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Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by nairalandbuzz(m): 10:19am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Gasout: My first thought? Take her to general hospital for a blood test... She might be testing u 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by evelynakin: 10:35am On Jun 20, 2016 |
I WILL SUGGEST YOU FIRST GO TO A DOCTOR WITH HER TO CONFIRM HER STATUS. IT COULD BE PART OF TESTING UR SERIOUSNESS PRANK. I SEE NO REASON FOR HER TO KEEP SUCH INFO TILL WHEN U RE BOTH WAXING STRONG IN D RELATIONSHIP |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by mofy1(f): 10:39am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Lets not play God here. Bros I will advise u to follow ur heart okay. Fine let's look at it this way, what about if u leave her all because she has that VIRUS(hiv) and get married to a health woman as health clean lady and after two month or a year into the marriage and she is diagnose with a more deadlier disease like cancer or kidney problem. Some of us are ignorant of so many things why. U come to NL and use all kind of arsh words on pple who are sick, poor, unlucky or av emotional isssue like u can see ur future or knows tomorrow. Becareful what u say to others cos it might come back to u. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by 4reala(m): 10:45am On Jun 20, 2016 |
anonymousreport:mr man, u just dnt quote somebody 4 quoting sake. U read and comprehend before quoting. Abi, wat will u call a situation wen dey were about to make love and she asked 4 protecion to be used for the sake of unwanted pregnancy instead of for him not to get infected. Hmm? 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Mskrisx(f): 10:54am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Elgaxton(m): 11:08am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Gasout: If she had told you this before dating her would you have bothered dating her at all? If your answer is no then don't bother going further with the relationship. Anything you cannot handle now, don't bother pushing it into marriage. Marriage itself has its own inbuilt challenges talk less of a huge challenge as this. I know someone who indulged in such marriage because of love and ended up loosing his wife. She's a kind person for telling you her situation early enough (I mean before the marriage proper). You love her ba? Until you marry her and face the hard challenges you can't really say that. What you have for now is FEELINGS. MUSHY FEELINGS! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by fadjnr(m): 11:18am On Jun 20, 2016 |
victorazy: Well I've learnt today and I was wrong but please NA God I take beg you. If you can't pass across a message without having the itch of being abusive you should just jump and pass biko. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Kgdavid(m): 11:19am On Jun 20, 2016 |
fadjnr: It's not equal sir. the virus is transmitted through mucous membranes which is why if hiv + blood spills on your arm nothing will happen. because the skin is not a mucuous membrane. The reason women are particularly vulnerable is because the entire of the interior of the vagina is covered by mucous membrane whereas for a man, the exterior of the penis is not a mucous membrane and the fluid has to make contact with his urethra in order to infect him unless he has an external cut on his penis. The penis is also naturally resistant to this because under normal circumstances and particularly during an erection, the blood pressure inside the penis (an erect penis is merely penal tissue swollen with blood) is very high and it is difficult for anything to enter. that is why a man can go swimming without water entering his penis. It is almost like a pumped football: if you try to pour water over the valve nothing would enter. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by fadjnr(m): 11:21am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Kgdavid: Yes boss. Points taken and something learned 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by anonymousreport: 11:24am On Jun 20, 2016 |
4reala:Oga, you are the one who needs indepth understanding. Why did you think she doesn't want him infected. Is protection not also to protect against pregnancy? Adios |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by victorazy(m): 11:29am On Jun 20, 2016 |
fadjnr: bros! "Ignorant you" is not abusive word ok? Check the meaning of ignorant in dictionary if its says "shut-up or an idiot" It means he who is short of a particular information, biko! |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by fadjnr(m): 11:35am On Jun 20, 2016 |
victorazy: We both know what it means in the dictionary but Bros lie say when u dey type that word you no think am for you mind say I be mumu. Just lie that lie |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by tushbobo(m): 11:45am On Jun 20, 2016 |
fadjnr: The chances from male to female is about twice the chances from female to male. There is a WHO site that has all the statistics. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by 4stylz: 11:47am On Jun 20, 2016 |
histemple: What do you mean pulling your legs?which kind rough play be that one |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by 9jaRonin(m): 11:54am On Jun 20, 2016 |
Sincere4u: I'm a medical practitioner myself. I can understand the Op's confusion on this matter......such news can be devastating. But I don't think an open forum like Nairaland is the best place to seek advice on this matter. The Op should be talking to a doctor (preferably an ART physician or someone who is well experienced in PMTCT), a marriage counsellor/clergy (his choice) or his fiancée herself (though he might not be feeling up to that right now). Cases of discordant couples exist, some as a result of very good adherence to ART resulting in undetectable viral loads and thus reducing the risk of transmission. Like I said earlier, this guy needs professional advice on his next move.... Although you can still get some good advice on Nairaland, the chances of getting misinformed by the uninformed are very HIGH in this forum. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by BLESSEDCY(m): 12:07pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
Thanks for sharing your story. If you love her and you're sure she has all you desire from a woman, if you're sure she can always make you happy, then go ahead and marry her. There are technologies to handle the issue if it's real but I still feel she might be trying to tempt you with such story 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Omojudy: 12:10pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
tearoses:I advise singles to follow the approach i used when i was single.... when i am asked out, before i agree, i insist on a mutual test of both HIV and genotype as i happen to be AS. A guy could apply same approach by suggesting it once she accepts his advance on the basis of so we know if we can have a future now rather than spend time and discover it impossible later. Most husband seeking girls will have no objection if put that mildly. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Omojudy: 12:26pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
Gasout:dont mind his comment. many people propose then have introduction a week later. real introduction not the ones done now adays which is called engagement but is a camoflag for traditional wedding.real introduction is done months or even a year before traditional wedding in accordacance to customs. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by paulinzo(m): 12:29pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
Dear, Please go for a text to confirm the status of both of you. Then be rightly guided before you make a decision. |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by ajuwarhodes(f): 12:50pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
donodion: Only u made sense in all I have read,Nigerians are so.behind in the tale of HIV thing,and it will go on for long,they honestly need an up to date info on this thing called HIV... My people die of lack of knowledge |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by victorazy(m): 12:50pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
fadjnr: Kai! this guy u too funny! OK am sorry, forgive me brother! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by fadjnr(m): 1:04pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
victorazy:LOL. You're forgiven. Go and sin no more |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Nobody: 1:44pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
SAEJO:dats y i choose to be very wise were dem dey.even dere tears no dey shake me as i dey so i do my mind. |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by hikmojj(m): 2:13pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
Don't u tink she maybe testing u? my wife did dt to me d night I proposed to her.... good luck. |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by Mzflexydeeva(f): 3:51pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
It's a tough one.... if indeed she is positive it's ur decision. Just think deep |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by fitinwell: 4:03pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
Gasout: [size=28pt]Op why don't you affirm first by conducting HIV test for yourself and spouse... Then be assured its either Positive or negative.. Then me.. Will know what to say.. because right now your write up is based on assumption.. The test result will guide you... [/size] |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by maasoap(m): 4:55pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
tearoses:You have said it all. Thumbs up! Their relationship was built on deceit and manipulation. The guy should just walk away. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by fadjnr(m): 5:56pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
victorazy:LOL. You are forgiven. Go and sin no more |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by ajuwarhodes(f): 6:31pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
Do nairalanders know that after using this ARV drug for dome time the person will be undetectable? And its very likely a blood test won't detect it,or is that everybody here is so ignorant ni?does it also mean that peeps here don't know there are drugs out there that inhibit the virus?u guys shld wakeup na |
Re: My Fiancee Confessed She's HIV+ After I Proposed To Her. Please, Help by donodion(m): 7:41pm On Jun 20, 2016 |
ajuwarhodes:Eish my sister, im embarrased with the way many reason but perhaps,its a good thing to be outside our borders and see how outsiders handles the infection. Maybe just maybe one might have remain in their spheres of thought as well. |
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