donbenedict:
Eya

Godchild2015:
@op, after all said and done , what have you learnt from what she said and most importantly what assistance did you render to her to show her love.
I believe God sent her to assdress some issues you are questioning God for( think deep)


Pls if you still have that woman within your reach show her love( she needs It more than ever) this should be the kind of people that actually needs our help both financially and other wise other than some lazy set of people .

Ginaz:
I almost wept for her, it's appalling how something as good as love could turn bad, how love could turn to hatred.

My advise to ladies it that, you really need to know the man you're marrying, you really need to forget about money, status, facial looks and concentrate on the man he is inside.

Bring topics that brings out the kind of person he is, you are a woman you should be 90% be able to say, "I know what my man can do under any situation ".

Marry a man that blends with your thinking, don't categorized a man base on looks, height, money, or whatever. Marry a man with sense, a man with confidence, a man that can stand on his decision and nobody pushes him around. A man with substances.

It's hard, but when you concentrate on the inside, what's outside becomes secondary.

I hope she recovers, and build her life around. And one more point to take home, don't suffer for anybody, don't allow nobody to treat you less worthy like an animal. Quit when enough is enough!

Collenshy2020:
chai, i'm short of words... Very touching scenario.

sisisioge:
Wow! It is well o.

I feel for this woman but her stupidity during her travails is numerous uno. She forgot the golden rule...

His money is ours, mine is mine. No matter how much I contribute to ours, I should still have a substantial mine. E dey for bible.

DarkRebel101:
I have always held the belief that any man who lays a finger on his wife-concubine-lover should be captured and flagellated; he should be subjected to the Chinese Water-Drip Torture, then castrated in the public square.

Such a man is no man at all, but a morbidezza, an epicene nimrod, a lunatic sadist, a frustrated loser, an immature jerk, and a weakling who has no business being married.

When one is always in the habit of using his-her knuckles to punch his-her way out of every problem, then such a person is most likely disquiet of mind and in dire need of psychiatric treatment.

...

The woman in this short narrative is a perfect example of what no woman should be, and that is: ingenuous, stüpid, timid, masochistic — she must have been getting off massively from the blows and biffs that were being generously meted to her.

Mindfulness:

Adultery is the only grounds for divorce according to some religion - adultery not abuse.
If you keep feeding people with such nonsense from the day they are born, this is what happens.

DarkRebel101:


Not necessarily true. In Judaism for example, there were/are two rabbinic school of thoughts on the issue of divorce. One is Shammai and the other is Hillel. While Shammai permits for the dissolution of a marriage strictly only on the grounds of unfaithfulness, Hillel on the other hand brooks divorce even for matters as trifling as a man looking at his wife askance -- forgive the hyperbole.

...

Though the Catholic Church does not allow for divorce, it allows for seperation -- to accord both parties time to reconcile their differences, that is if they are reconciliable.

Easy access to divorce is not the ultimate solution. Do you think that it is?

sisisioge:
Wow! It is well o.

I feel for this woman but her stupidity during her travails is numerous uno. She forgot the golden rule...

His money is ours, mine is mine. No matter how much I contribute to ours, I should still have a substantial mine. E dey for bible.

Diplomaticbeing:


I was trying to find a good husband for you, but your opinion in your last paragraph may cause me to change my mind. The first step towards creating a faulty foundation for marriage is abhorring altruism. As painful as it's to live on the offensive side of life instead of the popular defensive side, yet in the end it always worth it . . . As the saying goes "manipulators lose credibility Diplomats gain it."

On the subject under discussion, the tale as narrated is a bit one sided. Until one hears from the two parties involved on a common ground together, one may crucify an innocent man unjustly. For now, OP, it behove on you and your mother to extend any possible kind support to her, to enable her find her feet. What she need now is a human practical support not empty pity.

Mindfulness:

The Bible / New Testament mentions adultery as the only grounds for divorce, does it not?
So a one night stand weighs more than knocked out teeth or burns or broken limbs.
Remind me to laugh.

In her case it would have been.

DarkRebel101:


The Bible as far I am concerned could have been written by Lucifer himself -- you already know that I do not embrace everything in the Bible as gospel, and that I subject every verse under the microscopes of skepticism.

To think that what is obtainable in a book that was written several millenniums ago would work like a well-oiled machine in this contemporary times would be to live in a fool's paradise.

The only reason why the rule of adultery as being the only grounds for divorce is found in the bible was because 'divorce' was flagrantly abused in those times. A man would divorce his wife on the basis that she cooks horribly, or that she gives him star-fish sex -- when all he really wants is to take up another wife because of his insatiable lust.

I do not even read the OT for spiritual reasons – only for academic purposes, especially the Pentateuch.

She could have left the house the moment the marriage became a sport of pugilism.
First things first. Separation before divorce.

sisisioge:


you were trying to find me a husband? Chai! Biko don't relent o abi this is dyt wearing a guy's moniker? Haaaaaa! Catchyah! You forgot to sign out as a male before commenting o

Mindfulness:

'The devil can cite Scripture for his purpose.' (Shakespeare)

It is a fool's belief but not paradise.
That's the reason why I quoted you bringing the Bible into this discussion. You bring enlightenment. These fools quote the Bible up and down without considering the context without which most of these quotes do not even make sense.

Like I said, a one night stand is grounds for divorce but broken limbs are not.

This is how it's done in courts, at least here. You need a separation year before the divorce can be completed.

carammel:
She and her money again,the man still treated her that way and is still enjoying freely.

Our mothers and grandmother's were really patient to absolve all these sufferings o, What exactly did she stay for?

Mindfulness:


Adultery is the only grounds for divorce according to some religion - adultery not abuse.
If you keep feeding people with such nonsense from the day they are born, this is what happens.

Dyt:


Why you always suspecting me?


You will be shocked half of NL knows you are single and ready to mingle

MizMyColi:


I like myself.
I am a very tolerant soul. Very simple.

But beating me?
Or abusing me emotionally, on top no wrong of my own? I will first leave that environment.
That's the sane thing to do.

Whether divorce is a next step or not is something I will have to decide after careful considerations.

But I am so separating first.

That's what any person, man or woman who finds them self in such situation should do.

DarkRebel101:
I have always held the belief that any man who lays a finger on his wife-concubine-lover should be captured and flagellated; he should be subjected to the Chinese Water-Drip Torture, then castrated in the public square.

Such a man is no man at all, but a morbidezza, an epicene nimrod, a lunatic sadist, a frustrated loser, an immature jerk, and a weakling who has no business being married.

When one is always in the habit of using his-her knuckles to punch his-her way out of every problem, then such a person is most likely disquiet of mind and in dire need of psychiatric treatment.

...

The woman in this short narrative is a perfect example of what no woman should be, and that is: ingenuous, stüpid, timid, masochistic — she must have been getting off massively from the blows and biffs that were being generously meted to her.

DarkRebel101:


Ah, the remarkable prescience of William Shakespeare makes you melt like Almond Joy under the sweltering July sun.

Most of these fools are why Karl Marx said that religion is the opiate of the masses.

Lol. The fatuities of humankind, as Albert Einstein once said, are infinite.

sisisioge:


Word babe...word!