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Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by MUZBO(m): 4:15pm On Sep 08, 2009 |
As a man, disclosing your salary to your wife is like telling the vulture where the meat is. I'm not saying women are vultures o but they do come close. . .well. . most of them! |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by oln: 4:25pm On Sep 08, 2009 |
my husband thinks he can play on my intelligence.whn we got married and i asked him how much he earned he said above 200 thousand.he wasnt specific about the exact amount.when i started working he stylishly asked how much i earned and i also stylishly said above 100thousand.he makes me laugh at times wit his response to some serious questions.maybe cause he is a lawyer so he feels he is smart. |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by Nobody: 4:47pm On Sep 08, 2009 |
oln: I laugh in Chinco stylee |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by chic2pimp(m): 4:54pm On Sep 08, 2009 |
MUZBO:I some how agree with this statement. |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by Theblessed(f): 5:17pm On Sep 08, 2009 |
lastpage: [b]Yes, I believe in democracy and freedom of speech. 'Say what you like even though it can hurt some ears that hears it' And you see, I am not a Saint and have never claimed to be but one thing is sure, I get furious when I see what I consider EVIL. It's true, we all may have embarked on labelling such women but you forgot in this case, that labelling goes both ways. If we perceived her as you just said, "village-wife, child-wife, mumu, bush-woman, uneducated, uncivilized, unenlightened, dormant, dumb, unexposed, unambitious, e.t.c so do these women perceive us who have the guts to challenge men that treat us this way. These women forgot that the little rights we all have today e.g. the right to vote, to work and earn a living independent of our husbands are given to them by strong and influential women of the past who fought for the rights we enjoy and take for granted today - see, Afganistan women today and ask them what they think Yes, these may be happy with things in their household as it is now but when things are derailed and she find herself homeless, husband lost his job or run off with another women then the chicken nyash will be seen, won't it? That's when they would need help/support and information from enlightened women around them to enable them manage their sudden change of situation. As far as I'm concerned, that's the hypocrisy I found in such women that makes me want to jeer and tell them, 'I TOLD YOU SO'. Hey, we mustn't get distracted from the main issue here, please! The issue is 'Is it wrong for a man or women' in relationship to behave this way? You see, I assume most people here married their husbands/wives for love and affection and if others went into it for other reasons - it's between them and God! I'm glad majority here with a sense of fairness and fear of God in them overtly said it's damn 'Wrong' and that's where I stand. In a trusting, happy and peaceful relationship, there should be no secrecy. If a woman does not bother about what her husband earns, why should he bother about hiding it? Lying to your wife, some people seems to approve but wait till she lies to you by tell you one day that, the the BELLY she is carrying is not yours but your brothers or someone else then you will realise that lies and secrecy is EVIL and SATANIC which aims at nothing but DESTRUCTION. And for those who continue to lie in their relationships, I say good luck with your lies and secrecy, you'd be caught one day hence, your destruction![/b] |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by lawrence83: 6:06pm On Sep 08, 2009 |
MUZBO:so much truth in this, but its depends on the type of spouse u have, not all wives gv a damn to what the husband earns, so far heis providing the basic neeeds and in my own case, i tell am less |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by BlackRevo: 6:07pm On Sep 08, 2009 |
Theblessed: Sister if any woman takes that step then she should be ready for any unseen and probably irreconcilable consequences. Full disclosure of salary does not necessarily translates to full usage in the right directions. There are different model of marriages and both parties have to sit and plan a workable model that satisfies both party. one mans meat is another's mans poison. There is no general rule about salary and marriage. Our mothers of yesterday did not ask our fathers all these questions. I wonder what the world is turning to in relation to the African culture. [s]As a christian The bible says the man is the head of the house ( though both of them are equal), So in matters like this where there is no clear rule. The woman should abide and trust the final judgment of the man. [/s] ouch i thought the post was in the religion section. After all those men killing their wives who are nurses in the USA practiced full disclosure. |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by rubi(f): 7:15pm On Sep 08, 2009 |
When a woman earns her salary she should bring it home kneel down before her husband or prostrate before him and give him her salary then the man will rub her back and said thou humble, sweet and melody wife take this pocket money then I will handle the rest. no be so? ochi ato gbuo lam |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by koolchicco: 7:23pm On Sep 08, 2009 |
^^^U no be better person! |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by darqly(m): 7:34pm On Sep 08, 2009 |
Sure, I can! |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by bada1(m): 7:58pm On Sep 08, 2009 |
hackney: I feel u man. Knowing would not increase hers? Privacy please |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by lucian2: 9:17pm On Sep 08, 2009 |
With all pleasure i will do that any time and any day . It makes live easier for me. This is to forestall an occassion where my wife will collect fifty thousand naira wrapper whereas my take home pay is twenty thousand naira. Besides, since both of us are one by virtue of the sacrament of matrimony, we ought to be privy of each other's account. Let me as well add that any marriage shrouded in secrecy is bound for the rock. |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by richcookie(m): 9:32pm On Sep 08, 2009 |
You have to think carefully about who wears the pants in your household. Has she turned you into the female instead of the male? Part of been a man of the house is providing for your family with adequate input from your wife. Do you have visions for the future or just accepting your fate as sealed by God. When you show good common sense with money,then salary issues should not be fully discussed. If she earns more than you, you have my sincere goodluck on how long you stay married and what role you play. Be carefull how you surrender that salary info because next will come the distribution method. Women by nature want to be in charge and guys by nature think they are in charge. |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by Remii(m): 10:17pm On Sep 08, 2009 |
As long as you are "husband and wife" not "man and woman" it is fine. |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by namun(f): 11:38pm On Sep 08, 2009 |
ofcourse, couples should not hide anything from themselves. it starts problems and affects trust |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by Sagamite(m): 11:50pm On Sep 08, 2009 |
Black_Revo: Thank you o! Theblessed: If you are my wife and you ever have the guts to ever do this, you will see FIRE! There is absolutely no way you will see a minute of happiness in that household til the minute I kick you out (And I would ensure you don't see much of it after you are out). You would wonder the curse someone placed on you or, if there is a god, that allowed you to get a man like me. Tears would be coming out from not only your eyes but also your ears by the time I finish. This is the kind of trouble I love because I know how to deal with it. rubi: Chei, you are well brought up o! You should be giving classes to women. |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by Pelummy(f): 5:03am On Sep 09, 2009 |
i cant disclose,my salary with my hubby,bt i can do all i can 2 make our marriage work,and supporting him fully.if he has economic melt like nigerians are now,i wl support him wt al i av. |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by minto(m): 6:57am On Sep 09, 2009 |
Marriage is based on trust. The 2 have come together to be 1 and so there should be no secrets except of course, in the case of playing away matches once in a while . That's men for you. As for income, most men can hardly hide that from their wife unless the woman doesn't care to find out. |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by aieromon(m): 7:12am On Sep 09, 2009 |
I tell my gf how much i make,,,,right from the time i was on pocket money.what's there to hide anyway? We just have to focus on the big picture except both of you stumbled into the studio out of curiosity. |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by Kelvinj(m): 7:18am On Sep 09, 2009 |
depends, i cant tell a gf but i can tell ma wifey. |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by Pain(m): 8:17am On Sep 09, 2009 |
There are no fast rules to this, What may be favorable in one circumstance may be adverse in another. Full disclosure has led to Bliss or Pain in some cases. As humans we need to apply the innate gift of discernment in our social relationships, Every marriage requires a constant pulse check to determine what best applies, Yes "Trust" may be everything, but the "Betrayal of Trust" is a gaping reality in human relationships. Full or partial disclosure, the choice is yours. |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by Pittbaby(f): 2:49pm On Sep 09, 2009 |
I wonder for the women that people are marrying , if you can not share your income with your wife . i understand not giving full access so there is some control on spending but seriously if you can not trust your wife to know your income why do you trust her to feed you and your children, she can kill you and take all that money you have been hiding under the mattress |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by guseman(m): 3:12pm On Sep 09, 2009 |
i think married pple can say much better stuff here, cos am still single. I will keep mute, but for your babes to tell u her salary??Miss call, I don't hide my salary cos its still small so that she wont ask for what i cant afford!!but had it been its much more, i might be tempted to hide a(some) digits NL will turn me to a witch one day, only me laughing like a baby when she sight her xmas cloth! |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by Fhemmmy: 3:21pm On Sep 09, 2009 |
Pittbaby: na wa oh. I think this is something for the women to note that, the men in their lives is afraid oh |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by egyptian84: 7:01pm On Sep 09, 2009 |
I believe that once you are married, you become one in everything including sharing each other's income. A spouse should not keep any secrets from his/her spouse including how much they make, A married couple should have joint accounts because you are one and no one should be greedy, |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by Fhemmmy: 7:08pm On Sep 09, 2009 |
egyptian84: Cheiiiiiiiiiiiii |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by Theblessed(f): 12:45am On Sep 10, 2009 |
Sagamite: [b]You should thank your star for the lame woman in your life. As you said, should I be your wife (thank God I'm not, you would have been gone long time ago because, there's no way I will put up with this kind of sh-t one second!), by the time I wake up for you, YOU WON'T HAVE LEGS TO STAND - not by MIGHT nor the VIOLENT way you are proposing but PURE INTELLIGENCE. But why would an intelligent woman ever consider an unintelligent man for a husband I wonder You see, a SQUARE SHAPE and a ROUND SHAPE can never ever fit, can they Based on the Bible, 'those who make them, look like them' - you marry your kind. There's no 'hell' in the world I would touch you with a BADGE POLE as an acquaintance let alone, a boyfriend and then that big thing called LIFE PARTNER when the risk is obvious - DECEIT AND LIES, Naaaaaaaaa!!! No, way! Your THREAT OF VIOLENCE to subdue your opponents for ascertaining their rights is the hallmark of ILLITERATES and only suggests what little intelligence there is UPSTAIRS and the answer is zoocoooh! JUNGLE MAN, in your head, by killing somebody you must have achieved something, eh? Remember, you are not the only one with access to guns or knives etc these days, ok! So, we mustn't go there. Let me WARN YOU, never ever threaten people with violence because, as you think you know some thing, there's always someone out there that KNOWS BETTER. BE WARNED else, you might be stopped before you could even CRAWL!!! I suppose before you contemplate this threat, you must have thought a MERE WOMAN I can squeeze with my big toe. Boy, I have NEWS for you - there are different kinds of women. We may all have been built the same way but we certainly don't LOOK, THINK, FEEL and ACT the same way, ok! There are women born with the heart and determination of a man, you better not forget this. So, never you under-estimate the POWER OF A WOMAN - I mean what a determined woman can do, WATCH YOUR BACK when you make such threats you could be made to WEE and POOH in your pants. It seems to me, you've been threatening small woman your end/surrounding areas and getting away with it. Though, I wouldn't behave like you however, if shove comes to push, I will certainly challenge the ar-e off you and your kind and bring you all down to earth in order to ensure you respect women, when next you come across women, you'd be the first to eloquently acknowledge there is a difference - EMPTY BARREL![/b] |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by Sagamite(m): 7:45am On Sep 10, 2009 |
Theblessed: Who threatened you with violence? Or where did you see the threat of violence? And YOU are talking about intelligence? YOU? You lack the intelligence to differentiate between what you want and what is your right that is why you struggle with men in relationships and hence the stupid hatred for males that your posts are pregnant with. You can continue mourning all your life but I can guarantee you you well never get a man that would stay with you because you are obviously not balanced. There are thousands of better women out there why stay with someone like you? |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by deezah(f): 1:45pm On Sep 10, 2009 |
Is it a big deal? |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by wolexanda(m): 3:30pm On Sep 10, 2009 |
if it is not a woman that has fear of God,it is not good |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by Fhemmmy: 3:33pm On Sep 10, 2009 |
wolexanda:If she is not trustworthy enuf, why marry her then? |
Re: Can You Disclose Your Salary To Your Spouse? by Secretz(f): 9:59pm On Sep 10, 2009 |
No qualms, I could do it,(it would be working together at the end of the day) the only time I prolly wouldn't is if I felt a lil embarrassed that my salary was quite. . . . . errrrrr . . . . crap. Joint accounts. . . . . .hmmmmm nah am ok thanks. . . .maybe a 'family' joint account to save for holidays and rainy days etc. On the other hand, whatever is my husband's is mine and whatever is mine, is errr, well and truly mine. |
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