AuroraB:
You don talk sense for once


I kid, I kid, I kid

schumastic:


why do i get this feeling you are hiding behind this moniker n your message is confusing, also why the blushing

AuroraB:
Ha! Na play I dey ooo . No vex, mbok
Is that 'blushing'? Thought it's 'embarrassing' emoji

schumastic:


lol, wa does i kid, i kid, mean?

AuroraB:
I was kidding.

schumastic:


oh, first time hearing that..anyway aurora is that your real name?

AuroraB:
Not my name at all.

orieoda:
When I was like u, I was busy building my career/future....now that God has partly answered my prayers, I'm the one running from women!
Oromi jo bi owe, ologbon loleye

That's a good one sir.

schumastic:


can i ask a ?

AuroraB:
Ummmmm...maybe

schumastic:

have you ever been in that situation when you are sad but can't pin it to anything what so ever, if yes what did you do to phase of that moment?

AuroraB:
I've not pulled through
It's been a journey. I hope the light I see from my point in this tunnel ain't a Train coming

schumastic:


you keep writing in parables..i asked that ? cus i wanted to know wat to do but i guess you can't b of help.

Winnelyn:
age 22 nd you still living with ya parent op tell me why I shouldn't avoid you? Op you need to focus more on your education and your future first relax and watch girls come for you instead.. having a girlfriend shouldn't be your num one priority

AuroraB:
Oh, sorry. My family's been of immense help and support. Work takes my mind off things. I got friends whom I may never have met that have become more like family too. Then Nairaland. Keeps my mind off things...really. No matter what you are going through, believe you'll remember it someday and smile. Let that drive.

sirliu:
I'll give you some advice, but I don't know if you will follow it.

The main reason you don't currently really have friends and a girlfriend is probably your vibe. You probably are not good at reading social cues or making social interactions. So you are going to set yourself some goals.

1. Make it a point every week to say hello to a stranger and give them a honest complement. It does not matter whether it is a guy or lady. But make sure you vary who you do it to. Have a good smile on your face while you do so. Don't be in a hurry when you say hi. Say it patiently and with as much confidence as you can muster. You will eventually get very good at it and notice that some of the people you say hi to will want to converse with you. Note: Don't complement their looks or physical attribute. You can just say "Hello. I like your shoes. Where did you get it from. I want something like that." OR "Hello. You have a good dress sense. What tailor do you use" OR "Hello. I like the way you smile.". If you can't find a complement, just say "Hello. Just wanted to stop you and say Hi. I hope you have a nice day." Eventually, you will be making longer conversations with strangers

2. Expand your social circle. Start attending events like weddings, events, parties, learning workshops and places where people tend to interact. Most people date others in their social circle rather than strangers they met on the street. Most people also make friends from social circles. It is a natural way of making friends.

3. Make it a point to always look good, dress well, brush your teeth and smell nice. People will naturally gravitate towards you if you look good, no matter how ugly you may think you are.

4. Even the best players get rejected by women regularly. The difference between people who are successful in life and with women is that they sit down and dissect what they did wrong and correct those mistakes. Don't take rejection personally.

5. Just enjoy life. When you enjoy life, people will gravitate towards you.

schumastic:


thanks i really appreciate.

AuroraB:
You welcome.

sirliu:
I'll give you some advice, but I don't know if you will follow it.

The main reason you don't currently really have friends and a girlfriend is probably your vibe. You probably are not good at reading social cues or making social interactions. So you are going to set yourself some goals.

1. Make it a point every week to say hello to a stranger and give them a honest complement. It does not matter whether it is a guy or lady. But make sure you vary who you do it to. Have a good smile on your face while you do so. Don't be in a hurry when you say hi. Say it patiently and with as much confidence as you can muster. You will eventually get very good at it and notice that some of the people you say hi to will want to converse with you. Note: Don't complement their looks or physical attribute. You can just say "Hello. I like your shoes. Where did you get it from. I want something like that." OR "Hello. You have a good dress sense. What tailor do you use" OR "Hello. I like the way you smile.". If you can't find a complement, just say "Hello. Just wanted to stop you and say Hi. I hope you have a nice day." Eventually, you will be making longer conversations with strangers

2. Expand your social circle. Start attending events like weddings, events, parties, learning workshops and places where people tend to interact. Most people date others in their social circle rather than strangers they met on the street. Most people also make friends from social circles. It is a natural way of making friends.

3. Make it a point to always look good, dress well, brush your teeth and smell nice. People will naturally gravitate towards you if you look good, no matter how ugly you may think you are.

4. Even the best players get rejected by women regularly. The difference between people who are successful in life and with women is that they sit down and dissect what they did wrong and correct those mistakes. Don't take rejection personally.

5. Just enjoy life. When you enjoy life, people will gravitate towards you.

schumastic:


aii troublemaker, hope to see you around some other time.

Kenshinmunac:



I don't know why girls are avoiding me. I'm based in Delta state, warri precisely. I have been single and lonley for over 4 years now. I'm 22, almost done with school. I have a successful hustle that gives me good income to take care of myself well, though still living with my parents, for the past 4 years I have only dated one girl, since we broke I have not been able to date any woman again, I'm crying here because he for no pain me if say I be worwor guy, I'm a very cute guy, but low self esteem from rejection don turn me to shy person I cannot even upload my picture anymore, I'm dying from loneliness here my dream was to settle down by the age of 24, my brothers all married early and living happily.

I didn't ask for a very beautiful girl. A normal girl who is fine averagely is what I want, not too much to ask.

I don't know where I have offended the Gods I'm not a bad person at all. I have humbled myself all thru my life to the point I am now.... The small money self I no see any body to flex am with. Even guys I no get. No friends at all.

Please help me I'm frustrated here, I want a girlfriend, who i can marry, I just want to live life with my woman and be happy and have kids.

But that dream is crumbling, 100 out of 100 girls have rejected me for no reason. Some don't even answer me.. I kissed a girl who never said yes to me if she would date me or not. She just left without saying anything, till today

I don't know what to do .... I feel like there is nothing for me any more. Loneliness is killing me. I'm frustrated and feeled with bitter ness, filled with agony.

*tears* I know people might insult me, but it's fine. U won't know how I feel.

I am not a player. Good things never happen to good people. I see rugged looking guys with nice girlfriends. I die inside of me... Each time I see a guy and a girl having fun together..

They say every man has a woman but I don't think there is any one meant for me. I have tried online dating they didn't even answer any of my messages. I have deleted my Facebook account out of frustration. I feel like a total stranger in this odd world.

Ejimaa:
hello dear,i think I really feel your pain and for those saying God's appointed time,i want to ask,when is the God's appointed time? believe me guys,everyday of our life,is God's appointed time and what u make of it,it was count. there's no future anywhere,every day that comes, is a future. dear brother,though u are young to be this frustrated but I understand what it means to be lonely at heart,iwill advice u like someone said earlier,be free when meeting a girl/lady,delete that tense of love, start on a mutual friend note,play when is necessary,joke when is needed,help if u can,dress well,talk less,listen more,be who you are and don't try to play a smart game,don't profess love all the time,it will make a girl see u as a mature,let ur action speak and not your mouth,,,I belt u,u wouldn't know how it will happen(love),,then the journey starts from there and don't forget to always ask God for help if u are serious of what u posted ........He we give u spirit of boldness and not of fear,,,go and succeed

Zceesneh:
same with me buh i still have hope, u may be worrying urself for nothing, just calm down

Winnelyn:
age 22 nd you still living with ya parent op tell me why I shouldn't avoid you? Op you need to focus more on your education and your future first relax and watch girls come for you instead.. having a girlfriend shouldn't be your num one priority

Kenshinmunac:



Lol bro. I don try calm down but if I see guy and him babe together he dey be like say I wan sick... That kind tin..

Zceesneh:
guy, just calm down, am a very shy guy buh each time i want to woo a girl, i will memorize my wooing lines throughout that day, if she turn u down, be friends with her, anygirliitwoo will have this feelings that u want sex from her, if she reject u just be friends with her, some girls like to start with friendship, u can walk with a girl both of you together tomorrow, girls are used to wooing lines so if she rejects u, being a friend to buh not too nice