True that, but I'll rather have him marry you than the awusa man

Actually, about a year ago, when I went to the US and spoke with him on the phone, he told me he wanted to marry me. He knows my family and he probably thought I was a "wife material" as they call it. lol
So, when my bro visited him about 5 weeks ago, I called him so I could speak with my bro. That was when he started his 'marriage talk' again. . . lol

He even said he told his Mum that he's found a wife. I hope he tells her why I couldn't make the trip again

In one of my e.mails, I told him that I wasn't desperate in going into any relationship and I'm ready to walk out on any guy if he's being an ass, anyway

I wasn't desperate but I guess I was trying to be nice n I said "let me see what comes out of it" and here I am
<sub>I wonder what kind of girl he thinks I am


I feel so good telling my story</sub>

Is the basis of a relationship not supposed to be symbiotic? Its just because the likes of Radiant has redefined relationships to connote extortion, lies, downright concoction and falsehood. What is wrong if you pick up the bills at first, you never can know if it was just a trap.

Trap? That shit don't work with me.

Ain't gon' pay to go see some freaking ass that claims he's ready for marriage!

It's my preference and if you don't like it, you can go hang!!!

huh uh

so?

just enjoying the convo _{nothing else}

I see

lol. . .

Yep

@ Radiant
I pray you don't lose touch with reality, it's the likes of you who at 50 will just realize that you are still a spinster. Please face reality so you won't be overtaken by events. Mind you whatever culture you cultivate, you are still an African.

Gaywaka, can you please do me a favor ? Can you go play with your 'balls'?. . . You should feel better. Idiot!

@ Radiant
You seem to be too generous with what God thrust between your thighs, where every Man can come have a nice time. Keep it up cos one day I will come across it too.

OK! Darling. I'll be waiting. But mind you though, loosers like you have no chance whatsoever. MUMU

@ Radiant

The invitee-pays-nothing deal will only work with most guys if there is a money back guarantee The terms and conditions must be strictly followed . And who was referring the girl's willingness to make such trip as a great sacrifice? It is simply one of the hazards of the game. The guy probably will make the greater sacrifice, givng the girl an all-paid holiday trip to the US without any concrete strings attached, habaaa

Na today we begin go US?

Radiant:

Na today we begin go US?

Agreed Radiant, but did u ever think of inviting him over to Magheru and then pay the bills, that's exactly how the guy felt
Anyway, i can only pick the bills when i'm sure the girl is game

And meanwhile, do u reside in Bucharest, Radiant?

Me pay for him to come? I did invite him to come over but how will I pay for his trip?

You don't get it. This is the first time I'll see this guy after so many years since he left Nigeria. He wants to marry me and we've been talking rather about this for 3 weeks (then).

If I was your sister, and I had the money to invite him or go and visit him, would you allow me to do that? Be honest and then we'll proceed from there.

I can pay to go see him after the first trip but for this first one, I mean I rather stay single. There are just some things that are not done by me.

I don't like interfering with the love lives of my sisters. I allow them do whatever their minds tell them. I can advice her to contribute 50% if she loves the guy and knows he is serious, and especially when the guy is not financially bouyant.

And i think the guy was a little bit crude in his approach, he came out explicitly demanding ur involvement. If u were dealing with a gee like me, i can subtly make u pay all the bills including our entertainment when u come over without having any grudge at all

Never ask me how 'cause i won't let out my secrets

and why are u keeping mute over my Bucharest question?

Hahahaha. . . u the biggest Joker I've met on NL

Yeah I live in Bucharest.

Radiant, this is no joke, especially when u fall in love. I've discovered that ladies are complex yet sooooo simple, they are the most amenable creatures i have ever seen. And this is very good, 'cause it helps them a lot as home makers

Really? You should get to know me. Your perception must change!

I think i should. Do u know what? I like girls who speak their minds, look very difficult and act tough. From experience, they are the best of girls, they are the most committed and flexible in the end. All u need is to give them an overdose of love and i've got loads of it

That love comes in a huge package that might be too much for you to deliver but simply what I'd desire.

I was thinking differently, u might not have enough capacity to contain the overflow

Nahhh baby! Trust me

I know this is an old post but Radiant my dear,u did the right thing.He should have paid the bill the first time around since he was the one that invited you.Asking you to pay half is like taking you on a date and splitting the bill with you-eeeeeeeeeeew!What are men turning into?

Sorry na old topic but na good one.

Relationship is about sharing .Normally it would be either she pays her fare full and he pays his full when coming the other way or 50/50.

However,this situation is a bit different.He works she does not.But I do sense she might actually be able to afford it but does not want the risk of spending $1000 to find out he is not the guy she wants .Notice she is willing to contribute for future trips!

Remember even if one person pays for the trip there is still a degree of sharing.Chances are he will be the one spending for their going out,food ,etc when she comes over.Same as she should if he came over.

Personally, I would never expect anyone to pay for my ticket to come over thats just not on.But I do expect if you invite me to your side you should be more then willing to foot the bill while I am there.That is sharing without the hassle of discussing such matters.

If I was in the guy's shoe I would delay the visit till he got the time to go over to see her.

since is the man that is inviting her to visit him, he should pay the fee.

banni:

Sorry na old topic but na good one.

Relationship is about sharing .Normally it would be either she pays her fare full and he pays his full when coming the other way or 50/50.

However,this situation is a bit different.He works she does not.But I do sense she might actually be able to afford it but does not want the risk of spending $1000 to find out he is not the guy she wants .Notice she is willing to contribute for future trips!

Remember even if one person pays for the trip there is still a degree of sharing.Chances are he will be the one spending for their going out,food ,etc when she comes over.Same as she should if he came over.

Personally, I would never expect anyone to pay for my ticket to come over thats just not on.But I do expect if you invite me to your side you should be more then willing to foot the bill while I am there.That is sharing without the hassle of discussing such matters.

If I was in the guy's shoe I would delay the visit till he got the time to go over to see her.

I agree there's a degree of sharing but this dude is very selfish.Why would you start arguing with a girl you intend to marry over ticket? That's a red light for the lady. Besides, the guy didn't say anything about the ticket in the beginning until the matter was brought up.(meaning, he never intended to contribute a dime) As if he loaded my account. Oh well, he hit the wrong target. It's history now, anyway.