First of all,accomodating that guy or anyone at all behind your friend's back is wrong. Don't make matters worse by just letting your roommate walk into the whole thing with no prior knowledge. Either tell him now or insist your former roommate leave. You can't come out smelling like roses in this one. Your roommate should've been involved from day one

an0daGuy:
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I am thinking of telling this guy to leave by tomorrow because my roomate will be returning latest on sunday. I hope i can keep a straight face when i am telling him off with conviction because until now i have not shown any signs him of the stuff going on in my mind concerning this issue and he is still here feeling relaxed.

Since you usually have guys stay over when your roommate is there I don't think you have to now tell him whenever someone is sleeping over. But with this particular guy.... let your roommate know. He may be a very forgiving guy and may be not happy if you threw out the scumbag. Since staying there... did he apologize for throwing you guys out? If not ..kick his ass out. ..like get your bags...sorry but you have o leve..... right now.

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It's a good thing to be kind, but it's wrong for people to misconstrue ur kindness for weakness or stupidity.

Sometimes people need to learn the hard way.

Op call your roomie and tell him that inconsiderate loser is around and do whatever he says, before he throws you out as well.

FYI, if I was your roomie... hmm I'd ask you to kick him out asap or I'd return and kick the both of you out!

an0daGuy:
i had to open a new account to post this. It is a long post but i need your understanding.

i am a student. I came here from another state without having much money to get an accomodation as well as offset admin bills a year ago and so i hooked up with a friend i knew and i started squatting with him from that first day i arrived in the town. He too is a final year student in the same school so i stayed with him in a hostel off campus.

We were nice roomates. He had this girl that he was dating at the time and they once fell apart due to no business of mine and they took a break from each other. She stopped coming around during that time and i thought her chapter had closed. I had another close friend who was coming into the town to resume at a new job he just landed in the same town. He didnt have any accomodation as well and did not know anyone apart from me. I decided to help him so i spoke to my roomate then about it telling him that the guy will just stay a night or two and hopefully by then he would have paid for a place and then he will be out. He asked me how sure i was and i assured him that i knew the guy to come from a rich family and he is only in this predicament because he is coming to a new place. I explained that i was the only person that could help him with familiarity because he does not come from the tribe particular to the town we are in and wont know how to speak the language with the locals well to get the accomodation on time.

My roomate willingly agreed to let him stay for a while and i then called my other friend to confirm the date he would be arriving and i also told my roomate too. Then fast forward to that arrival date, my other friend called that he was on his way and i confirmed to my roomate that my guy was on his way and he acknowledged it.

I didnt know that this my roomate had managed to get in touch with that his prior girlfriend one way or the other and she visited. They then somehow made up and the girl seemed to be willing to spend the night (i never knew as i was not around most of the day)

When i returned and observed everything happening i then called my guy aside and reminded him of our guest coming into town soon and he nodded in affirmation again. I then relaxed and thought that the girl may not stay the night after all (this was aroung 9pm). Now usually whenever female visitors had to sleep over one of us would go to sleep elsewhere for the time but at that particular time we were aware that no nearby person was available who would accomodate 2 extra sleep over buddies.

When this my friend arrived i gave him directions to the hostel. He arrived and i took him to the room. He kept his bag and we were gisting then my roomate called me outside. When i was alone with him, te told me that his girl will be staying the night and me and my friend should get somewhere else to sleep. I was shocked and begged him not to embarrass me. I suggested that he should tell the girl to come back the next day or if the konji too much we will give him chance to do something and she could go . . . but he refused. He just told me straight up that we should go for that night and after we almost argued he left me and barged into the room telling that my newly arrived friend to leave the room. I came in and said that we will go sleep elsewhere but my roomate still insisted that he takes his bag along with him. I begged for the bag to be in a corner while we come back tomorrow to pick it up but he disagreed.

Finally my friend carried his bag, and i also had to pack up my own bag and leave the room too that same night. I left because could not bear to leave that my guy alone at that time of the night and go elsewhere while he had nowhere to go. Plus i was livid and just did not care anymore. I knew i had since over stayed my welcome at that place but i didnt imagine i would get thrown off in that way. We slept in an uncompleted building for two days and on the third day with the help of an agent my friend got a flat in the town. I moved in with him and attended school from here. We have been roomates for 5 months now. He travelled for a few days for a burial and i am alone at home.

That my former roomate had since graduated but had a problem. His rent had expired too. He had to travel down to town to write some exams and he called me for help as all his friends had either graduated too or do not have accomodation. I happily told him to come and he did. He has been here for 4 days now due to irregular exam timetable but we initially thought he will stay for only 2 days. Personally i myself do not mind him staying for as long as he likes because he also helped me too, but the real owner of this apartment (my other friend) would be returning in a day time and i do not think if he meets this guy here he will be happy.

I have both as friends but i do not know how to tackle this decision. This my friend here very well knows who owns this apartment and i am sure he remembers the kind of situation in which they met those months ago but i believe he does not think of it as that big a deal because even after i have told him a few times when my roomate will be back he still does not show signs of worrying so right now i have many questions playing in my mind.

should i let him stay and see the reaction of my roomate when he gets back and meets him here?

should i tell my roomate on the phone right now about my/our guest and guage his response even if he could be angry with me afterwards and probably throw me out again as well?

or should i just kick this guy out today and live with my conscience afterwards?

Please mature comments. I am not too bouyant at the moment due to some issues hence my accomodation challenges this past year but i have to attend school.

Thanks for reading

Bro, u've done well... If I were u, I think I would do d bold

evegran:
Op call your roomie and tell him that inconsiderate loser is around and do whatever he says, before he throws you out as well.
FYI, if I was your roomie... hmm I'd ask you to kick him out asap or I'd return and kick the both of you out!

But u shld also remember dat dis same guy has been squatting d OP 2... Dat's a + 4 d guy sumhow

Originalsly:
Since you usually have guys stay over when your roommate is there I don't think you have to now tell him whenever someone is sleeping over. But with this particular guy.... let your roommate know. He may be a very forgiving guy and may be not happy if you threw out the scumbag. Since staying there... did he apologize for throwing you guys out? If not ..kick his ass out. ..like get your bags...sorry but you have o leve..... right now.

gabinogem:
U should have earlier told him that it was that ur friend he kicked out, his apartment u are staying, and that u don't think he's going to be pleased seeing him there... Just to avoid this dilemma u are in now.
Right now u need to let ur friend know about that püccy nigga's presence so that he won't be shocked thinking u are conniving with the püccy nigga.
If I was ur friend, I come to my apartment to see the püccy nigga that drove me away from his apartment becus of a püccy! I certainly won't be pleased with u

psalmchi:
God bless u bro, y would he allow him in the first place knowing that it was his other friend who owns the apartment? Stupid dude

But u shld also remember dat dis same guy has been squatting d OP 2... Dat's a + 4 d guy sumhow

Hmm, the way I see it one person is going to have to leave that house.
Op, be careful so it doesn't become 'TWO' people crying at the end of the day

gabinogem:
U should have earlier told him that it was that ur friend he kicked out, his apartment u are staying, and that u don't think he's going to be pleased seeing him there... Just to avoid this dilemma u are in now.

Right now u need to let ur friend know about that püccy nigga's presence so that he won't be shocked thinking u are conniving with the püccy nigga.

If I was ur friend, I come to my apartment to see the püccy nigga that drove me away from his apartment becus of a püccy! I certainly won't be pleased with u

God bless u bro, y would he allow him in the first place knowing that it was his other friend who owns the apartment? Stupid dude

an0daGuy:
gabinogem
goldbim
shoyemiayodeji
Originalsly
nnamdiokere45
YabaLeftist

Thanks for saying something, i appreciate it.

I understand that i really messed up by inviting him over without first seeking permission from the owner of the place, but in reality i never intended for him to stay this long. I thought that before the week elapses he would have been through with the paper and gone back long ago without my current roomate returning home to meet him here or ever knowing about him being here.

I usually come back from lectures with friends that stay till night time before going or even sleeping over on several occasions and my roomate never takes offence. We live in solitude and the house gets quiet and lonely sometimes with 2 guys living alone most of the time and it is a 2 bedroom apartment.

I am just worried because of the history we have with this particular guest and it is because of the way they postponed some exams and my lack of foresight.

I realize that i have to take part of the blame. I have read through the few posts here and feel very bad, like i should never have even brought this guy here or still maintained communication with him after that thing he did but i indeed have a soft spot for people i call friends. I do not even know how to put my mouth on phone and tell my present roomate what i have done because it indeed feels like a betrayal of trust on some levels, i could keep it a secret to save myself some face if he does not ever find out.

I am thinking of telling this guy to leave by tomorrow because my roomate will be returning latest on sunday. I hope i can keep a straight face when i am telling him off with conviction because until now i have not shown any signs him of the stuff going on in my mind concerning this issue and he is still here feeling relaxed.

How did it go?