biola44:

sure, cos 10yrs is a long time

agathamari:

knowing the truth hurts less then not knowing.  if you see your gf walk out of a hotel which hurts worse the ideas racing through your head of all the things that may have happend or knowing exactly what happend?  the truth is never as bad as what your mind can think of

TheSeeker:

Depends on the kind of courtship. First of all, during courtship you have limitations as to what you can do and share together while it's exactly the opposite when it comes to marriage. May I also reiterate that all of us do have some incidents in the past we want to keep to ourselves unless we want to open a can of worms; all of us do. There are secrets I might not want to talk about, and there may be some about you that I'd find disturbing. However, they are all in the past, so why don't we just bury them where they belong -- the past? Why looking for unnecessary "past" incidents that will only jeopardize what good could have happened to your courtship? I'm only concerned about what I know that may lead you to tell me about your past. Succinctly put, why ask a woman how many men she's slept with? Some guys do that and I find it really absurd. However, if I do get married, it'll be the greatest accomplishment in my life -- finding someone with whom I feel comfortable enough to trust with certain issues; that is a blessing and the highest rated favor.

Even after I have married her, I'm more concerned about moving the marriage forward to work better rather than dig up dirt from the past but there's a little addition to that : If I find out she did something and that leads to her telling me about a similar situation in the past which I never knew about, I will retrieve caution from the air and watch with my eyes wide open. Marriage can not be in any way compared to Courtship. Even if you break up after marriage, there will have been some sort of success which includes but not limited to : Having lived a happy life, beautiful kids and the reminisce of the happiness we have shared as a family and that, you can never, find in any courtship. If I have to choose between the two break ups, I will go with marriage break up because I have something to show for it.

MRbrownJAY:

looking at the phrase" broken courtship is better than broken marriage" then i would have to disagree completely.
first let me say that what you dont know cannot hurt you so in my book, if a person has lived +10yrs of marital bliss had children and then found something that make them broke up then this person has had +10yrs of happiness and that cannot be taken lightly therefore, although the marriage is no more, this person has had a wonderful time of happiness. just the experiences of going through marriage, finding that special someone, waking up next to that person, being with a person you love and want to share the rest of your life, that alone should be worth whatever headache you will get at the end of the union.
better have happiness in small packages than no happiness at all.
like i said earlier thats my views because i believe that the day i found someone to "MARRY" then that person will be so special that even if i only spend 10yrs with her, it would be 10yrs of walking on heaven.

TheSeeker:

Depends on the kind of courtship. First of all, during courtship you have limitations as to what you can do and share together while it's exactly the opposite when it comes to marriage. May I also reiterate that all of us do have some incidents in the past we want to keep to ourselves unless we want to open a can of worms; all of us do. There are secrets I might not want to talk about, and there may be some about you that I'd find disturbing. However, they are all in the past, so why don't we just bury them where they belong -- the past? Why looking for unnecessary "past" incidents that will only jeopardize what good could have happened to your courtship? I'm only concerned about what I know that may lead you to tell me about your past. Succinctly put, why ask a woman how many men she's slept with? Some guys do that and I find it really absurd. However, if I do get married, it'll be the greatest accomplishment in my life -- finding someone with whom I feel comfortable enough to trust with certain issues; that is a blessing and the highest rated favor.

Even after I have married her, I'm more concerned about moving the marriage forward to work better rather than dig up dirt from the past but there's a little addition to that : If I find out she did something and that leads to her telling me about a similar situation in the past which I never knew about, I will retrieve caution from the air and watch with my eyes wide open. Marriage can not be in any way compared to Courtship. Even if you break up after marriage, there will have been some sort of success which includes but not limited to : Having lived a happy life, beautiful kids and the reminisce of the happiness we have shared as a family and that, you can never, find in any courtship. If I have to choose between the two break ups, I will go with marriage break up because I have something to show for it.

agathamari:

knowing the truth hurts less then not knowing. if you see your gf walk out of a hotel which hurts worse the ideas racing through your head of all the things that may have happend or knowing exactly what happend? the truth is never as bad as what your mind can think of