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Advice Needed Please!. by Nobody: 2:46pm On Jul 24, 2016
I will try to make this as explicit as possible.

My bf and i have been having episodic misunderstanding, we've been dating for 2yrs now which was serious at some point, i knw he loves me, but all these while i have come to realize that he's an unstable person and whenever life happens he shuts me out, no matter how much i plead to be let into wat's happening.

He moved late last year to his state after he was given a job offer there, Imo State to be precise, and was suppose to be working with a company that's into movies production in Onitsha, though have never followed him up, i suppose he knws wat's good for him.

He kept asking me to pay him a visit at Owerri, and knowing the kind of family i'm born into, going where i will have to spend days isn't possible, without their consent, so i kept telling him why which he understood, then last month he transfered money into my account after he said he need to see me, even if it's one day, i was free so i headed for Owerri.

He picked me up in company of his friend, who dropped us off in his house, on our way there he said, " his friend's car was bashed by a keke driver and it piques him", while they were on their way to pick me up, i jst waved the subject, because i didn't see any damage.

We got to his place, he went out and came back smelling alcohol, i asked and he said he had a bottle, he asked of a friend of mine he knew and while i was talking i noticed he was glued to his laptop and stopped responding, i enquired why and he suddenly said he's business just crashed, i asked him to fill me in, but said i won't understand, the question i had in mind was, what kind of business will crash online, at abt 9pm.

He stopped talking to me, went to bed early, i felt neglected and blamed myself for going to see him, sincerely because i'm extremely emotional, i wept that nyt. grin as early as 6:00 i was ready to leave, he walked me out, gave me some money and started apologising, i jst told him everything was ok, though!, he could sense the anger facially, i got home, he never called to knw if i was home.

I ignored for a month plus, weighed my options, called him he didn't pick, then dropped a message on his inbox and ended the relationship since it was pending.

He has been apologising on watsapp, since i don't take his calls, but this is where my worries are: he has a cousin that likes me alot, who told me that dis my bf who jst got a job that's barely a year old bought a car, i went to his facebook account and confirmed it, i don't think he earns upto a 100k on that his movie job(guess work), i never asked him his salary cos i felt i will be asking too much, just got an apartment, and suddenly bought a car, although is fairly used, which he claims the source of the income is legitimate, i called a friend to knw wat his opinion might be, and he said my bf could be into yahoo business, i don't have the intentions of going back to him, even though he won't stop bothering me with love, but i sense he's into something bad.

Since then have been feeling uneasy towards him, and feel badly for his widow mother, though i'm not sure.

What do you think?.
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by misspicy(f): 2:50pm On Jul 24, 2016
Too many baggages,this guy's life is in disarray,

1)he shuts you out when he has issues (negative sign)

2)some issues with his work and he shunned your presence(negative sign)

3)never called to check up on you,after you left his base?(end of discussion)

i'd advice you move on......
Remember,time waits for no man/woman....

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Re: Advice Needed Please!. by falconey(m): 2:54pm On Jul 24, 2016
I think he is doing what you think he is doing and getting an apartment and a car within a year means he is doing it well.
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Nobody: 2:54pm On Jul 24, 2016
Move on if u think u can't take his attitude..



cool

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Re: Advice Needed Please!. by sinaj(f): 2:55pm On Jul 24, 2016
Chai




My mb cry
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Houseofglam7(f): 2:56pm On Jul 24, 2016
Just move on dammit!!!!!!!
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by sirjakez(m): 3:00pm On Jul 24, 2016
Follow ur heart
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by yomi212(m): 3:01pm On Jul 24, 2016
Move on with ur life dear, a guy who has a plan 4u will carry u along no matter what... I blv he's into some shady stuffs
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Nobody: 3:04pm On Jul 24, 2016
misspicy:
Too many baggages,this guy's life is in disarray,

1)he shuts you out when he has issues (negative sign)

2)dropped you off at a friend's house and left to drink (negative sign)

3)some issues with his work and he shunned your presence(negative sign)

4)never called to check up on you,after you left his base?(end of discussion)

i'd advice you move on......
Remember,time waits for no man/woman....
point of correction, his friend dropped us at this my bf's new apartment.
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by misspicy(f): 3:08pm On Jul 24, 2016
Benita27:
point of correction, his friend dropped us at this my bf's new apartment.
my mistake,


I still advice you move on though, it won't be easy unless you can cope with his attitude
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Nobody: 3:11pm On Jul 24, 2016
misspicy:

my mistake,


I still advice you move on though, it won't be easy unless you can cope with his attitude
I can't and have moved on for a mnth now.

Jst hearing this makes me feel for him and his mother as an only son.

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Re: Advice Needed Please!. by halfricanadian(f): 3:22pm On Jul 24, 2016
yomi212:
Move on with ur life dear, a guy who has a plan 4u will carry u along no matter what... I blv he's into some shady stuffs

True fact

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Re: Advice Needed Please!. by halfricanadian(f): 3:23pm On Jul 24, 2016
Benita27:
I can't and have moved on for a mnth now.

Jst hearing this makes me feel for him and his mother as an only son.

Dey dere decieve ursef

Person no want u dey dere feel non existing love

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Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Nobody: 3:33pm On Jul 24, 2016
halfricanadian:


Dey dere decieve ursef

Person no want u dey dere feel non existing love
Sorry ma'

We're nt on the same boat, don't console urself by assuming i'm deceiving myself just as you're. grin
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Nobody: 3:33pm On Jul 24, 2016
misspicy:

Remember,time waits for no man/woman...
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Nobody: 3:55pm On Jul 24, 2016
Benita27:
Sorry ma'

We're nt on the same boat, don't console urself by assuming i'm deceiving myself just as you're. grin


Easy now..you want advice, that's what she gave you.... undecided

Just move on ..let him carry his cross.

Let he who have ears, listen , and he who have eyes, see!!.

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Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Daniel2289(m): 4:04pm On Jul 24, 2016
Do whatever dat will make u happy, cos u knw him beta Dan us here. But try to make d right decision on dis mata.

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Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Nobody: 4:18pm On Jul 24, 2016
Daniel2289:
Do whatever dat will make u happy, cos u knw him beta Dan us here. But try to make d right decision on dis mata.
Thanks!.
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Forzap(m): 4:29pm On Jul 24, 2016
Hehehe,ur BF is into yahoo....sharp guy cheesy babes u beta hold am tight
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Collyno82(m): 9:58am On Jul 25, 2016
Do not marry out of sympathy.
Benita27:
I can't and have moved on for a mnth now.

Jst hearing this makes me feel for him and his mother as an only son.

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Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Nobody: 10:09am On Jul 25, 2016
Get used to it.....The business he's into isn't an easy one trust me. It's not how must people think it is,don't get scared, If he loves you, then you're safe in relation to his work ....And if he did apologize then he truly cares and loves you, moreover you'll enjoy from his work too.
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Fidecoo(m): 10:23am On Jul 25, 2016
sinaj:
Chai




My mb cry
, hahaha na your mb u dey cry for. I thought, u wanted to give some advice. By the way, how are you?
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by sinaj(f): 11:06am On Jul 25, 2016
Fidecoo:
, hahaha na your mb u dey cry for. I thought, u wanted to give some advice. By the way, how are you?
me is fine smiley
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Nobody: 11:15am On Jul 25, 2016
Benita27:
I will try to make this as explicit as possible.

My bf and i have been having episodic misunderstanding, we've been dating for 2yrs now which was serious at some point, i knw he loves me, but all these while i have come to realize that he's an unstable person and whenever life happens he shuts me out, no matter how much i plead to be let into wat's happening.

He moved late last year to his state after he was given a job offer there, Imo State to be precise, and was suppose to be working with a company that's into movies production in Onitsha, though have never followed him up, i suppose he knws wat's good for him.

He kept asking me to pay him a visit at Owerri, and knowing the kind of family i'm born into, going where i will have to spend days isn't possible, without their consent, so i kept telling him why which he understood, then last month he transfered money into my account after he said he need to see me, even if it's one day, i was free so i headed for Owerri.

He picked me up in company of his friend, who dropped us off in his house, on our way there he said, " his friend's car was bashed by a keke driver and it piques him", while they were on their way to pick me up, i jst waved the subject, because i didn't see any damage.

We got to his place, he went out and came back smelling alcohol, i asked and he said he had a bottle, he asked of a friend of mine he knew and while i was talking i noticed he was glued to his laptop and stopped responding, i enquired why and he suddenly said he's business just crashed, i asked him to fill me in, but said i won't understand, the question i had in mind was, what kind of business will crash online, at abt 9pm.

He stopped talking to me, went to bed early, i felt neglected and blamed myself for going to see him, sincerely because i'm extremely emotional, i wept that nyt. grin as early as 6:00 i was ready to leave, he walked me out, gave me some money and started apologising, i jst told him everything was ok, though!, he could sense the anger facially, i got home, he never called to knw if i was home.

I ignored for a month plus, weighed my options, called him he didn't pick, then dropped a message on his inbox and ended the relationship since it was pending.

He has been apologising on watsapp, since i don't take his calls, but this is where my worries are: he has a cousin that likes me alot, who told me that dis my bf who jst got a job that's barely a year old bought a car, i went to his facebook account and confirmed it, i don't think he earns upto a 100k on that his movie job(guess work), i never asked him his salary cos i felt i will be asking too much, just got an apartment, and suddenly bought a car, although is fairly used, which he claims the source of the income is legitimate, i called a friend to knw wat his opinion might be, and he said my bf could be into yahoo business, i don't have the intentions of going back to him, even though he won't stop bothering me with love, but i sense he's into something bad.

Since then have been feeling uneasy towards him, and feel badly for his widow mother, though i'm not sure.

What do you think?.

Let's assume according to what you where told that he's into yahoo.
He's refusal to let in is justifiable, no guy would let his Bae know full details of his business, unless they're into it together.
He probably had high expectation a client was going to pay. So he went out to probably hosted a mini party with friends believing he would get paid.
Coming back home, probably after spending much, only to discover his client wasn't going to pay. That's the worst that can happen to newbie in it.
He didn't call you for over a month, probably he was familiarising himself with the business, which demands full dedication.
If you love him, accept his apology now before its too late, get used to him not allowing you into his business and stick to him a little longer.
The same girls advising you today to end the relationship, will be the same girls to run to him tomorrow when he makes it big

That's if his truly into yahoo as you where told.
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Nobody: 4:58pm On Jul 25, 2016
Chepy1:

Let's assume according to what you where told that he's into yahoo.
He's refusal to let in is justifiable, no guy would let his Bae know full details of his business, unless they're into it together.
He probably had high expectation a client was going to pay. So he went out to probably hosted a mini party with friends believing he would get paid.
Coming back home, probably after spending much, only to discover his client wasn't going to pay. That's the worst that can happen to newbie in it.
He didn't call you for over a month, probably he was familiarising himself with the business, which demands full dedication.
If you love him, accept his apology now before its too late, get used to him not allowing you into his business and stick to him a little longer.
The same girls advising you today to end the relationship, will be the same girls to run to him tomorrow when he makes it big

That's if his truly into yahoo as you where told.

Hmm!.
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by classichsy(m): 1:21am On Jul 26, 2016
From Imo back to your place doesnt sound like some seconds journey for him not to call and know if you arrive safely. You are alive and that's why you can compare and contrast.
If you think you deserve better,move on with your life.
Being single for the time being won't hurt you rather make you stronger.
Change is constant. His buoyant business of today doesnt guarantee happy relationship or successful marriage.
Your Happiness Should be precious to you and yourself.

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Re: Advice Needed Please!. by aloobright17: 1:32am On Jul 26, 2016
Op na you wrote this abi?

i don't have the intentions of going back to him, even though he won't stop bothering me with love, but i sense he's into something bad.

If you have no intention of going back to him,what other advise do you need? You went to visit someone and he never call to check on you after one full month?Are you that confused that you can't read the handwriting on the wall?.

Many guys are out there very ready to mingle and u are there claiming madam Juliet.

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Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Nobody: 2:52am On Jul 26, 2016
classichsy:
From Imo back to your place doesnt sound like some seconds journey for him not to call and know if you arrive safely. You are alive and that's why you can compare and contrast.
If you think you deserve better,move on with your life.
Being single for the time being won't hurt you rather make you stronger.
Change is constant. His buoyant business of today doesnt guarantee happy relationship or successful marriage.
Your Happiness Should be precious to you and yourself.
Noted!, i appreciate.
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Nobody: 3:14am On Jul 26, 2016
aloobright17:
Op na you wrote this abi?

i don't have the intentions of going back to him, even though he won't stop bothering me with love, but i sense he's into something bad.

If you have no intention of going back to him,what other advise do you need? You went to visit someone and he never call to check on you after one full month?Are you that confused that you can't read the handwriting on the wall?.

Many guys are out there very ready to mingle and u are there claiming madam juliet.
I asked if he's actually into yahoo, and needed to give my observations for ppl to understand, since his cousin won't let me in as well.

I was actually in love with him, my family knew abt him bt didn't want us settling down because they felt i was too young, and he was looking for a job as at then.

I can't say i feel the same now, so don't knw where dis madam juliet is coming frm.
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by boxer022(m): 6:14am On Jul 26, 2016
My Sister you need to read the hand writing on the wall and see for yourself that the risk is not worth taking. He is into an illegitimate business that involves using computers and does not want to involve you so that you will not know what he is doing for a living.
Re: Advice Needed Please!. by aloobright17: 7:31am On Jul 26, 2016
Benita27:
I asked if he's actually into yahoo, and needed to give my observations for ppl to understand, since his cousin won't let me in as well.

I was actually in love with him, my family knew abt him bt didn't want us settling down because they felt i was too young, and he was looking for a job as at then.

I can't say i feel the same now, so don't knw where dis madam juliet is coming frm.

Do you know Romeo?then you'll understand the Juliet.

Meanwhile you padded everything on this thread,That's why ayam trying to understand your further interest on whether he is into yahoo,hotmail abi Gmail.When you have already decided to move on.

Your heading read Advice needed,Do we advice you on if he is into yahoo,or whether you're too young to marry him or why his cousin won't let you in?Nne you've already advised yourself by saying you not gonna continue with him and trying to know his business thereafter means you're still interested in going back to him,apart from that as a moved on lady why looking back to know what his job is again?

Ok let's say he is into yahoo and you know it now after you've already moved on,what are you going to do with it?call efcc?or any other law enforcement agency to go after him or what?. DO YOU REALLY KNOW THE MEANING OF MOVING ON?

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Re: Advice Needed Please!. by Nobody: 7:36am On Jul 26, 2016
aloobright17:


Do you know Romeo?then you'll understand the Juliet.

Meanwhile you padded everything on this thread,That's why ayam trying to understand your further interest on whether he is into yahoo,hotmail abi Gmail.When you have already decided to move on.

Your heading read Advice needed,Do we advice you on if he is into yahoo,or whether you're too young to marry him or why his cousin won't let you in?Nne you've already advised yourself by saying you not gonna continue with him and trying to know his business thereafter means you're still interested in going back to him,apart from that as a moved on lady why looking back to know what his job is again?

Ok let's say he is into yahoo and you know it now after you've already moved on,what are you going to do with it?call efcc?or any other law enforcement agency to go after him or what?. DO YOU REALLY KNOW THE MEANING OF MOVING ON?
This is solely ur opinion, ur answers have already given, u didn't have to read meaning to my point of view, which is typical of some of u here.

I don't care abt the car, else i would have forgiven him.

Thanks.

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