alexistaiwo:
My girlfriend and I got into a hot argument last month which degenerated into a break up. During the argument, lots of hurtful words were exchanged but she made the fatal error of saying that she is managing me. This is a girl that I literally 'toshed up' and I had provided all her needs from 2014 we started dating up to that point.
Two weeks later, she came back begging to be accepted back. she said she said those words out of provocation since I was the one that insulted her first. As a sure guy, I accepted her back but made a promise to my self that I will never spend a substantial amount of my money on her again since it seems that she is the ungrateful type.
Her love for me isn't in doubt but guys wise up. Don't go bankrupt because of a girl, at the end of the day she will say that you haven't done anything.

pls op before I comment on your gfs words and attitude, can you tell us what you said to her ..... I don't mean to pokenose but since you put up the things she said please let us know what you said too before I know who to give e-slap between the both if you.

Why do guys even give girls money? Doesn't make sense to me.

eiBADAn:


Honestly, there is no lie in all I said. I'm not trying to brag, but my dad is a billionaire and she knows this. I'm currently planning to leave the country to further my studies for the benefits of the family company. I had to apply for a visa for her which was refused. A blessing in disguise I must say. Now she wants me to try again. I have dropped her sisters CV with my dad tho he doesn't know them. She wants me to buy her brother a phone. Also my expensive wristwatch she wants me to dash her brother. Some times when we argue, she would be like, don't forget we are not married o. That got me thinking a lot. I talk to her mom so I don't know how to dump her without much hassles. I have a very soft heart which she's capitalizing on. I love and I'm sad as I'm typing this. I don't know what to do.

why people like u find it difficult to find good woman.hmmmmmmmmmm irony of life.pls I need job if u can help me I will appreciate.u can mail me here adedayospecial@gmail.com.tanks n God bless

Endtime girls

murphyibiam15:

nice one dear....have a fun filled married life

Tnks!

queencalipso:
But you just said you guys were having an argument when she said the word. Didn't you say hurtful things to her too? And to think you even insulted her first. If you can't take her back wholly please let her go.

You are here now forming boss because she came to beg you without considering the hurtful things you said to her too that made her say those words to you.

My dear, in as much as i dont believe in insulting any lady be it friend, colleague, wife or relation, i also advise its better a woman learns to control her emotions and tongue in situations like this. There are words that when vomitted has no damage control and capable of ruining a woman's future. Silence or quietness if possible has a great way of affecting the heart positively.

eiBADAn:
Guy, well said. If you do 99 things for a girl, it's the one thing you didn't that she would remember. If I make 300k a month, her personal budget is already over half of it and when there's an argument, she remembers one stupid thing I didn't buy or get for her, I'm talking about my gf. What do I do in my own case? She's not working cuz she's still searching. Let's assume I have 700k now, her budget would be 450k when I finish calculating expenses. She would do hair, change nails, buy makeup, but expensive creams, buy new clothes even tho she just bought few weeks back. She wants to send money to her mom, to her sister, to her brother. She's owing her friend, she has to pay. I do all these and the smallest argument we have, she would suddenly remember one stupid thing I didn't buy for her. How long do I keep up with these. O ti su mi o.

Guy, except you are joking o, if what you said is true, guy you epitomize a 21st century maga

Guys like u are the reason some girls take boyfriending as a source of income, do u think she would have used her money for all these?

Do u spend that percentage of ur monthly earning on ur future, haba, how could u spend so much on a girl that might even leave u at any time?

izaray:
Op, learn how to forgive and forget, she loves you which u had mentioned earlier!! They is no relationship that is perfect, even the married couples have their short-comings! But it all depends on how u handle it.

If u keeps taking things like this so serious in a mere relationship, then how about when u are married Dnt tell me you are the kind of husband that forgives his wife in a family meetings and still denies her food when he gets to the house !!!

Secondly, use this opportunity to correct/or that thing you know she has been doing that you don't like!! Being in a r/ship is supposed to be a thing of joy & Pleasure, mostly when the people involved are both in love with each other!!

So, wake-up guy and safe urself the stress!! No offense brh

I hv noticed that the reactions to the post had suddenly become a gender war

The female folks have defended what the lady in question said claiming it was a reactive verbal punch that the guy should have taken in good fate. Is it co-incident that most ladies say things they later regret in the heat of an argument? Have you ever seen 2 ladies quarelling? They say things.

The bottomline is people should learn to control their utterances especially when angry

alexistaiwo:
My girlfriend and I got into a hot argument last month which degenerated into a break up. During the argument, lots of hurtful words were exchanged but she made the fatal error of saying that she is managing me. This is a girl that I literally 'toshed up' and I had provided all her needs from 2014 we started dating up to that point.
Two weeks later, she came back begging to be accepted back. she said she said those words out of provocation since I was the one that insulted her first. As a sure guy, I accepted her back but made a promise to my self that I will never spend a substantial amount of my money on her again since it seems that she is the ungrateful type.
Her love for me isn't in doubt but guys wise up. Don't go bankrupt because of a girl, at the end of the day she will say that you haven't done anything.

. Nna eh ... You must fancy yourself a great catch.

queencalipso:

Hmm!! It's both ways dear

Both ways how?

sunnyt1:


I hv noticed that the reactions to the post had suddenly become a gender war

The female folks have defended what the lady in question said claiming it was a reactive verbal punch that the guy should have taken in good fate. Is it co-incident that most ladies say things they later regret in the heat of an argument? Have you ever seen 2 ladies quarelling? They say things.

The bottomline is people should learn to control their utterances especially when angry

Gbam!! Seconded!

MurderX:
Why do guys even give girls money? Doesn't make sense to me.

Its now a norm


Its difficult to maintain a relationship with a woman (sexual relationship ) without expenses

No woman no cry

alexistaiwo:
My girlfriend and I got into a hot argument last month which degenerated into a break up. During the argument, lots of hurtful words were exchanged but she made the fatal error of saying that she is managing me. This is a girl that I literally 'toshed up' and I had provided all her needs from 2014 we started dating up to that point.
Two weeks later, she came back begging to be accepted back. she said she said those words out of provocation since I was the one that insulted her first. As a sure guy, I accepted her back but made a promise to my self that I will never spend a substantial amount of my money on her again since it seems that she is the ungrateful type.
Her love for me isn't in doubt but guys wise up. Don't go bankrupt because of a girl, at the end of the day she will say that you haven't done anything.

Life is too short for drama



No more jezebels,once I sense any form of jezebel from a lady that's the end



I used to be a lot nicer to ladies unfortunately I saw more hoes than a farmer

Phunmyne:

That is the normal way it should be, esp for guys. that's what drives a man.

most guys have derailed sadly

alexistaiwo:

I don't have time for this. Am too mature to indulge in nonproductive talk like this. go hit on someone else

How is dis ur topic productive now. U say u're mature and u're acting d way u do. U insulted a girl, d girl insult u back, u com here con dey form boss. If u like give her moni if u like don't give her moni. Wetin concern us inside. Mtchew

eiBADAn:


Did I mention that she converted to Christianity when we met and we pray together now. I'm a Christain.This adds to the confusion, is it a more sophisticated way of deceit, well she can't deceive God if she deceives herself.



I'm no mumu or maga, my bad is embedded in me. I'm only helping a poor soul. It costs me nothing. God is doing more in my life. If I dump her, they would say guys are wicked. I will just cope till I travel abroad. Can't hurt a fly unlike before when I never cared. My old self would vanish, change my sims, block her on all social media so that I can forget about her quickly but that's not the only way. I'm happy for the response. She's sleeping as I'm typing this after cooking, cleaning and washing.

wait u guys live togeda?...well its not a crime spending on someone u claim u love but I see it as a total waste of tym for d man wen he gives his girl 10k and she does not ever fink of multiplying it on her own, for gudness sake shud av established herself wit d litu she's getting from u, Dats not a sign of criosness...mehn I don't fink I wanna depend too much on my man, u can talk senses into her and see if she wud change but if she doesn't, my dear RUN!!!...Dats just d way I feel

marv1:
Bros nawa for u o. A girl who is a complete liability, only to clean, wash and Bleep. Finish 200k in three days. Nothing more . Is there any future. This is why we have a lot of failed marriages today because people have refused to use their head b4 they enter into marriage. A woman that is managing u will definately drop u when she sees a better maga to manage. 'She used to be a bad girl' according to the Op. Out of abundance of heart the mouth speaks.

Guy, they say, "birds of same feather, na d same mama born dem". You will get a partner that shares the same life style with u. If you want a responsible wife, first of be a responsible man. Visit responsible places and you will end up picking a responsible girl. As u said about failed marriage, we have many of it these days cos we live fake life. Cos u love that beautiful girl, u decide to influence her love by spending stupidly on her, making her believe its all well wt u. U tell her dat u dont want her to suffer. U only want her to sit down and enjoy ur money. U kill the spirit of struggling to fend for herself in her. You finally marry her and want her to start doing all those things u never allowed her to do earlier. Tell me why the relationship wont shake.

queencalipso:

Hmm!! It's both ways dear

A guy can never tell a girl what have she done for him even when he knows financially nothing.

Even on my birthday nothing

Valentine nothing

I never worried or question her ability to give

It pained me to be asked to list all I have done for her.

My point is this

When ladies start seeing a guy who may seem more buoyant than you they tend to forget all u have done

Its just a norm

eiBADAn:
Guy, well said. If you do 99 things for a girl, it's the one thing you didn't that she would remember. If I make 300k a month, her personal budget is already over half of it and when there's an argument, she remembers one stupid thing I didn't buy or get for her, I'm talking about my gf. What do I do in my own case? She's not working cuz she's still searching. Let's assume I have 700k now, her budget would be 450k when I finish calculating expenses. She would do hair, change nails, buy makeup, but expensive creams, buy new clothes even tho she just bought few weeks back. She wants to send money to her mom, to her sister, to her brother. She's owing her friend, she has to pay. I do all these and the smallest argument we have, she would suddenly remember one stupid thing I didn't buy for her. How long do I keep up with these. O ti su mi o.

MAGA is Paying.. Shout Aleluhia.. LOL

eiBADAn:
Guy, well said. If you do 99 things for a girl, it's the one thing you didn't that she would remember. If I make 300k a month, her personal budget is already over half of it and when there's an argument, she remembers one stupid thing I didn't buy or get for her, I'm talking about my gf. What do I do in my own case? She's not working cuz she's still searching. Let's assume I have 700k now, her budget would be 450k when I finish calculating expenses. She would do hair, change nails, buy makeup, but expensive creams, buy new clothes even tho she just bought few weeks back. She wants to send money to her mom, to her sister, to her brother. She's owing her friend, she has to pay. I do all these and the smallest argument we have, she would suddenly remember one stupid thing I didn't buy for her. How long do I keep up with these. O ti su mi o.

MAGA is Paying.. Shout Alleluhia.. LOL

queencalipso:
But you just said you guys were having an argument when she said the word. Didn't you say hurtful things to her too? And to think you even insulted her first. If you can't take her back wholly please let her go.

You are here now forming boss because she came to beg you without considering the hurtful things you said to her too that made her say those words to you.

they always quick to defend themselves.

nnamdiokere45:
I hate dat word 'am just managing you'. fvck hu d hell r u? you be managing director?

It's a sentence not a word

SwissSteve:
It's a sentence not a word

no vex na...ok am sorry

SuperSuave:
I stopped prioritizing and taking girls serious since I got out of secondary school. dreams and ambition first others follow

Ma niccur if your were a girl, I would have kissed u gan #NoHomo. Girls should not be taken seriously, bunch of ungrateful homo-sapiens

izaray:
My dear, it's only d married once that knows the meaning of that word!!

All relationships don't lead to marriage..

queencalipso:


Judgemental? No honey! Am stating the obvious. For God sake they were having a fight and just like someone said, all is fair in war. He started the insult first and she retaliated out of anger; why is he now crying wolf? Remember the op didn't tell us the hurtful things he said to her.
If anyone is being judgemental here, is the guys that are supporting his decision based on his own side of the story which of course if you read through it with an open mind you will realise what a jerk the op is (apologies for the word). The girl understands that it was a fight which they both lost their temper and said hurtful things to each other, so she apologised. why can't the op see it that way too and let it go if he wants to take her back; rather he held onto her words and came to nl to form boss. Do you think the girl would have come to beg if she held onto his own words;

Who knows, he probably said worse things than just managing her.

Trust me the "managing " word is more painful than whatever thing he said to her.. especially from someone you've spent a lot on.