SpencerLewis:

God (aka onye nwem) must have created around 12 O'clock mid day when the sun is brightest most. Do u know why I say so? Look ur self in the mirror u'll understand better.

Lolz.

Una don start nollywood for here abi.

[size=18pt]Many women have married boyfriends who actually "raped" them.
Rape is when you force someone to have sex with you and if we must say the truth, majority of Nigerian girls and women have been raped by their boyfriends before marriage.
Any boy or man who does not accept your NO and goes on to force you to yield and succumb to him in sex is a rapist. [/size]

HateU2:
It's better he did not say anything bcox if I happens to be the wife, I will kill him and won't mind going to the prison for it. Six good men? Habah! That's just tooooo bad! I can imagine what she's going through any time she remembers. Forgiveness my foot! I will never forgive him. Some secrets are better kept silent or he's ready to end the marriage because no 'SU' self will forgive him.

You don't expect God to forgive you any of your sins either. I know it's hard... but always remember the Lord's prayer, I don't know if you say it "Forgive our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us"

pseudonomer:


You don't expect God to forgive you any of your sins either. I know it's hard... but always remember the Lord's prayer, I don't know if you say it "Forgive our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us"

You've said it all 'it's hard'. That's what I need

It mighr be difficult for the man to make dis kind of confession becos he never can tell what will happen after d confession. But he still must confess,
Because as d wife is cursing d rapists its affecting her as well as dia children. Now a woman wouldn't want her children cursed, so she will forgive d man because of her children.

Another thing dat will make her 4give is if d man have been very good to her in d marriage. I mean for a man to rape u, marry u, and still treat u with so much love and respect den u know dat he loves u... #justmytaught#

The marriage is already scattered. He lied and married a woman he'd hurt in the past without disclosing material information.

Estellar:
she would never forgive him. Whatever love there was dies instantly

well u have a good point tho

both of them should see a physio therapist

Philippines movie, i remember watching it on MyTv

For the man to be involved in the rape and stilll went ahead to marry her was not a wise thing to do, but I believed there was a reason for that.

At this time, the best is to confess. She alll surely forgive him. Everybody have a past

Leriebloom:
I went to a relationship program today and we were asked to write questions that we wanted to be answered and when the questions started popping up , an intresting topic caught my attention which was about a woman who was raped by 6 men and who unkowingly married one of the men who raped her, the funny thing here is that this guy was aware that he was involved in the rape before he married her, yet he didnt tell her. He claims he raped her when he was still in the world and gave his life to christ before he married her. The problem here is that anytime his wife remembers the incident she reigns curses on the rapists and he feels guilty about it, he doesn't know how to tell her about his ugly past and if it would scatter the marriage.

It would have been better if you were the man. It would allow us to ask one or two questions to have enough information before we air our views.

Nonetheless my opinion goes as follows: Truth is sometimes bitter, but a hidden truth that is later discovered becomes deadly. Nothing garantees him that the wife may not find out, one day or the other. In my village they say, a Lie has small legs. I'm told there's an igbo proverb that says The belly of a woman can't be hidden with a wrapper.

So she may later on discover the Truth. And even if she doesn't, the conscience of the man is in hell. That may gradually affect his love for her, and even his sexual performances due to remorse. And since women are very intuitive, she may realize at some point there is something wrong.

Besides, there is no amount of prayer and blood of Jesus that can replace asking for forgiveness when you have wronged your fellow human being. Prayer is not a shortcut to sincerity and repentance. Everyone has the responsibility to ask for forgiveness to the one he has offended, or bear the responsibilities/consequences of his actions. Whatever you sow, that you shall reap in multiples.

For all these reasons, and more, the best way out in my sensing, for those who are in such a situation, is to admit the the truth. It will liberate the man, and the woman as well. She will stop cursing them, for she will understand that people do err, but they do change also. And while cursing them, she is actually cursing herself too, for we receive more of what we give to others.

The man should tell the truth and ask for forgiveness. He may have to endure the wrath of his wife. That's the karma of his actions. We can delay it, but we can't avoid it. And who knows? it may turn out that the woman forgives him, and they shall live happily together, stronger and more in love than ever. That's my wish and prayer for them.

Greetings.

LoJ:

It would have been better if you were the man. It would allow us to ask one or two questions to have enough information before we air our views.

Nonetheless my opinion goes as follows: Truth is sometimes bitter, but a hidden truth that is later discovered becomes deadly. Nothing garantees him that the wife may not find out, one day or the other. In my village they say, a Lie has small legs. I'm told there's an igbo proverb that says The belly of a woman can't be hidden with a wrapper.

So she may later on discover the Truth. And even if she doesn't, the conscience of the man is in hell. That may gradually affect his love for her, and even his sexual performances due to remorse. And since women are very intuitive, she may realize at some point there is something wrong.

Besides, there is no amount of prayer and blood of Jesus that can replace asking for forgiveness when you have wronged your fellow human being. Prayer is not a shortcut to sincerity and repentance. Everyone has the responsibility to ask for forgiveness to the one he has offended, or bear the responsibilities/consequences of his actions. Whatever you sow, that you shall reap in multiples.

For all these reasons, and more, the best way out in my sensing, for those who are in such a situation, is to admit the the truth. It will liberate the man, and the woman as well. She will stop cursing them, for she will understand that people do err, but they do change also. And while cursing them, she is actually cursing herself too, for we receive more of what we give to others.

The man should tell the truth and ask for forgiveness. He may have to endure the wrath of his wife. That's the karma of his actions. We can delay it, but we can't avoid it. And who knows? it may turn out that the woman forgives him, and they shall live happily together, stronger and more in love than ever. That's my wish and prayer for them.

Greetings.

Very true.

Our attitude is a sum total of our exposure, education and orientation.

His confession will almost certainly 'scatter the marriage', but at least he will be free. True repentance is complete when there is a restitution. He needs to confess to his wife what he did to her and leave the outcome to God. There is nothing as liberating as a free conscience.