layla129:
I think you guys are scared of commitment... that's why?

what has any of this got to do with commitment?! to the majority, marriage was NEVER an option, so why should it suddenly now be an issue?
they both commit to raise//care/provide for that child together, while being unmarried, thats the only commitment required here. why should they even get married if they never wanted/planned to do so?! marrying such person isnt commitment, thats PUNISHMENT!!!

layla129:
A lady is cool enough to be your girlfriend, have unprotected sex with and impregnate but marriage? Hell to the NO! ...Why
I can't imagine having a boyfriend i have sex with and then the issue of marriage will be a No No.
Why date and impregnate someone you can't get married to?

I don't get this

Why buy the cow, when you already get the milk for free?

layla129:
A lady is cool enough to be your girlfriend, have unprotected sex with and impregnate but marriage? Hell to the NO! ...Why
I can't imagine having a boyfriend i have sex with and then the issue of marriage will be a No No.
Why date and impregnate someone you can't get married to?

I don't get this

It may be because he finds u sexy and good in bed but u have other character traits that are deal breakers for him in terms of wifey material eg

1-flirt/promiscuous
2-lack of financial prudence
3-u don't contribute meaningfully to his life like helping him to save and invest, all u do is spend money
4-not neat, untidy
-5 dress irresponsibly outside
6-lack conversational skills
7-u lack foresight, drive, no ambition

8-can't cook for urself talkless of being able to prepare a decent meal for him and in his mind he will be thinking ,"Dear Lord, if i make a mistake and marry this girl, my future children will surely starve"

A man can have a gf who exhibits all of the above but will never want her as his wife.

sexylogan:


It may be because he finds u sexy and good in bed but u have other character traits that are deal breakers for him in terms of wifey material eg

1-flirt/promiscuous
2-lack of financial prudence
3-u don't contribute meaningfully to his life like helping him to save and invest, all u do is spend money
4-not neat, untidy
-5 dress irresponsibly outside
6-lack conversational skills
7-u lack foresight, drive, no ambition

8-can't cook for urself talkless of being able to prepare a decent meal for him and in his mind he will be thinking ,"Dear Lord, if i make a mistake and marry this girl, my future children will surely starve"

A man can have a gf who exhibits all of the above but will never want her as his wife.

I agree with you but why not break up with her immediately you notice all these? why wait till she becomes pregnant?

layla129:


I agree with you but why not break up with her immediately you notice all these? why wait till she becomes pregnant?

I wud never get a girl pregnant who isnt my wife.

sexylogan:


It may be because he finds u sexy and good in bed but u have other character traits that are deal breakers for him in terms of wifey material eg

1-flirt/promiscuous
2-lack of financial prudence
3-u don't contribute meaningfully to his life like helping him to save and invest, all u do is spend money
4-not neat, untidy
-5 dress irresponsibly outside
6-lack conversational skills
7-u lack foresight, drive, no ambition

8-can't cook for urself talkless of being able to prepare a decent meal for him and in his mind he will be thinking ,"Dear Lord, if i make a mistake and marry this girl, my future children will surely starve"

A man can have a gf who exhibits all of the above but will never want her as his wife.

as much as the above points are right for a gf vs wife, if she presents these traits then she is NO good as a babymama either. who is gonna cook meals for that child then? who is gonna raise that child properly? just because a woman is fuckable doesnt mean she has the abilities/requirements to be a babymama, some women out there are just good as fukcmate, and certainly not as mothers.