tpia.:

Benin city or Benin Republic?

as in alhaji osaro edokpolor of benin city?

@OP, i dont know why you guys are only worth these past their sell by date men. as a mole he is allowed 4 so be patient with him.

henryhemon:

i think he's using you big time,can't imagine anyone that truely loves his gf asking her to marry some other person,i ask n this marriage,aren't you going to sleep with the man?its cery clear his using you,he doesn't have an atom of love for you.

how would you know this when the man is allwed 4

Thanks alot debestl

I love the Yoruba tribe and what it is about that I gave my 5yr old a Yoruba name.

But anyway, you know sometimes you have to learn your lesson by falling. But not this time around. It is just so amazing that you have to still squeeze through the bad oranges to get to the sweet ones. (So I guess squeeze on!)

countrygrl:

Thanks alot debestl

I love the Yoruba tribe and what it is about that I gave my 5yr old a Yoruba name.

But anyway, you know sometimes you have to learn your lesson by falling. But not this time around. It is just so amazing that you have to still squeeze through the bad oranges to get to the sweet ones. (So I guess squeeze on!)

You're welcome, ironically I like sqeezing as well, ha ha ha

So how can we start a personal conversation. Do you have a e-mail or aim account? There are things that I am interested in. I am also a new muslim convert. So you can imagine my frustration with this person. Who is also a muslim(devout)LOL

I dont really think his tribe should be the major issue here.

Different countries, different exposures.

He's Francophone, for example, while Naijas are English speaking. Find out how things roll in Benin Republic, unless he says he was born and raised in Nigeria.

big difference. His being Yoruba doesnt mean he has the same attitude as a Yoruba man from across the border, and shouldnt be viewed the same.

Even among themselves Yorubas arent identical.

Look at an AA from the US and compare with their black Canadian counterparts if you dont get what I'm saying.

GEW:

as in alhaji osaro edokpolor of benin city?

I dont get your point?

is there anywhere in Africa without indigenous muslims?

countrygrl:

So how can we start a personal conversation. Do you have a e-mail or aim account? There are things that I am interested in. I am also a new muslim convert. So you can imagine my frustration with this person. Who is also a muslim(devout)LOL

dan_olumo@hotmail.com

@Poster. . .

Well,

countrygrl:

So how can we start a personal conversation. Do you have a e-mail or aim account? There are things that I am interested in. I am also a new muslim convert. So you can imagine my frustration with this person. Who is also a muslim(devout)LOL

Well, I doubt you require any advice! Take a few moments to think: What do YOU want? Write it down! See if being married for BUSINESS or for PLAY (married for marriage sake, divorce could be tomorrow) or REALLY MARRIED for love and plan to stay married is on your list. You said you are completing college, so don`t you think you will make more money with peace of mind and marital stability when you complete college? But if you want temporal money and happiness, it is your choice too!

I wish ladies will think of the FUTURE and make good decisions, not when they are 50+ and still LOOKING for the ONE

@poster
Just don't agree in marrying anyone and see if he sticks around.

countrygrl:

Hello,


I met this niqerian guy(well he is from Benin)but claims niqerian. He is a muslim, but married a citizen for his papers. She lives in Texas and he lives in Bklyn, NY. We have been dating for 3mths. I am a U.S. citizen (born and raised). The other day he ask me to marry his friend to help him with his papers. I work and am completing my graduate degree. Now unless I am stupid, why would he ask me to marry his friend(for atleast 3 1/2 yrs). Would you ask your girlfriend for this huge favor if you were truly interested in in her. Someone help me to clear my eyes. What the   he asking of me?

well, he just clearly stated that u are not important to him and why on earth do u think he can easily leave the other woman and stick with u, life has many dynamics and the last thing u want to do is keep ur options slim with such a guy like that.

What can I say, I thought that he was a genuine person. But, hey life goes on. Is this how African men choose to see a African American woman as (a green card provider)? Are there any African men that are seriously, truly, honestly interested in African American women?

countrygrl:

What can I say, I thought that he was a genuine person. But, hey life goes on. Is this how African men choose to see a African American woman as (a green card provider)? Are there any African men that are seriously, truly, honestly interested in African American women?

ok that is crossing the line, it is just like the popular belief that if u see an AA woman with a white man it is bcuz of his money, that is just being stereotyping on folks. some africans have their priorities messed up but they are not the only one in the wrong, i have met many AAs that do this marriage deal as a biz and they care less for the guy just the money. now there are other nigerians and africans who are interested in AA women but u have to look for them, just like u have to look for a good AA brother or a good white guy that loves u for u not what u can give them but for u.

I don't think that was crossing the line. I think that was asking a question.

countrygrl:

I don't think that was crossing the line. I think that was asking a question.

ok, hope i answered ur question

It is YOU!!! What do you want from meeeeeeeeeeeeee

countrygrl:

It is YOU!!! What do you want from meeeeeeeeeeeeee

can't i answer ur questions?

aighttt, I give you that benefit of a strong doubt. So is that all you do? I mean like just answer questions. You don't have any Dr. Phil(LOL)

D guy's username is na2day? Dt alone qualifies him 2 be NL's Dr Phil.N don't worry,I'd see u as sumthing apart from a means of procuring a green card if I found U attractive,regardless of ur nationality,U dig?

So you say, your royal hoodness

countrygrl:

What can I say, I thought that he was a genuine person. But, hey life goes on. Is this how African men choose to see a African American woman as (a green card provider)? Are there any African men that are seriously, truly, honestly interested in African American women?

@Countrygrl. . .well, like you will suspect, there are a LOT of genuine people, Nigerians and Africans, who care about AA women and NOT because of green cards, money or material things. You will just have to find such a person or wait to be found by such a guy! I know people who are just looking for a REAL lady and not looking for a "green card provider"!

countrygrl:

aighttt, I give you that benefit of a strong doubt. So is that all you do? I mean like just answer questions. You don't have any Dr. Phil(LOL)

Dr. who? girl plzzzzz!

@countrygirl
but wait a min,
Do u knw dis friend of his?

No, I do not know his friend. Why do you ask?

Cos he's wondering hw ur friend could expect u 2 get married 2 s'mun U don't even know,n4 3 n a half yrs,DAMN! N as 4 what I said b4,I'm serious, do I look like I lie on saturday mornings?

Cos he's wondering hw ur friend could expect u 2 get married 2 s'mun U don't even know,n4 3 n a half yrs,DAMN! N as 4 what I said b4,I'm serious, do I look like I lie on saturday mornings?


N don't worry,I'd see u as sumthing apart from a means of procuring a green card if I found U attractive,regardless of ur nationality,U dig?

What are you saying?

countrygrl:

Cos he's wondering hw ur friend could expect u 2 get married 2 s'mun U don't even know,n4 3 n a half yrs,DAMN! N as 4 what I said b4,I'm serious, do I look like I lie on saturday mornings?


N don't worry,I'd see u as sumthing apart from a means of procuring a green card if I found U attractive,regardless of ur nationality,U dig?

[size=16pt]What are you saying? [/size]

ignore him, he had 2 much 2 drink

If you don't slap the guy. . . I will slap you

Anyway,

I haven't talk to my(bf) since Thursday. He got upset that I ask my good friend about the situation. He was like "Oh, you took our business to your friend?" I told him that I needed her advice because I know that she is not bias and give me a honest opinion. Then he said I will call you back. Well I waited for a day. Nothing, then I call he didn't answer, so later I call block my number and he answered as soon as he heard my voice he hung up and that was it.

So I guess that is it. And, I really did like him alot.

countrygrl:

Anyway,

I haven't talk to my(bf) since Thursday. He got upset that I ask my good friend about the situation. He was like "Oh, you took our business to your friend?" I told him that I needed her advice because I know that she is not bias and give me a honest opinion. Then he said I will call you back. Well I waited for a day. Nothing, then I call he didn't answer, so later I call block my number and he answered as soon as he heard my voice he hung up and that was it.

So I guess that is it. And, I really did like him alot.

girl, i will just tell u this, he is not worth the stress, just my 2 cents and u know in this economy, 2 cents is alot

Women complain about being victims of heartbreak after letting themselves be used like common tissue paper to wipe  

:oWait one second,

Who said anything about being USED!
As soon as I was asked I started seeking honest advice
So there was no time to be or get used. It is just once feeling start to creep in its either you go on feelings or you choose your morals/values. I can not at this moment call myself a used tissue. Sorry, don't mean to disapoint your comment.

OOOH YEAH?!?!?!?!

And wats the point of asking for advice when the answer is STARING AT YOU RIGHT IN THE FACE. . .
This whole thing is unnecessary if you ask me