57am On Dec 30, 2015 |
So this long article is for marrying a female graduate. Ha there's problem oooo |
Re: Marrying Female Graduate by emotions1: 11:03am On Dec 30, 2015 |
haba Baba you can kill person.... all this lengthy write up just for a very silly topic.... man u need God don't enter into 2016 with this habit |
Re: Marrying Female Graduate by cruzita(f): 11:10am On Dec 30, 2015 |
to cut the long story shirt if u no like female graduate mgbeke still dey |
Re: Marrying Female Graduate by grad2012(f): 11:21am On Dec 30, 2015 |
Ders notin wrong with marrying a female graduate. |
Re: Marrying Female Graduate by Afeezoladapo(m): 11:24am On Dec 30, 2015 |
well said! |
Re: Marrying Female Graduate by joliyp(f): 11:28am On Dec 30, 2015 |
go for a drop out |
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