ibx1976:
My good people I am in a bit of a situation here and would like to hear from the community. I have lived the last few years in the UK and can say I am in a reasonably "settled" place in my life except for one thing: I don't have a wife and I am getting old!.

For the last few years, going by people's advice I thought it was best to cultivate a relationship here with someone here in the UK, learn about them and settle.

It has not worked out for me. Maybe its my luck, it has not quite worked with me with the ladies over here. I always end up with someone diametrically opposite to my goals and aspirations. The idea of marrying an Oyibo is even worse - things just did not work out in that direction either.

To compound the problem, I my job does not allow me much of a social life. I just cant make it happen without help.

On a friend's advice, I have been invited to come back home to naija and see how things can work out. I have therefore taken a months leave and am headed home for the next 1 month. Our plan is to visit a few good families and places to see if anything can materialise from that.

My people any advice on this? If you were in my shoes, how will you conduct this affair. What will you look out for. What will you avoid.u obviously just made a mistake by making ur intentions know here, some desperate ones will just lay ambush for u, form 100% wife material, u go carry go then later see fire. May d lord grant u ur heart desires in Jesus name .

tochez24:
This s a delicate decision u cnt jst mess up so Op if i were you...i wil resign at work hoping to get another wen m back,lock my house nd get my ass down here in Nigeria.though r many bad ladies over bt u cn still find a good one if u r smart.i wil tak my time bro,i wont buy a costly car neither wil i rent a good apartment.i will look for d cheapest things(a room apartment nd a golf car for easy movement)wil do.i dnt nid to go shopping,jst a few cloths from a local market s ok.then wit dis i wil fit into d class of a normal hustling guys over here i wil kip my family off,nd friends dat know me too well.....den m good to go,i wil start making female friends anywhere,anytime i see one dat catchs my eyes.......no need for new niggas jst kip dem at a distance
U will meet many kind of ladies who show u their colour instant

ibx1976:
I will not forget to say thank you to Nairaland for posting this on the front page. Its been a wild, hilarious, informative journey so far.

ibx1976:

This guy captured exactly what I plan to do.

sukkot:
dat nigga do the night shift driving tube from walthamstow to brixton on the victoria line. i know the nigga

ibx1976:
My good people I am in a bit of a situation here and would like to hear from the community. I have lived the last few years in the UK and can say I am in a reasonably "settled" place in my life except for one thing: I don't have a wife and I am getting old!.

For the last few years, going by people's advice I thought it was best to cultivate a relationship here with someone here in the UK, learn about them and settle.

It has not worked out for me. Maybe its my luck, it has not quite worked with me with the ladies over here. I always end up with someone diametrically opposite to my goals and aspirations. The idea of marrying an Oyibo is even worse - things just did not work out in that direction either.

To compound the problem, I my job does not allow me much of a social life. I just cant make it happen without help.

On a friend's advice, I have been invited to come back home to naija and see how things can work out. I have therefore taken a months leave and am headed home for the next 1 month. Our plan is to visit a few good families and places to see if anything can materialise from that.

My people any advice on this? If you were in my shoes, how will you conduct this affair. What will you look out for. What will you avoid.

EkoErrands:


Pls if the girls there didn't cheat on you kuku marry them...and endure their luggage.the ones here will cheat on you and still give you luggage to carry. All of them except those that will not bash me for saying this secret of theirs are olosho.

I'm inside one 5yr relationship and It appears it has been an olosho relationship all along.

duni04:

Your problem is that u think all the advise the guys have given u here is "hilarious" or "comic". You have no idea what you're walking into. Nigerian women are just for yanshing, absolutely nothing else! If you want to catch enough trips while on vacation, that's what Nigerian girls are for. Don't come here to look for wife! Oga pls don't!

gypsey:
what?! walthamstow you say? i was born in higham park walthamstow. but wait o! so you think a £45000 a year train driving job is Rubbish! eh?

sukkot:
nah bro that aint what i am saying. you from E17 ? whats good bruv ? are you still in jersey ?

Lexusgs430:


All nah packaging. Then go line up, also treat am like king. Different snail everyday and because then dey hope to be wifey, hin go pound for free(I meant £) !!!!!!

hopeforcharles:

Hahahahhahahahahhaha ' iam inside one 5yr relationship and It appears it has been an olosho relationship all along
Lol these days it's hard find a good girl don't know what went wrong

gypsey:
naa! was never in jersey, i ve moved to portsmouth last year with me mrs walthamstow is shi't these days man!

ibx1976:
My good people I am in a bit of a situation here and would like to hear from the community. I have lived the last few years in the UK and can say I am in a reasonably "settled" place in my life except for one thing: I don't have a wife and I am getting old!.

For the last few years, going by people's advice I thought it was best to cultivate a relationship here with someone here in the UK, learn about them and settle.

It has not worked out for me. Maybe its my luck, it has not quite worked with me with the ladies over here. I always end up with someone diametrically opposite to my goals and aspirations. The idea of marrying an Oyibo is even worse - things just did not work out in that direction either.

To compound the problem, I my job does not allow me much of a social life. I just cant make it happen without help.

On a friend's advice, I have been invited to come back home to naija and see how things can work out. I have therefore taken a months leave and am headed home for the next 1 month. Our plan is to visit a few good families and places to see if anything can materialise from that.

My people any advice on this? If you were in my shoes, how will you conduct this affair. What will you look out for. What will you avoid.

Sweetyie:

OP I know of a perfect wife for u, I'm serious

HungerBAD:
Lol see format.

Leave our girls on Nairaland alone with this COME and MARRY format.

What is the difference between the girls in Nigeria and the UK?since the UK is an extention of Nigeria anyway.

And you think 1 month is enough to meet a girl,develop a relationship and then marry her?

Story is not adding up.

You want a Nigeria girl?then go to Nigeria in the UK to look for them. Nigeria in the UK is the South East part of London.

I lived there for almost 10 years,and I can authoritatively tell you that all the kinds of girls you want from your village,then some, is there.

sukkot:
yeah bro, everywhere is shyttt these days. too many crazy polish and russian and african immigrants turning the UK to a 3rd world country. portsmouth ? thats a huge move bro. is the mrs british or african ?

NikitaNike:

and very easy to find a good boy

gypsey:
British! i don't understand them African girls man! All they keep talking bout is Either Church or Juju things

ibx1976:

With all due respect sir. I prefer to find out by myself. I dont want to see the world from other people's outlook.

freecocoa:
What can you possibly want in a woman that no woman in UK can give you? I'll guess, you want a woman who will do everything you say and want with no questions, anyways I'm looking for a husband too but my condition is that we'll move to America after marriage, if you agree, hit me up.

joinnow:
Op no come marriage and leave the lady for naija then
you go return back to UK.
Cause I don't see how you go search,marry and take her along to UK in one month.

sukkot:
buahahaha yeah am feeling you bro.

NikitaNike:

and very easy to find a good boy