She's risking these other more important hazards, so she might as well go all the way. Paying the chump change should be the least of her worries. Her biggest problem seems to be that she's paying for the trip, not some other disturbingly frightening life changing experience. How could a woman be so inconsiderate and selfish. After spending that much money to accomodate her, she still expects more from me? Hard to satisfy a certain breed of women. He probably buys her rechargecards already, from all the talks they've had. Lol . I'm sure when she gets there she would expect him to take her shopping and all that other extra stuff.

C2H5OH:

She's risking these other more important hazards, so she might as well go all the way. Paying the chump change should be the least of her worries. Her biggest problem seems to be that she's paying for the trip, not some other disturbingly frightening life changing experience. How could a woman be so inconsiderate and selfish. After spending that much money to accomodate her, she still expects more from me? Hard to satisfy a certain breed of women. He probably buys her rechargecards already, from all the talks they've had. Lol . I'm sure when she gets there she would expect him to take her shopping and all that other extra stuff.

Without being told, I can tell he has never bought her even 100 naira card. Infact I'm sure he flashes her and expects her to call back. You prolly think she should pay because there's a chance he'll marry her. In order words, she should pay IF she want him to marry her! LOL! You guys are unbeleivable!!

You are talking about shopping, let's pray he dosent expect her to pay for ther meals when she gets thare. This one he's already crying broke! LOL

where is dis girl anywayz cus i am sure there are lots of question here dat needs to be answered.

@uju
so are you saying the guy is not responsible cus he spent all his money to get a flat and can't afford to give here transport money. At least he explained himself

Ujujoan:

Without being told, I can tell he has never bought her even 100 naira card. Infact I'm sure he flashes her and expects her to call back. You prolly think she should pay because there's a chance he'll marry her. In order words, she should pay IF she want him to marry her! LOL! You guys are unbeleivable!!

You are talking about shopping, let's pray he dosent expect her to pay for ther meals when she gets thare. This one he's already crying broke! LOL

how do you know all this lol

r231:

where is dis girl anywayz cus i am sure there are lots of question here dat needs to be answered.

@uju
so are you saying the guy is not responsible cus he spent all his money to get a flat and can't afford to give here transport money. At least he explained himself

Me ma, Im looking for the poster.
As to him spending money on a flat, I still dont believe that story.
Very typical story of : my ship is on the high seas!

Rosabelle:

Me ma, Im looking for the poster.
As to him spending money on a flat, I still dont believe that story.
Very typical story of : my ship is on the high seas!

but you knw there is more to dat story and also we are just assuming here we don't even knw what she told him wen he asked her to come down

Nne dnt look desperate,if u are u will lose him;if he want's u to come dat he doesn't have the cash then visit him but no sex,if u sleep with him now that's the end of the relationship;quote me

@uju
so are you saying the guy is not responsible cus he spent all his money to get a flat and can't afford to give here transport money. At least he explained himself

@ r231

No! I'm saying he's not responsible cos he's shifting his responsibilities to her.

Firs of all, he found a good reason not to make the trip so she has to go!

Then he found a reason why he cant give her T/fare or even reimburse, so she should spend her money.

I mean what's next  . . . . .  she has to pay his bride price. Gimme a break!

Ujujoan:

@ r231

No! I'm saying he's not responsible cos he's shifting his responsibilities to her.

Firs of all, he found a good reason not to make the trip so she has to go!

Then he found a reason why he cant give her T/fare or even reimburse, so she should spend her money.

I mean what's next  . . . . .  she has to pay his bride price. Gimme a break!

now dat part is funny but like i was saying we don't knw what she told him whether she agree or not we don't knw so we can really judge him at dis point

r231:

now dat part is funny but like i was saying we don't knw what she told him whether she agree or not we don't knw so we can really judge him at dis point

Well even if she agreed to go, that dosent justify the request.

Meanwhile where is she sef? She should come and tell us what happened jor!

Ujujoan:

Meanwhile where is she sef? She should come and tell us what happened jor!

Ah toh. This one we've bought over another womans case and are fighting it. Typical nigerians we all are lol 
Meanwhile the owner of the story has left us to be arguing. For all you know, she's there with him now
All this good advice, gone to naught lol

Rosabelle:

Ah toh. This one we've bought over another womans case and are fighting it. Typical nigerians we all are lol
Meanwhile the owner of the story was left us to be arguing. For all you know, she's there with him now
All this good advice, gone to naught lol

Rosabelle:

Meanwhile the owner of the story was left us to be arguing. For all you know, she's there with him now

well said cupcakes.

Ah toh. This one we've bought over another womans case and are fighting it. Typical nigerians we all are lol
Meanwhile the owner of the story was left us to be arguing. For all you know, she's there with him now
All this good advice, gone to naught lol

LOL

Chei! we don speak all this grammar for nothing

i will advise u to pay ur fare but u have to be careful cos the guy sound very selfish to me hope he is not lookin for a one night stand.

joshymere:

i will advise u to pay your fare but u have to be careful cos the guy sound very selfish to me hope he is not lookin for a one night stand.

Oh boy, are'nt you hearing all we're saying. For two days now, this thread has been running and we havnt heard from the poster.
No more advice for her till she returns and tells us where she's been. We suspect she has bailed and run to the guy inspite of all the advice and english we've been speaking. Two days long, we bought over this case.
Very rude oh poster!

hi rosabella,i want to chat with u online but it not goin,if u no dey too busy try make we chat.thanks

^^^^^
why?
chat here. she is happily married

jay bee:

^^^^^
why?
chat here. she is happily married

oh oh

Rosabelle:

Oh boy, are'nt you hearing all we're saying. For two days now, this thread has been running and we havnt heard from the poster.
No more advice for her till she returns and tells us where she's been. We suspect she has bailed and run to the guy inspite of all the advice and english we've been speaking. Two days long, we bought over this case.
Very rude oh poster!

Dont mind her. She left us here to be drinking panadol for her headache! 

Hey! You guyz shld nt crucify me o. I havnt gone yet. But am curious, u knw guys can lie 2 gt wat dey want. What if he is hiding a lady & cms 2 lag 2 c me. I wldnt knw d koko. I dnt wnt 2 waste my precious time wt a 2 timer, am thinkn i shd go cos he calld me last nyte 2 say he'll repay me.

Oh now he will reimburse you? Ok but what do you really know about him? he could be some ritualistic psycho who will kill you and use your parts for money. I am hearing scary things about our great Nation

^^^^
haba
first it was the money, now it's another scare mongering.

you are forgetting the fact that they got introduced by a close family of hers. I am sure the person that introduced them wouldn't want such if she knew if he isn't any good.

ceysaga:

Hey! You guyz shld nt crucify me o. I havnt gone yet. But am curious, u knw guys can lie 2 gt wat dey want. What if he is hiding a lady & cms 2 lag 2 c me. I wldnt knw d koko. I dnt wnt 2 waste my precious time wt a 2 timer, am thinkn i shd go cos he calld me last nyte 2 say he'll repay me.

See this one! If he wants he could arrange for his lady to travel that weekend you'll be in town!!

I guess you just ahve to trust him on that one! You should also know you are taking a risk. Nothing is guaranteed. That's why you have to go only if you really want to. So you dont end up regretting your decision and blaming yourself!

Ujujoan:

See this one! If he wants he could arrange for his lady to travel that weekend you'll be in town!!

I guess you just ahve to trust him on that one! You should also know you are taking a risk. Nothing is guaranteed. That's why you have to go only if you really want to. So you dont end up regretting your decision and blaming yourself!

funny

ceysaga:

Hey! You guyz shld nt crucify me o. I havnt gone yet. But am curious, u knw guys can lie 2 gt wat dey want. What if he is hiding a lady & cms 2 lag 2 c me. I wldnt knw d koko. I dnt wnt 2 waste my precious time wt a 2 timer, am thinkn i shd go cos he calld me last nyte 2 say he'll repay me.

like dat makes any diff

@Poster,

Thank God you are not my sister, i would have given you a dirty slap, where are you going and what for, a man that cannot travel to meet you does not cherish you and if you must visit him then it must be a return visit after he has visited you and then please go with your own money, you sound very cheap asking him for transport money, when the discussion should be around when he is coming to see you

Please wake up, do you really think he spent N432k because of you, when he hasnt even set his eyes on you.

Until the predator instinct in a man is aroused he is not yet interested, if he is not ready to come looking for you then ofcourse he doesnt take you seriously on the other hand you might want to find out from your aunty what she actually told him about you.

It seems the message has been passed that you are desperate

part of this trip is about getting laid (and both parties want to get it on)

the guy has his flat - no problem with under the sheets action

does the girl have a flat, or is she living with her folks /aunt /uncles as is often the case?

if so no getting down

i think thats the underlying thingy y'all are forgetting

on the flip side, though, it dangerous to travel to see some guy u haven't met. its better you meet him on neutral ground - what if hes a cad who kicks you out of his flat? that means u're stranded

just some other thots on the subject. . .

It's a matter of understanding babe .

@ Poster,

You require some education.  The guy wants to meet you yet you're the one going after him.  Any serious thinking lady is supposed to hold her own. 50 pence tells me once you go down to see him, your congo is as good as shined cos you are in his territory.

On a first meeting, the guy is supposed to make the trip or u both meet halfway in a neutral place.

ceysaga:

Hey! You guyz shld nt crucify me o. I havnt gone yet. But am curious, u knw guys can lie 2 gt wat dey want. What if he is hiding a lady & cms 2 lag 2 c me. I wldnt knw d koko. I dnt wnt 2 waste my precious time wt a 2 timer, am thinkn i shd go cos he calld me last nyte 2 say he'll repay me.

LOL. So youre still there ehn.
Well since you think you should go, I think you should. Nothing clears foolishness from our eyes like experience, and so Im all for people expeiencing.
Doh oh. When you come back, report here for clossing remarks, cos many of us have grown close ove this your case lol

@Poster
Why won't he come and see you instead of you going to see him? think twice before you look cheap and desperate

@ Poster.

Think of it, if you do travel down he'll probably think that's the way you normally travel down to meet most men. You got money? Buy yourself some self respect!