Hmmmm

At times conscience defies the truth that can heal it's broken wound. This case is an example and a very strong dilemma

Karma sha.........

It's better he did not say anything bcox if I happens to be the wife, I will kill him and won't mind going to the prison for it. Six good men? Habah! That's just tooooo bad! I can imagine what she's going through any time she remembers. Forgiveness my foot! I will never forgive him. Some secrets are better kept silent or he's ready to end the marriage because no 'SU' self will forgive him.

6 mennnnnnnnnn That man is as good as deaddddddd if he tells me. Nonsense

She's wasting her precious time. The earlier she learns to forgive, the farther she is to High BP.

Leriebloom:

The man even try, how will someone married the woman his friends had pleasured with before.

Decker:


First of all, the bible never instructed to forgive and forget. That phrase is no where in the scripture. So you are wrong on that premise.

The woman is already scarred forever. Telling her the truth or not can't change that. The aftermath of the rape encounter is still dealing a big blow on her and that's why she is always remembering the experience and laying curses on her attackers. She is still suffering from the trauma, so whether or not the husband tells her, she will still be experiencing such trauma.

The mind of every human being works differently, both in the way it collects information and the way it processes such information. The way the woman would handle the truth if it's dished out to her, may not be the way you think she would handle it, or the way you would handle it if your were in her shoes. You can never tell how she would react, but like I said earlier, she deserves to know the truth. And yes, the husband should be prepared for the worst, but the worst may not be as bad as you think.

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The man is feeling guilty yet he continued to r.ape her everyday. Interesting!

A rapists deserves every bad thing that happens to them. He should be punished

Very funny.
You raped someone and turned around to marry them? Very very funny.
Like the person's life is a joke to you.

She deserves to know of course but I won't forgive if I'm her.
Thunder fire him.

Decker:


Whether or not the wife would forgive him, which there is a probability she would, isn't really what's primary. Some secrets are meant to be kept, some just aren't. The wife has a right to know the truth. It's both wickedness and injustice on the part of the man if he doesn't tell the wife the truth.

Besides, the man is hurt. He is filled with regret and guilt. A large chunk of that regret and guilt will be lifted off his shoulders if he tells the wife the truth.

Bros call the man's wife and tell her nah' Lol

BayLord01:
The man even try, how will someone married the woman his friends had pleasured with before.

The man is evil, how can you get married to someone you raped with your friends...She should be very careful with that man.

Decker:
I think the wise thing to do is for the man to tell his wife the truth. The more he keeps hiding the truth, the more he will be haunted by it. The pain and regret his feeling will only get worse. So it's better he just finds a way to tell her what happened and how he feels about the whole thing.

The wife is indirectly and unknowingly rain curses on her own self, so hiding the truth isn't actually favoring anyone.

don't we have this guys that doi terapy in Nigeria, or at least He should see their Pastor first, She is still hurting from the. Incident despict the time frame, so her reaction may be very hard.

misspicy:

Tell the wife the truth?


Do you know the damage that act of his must have done,Rape is a torture on its on,now imagine been raped by

1

2

3

4

5

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6

men...


my dear if that woman gets hold of just one of them,that person is as good as dead. Forget about the relationship between both of them.

it would have been better if she was aware right from onset before she got married to him,then she can decide if she still want to spend her life with him,if she knows now,she will feel cheated and used,so he raped her and still crowned it all by marrying her without telling her for years....does will be her thought.

For her to still keep remembering and cursing them, its obvious she still expects to revenge.

I would advice the man to not say any thing about it and accept his conscience as a reward for what he did to the lady,then since he is changed man now,he should keep praying for forgiveness

perfect explanation, but no amount of prayer will wash the guilt off his conscience, or erase that day off that woman's life,the man has no option than to open up,even the bible says it,restitution ain't an easy thing to do but its always the right thing,and the man should take whatever befalls him after his tales,I mean if u can commit the crime then be ready for the time,in for a penny in for a pound they say.

Leriebloom:
I went to a relationship program today and we were asked to write questions that we wanted to be answered and when the questions started popping up , an intresting topic caught my attention which was about a woman who was raped by 6 men and who unkowingly married one of the men who raped her, the funny thing here is that this guy was aware that he was involved in the rape before he married her, yet he didnt tell her. He claims he raped her when he was still in the world and gave his life to christ before he married her. The problem here is that anytime his wife remembers the incident she reigns curses on the rapists and he feels guilty about it, he doesn't know how to tell her about his ugly past and if it would scatter the marriage.

he didn't tell her and he told you or the damn relationship program

too much of Yoruba movies isn't good for your health.


rubbish

Op I think I'm more interested in the question you wrote so tell me..

Leriebloom:
I went to a relationship program today and we were asked to write questions that we wanted to be answered and when the questions started popping up , an intresting topic caught my attention which was about a woman who was raped by 6 men and who unkowingly married one of the men who raped her, the funny thing here is that this guy was aware that he was involved in the rape before he married her, yet he didnt tell her. He claims he raped her when he was still in the world and gave his life to christ before he married her. The problem here is that anytime his wife remembers the incident she reigns curses on the rapists and he feels guilty about it, he doesn't know how to tell her about his ugly past and if it would scatter the marriage.

I don't think he should tell her. Rather he should talk her into forgiving those men. Holding resentment like that apart from being unchristian keeps her from healing and progressing emotionally. He should guide her into forgiving those men and letting go.
Telling her he was part of the rapists is a very bad idea. Imagine living in the same house with someone that raped you and remembering it everytime u see the person. Nothing positive can come out of it.It's something that should be left in the past. Even God wipes away sins and 'forgets' them. He should make her focus on forgiveness and self healing instead.

brabus:
The man is feeling guilty yet he continued to r.ape her everyday. Interesting!

Ah h! Rape kwa? How?

gozzlin:

Are you the man who was involved in the raping?

ask am abeg!
be bringing false story up and down!
it looks like anything that deals with r APE bring more traffic!

gozzlin:




My bad, I thought you were.

When you'll not patiently read...

Never say goodbye by telling her the truth... Else take her to your pastor and confessed.

Tell her, at least you're trying to make amends...it won't be easy though

sonofananimal:
he didn't tell her and he told you or the damn relationship program

too much of Yoruba movies isn't good for your health.


rubbish

What's with the whole insult this morning, u must b avn a pretty bad day or either u woke up on d wrong side of ur bed. Too much of anger is not gud for ur health so take it easy.

the husband should kill the remaining five and ask for forgiveness in their funeral. Why are som guys so stupid. Their are places where you can bleep for just 5h so why rape. Nawa ooooh.
Stupid people creating fake stories on rape. Try and be creative

Some confessions are better when kept secret considering the fact this might ruin their marriage but keeping it secret will continue to hurt his conscience. It's a very difficult decision to make.

Leriebloom:

i see

Hello, sent a pm.... . Kindly reply

Bros no tell am o, no mind all these people for here o. Dem wan spoil ya marriage, police go carry you first, use you go arrest ur other friends them. Gbege go dey everywhere, ur children go suffer wells, Abeg let secret be secret. How many of us fit own up to our secret f'ups by the way?

Leriebloom:

What's with the whole insult this morning, u must b avn a pretty bad day or either u woke up on d wrong side of ur bed. Too much of anger is not gud for ur health so take it easy.

you really don't know what INSULT is, do you?

why bring false story this mourning?

6 guys r APE rarely occur because the rapist do also have a sense of awareness to certain disease and if peradventure it do occur! either that event kill her or one of them must surely kill her.


what's the meaning this! what are you insinuating here!

What type of confession is that
He must be suck if he think one will forgive such ! He mayb had a chance if he told her from the get go

Imagine laying with a rapist ( mind u his lucky they didnt burn him) that being said the fact his alive to contemplate this issue is enough for him ... He can tell her but risk loosing her

Some things is berra taking to the grave ... Cuz rape nah serious thing ... It destroys lives n no woman once knowing that info would stay ... Only a low life

Leriebloom:

It wont be an easy thing to forgive.

And what does it matter if she forgives or not?

Leriebloom:
It wont be an easy thing to forgive.

I swear. Not to mention that the wife here could even report him to the popo