My husband and I married when we were 21 and I was his first sexual partner. I love him as my best friend but, despite still having sexual urges, I no longer feel attracted to him. I first told him six years ago and he was devastated, so I have kept my feelings quiet since. We went on to have two children as I felt I should just get on with life. He is a hard worker, a good father, a loving husband and we share similar tastes. He is no chauvinist and always treats me as an equal when it comes to housework and money. We are intimate as I do not want to deprive him of a sexual relationship, but I tend to switch off. Divorce is very frowned upon in our social community, but I can’t imagine spending the rest of my life with somebody who I view as a brother. I appreciate sexual attraction can wane, but we are in our early thirties and I still feel young. I can’t discuss the subject as I know it still upsets him. He tells me I am the love of his life. I desperately want to avoid hurting him and our very young children, but I don’t know what to do.

Help! - http://www.thelivefeeds.com/i-am-not-attracted-to-my-husband-i-love-him-like-a-brother/

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Okai

LOOL!! Even husbands can now be "brother zoned"

Sweet Jesus... Mother of God

TrapLORD:
LOOL!! Even husbands can now be "brother zoned"

lol

^^^lol @brotherzoned

But seriously nothing seems to have meaning again, no point of anything.

Marriage is not a must people.

hmmm..dis one is strng..."eleeyi gidigan'.....women are jst a bunch of confused beings...na wao

I won't say you made a mistake marrying him but you should have stuck to your words when you told him you were no longer attracted to him. You married him out of pity which shouldn't be. But from the way you've decribed his person, men like him are hard to come by, a man with whom you've had 2 kids with is not a brother. Pls, work on your mind cos that's where the magic starts;tell yourself each day that you can reciprocate his love, desire him and when you're intimate with him, tell your mind to live in that moment and enjoy it, gradually that flame will come back. Our minds work wonders!

TrapLORD:
LOOL!! Even husbands can now be "brother zoned"

lol..brotherzoned indeed

This is a weird one

This na brotherhood of marriage o.

this only happens when u become attracted to someone else outside ur marriage....who is it?

Op ....you forgot to call lalasticlala.....

Sexual love expires. Sex doesnt. Even the next partner you will meet will eventually become like a brother after about 7 years.

Sexual fantasy is an unending desire for non-depletable resource.

The fact that you dont know these things seems to me that you are totally ignorant about what marriage is. It is not a union for sex fantasy, but an assembly of like minds for procreation of human kind.

Why not get occasional Bleep from your driver or security guards. some women sef.

TrapLORD:
LOOL!! Even husbands can now be "brother zoned"

That's the new world we now live in

Im sure next one's gon be ---->Help i am in love with my wife

Enough of all this crap stories

mtcheeew madam abeq leave trash for lawma

Ooh my God

Go ahead and divorce and remain single for life. You are not Kim kardashian

God please don't allow me marry this kind of lady in Jesus name. Someone should please say amen naaaa

Since 1814 I av com to realised that the most confused animal God created is woman...If ur hubby is what u describe him to be and still u dey look fo something else outside.

The truth is u need to leave trash for Lawma.

dlivefeeds:
My husband and I married when we were 21 and I was his first sexual partner. I love him as my best friend but, despite still having sexual urges, I no longer feel attracted to him. I first told him six years ago and he was devastated, so I have kept my feelings quiet since. We went on to have two children as I felt I should just get on with life. He is a hard worker, a good father, a loving husband and we share similar tastes. He is no chauvinist and always treats me as an equal when it comes to housework and money. We are intimate as I do not want to deprive him of a sexual relationship, but I tend to switch off. Divorce is very frowned upon in our social community, but I can’t imagine spending the rest of my life with somebody who I view as a brother. I appreciate sexual attraction can wane, but we are in our early thirties and I still feel young. I can’t discuss the subject as I know it still upsets him. He tells me I am the love of his life. I desperately want to avoid hurting him and our very young children, but I don’t know what to do.

Help! - http://www.thelivefeeds.com/i-am-not-attracted-to-my-husband-i-love-him-like-a-brother/

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Iranu abasha, trash, why you dey call lalasticlala? nah lawma get your case

Ur husband has been friendzoned..too bad for d brother!

Exactly why he should stop being a nice guy

Mtchewwwwwuuuuuu

OMG...women and mood swinging ...at first u where sexually attracted to him, nw the attraction don die...hw on earth do u want us to help u?...u 've lost ur attraction for him, and frm d way i see it, u 've made up ur mind..btw, i see him as a brother...d statement got me discombobulated...hw can a wife see her husband as a brother to her...i smell a rat here @poster

Eleyii gidi gan an...
Even if WOMEN 101 is added to the courses been taught in the university, trust me to the highest degree attainable in the Uni, understanding women will still be the most different thing on earth .

Kai. He is loving he is good he is superman with all your yeye story u still don't love him. Op you are really silly oo and am sure someone is behind your case. It's spiritual

Atlantian:
Love expires. Sex doesnt. Even the next partner you will meet will eventually become like a brother after about 7 years.

Sexual fantasy is an unending desire for non-depletable resource.

The fact that you dont know these things seems to me that you are totally ignorant about what marriage is. It is not a union for sex fantasy, but an assembly of like minds for procreation of human kind.

Why not get occasional Bleep from your driver or security guards. some women sef.

Love never expire...d fact that we have wacky versions of Love makes dis our present dispensation preposterous...
great post...

Phikom:

Love never expire...d fact that we have wacky versions of Love makes dis our present dispensation preposterous...
great post...

I meant sexual love called lust.

Atlantian:
I meant sexual love called lust.

alright...u ar so on point...

dlivefeeds:
My husband and I married when we were 21 and I was his first sexual partner. I love him as my best friend but, despite still having sexual urges, I no longer feel attracted to him. I first told him six years ago and he was devastated, so I have kept my feelings quiet since. We went on to have two children as I felt I should just get on with life. He is a hard worker, a good father, a loving husband and we share similar tastes. He is no chauvinist and always treats me as an equal when it comes to housework and money. We are intimate as I do not want to deprive him of a sexual relationship, but I tend to switch off. Divorce is very frowned upon in our social community, but I can’t imagine spending the rest of my life with somebody who I view as a brother. I appreciate sexual attraction can wane, but we are in our early thirties and I still feel young. I can’t discuss the subject as I know it still upsets him. He tells me I am the love of his life. I desperately want to avoid hurting him and our very young children, but I don’t know what to do.

Help! - http://www.thelivefeeds.com/i-am-not-attracted-to-my-husband-i-love-him-like-a-brother/

CC: lalasticlala,sihilove

This is a true life story of a White Friend, you should know African's would hardly think this way. See some advise her colleagues gave her here http://www.thelivefeeds.com/i-am-not-attracted-to-my-husband-i-love-him-like-a-brother/.

I shared it on nairaland to hear out the proper advise and what exactly i should tell her.

Thanks for keeping the comments coming...

dlivefeeds:
My husband and I married when we were 21 and I was his first sexual partner. I love him as my best friend but, despite still having sexual urges, I no longer feel attracted to him. I first told him six years ago and he was devastated, so I have kept my feelings quiet since. We went on to have two children as I felt I should just get on with life. He is a hard worker, a good father, a loving husband and we share similar tastes. He is no chauvinist and always treats me as an equal when it comes to housework and money. We are intimate as I do not want to deprive him of a sexual relationship, but I tend to switch off. Divorce is very frowned upon in our social community, but I can’t imagine spending the rest of my life with somebody who I view as a brother. I appreciate sexual attraction can wane, but we are in our early thirties and I still feel young. I can’t discuss the subject as I know it still upsets him. He tells me I am the love of his life. I desperately want to avoid hurting him and our very young children, but I don’t know what to do.

Help! - http://www.thelivefeeds.com/i-am-not-attracted-to-my-husband-i-love-him-like-a-brother/

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Any post wit a link lyk dis is fake..