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Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by Nobody: 12:24am On Aug 12, 2016 |
dynamite11: I wil also advise u let ur wife know dat u r not happy wit d way she tells ur in law everything dat happens in ur both lives, but sha u condoned it during courtship dats it gained grounds. I politely told my in law I wil arrest her and she went off a very long time. lol but true |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by cajet: 1:13am On Aug 12, 2016 |
Scene 1 act 2 just unfolding. If na Mama G be the mother - in -law in question just forget that and carry your cross with humility because nothing go stop her unless na call of nature. Just develop a thick skin and go along with that. Every marriage has it's own cross and the vow is for better for worse. Some people say when you marry a woman you become the son of the mother. Na so e be. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by teemy(m): 1:25am On Aug 12, 2016 |
It seems peeps missed this part where Op mentioned extra family members come along with MIL dynamite11: dynamite11: Hi dynamite11, I recently had a similar experience with my younger brother. Apart from our seperate places we stay there is a place where the family stays. Unfortunately he ends up disturbing me (unintentionally though but my work requires full concentration which could hurt me financially if I miss opportunities). When last it happened I had a separate room setup. On day one of my moving in I got in to meet him in front of my PC. That was the last time he entered the room. Given the space people would take on the free hand given and also try to stretch it. Am sure this attitude of trying not to offend others would be affecting other areas of your life and business as well especially when you can't say no (I was once like that till like a year ago). In your case let wifey know you had to relocate to avoid this situation quietly but considering the issue still persists let her just imagine what your next step to permanently put a stop to this would be. Her own imagination would do the rest and the right set of words to caution MIL would produce themselves. Cococandy it is a nice thing standing up for your fellow sistas but in this case where the OP had to say "I'm losing my sanity", woman abuse is not playing out here. Advice him, he needs it. Wishing you well - Teemy P.S feighing leaving might end up being childish or backfires ezpecially if MIL decides to fully pack in under the guise of not wanting her daughter to be alone when you were not around. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by millhouse: 1:30am On Aug 12, 2016 |
Hehehe... I use my bad habit to chase all form of In-laws or wifey friends away from our home.. 1.make sure am always stack unclad when am home.. I tell her it's my home and that's how I feel comfortable so if her In-laws come no probs.. So she is like abeg oo make una no dey visit u know my husband no dey wear cloth.... Or when sister in laws cone see me moving around in only pant.. They be like 'am intruding here oo' next day pack their bag and leave. 7 Likes |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by OLUJOSHINS(m): 3:27am On Aug 12, 2016 |
dynamite11: Ur Mom will be angry at U if U wait till she find out on her own. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by Akhimien78(m): 3:42am On Aug 12, 2016 |
fexyrich: Rubbish! !! |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by Akhimien78(m): 3:47am On Aug 12, 2016 |
Op take it from me it all boils down to your wife there is nothing you can do from this point to ur MIL because anything you say or do might be used later against you if it does back fire immediately...my advise to you is to talk to your wife seriously about this issue n if nothing is done then give her the silent treatment (wifey) whenever the mother visits on weekends m sure this would work but if it doesn't then extend the silent treatment for the whole week if you can 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by cococandy(f): 5:19am On Aug 12, 2016 |
Who are you? Are you going to pay me for the advice? teemy: 2 Likes |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by ahnie: 5:28am On Aug 12, 2016 |
dynamite11: You are yhe antidote to your problems...simply walk up to her and tell her.man up.its gonna portray you as a wicked somebody,but who cares.i jex dont know why som mums kant respect themselves.i blame your wifey tho. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by kenlash1(m): 5:46am On Aug 12, 2016 |
Dude stop complaining and take action. U didnt marry ur mother inlaw. U married d daugther. Drive d woman outta ya home or she wld drive u crazy 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by jesuspikinjp(m): 5:54am On Aug 12, 2016 |
Trina0936: at least the kid tried to give his own pieces of advice and you the Methuselah could not give any, what an irony |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by luvablesam(m): 6:55am On Aug 12, 2016 |
Prettiepearlz: Dear Aunty ....ok i will |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by loladius: 6:56am On Aug 12, 2016 |
I understand your pain. Personally, people always take me for granted because I am gentle. There's no way you can resolve this without a fight. Since dialogue has fallen on deaf ears, Use any tactic possible. e.g. change the locks to all the bedrooms and keep the keys. It wont happen immediately. Just keep being persistent till all parties decide they want to dialogue, then set and agree on the rules. Till then , nothing ventured nothing gained. Good luck bro |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by Beyhiodie(m): 6:56am On Aug 12, 2016 |
soberdrunk:lolz, this will bring up another issue |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by loladius: 6:59am On Aug 12, 2016 |
OP, don't just make threats. Take action. Time for dialogue has passed, as all talk has fallen on deaf ears. You can't solve this problem without a fight 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by singledude(m): 7:16am On Aug 12, 2016 |
Man I'm sorry to say but you are a weakling.That is what you are and they have seen it and are taking advantage of that! You have passed the stage of DIALOGUE,now is the time to 'open eyes' for them both if not it will remain like this always.You are the man and that is your freakin house man! don't let them turn you to a 2nd class citizen in your own house! life is too short to let anyone make you uncomfortable. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by olash007: 7:44am On Aug 12, 2016 |
fexyrich: One million likes for this perfect contribution. 3 Likes |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by Ngokafor(f): 7:49am On Aug 12, 2016 |
millhouse: ...funny 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by emmydollars4life(m): 8:11am On Aug 12, 2016 |
dynamite11:My brother, I am sorry for what you are passing through, what kind of business is your wife into ? Is she working, are you giving her money for upkeep, if yes meaning she is financing her mother coming to your house, then try to block all her financial income, if her mother visit and she ask you for money then pour your heart out to her, by starting with she didn't invite before coming. Then let her know that u are not comfortable with her mother coming to your house uninvited. Then start keeping secret of everything u do with reason that you don't understand her again. She will readjust. #Myidea 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by Nobody: 8:30am On Aug 12, 2016 |
jesuspikinjp:Are you ok?? Did I quote you? If you mind your business will you die?? If you were wise you would have noticed, I was only being sarcastic but obviously you are dumb! 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by emmydollars4life(m): 8:31am On Aug 12, 2016 |
dynamite11:Earlier the better for that woman to said that your house belong to us according to what you said, change your gate man, then instruct the new one not to open gate to anybody without confirming from you. They already know that you are not happly , fight for once and hold ur peace like making sure she is luck outside. But I have the feelings that ur mother inlaw is on a mission. Since ur wife don't want to respect ur feelings I think u have to make her uncomfortable too. 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by jesuspikinjp(m): 8:40am On Aug 12, 2016 |
Trina0936: Did you mind your business when you quoted the guy you were referring to as a kid Mrs methuselah ? old woman don't you know that you should be looking after your grandkid, at this hour |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by Nobody: 8:42am On Aug 12, 2016 |
jesuspikinjp:Please go and read your books kiddo!,Run along now I don't exchange words with kids who still depend on their parents |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by oadeyeye: 8:42am On Aug 12, 2016 |
I think you have many extra rooms in your house thats why this is happening, My suggestions are with alot of drama(a sisterly advice) 1. If the house you live in is yours(ur property), tell your wife the bank is taking possesion and u pple need to move out and go rent a room self contain. 2. If its a rented appartment tell ur wife ur salary gas been cut an u need to downsize , get a room self contain. Dont try to talk to ur wife or MIL shes giving discomfort it has not worked and it will not. Prayer also for peace and wisdom, in your home. I pray your wife dont push her man away. And maybe you want to find a close elderly and young(truthful/honest souls) confidant of ur wife and let them talk senses into her |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by emmydollars4life(m): 8:47am On Aug 12, 2016 |
Tellemall:I guess you did not understand op, better go and read and correct yourself, how can somebody visit you without letting you know that she is coming because she is an inlaw. Which country are you from? 1 Like |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by jesuspikinjp(m): 8:50am On Aug 12, 2016 |
Trina0936: mumu, go and wash your dirty underwears stinking old cargo |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by Nobody: 8:51am On Aug 12, 2016 |
jesuspikinjp:Thanks a lot for making me laugh this morning! Lol 1 Like
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Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by teemy(m): 8:58am On Aug 12, 2016 |
cococandy:lolz |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by jesuspikinjp(m): 8:59am On Aug 12, 2016 |
Trina0936: lol you can also have a hot tea from this kettle to cool your temper down, na menopause effect dey worry you
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Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by Nobody: 9:03am On Aug 12, 2016 |
jesuspikinjp:just another proof that your a kid! 1 Like
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Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by jesuspikinjp(m): 9:13am On Aug 12, 2016 |
Trina0936: yes, i am a kid and proud of it, what about you ? old meat with no brain. i am very sure you are now growing grey hair under due to old age |
Re: My Mother-In-law Visits Too Often, How Do I Deal With That? Please Help by Nobody: 9:21am On Aug 12, 2016 |
jesuspikinjp:But your mother must be older than I am. She would be so disappointed to find out you insult your elders,don't you think?? Like I said earlier go and read your books! How can you pass your exams if you are online 24/7?? Kiddo 1 Like |
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