oglalasioux:
It's a free world. No one has the monopoly of seeking for fun even in marriage. A lot of people see women only as objects used in making babies. For crying out loud they are humans too. F**k tradition!

F***k the origin too? Bros there is tradition to respect o o. This an order to be sanely happy.

Pls don't stop continue ho.na me get ToTo wey dem dey flog. Your puccy, your ass,your enjoyment.fire on. Only time will tell.

TJ07:
Something is wrong with the man and his wife...

Nothing is wrong

Continue

oglalasioux:
It's a free world. No one has the monopoly of seeking for fun even in marriage. A lot of people see women only as objects used in making babies. For crying out loud they are humans too. F**k tradition!

for sure this is an endtime comment.

Everyone wants to enjoy life to its fullest but sometimes we abstain not because of ourselves or wives/husbands but for the sake of our children we are their direct mirror in life. It will hurt us so bad in the future we found out that our daughters bring guys to Bleep them on our beds, which is a direct repercussions of our past lives

Mehn.. Screwed up marriage!!!

chukied:


this is not a tradition matter. its an issue of applying wisdom to knowledge. her being in the marriage silently, knowing fully well that he's cheating is just absurd. her going to have affairs also doesn't make the situation better. sounding some sense to him about is advisable. if he's still adamant on the topic, then a divorce straight! the church will even approve it. then she should find a more responsible man to cater for her kids, that'd most likely be in her custody. that's what I think.

Your mention is reasonable. Thanks

Okr to bleep up back to back from olosho to abiamo, oti fisi fun iyalaya eni body but now iyawo ti take over ni gboro... Eni Wotan omoale toma wa ninu family ato 20... Radarada.

Na this kind tin dey make blood dey pump out from my mouth

adewalesegun:

F***k the origin too? Bros there is tradition to respect o o. This an order to be sanely happy.

Ok. Let me agree that my post was a bit awkward. But don't you think there are areas of our culture and traditions that need to be reviewed? Or do we go back to killing twins, throwing away people that died through appendicitis instead of burying them properly and having a caste system that make some people slaves to village shrines?

oshinadekunle:
U av it in mind to do it u just cover urself under d umbrella of what ur husband did

that's no excuse cos u already have it in mind to do it..

both$the family needs serious prayers 'cos in the spiritual sense, u av established wrong foundation for your kids. Hope they av a good marriage in future.

I don't know what to say about this, this isn't quite cuckoldry but it sort of is and isn't. Nigerians shouldn't be partaking in these things.

Woman! What lessons do u wanna do u teach ur 4 kids..

bobolizim:
Dear Bunmi,

I’ve been married to my husband for over 20 years and
we have four lovely children. He’s always had series of
affairs that I’ve lost count. I’ve stopped talking to him
about them and when friends did, he told them smugly
that he must be doing something right or I would have
left.

He says his affairs are really for the sex and he would
never leave me for another woman. Big deal!

I’m quite an attractive woman myself and still wear a
size 14 dress. I have a good job and dress well and
recently I started looking at other men the way my
husband might look at other women and wondered
what it would be like to have sex with them. You know
what?

My husband was right, you can have good sex without
getting emotionally involved as I’ve since found out. I
don’t know if he suspects anything, but lately he’s
been showing signs of being jealous, why should he
have all the fun?

Halimat, by e-mail.

You don't love your children

bobolizim:
Dear Bunmi,

I’ve been married to my husband for over 20 years and
we have four lovely children. He’s always had series of
affairs that I’ve lost count. I’ve stopped talking to him
about them and when friends did, he told them smugly
that he must be doing something right or I would have
left.

He says his affairs are really for the sex and he would
never leave me for another woman. Big deal!

I’m quite an attractive woman myself and still wear a
size 14 dress. I have a good job and dress well and
recently I started looking at other men the way my
husband might look at other women and wondered
what it would be like to have sex with them. You know
what?

My husband was right, you can have good sex without
getting emotionally involved as I’ve since found out. I
don’t know if he suspects anything, but lately he’s
been showing signs of being jealous, why should he
have all the fun?

Halimat, by e-mail.

You don't love your children. Your husband is going the wrong way and you join him. When two of you die untimely of sin,who will care for the kids

we should always take responsibility for our actions;you're the master of your fate woman.

I give the blame to the woman.she might have cheated on his husband and covering up. Am the man straight up send the stupid woman parking and forever never to come back again.

I give the blame to the woman.she might have cheated on his husband and covering up. Am the man straight up send the stupid woman parking and forever never to come back again.[b][/b]

99foxxy:
Serves the stupid man right.... One last advice! Make sure u sleep with all his friends. Useless men every where...

Mind your business!

So you and ur husband are into knacking things. Make Una kontinue. God go judge Una.

Kikero112:



Bunmi Sofola....she runs a column where you can write in for advice on relationships, and many other things.

Her column is in the Tuesday edition of the Vanguard.

so what's bunmi's business with nairaland?

in essence, I'm saying the op should have done a thorough job before copying and pasting..

Adebowaletunji:
is me

Lol, prove it

Madam u have no excuse for committing adultery, simply ask God for forgiveness and desist from ur evil ways

Your kids will do same

Sowi for u nd ur husband

Emac34:
END time married woman

And the married man is what? Rapture?

vonn:

And the married man is what?
Rapture?

Dnt tell tell me u fell for dat chip write up

Yes nice!
Spirit of destruction has entered this home.

End time couple, you need divine intervention since your conscience has been seared with a hot iron and no longer feel remorse that you have polluted sanctuary of God.

RadicallyBlunt:
I won't advice u to cheat while u're still in his house cus if d alarm is raised, culture here would pounce on u more than him. So if u really wanna cheat or enjoy urself, ask for dissolving d marriage 1st..that will make him know d gravity of what he's doing afterall u have ur job too. Then u'll be free to have ur own men.

wat abt her kids?? wat will she do wen d marriage is dissolved?? will she still be wif them??

whether u like it or not this is the true position of 70percent of marriages today.extra sex is what husbands and wives are now having .I admit about 30 percent still struggle to do marriage the way it has always been done.