cedargroove:
Blessing in Disguise. Congratulations man, you just dodged a massive bullet!!! Walai the girl wasn't Inlove with you anymore for so long until when she's able to pour it out. I was in the same boat 2 years ago but she called back when she realized I had a better job.. Fucking Gold diggers

kaziblake:
I'm not offended.
Both of them can put heads 2gether and plan their lives,But I'm sure the girl already met another man who is financially better than him.

laprince:
Am so sorry bro. I just remembered mine too. She told me the love she has for me was less than the love I had for her. So, she dumped me and went over to date a wealthier friend of mine that I introduced her to, when she came visiting me on an occasion.

Now, my life has improved she sometimes send me I MISS YOU MESSAGES. When I see such messages, I just reply and wish her well.

You know what, I ignored her and my friend. They are no longer dating now. They both had issues. According to her, She says am a person she would have taken more time to know better. However, that does not cheer me, I have moved ahead.

Just look good, don't ever bother to BEG her

God's grace will shine on you soon.

CHEERS!!!

midehi2:

lol...that means she is temporary with that guy, he will only use her, dump her and go back abroad....she will come back to tell you 'its the devil

2sex:
Freecocoa, I am currently listening to "you and I" by plantashunboyz


Girlie why do me so, why u have to go

BTT:
Poor you.

She is overrated.

Even if you get a breakthrough today she should be allowed to stand by her choice.

Don't kill yourself. No need. You think your life depends on someone who can't bear with you while you deal with something that is practically out of your control. Come on!

Get closer to your female members of your family and old friends. It will help you get over it quick.

Ciao.

CutieViva:
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hurting:
Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.

I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.

After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.

Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances.

This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind.

She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.

Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit.
Pls help a brother.

pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me.

P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors.

freecocoa:
You are not serious.

hurting:
Good day all! I never thought I will never create a topic like this because I believed I had a perfect love life. I have to create this moniker just for this topic that has and still eating me deep. I will try to make it as brief as possible.

I have been a relationship for 7yrs with the lady that I love beyond measures. I do anything possible within my reach to satisfy n make her happy. She has also been wonderful and almost perfect (nobody is). We started dating from uni days and where d pride n envy of many even after school.

After my service, I started looking for job but as things get murky in d labour market, I started a little ICT troubleshooting hustle, just to keep body n soul together before d job comes. Now this lady has been supportive all d way, after her service she moved to where am based, we managed what we have. She got a job while I was still doing what I do, I could provide for d daily running around like food, clothing, small bills, etc. I could pay my rent sometimes but atimes my siblings support me. When biz haven't been good.

Now this my lady resigned from where she was working because her female boss wasn't treating them well, tru one of my friends I secured a better paying n welfare job in a construction firm for her. We have been doing fine all this while but when I proposed to her she said we should wait till I get a better paying job. I make an average of 35-40k at d end of month but because I spend on what we need in d house I usually don't have it in bulk at d end of d month. She earns around 80k plus a car. Her new boss gives car loan to all his staff down to d secretary. She is an engineer there. She have been having this fear of lack because of what she faced as a child, so whenever d issue of marriage comes up she says I shld wait till I get a job n when ever her friends or mine wedd she cries n complain that I dnt want to marry her. I have promised her that we can make it with our present earnings n with time I will get that job. I knw I live far better than some married men in terms of finances.

This year I made up my mind to ask her for hand in marriage on vals day, but last week she gave me d shocker of my life, but telling me she had moved on because of my employment status. I have begged like I ave never begged anyone before, telling her that am very sure d job will come before d babies start coming. She told me she has found someone else and that she has made up her mind.

She still loves me, but the job issue I her phobia, dont get me wrong she is very decent n has been faithful all our yrs together. Right now my heart is torn to shreds, I don't sleep at night, I cry every night, I cant eat well, I have lost weight. Am I beginning to scare my self with d kind of suicidal thoughts I have these days. I have built my whole adult life around her, I try to let go but cant.

Pls nairalanders advice me before I do something drastic, I need all the advice I can get, am on job sites 24/7 now just to get something n probably win her back. She is not after riches just d basics. And for those that will lash me, I need it too, it might cheer me a bit.
Pls help a brother.

pls help me push this to FP I need all d advice I could get before its too late for me.

P.S. Sorry for any grammatical blunder n punctuation errors.


Can I have your contact bro?

2sex:
thanks bro. Well said. It's just pathetic how ungrateful these women are.

When I was growing up the news in town around Lawason. Zamba street was that a certain Ndubisi sponsored a girl from secondary to university level.

After graduating, she came with another guy to introduce to him as her husband to be.

What pain can be measured to that bro. A man toiled day and night to see this girl become better person so his family can have a better future as he didn't go to school. His shop was at the popular mbuka area of Lawanson and he was a family friend.

Women are devils. Quote me anywhere.

Moz22:
bros can I get ur contact or something?

2sex:
Bros, watch Titanic and you will see where it was said at the very beginning: "a woman's heart Is an ocean of secrets"

Ndubisi for my area train babe from secondary school to uni, what came out of it? Another man married her.

One bro told me his as well. He took a girl who sold near ekpoma and spoke to the dad. She secured admission. Four years going and what happened next?

The earlier we realise humans are selfish beings, the better for us.

Like someone rightly stated, love does not exist. I used to be an advocate of love but I have come realise that it does not really exist, it's just personal interest. As in what you stand to gain. It's an investment with hope in will yield good ROI in the future and if you are smart, only invest what you can afford to lose like we say in forex parlance. Never invest more than 2% of your capital

ecosanders:


God help her she come begging... its just that i know my heart wont let me hurt her.......

2sex:
no wonder when me make love to you all u do is hold me tight call another brother name

No wonder when me look into your all I see is your not the same no more.

freecocoa:
Some other person would have been offended, kudos.

Now we are talking, she's just after personal gain, I understand wanting to live a certain kind of life but not at the expense of someone you claim to love, their incomes combined can keep them afloat till they get to their desired estate, it's not like the dude she left for/with can't become penniless the next second.

She's not as great as the OP painted.

Decker:
Look bro, first things first. I'll advise that you don't relent in your hard work and search for a job, but you shouldn't make the mistake of doing all this with the mindset of winning your girl back.
To be honest with you, the girl made her decision and she chose someone else, someone more financially capable over you, despite the long way you the both of you had come. It's kind of sad, I know, but it's her choice and she has her reasons. She has told you she has moved on and I think you should too. Things like this happen at some point in our lives and when this kind of things happen, the best thing to do is to just wipe the dust of pain and regret off of you and move on with your life. That girl betrayed your love and friendship, all on the altar of having a better life. That tells a lot about her character and what exactly it is she wants from life. Even if you do win her back, which is highly improbable, what's your guarantee that she won't leave you for someone else in future when the going beings to get tough?

The thing about love is that it makes you think that person you are in love with is the best person out there, but that's not true.
You might think that no one can be as pretty and fun and smart and all those good qualities you admire in her, all in one, but there are actually other girls like that out there, better girls. And out of them, there is one for you. But in other for you to see them, you first have to remove the scales of supposed love from your eyes.
So, stop crying like a baby and get this girl off your mind, free yourself from all the negativity and keep looking for a job and I know you will find one. And when you do find one, work hard to be established in it, and along the line, you will find the right girl who really deserves you.

Justdulla:
I wonder why brothers still think like this nowadays oooh,,when she started bringing up the gist of good earning job as a prequisite for marriage you should have understood that her eye don shine and move on from there but instead you stuck to her.. THe truth is that her taste has changed, forget the 7 yrs u spent together, thats women for you..... If were you forget her, delete her number sharperly even the pictures, whatever brings memories, delete it cos one silly heartbreak isnt worth taking your life... And you should thank God it even happened now and she showed her true colours imagine if you were financially bouyant then things went south after marriage, she go just pack load run... A certain uncle of mine is a teacher, he earns like 45 k per month, hie married to a graduate, he lives in Abuja satellite town, he has a bouncing baby boy and he and his family are doing okay.... Moral of the story, forget it that chick never believed in you she has already made up her mind to marry a rich man, move on with you life, go back to an ex or a fling that you still have a thing for reconcile and if things work out marry oooh and enjoy your life your ex is already enjoying her life and you are thinking of winning her back mtscheeeeew. Goodmorning

midehi2:

eeyaa...that means you still love her deeply